Rain, rain GO AWAY

9 10 2008

 

Well, ok don’t get me wrong. I love the rain. I guess I am just a bit paranoid. JUST got the car back and its been pouring since I woke up.  Not cool! At least I parked my car on the side of the street that didn’t get AS flooded last time. Not to say it wasn’t bad. Hopefully I can get what I need to get done here fast and then be able to get out of my neighborhood. I CANNOT afford another trip to the dealer!!! They make fun of me there. They said I have paid for my car twice by now hahaha. 

I just got the car back and it's ALREADY flooding again. Oy!

I just got the car back and it is already flooded again! OY! This is the view from my window.

I’ve been laying in bed since 9 am this morning. What should I be doing? CLEANING. UGH. I hate cleaning. Really I do. Boo and I actually talked about it once. It would make more sense for him to be a stay at home pops than it would for ME to be a stay at home mom. I mean assuming one could afford to stay home with baby. He is neat, organized and a much better disciplinary than I am.  (not that we are planning anything… nor are we close to THAT point!) He was here for a few days and the Puptard was listening to him better than me. Speaking of pup tard. He’s staring at me. He wants to go out but its ankle deep out there already. I’m gonna have to drive the car to my door and then carry him out again. I know you guys would love to see that but taking a picture of that one is a bit tougher. 

 

If I hide long enough, the dirt won't find me!

If I hide long enough, the dirt won

So I am hiding under my covers. I don’t want to get out and clean. I have so much to do before I leave town tomorrow. Clean the whole apartment. OK OK its a studio. But its split into rooms so its LIKE cleaning an apartment. Albeit a lil one. I have to pull out everything I want to pack and then sort what needs to be cleaned and what doesn’t. Tackle the kitchen. I WANTED to throw away the trash but I can’t if it’s raining like this. I hope it clears up at SOME point today. I don’t want garbage sitting in my house for a week! EEEWWWW. Normally I set it in the alley behind my apt (back door that opens to alley) and when It’s worth the trip I take it out. It prevents my apartment from smelling and, well, Im lazy! I hate going to our dumpster. Its scary. And there are a lot of strays. I am not a cat fan. OK so what else is on the agenda. I have to pick up my slacks from the tailor, go to Walgreens and pick up some things up, including the last little bits of the TOC survival kit! (Have I shared that with you guys yet?), get some things for the dinner party tonight (yyeeaaa) and then go to my parents. So why all this NOW?

 

My cousin is potentially house sitting and dog sitting for me. He and I basically get together three times a

Hes a bit older in this shot (taken just now). And a bit chunkier. OK a lot chunkier. He loves his Turkey Jerky

 week, maybe four on the occassion, and play scrabble. We played Tiger Woods 2007 last night and I whomped him. Im actually relatively good at that game.

He wants to try and train the mutt. And he is stuck at his mothers house for the time being. We are down the street from each other and hes older than I am so the opportunity to stay on his own was relatively endearing. Plus he loves my dog. (Then again with a face like this who can resist). He always has a 
“huh” face going on. My little cutie patootie.  

Hey! The rain stopped. YAY!

 

Anyway. So yes. Must clean for apartment sitting cousin. Then the pants for interview (eep). Actually a few of you may have heard of the place I am applying at. Lucky Strike. There is a location in NY (and they are opening another one soon Janey! End of this month) and one in Seattle (there are 19 throughout the US and Canada). It’s a bit much for the kids (more of an adult hang out… full bar, restaurant, bowling, music, art, fun!) but it might be up your “alley” Janey. HAHAHA im funny. During the day its a family fun place, but I believe at 10pm they switch to 21+, or maybe 18. I forget. 
At the position I would get to work with artists. A dream! I am a bit obsessed with Pop Surrealism and Lowbrow art. I’ve been collecting since I was a little girl. In leu of presents my parents buy me a work of art every year. Its fabulous and I hope one day I can get my own kids involved in the art world. My brother is an

This is Ryden-esque but there are a lot of key features in the painting that point away from his work (The eyes and nose on the girl, for one). The Teddy Bear is very Ryden though. I just can't figure out who did this painting.

This is Ryden-esque but there are a lot of key features in the painting that point away from his work (The eyes and nose on the girl, for one). The Teddy Bear is very Ryden though. I just can

artist, I want to work in an art and cultural field within my career (Marketing/PR) and my parents host an event every year called Roving Fridays where they open up one of their lofts/warehouses to local artists to show their work. They do it through the company my mom works for (realty) and my dad is an outside partner. Its fabulous. Bacardi sponsors it. I was raised in a bit of a socialite world. Not the “Hills” version you normally think of but parties and art and music were a huge part of my life growing up (Witchy, now you can see why I adore the West Coast. I look at it as much more culturally inclined than the east. At least for my taste in art/music). Its all about Biggie Smalls. 

 

“Birthdays was the worst days – now we sip champagne when we thirsty”

Maybe in my next post I’ll post some of my favorite pieces for you guys. Witchy, have you ever heard of Roq La Rue? Its located in Seattle. They show a lot of my favorite artists. Mark Ryden, Tim Biskup, Glenn Barr, Lori Early, Marion Peck. 

 

OK OK sorry. It’s tangent day isn’t it. So yes. Then Walgreens to pick some things up and finish off the TOC survival kit. Its for Boo’s trip next week and his birthday present. I have gotten a few fishing lures, a zippo lighter with real tree on it, a flashlight, and I need to grab some bandaids, Natures Valley granola bars, a case to keep it all in and I am kinda hoping Walgreens will have some very cheap walkie-talkies. You know the kids ones that suck but are hilarious. 

 

And the “party.” It is Yom Kippur today. Highest of holidays for da jews. Now Im not into religion. I prefer the spirituality of meditation and yoga. BUT my family does practice (reform) and so tonight is BreakFast. I have to help Mom get the house ready for about 40 people. Bagels, Cream cheese and Kugal. YUM. HAHAHA

 

MT – how is clean-up going? Yes, you were right, we are lucky it’s not salt water. Its mostly water from the Bay I believe although I think a seawall or two may be having some problems here. I got lucky with my car. They said there was no damage to the computers or engine. Or did I get lucky, insurance probably would have gotten me a new car! OH how wonderful that would have been. 

 

Clo – How is that precious bundle? How’s his eye. How is the dreaded MIL? That really blows that she won’t get off your back. Selfish of her. