Whatever will I talk about?

2 10 2008

As of late I have become increasingly interested in the genetics and science behind relationships, attraction and, dare I say it, love.

Rather than peg me as an unromantic taking a scientific approach to love I find I am quite the opposite. I hope for an everlasting love. I think kissing in the rain is not only  romantic but beautiful – my own rain kiss ranks number 2 as my most favorite kiss in my own lips history. And of course I am always striving to do those little things. A compliment here, a gift there.

But because of my fascination with Love and the opposite sex, I have wanted to delve deeper into the mechanics of it. Perhaps it’s because I’m neurotic. OR because I threw myself into relationship after relationship never knowing what I want and now that I am in a relationship with sparks galore, I want to undertand it. Why do I so enjoy being intimate with this person when it was merely something I endured… enjoyed slightly… but mostly out of obligation with my previous significant others.  What is the science behind the fireworks of attraction. Why do my knees feel like they are going to buckle everytime I walk (or run) toward my Boo.  I decided why not use this blog to try and keep track of some of my research.

There are so many little tidbits that have brought me to such conclusions. And now I sit here wrestling with myself about how to organize said thoughts. As of right now these are merely the ramblings of an obsessed fanatic. Where oh where to start….

Scent, Kissing, Touch, Culture….

And then there are topics and tangents that stray from the broader spectrum of it all

Why do we feel the need to stray – why DON’T we stray – Why do we settle down, and did you know we are not the only species to have recreational sex?


Why do we have the standards we have? And what can we really do to improve our sex lives and relationships?

What does working out and health do for our over all being? Where does religion and spirituality play roles in our overall well being.

Many of you don’t know but Belle happens to be my go to gal for health and we are both very involved in meditation and yoga.

I guess stay tuned for upcoming and random posts. There seems to be so much involved in each topic and while I continuously mention this blog will have no rhyme or reason and I want it to paint a vast and broad portrait and Belle will do her own thing as much as I will do mine I figure this may as well be my jumping off point. Hope you guys enjoy and learn as I do!

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38 responses

2 10 2008
Witchypoo

Hey there, Goldie! Just a quick note to say that I’m checking in, and I love what you’re doing with the site, and your plans for future use. I’ll be back when I don’t feel so pressed for time; I have some things that need doing asap. Until then, take care, Sunshine – and all you other Ladies who check in, also.

2 10 2008
Witchypoo

Uhhhh…I’m not sure if my comment registered or not on your site…it says “awaits moderation” after my name in the comment box, and this post, (‘Whatever Will I Talk About?’), says that there are no comments – so I don’t know. We’ll see…take care.

2 10 2008
lara21167

Rowdy, I am looking forward to your research on this vast subject. Good luck.

2 10 2008
monkeyspeaks

Sorry Witchy, Basically I just have to approve your comment once. Its a spam protector. Figure this way should someone come and just want to complain or some actual spam come and ravage the site I won’t approve the comments and we can continue to comment in piece. Once I approve a comment of yours you’ll be able to comment freely without worrying about it showing up or not 🙂

2 10 2008
Witchypoo

Ahhhh…gotcha, Goldie – that’s a good way to prevent the “Meeeeeooooow” faction currently infesting the Hottie site. Take care, Sunshine, and I’ll talk to you more soon.

2 10 2008
monkeyspeaks

I am DYING of boredom today

2 10 2008
Witchypoo

Goldie…I can empathize. There are few conditions (a FEW, but not many), I find more painfully energy/enthusiasm-sapping than extreme boredom. These are the times when virtual reality, (the really realistic, movie-kind), programs would be so handy….just float off to another place and/or time. Voila’! Problem solved. Take care, and I hope your circumstances liven up considerably.

2 10 2008
MT

Hey girls! Just catching up! Cayden is sooooo pretty! How is everyone else? I just got back to the mainland to get on the internet. I’ve been busy going through the workplace’s dirty/wet/slimy ike-damaged files the last 3 days, then ended them by washing and folding our entire inventory (400+) dirty/wet/slimy ike-damaged t-shirts! fun fun! oh, and we got gas and electricity the other day! except the AC unit and the hot water heater went down with ike….

2 10 2008
Janelyse829

hi girls just checkin in. i am glad to say that is survived munchkins attack without killing him. not sure about the rest odf the weekend. might have to arrange funeral sooner than i thought. lol. i love hiom but i have no patience for him sometimes. ROWDY-i know that feeling of being bored out of your mind. thats usually when i get inspired and [not to brag] write my most beautiful poetry

3 10 2008
Witchypoo

Hey, Janey…you should post some of your poetry sometime. What do you think? Take care, Ladies.

3 10 2008
Janelyse829

witchy-sure i guess. i mean when i get bored my poems come out really dark. some people say they are very depressing. but i guess thats how i feel when im bored like im just…empty for a moment or two? i dunno. but i guess if you want to hear one [read one] someday let me know.

3 10 2008
Witchypoo

Janey…bring it on, sweetie! I love various forms of creative expression – so anytime you want to throw it out there…I’ll be happy to take a look-see. Btw…I’ll bet the other Ladies who frequent this site would also like to read your poetry. Take care, Ladies, and nightie-night.

3 10 2008
Janelyse829

ok.
This one is called “The Sounds of my World”

The wailing cry of sirens from the ambulance
From the shouts of privious gun shots
The voice of sorrow ofa mother who lost her son
The silent cries ofa little girl
Who saw the gangster tell her brother he’d be back

The overflowing sound of music;
Music that makes the people who they are
The tapping feet that follow the rythm
Of music into their heart

The voice of a proud father
Telling his daughter she’d made it
The sudden scream ofa son
Who lost his mother to cancer
And the voice of GOD
That says that we are not alone

I wrote this last year. I dont know what mood i was in but i like it. its short and simple and could have varoius meanings.

3 10 2008
lara21167

Beautiful Janey. Yes a bit dark but beautiful. Post more if you’d like. More advise on Munchkin. do you know anyone with kids his age. Always great to have someone to play with. Gives you a break.

3 10 2008
Witchypoo

Wow, Janey…are these sounds really descriptive of your world on a regular basis? Interesting…I’m impressed that you seem to be basically an upbeat kind of girl – with these types of serious, (hardcore), scenes coloring your life. Great poem, since it inspires very definite pictures in the mind of the reader. Post more whenever you feel like it; I like reading about others’ experiences. Btw, good morning, Ladies, (kind of a backward greeting, coming at the end…but, oh well). Take care.

3 10 2008
Janelyse829

well its not the sounds of my world peecifically. it more about the what i happening over all in america. a lot of gang violence [where i live] a lot poeple dying from cancer. and i believe that no matter what culture youre from, life in general revolvs around music. at least my life does 🙂

3 10 2008
Janelyse829

firsst line suppossed to say specifically

3 10 2008
Janelyse829

okay my computer is going to die. it is not about the sounds of my world specifically. its about what is happening in america over all. thre i fixed it. I HATE TYPOS

3 10 2008
Clo

Hey guys- Thanks to those of you who emailed me I figured out how to get here! I hope to be able to catch up soon, but as you can imagine things are a little hectic right now… I’m hoping we get a pattern down soon but right now it seems I’m either sleeping, pumping, feeding him, changing him or dying of exhaustion. I’m trying to upload more pictures today, if any of you would like to see more you can add me to myspace or facebook (www.myspace.com/sweatpantsforjesus) I don’t add people I’m not sure who they are (my husbands sneaky ex) so just send a little note with your request that says like cosmo or something. I’m not sure my facebook name, so you can try searching my email complicatedLo@yahoo.com. I dunno if you guys heard my whole labor story… The pains I were having were NOT contractions… I went into the hospital Saturday night and they told me I was having “minor” contractions but they thought they were fake because I was still so closed… And that they though I was having them because I was so dehydrated… So they pumped me full of IVs and told me I could get admitted overnight or go home. Since I was supposed to see my doctor on Monday I thought I’d sleep better at home soooo I went home. Big mistake. I didn’t get ANY sleep and woke up screaming. So my mom flew over here, convinced I was in labor and flew to the hospital. No labor, turns out I had pancreatitus, caused by gall stones. At first they said they were going to leave the baby in and wait till my pancreatitus calmed down. But then the surgeon came up and said they wanted the baby out in case they needed to do some test that wasn’t safe for the baby. So, out he came. The c section wasn’t so bad. The first day sucked horribly and I was convinved I’d be having no more children, but day two was MUCH better. I’ll def have to have a section with all my kids, as they cut me in the “classical” c-section way (up and down) However, Jeremy had some more bad luck… He had a PT appointment Monday (the day after he was born, he was born Sunday the 28th at 3:10 PM) and turns out he’s developed two blood clots in his leg. Luckily they didn’t have to admit him to the hospital but his leg is swollen and even more sore. If it weren’t for my family we’d be screwed. I’m starting to have major beef with his mom… I think she has Munchausen (spelling?) She just seems to get “sick” everytime something major happens. She was “sick” and didn’t come to our wedding, she said she wasn’t feeling good and didn’t know if she’d make it to the baby shower… Shes been to the hospital once but needed a surgical mask cause she was “sick” and then said she’d be back in a couple days to visit… And then said she was sick and wouldn’t come, then his dad was going to come but we let them know we were kicking visitors out at 8:30 cause we were tired… And so he said he wasn’t going to come, then called us at like 8:00 saying they were just getting down with dinner, I think hinting that they wanted to come over still, and my husband was like “Oh, well, see you another time I guess” so now I think she;s mad. His Dad is off today but they’d rather run errands than come over, and said maybe tomorrow… I just feel like they’re trying to control the situation, and it’s not going to happen. They can come when we want visitors or they can be stubborn, but it’s there loss. OK, I need to eat lunch and I’ve talked waaaay too much. I miss you guys and I hope everyone is OK!

3 10 2008
lara21167

Clo, you poor thing. That’s alot to go through all at once. Stick to your guns regarding the inlaws. Hopefully they’ll come around. I don’t understand why some people just don’t consider convience for others.

3 10 2008
Witchypoo

Cloey…yeah, you sure have your hands full, Sweetie. The first few weeks, (or months), of life with a new baby, (especially the first, since you’re learning), are harried – to say the least. It will calm down and become more routine, more manageable. Your mother-in-law sounds pretty self-absorbed; people like that don’t seem to acknowledge that there are other people who have lives of their own – complete with needs, preferences, priorities, etc. You’d think a woman who’s had kids, been married for many years, etc., would comprehend these facts of life, and be more considerate. All you can do is tend to your own little family – and yourself. Take care.

4 10 2008
Janelyse829

hey guys. i’ve had an amazing day. i went to my old high school’s homecoming game. [old high school makes me feel old. i graduated last ear so i dont consider it my “old” high school.] anyway, she is a sophomore and i went all out. i got the partiots [school football team name] t-shirt. i got my face painted and i psray-dyed my hair with the schools colors which are red, white and blue. i miss high school.

4 10 2008
Janelyse829

i meant to say my cousin is a sophomore there

4 10 2008
Clo

Thanks guys. I mean my Mom in law is just stuck up her own ass. I don’t really care, but I feel kinda bad that my husband had to put up with that for so many years. She called tonight and just wouldn’t shut up, even when my husband was like “OK well I gotta go feed him” she was like “Oh ok but blah blah blah” It’s just weird to see her compared to my mom who has been AMAZINGGGGG. Seriously, I couldn’t have done this without my family. Because I was c-section I wasn’t allowed to have Cayden in my room if I were by myself. My husband went back to work while I was in the hospital so he could take time off when I was home (he knew people in the hospital would take care of me, and he’s running out of vacay time) So my sister would come earrrrly (and she’s NOT an early riser) and sit with me so we could keep him in the room, and helped do pretty much everything since I was bedridden. And my mom came every day and just has been amazing, helping me. She showed up this morning and just took him so I could sleep, which thank Jesus… lol. My brother stayed at my house and cleaned it and set everything up… And here his mom hasn’t even offered to bring us dinner. It’s like, OK. Whatever.

4 10 2008
Janelyse829

well clo, it looks as though you’re going to have a rough time with her. but when things start to annoy you or get you mad just look at the little boy in your arms and think that anything you do from here on out its going to be worth it if it makes things better for him. and it will be worth it just to have him in your arms everyday. your mom in law is the one missing out on that beautiful gift of a boy. you get to see him everyday and cherish every moment. since she is stuck up her own ass, she is going to miss all that. as opposed to your mom who will be there with you through everything.

4 10 2008
Witchypoo

Ahhh, Cloey…it’s really sweet how your family is there for you, Jeremy, and little Cayden when you need the help. Especially your brother helping out…not all brothers will pitch in and get all domestic to help out their sister – very touching. When I had an operation at 19, my little brother was only 10 1/2, but he cooked for me, did extra chores, waited on me, etc. I still think of that when I think about my little brother. Families can be pretty great; don’t let the selfish behavior of your mother-in-law overshadow your happiness…I’m sure you’re very grateful and touched by the generosity and love your family is demonstrating toward you and your’s…that’s all you need, right? I’m sure she’ll probably regret her small behavior – if she’s intelligent enough to make those kinds of connections. Who knows why some people seem so oblivious to the needs of their loved ones? Yup…it’s a mystery, alright. Hey, are you feeling any better, physically? I remember being happy, but completely exhausted after my babies. When I had my last little guy, my husband would sit on the couch during the early evening with me, and we’d try to watch a movie. My head would keep falling backward, hitting the back of the couch – while I struggled to stay awake through a whole movie…it was pretty funny. I just couldn’t do it. Are you nursing? If so, how’s that going? (If you don’t mind the question, I mean…just don’t answer if it’s too intrusive). Let us know how things are going when you feel up to it…I know it’s probably hectic at times, right now. Take care and nightie-night, Cloey.

4 10 2008
Janelyse829

hey witchy-hows it going? What have you been up to? I juast checked the high school season scores and they have gone undefeated the whole season and they wont the homecoming game 26-22!!! Go PATRiOTS!!! how is your spawns football team doing?

4 10 2008
Clo

my brother is a sweetheart. My whole family is, we’ve always been close in a dysfunctional way (like we’d say the meanest stuff to each other, and beat each other up and argue… But let someone else try to mess with one of us. It was war then.) But this just makes me feel a million times closer to everyone, especially my mom. I’m feeling very sore. My staples come out next week and I’m scared, lol its gonna hurt. I’m also pretty tired but I feel like there’sso much to do… I still haven’t had time to journal about it yet, I’m trying to keep his baby book up todate. I know other things are important but I feel like if I let it slip I’ll never do it, and it’s important to me to keep record of all this. But I totally understand why my baby book was barely filled out I can hardly do it just having the one, and my Mom had two oters plus me… I’m just really tired. I sleep when I can but I think I’d die and go to heaven if I got even like, four hours straight. But we’re OK. Hubby says I’d get more sleep if I didn’t micro manage everything, and I do, but I’m a first time mom, can you blame me? I’m having issues nursing… because of my surgery/sickness i was way sore and tired and didn’t try to put him on the breast until like, day 2 or 3, and my milk was OK, but he’s so used to getting it fast from a bottle that he gets REALLY irritated. So I’m pumping and feeding him that through a bottle, with formula in between cause my milk is coming but not quite fully there yet.

5 10 2008
Witchypoo

Hey there, Ladies! How’s it going? Janey, that’s great about your high school being undefeated. It sounds like you’re an enthusiastic supporter of your local team; it’s fun, isn’t it? Besides our kids’ games, our family goes to all the Friday night high school games – and have for years. My oldest spawn, (9th grade), was 3-0, and should have been 4-0 as of the last game, (Monday). We played a really tough school – lots of speculation that we’d be trounced – but things were really close until toward the end of the 4th quarter. We were trailing by a few points, and the head coach called a timeout and told my spawn, (starting fullback), that if he didn’t score right then, we’d lose the game. Talk about applying a little “motivating pressure”…so my guy said, “OK, Coach”,…and ran the ball in the endzone for a touchdown – putting us up by a couple of points. We didn’t get the extra point, but all we had to do was hold the other team for the remaining time, (less than a minute). Anyway, the special teams coach for our guys called a crazy-ass play, (a short kick-off to the other team’s slow, big receiver)…apparently, he figured that it would be easy to stop him. The safe, (and, in this case, smarter), way to go would have been to kick it as deep as possible to stop the other team as far back on the field as possible – running the clock out. Most of the “fans” who have a decent understanding of the game groaned in dismay when this play was called; their opinions turned out to be correct when things went screwy, the other team got hold of the ball – running it all the way down the field to score at the VERY END OF THE GAME. It wasn’t pretty, to say the least. Anyhoo…that still didn’t take away from the fact that my little man worked his ass off to win that game – and they came close. Now they’re 3-1…but still viewed as the team to beat around this part of our little world. Now, aren’t you so friggin’ happy that you asked me about my spawn’s football progress? Hahaha…btw, my 12 year-old fella’s team is 2-0, (this year’s team is doing better than anyone would have predicted, since this middle school team has a history of many losing seasons). So, them beating a couple of relatively tough schools has been a pleasant surprise. My 12 year-old “specializes” in year-round baseball; though he’s played football since the age of 7, it’s not his primary sport. Today, as a matter of fact, we met with this year’s new team for the ’09 tournament season at a pizza place for a “Get To Know You” session with all the new players, and their parents. My son and two other players are going into their 3rd season on this same team, (unusual for tournament teams, where players often jump around, looking for the most beneficial circumstances – such as playing time/positions, etc….there’s an incredible amount of politics in select baseball). My husband is one of the two coaches for this team…though he wasn’t a coach when my son originally tried out for the team a couple of years ago. So, we’re pretty close with the head coach and his family, as well as several of the other families. We spend an incredible amount of time with these people, travel with them, etc…so it’s nice to form some friendships along the way, as well. Besides that, I dropped my oldest guy and his buddy off at another friend’s house…trolled the Victoria’s Secret clothing website, (I love to do that!), ate A LOT of Dove chocolates, (my tummy hurts)…now it’s time to go pick up the spawn and his friend and bring them home. What are you up to, sweetie? Hmmm…you’re probably going to think twice before asking me that loaded question, hugh? Hahaha…take care, Janey, and all you other Ladies…(Cloey, I have to write you in a separate block of time, since I have to run, and I always take longer than I mean to when I’m “gabbing” with you. See you soon…

5 10 2008
Witchypoo

Hi, Ladies…I’m back, (yahoo, right?!…hahaha). Hey, Goldie, where are you today, anyway? This is your site, girl…you don’t have to post anything intricate, lengthy, or research-packed; we just like to hear from you. I noticed that you commented on the Hottie site – it was funny.That LisaMarie person always has something bitchy to say…can’t the dumbass come up with something more inventive than bitching in capitals? I remember reading other nasty comments she’s written in the past, (her “name” is easy for me to remember, for some reason). What have you been up to lately? Did you snooze off in the middle of my football play-by-play? I’m sure you’ve figured out by now that sports is a large portion of our (family’s), recreational time. Between training, camps and clinics, conditioning, team practices, games and traveling…it’s pretty much what we do most of the time, for most of the year. I usually enjoy it and really value the positive influences this lifestyle provides for our spawn, and even for my husband and I; once-in-awhile, though…like if I’m sick or overly tired or something – it can get a bit overwhelming. You know what I mean? Hey, Cloey…you sound like things are going pretty great for your happy little clan; I’m so glad about that. I know you were sweating it for a while, off-and-on, before the big event. Yeah, keeping a record of these early days will be precious to you later; the pictures, your written memories…little odds and ends that will remind you so vividly of this unique, poignant time in the lives of your family. I know it can be time-consuming when you’re so busy right now, but you don’t have to be perfect about it – or overly structured. Just a little here and a little there will make a big difference later on when you want something tangible to jog your memories. The nursing…you know, what really helped my milk to start producing in larger quantities with my first guy was frequent pumping. The more you pump and nurse, the more your body will produce. I worried a lot, (needlessly), with my first baby about the feeding issue; it sounds like you’ve got all that covered – I’m sure Cayden will thrive. There’s so much to consider and worry about when you’ve got a tiny little life to be responsible for, hugh? Today at my 12 year-old’s baseball meeting, there was this one mom who I met once before in August at her son’s tryout for the team. She had her baby girl with her today; I was thinking the tiny little girl was pretty much newborn…it turns out she’s almost 3 months old. This little baby weighs the same at 3 months that my guys weighed at birth…a little over 9 pounds! Her mom said she was somewhere around 5 pounds at birth – I can’t imagine having a little one THAT tiny…wow. Imagine how anxious you’d probably feel trying to ensure that your newborn was getting what he needed to thrive if he was that size? Nerve-wracking. Anyhoo…you’ll probably feel a lot more comfortable, with more freedom-of-movement, once the staples are taken out next week; try to think about that – instead of the procedure itself. I think it’s supposed to be fast and uncomplicated, (though, I get squeemish about things like that, also…I don’t like to visualize details of medical procedures). It’s got to be a lot better than what you’ve already been through, right? Well, Ladies…my baby spawn is demanding my attention right now; he’s overly tired – with a headcold. Take care, and nightie-night.

5 10 2008
Janelyse829

Witchy- i have been a little busy. I was getting my cousin ready for the homecoming dance when i get a call from Munchkins maternal grandmother [who he currently lives with] so it turns out that one of her stepsons was playing with Munchkin and he got on the bed. the bed is like super high and Munckin wanted to get up there too. When Nick grabbed him by the arm to pull him up to the bed i guess he pulled a liitle to hard or didnt grab him right and munckin ended up with a dilocated elbow. we took him to the hospital and they pulled his arm and put it back in place. and just in time too. the doctor said that one of his nerves was pinched between his bone. they didnt have to put a cast on him, but they way he was crying broke my heart. you would have thought someone was trying to kill him. but God i cant imagine how much it hurt him. i didnt want to touch him in fear that i would make it worse. besides when i got there he made it very clear to me that he didnt want me to touch his arm. but now he is safe and sound back at his gramothers. i am going to e busy this week so i probably will ave to wait til late evening on friday to pick him up for the weekend. ALSO, thats crazy about your sons game. here where i live, the coach would have called a play like that and im pretty sure the football players would just walk out of the field lol and yes it can be scary to have a baby that tiny. my niece was 6 pounds and 4 ounces when she was born and she was like 19 inches long. but i dont think that was part of th reason that she passed away. have to ask my mom. but her sister was 20 inches long and weighed 9 pounds and 14 ounces. she was so chubby when she was born!

6 10 2008
Janelyse829

hey girls! i was thinking of how we are always talking about our kids [or in my case, my nephew]. and now that Clo is a mom she’ll soon be bragging as well. I happened to come across a poem that i wrote for my mom for her birthday last May. but it kinda described the bond between mothers and their children no matter how old they are. and it just made me realize that im 18 and im still a mommy’s girl ❤
i think that no matter how old we get we should always cherish our parents because they play a huge role in who we are and what we will be just like we are going to play that same role in our childrens lives. and i know that there are people whose parents were horrible to them but i think that they still played a huge role in what their children made of themsleves. they showed them everything that is wrong and unconsciously taught them that they had to be better than that.
anyways thats my thought for today.
good night

6 10 2008
Clo

Witchy, again, I think it’s so cool how involved you are with your kids, and how proud you sound when you talk… Er write about them. You too, Janey (about your nephew) Things haven’t been easy. Last night I REALLY wasn’t feeling good and I tried to take a nap. My in-laws were supposed to come over last night when hubbys Dad got off work at 5. I laid down and woke up at 8 and they STILL weren’t here. It’s his mom, she has to be the venter of attention ALL the time. My husband called and told them not to come. I feel bad, I’d really like his Dad to see him, cause I know he would have been here on time, it’s his Mom. She probably wasn’t ready to go when his dad got off, and instead of cooking dinner (which she doesn’t do, ever. Seriously, they eat out every night and Jeremy said it was like that too when he was a kid.) They had to go out, and not even to just grab some McDonalds or something quick… I mean they could have even brought food here and ate… But no, they had to go to a sit down dinner AND it was a football night, and we live in Ohio, and Rowdy I KNOW you don’t like them, but the Buckeyes are a BIG deal here, so every place was packed for the game.. So it took forever. I don’t really care, it doesn’t bother me cause hubby takes care of them, but I just… Feel bad for him, that his mom is like that. He doesn’t seemed bothered by it though. It’s also amazing to me, because Jeremy’s Uncle (his mom’s half brother) lives about an hour away from us, and worked today, and still came down when he said he would. And they didn’t stay forever. Like, the day I gave birth to Cayden his parents didn’t show up till late, like 8 or maybe nine, and stayed till 11 P.M, Who does that? I had JUST given birth. Anyway I woke up feeling HORRIBLE. My Mom had cooked some fried chicken and I made the mistake of eating some, and I had the worst stomach cramps ever, I think my pancreatitus was acting up. I was bawling like a baby. My mom and sister came to the rescue and spent the night last night and they’re spending it agin tonight and taking the baby. I was really going to go crazy. I love my family, I really really do. It’s funny, cause if you would have asked me at 14 if I ever would love my family this much, I would have told you I hated them. But it’s just amazing to me how much help they’ve been.

6 10 2008
Witchypoo

Oh, Cloey…it’s really nice to hear you say, (read, I mean…you know what I mean, right?…) how much your family means to you. Even though I haven’t seen or talked to my parents for a few years, I can relate to how you feel. There was a time when we were very close, (in a completely dysfunctional way), even though I didn’t let my parents see how I really felt about a lot of things. Even now, if they’d just show even a little understanding and regret over all the mistakes they made as parents, it would be water under the bridge. However, they, (especially my Mom), can’t seem to get beyond the stubborn, ((blind), pride thing…so, that takes care of that. I still have a lot of memories, though, of how happy and involved they both were with my first two babies…and it warms my heart. There’s something about a new life that really brings out the very best in families – uniting them in goodwill and “light”…that’s the only way I can think of to describe this tendency. So, I’m very glad for you that your family is rallying around you, Jeremy, and Cayden. When you’re feeling stronger physically, you’ll begin to feel less overwhelmed. Although, I have to admit that there’s still plenty of times when I feel overwhelmed with the immense responsibility of parenting; everyone feels this way at times, though. When you make the observation that I write about my children with pride…I think it’s not so much just that I’m proud of them, (though, there is that, also). Jerry and I look at their successes as a sort of validation – as a kind of tangible “proof” that we’re doing at least some things right with our spawn. Neither of us had really strong role models to base our parenting techniques on…not a lot of steady, dependable guidance to lean on. Though, I think Jerry’s parents, being older and kind of old-fashioned, made more of a sincere effort in some ways, even though that didn’t usually result in practical support for him. We’ve been kind of playing it by ear, just trying to provide every type of support for our babies that we’re capable of. The world is not a soft, receptive place for young people to forge their lives – for the most part. We just want to provide them with the tools to go after whatever it is they want in Life…no matter how challenging that often is. It’s scary to step out into the world when you haven’t been prepared for it; both of us were in that situation immediately after graduating high school. We don’t want our guys to experience the same lonely, isolating feelings we did when it was time to enter adulthood. So, this is why we place emphasis on goal-setting, accountability, striving, good work ethics, etc…we just want them to grow into strong and capable young adults. So, yeah…seeing them succeed in sports, school, etc. makes us proud – but it’s just as much about an immense feeling of relief, that the spawn are actually learning some of what we’re trying to teach them. Do you know what I mean, Cloey? I think you probably do. And, on that melodramatic note…I’ll say nightie-night, Sweetie. Take care.

6 10 2008
Witchypoo

P.S…Janey – Oh, your poor, sweet little munchkin. It’s excruciating to watch a little person in your life experiencing pain or illness, isn’t it? I’m glad he’s alright and back home. It’s scary how easily children can get hurt; there’s about a million ways for things to go wrong. Give him a kiss on the nose, a big hug, and tell him to make a wish on a star. My spawn love it when we do things like that. Nightie-night, Janey, and take care.

6 10 2008
Janelyse829

Thanks Witchy.
And i would kiss him but he’s being very picky about who he lets touch him. i was leaving after we dropped him off and i went to kive him a kiss and he was like “dont touch me, please. youre gonna break my other arm!”

6 10 2008
monkeyspeaks

hey guys. Insanity has ensued. Haha. I wIll post today. Promise! And catch up with all the comments

6 10 2008
lara21167

Hi Ladies,

Janey, sorry about your munchkin. Hope he feels better soon. Witchy congrats on the spawn getting what should have been the winning touchdown. I can’t speak for everyone but I enjoy reading about your spawns’ sports adventures. Hopefully I’ll have some soon. I don’t know though every year we start losing cheerleaders this time of year. We’ve lost one already this girl has been on our team like 3 times now and always leaves. She just jumps teams all the time, it’s stupid. She’s a good cheerleader too. Then another mom got mad at the coach at dance practice Saturday. I don’t know what that was about. Cheerleading has got to be the worst sport for drama!! Here I am busting my butt tring to get donations from stores for an event we are having on Saturday. Nobody wants to donate at this time. Rowdy and Jane love your comments on Joe Hottie. What is up with that “just shut down the blog”, Some people just aren;t happy unless they can bitch about something.
Clo, don’t know what is up with your mother in law. If they want to come over, it just makes sense to pick up some food for everyone and bring it over. Hope you are feeling better, guess you will really have to watch what you eat. I have a question for you, My hubby;s nephew’s ex girlfriend, who is pregnant, by the nephew (if you followed that) Anyhoo this girl is 6 months pregnant she was complaining yesterday of having pain “down there” and I seem to remember you had the same problem?? She said she feels like her uterus is getting ready to drop out. She called the doctor but they didn’t seem concerned. Maybe it’s just the way the baby is laying??

I have to leave work early today, my daughter has to get a tooth pulled. We have been going on with this tooth for 2 years. One dentist tried to do a route canal, but she cried so bad he couldn’t finish. He sent us off somewhere else, then I switched insurance new dentist didn’t take. It;s just been back and forth, finally found a dentist that was going to save it. Now he left that practice and the once again new dentist said it has to be pulled. So that is what we are going to do this afternoon.I think that’s best anyway leave more room for the rest of her teeth.

I better get back to work take care ladies.

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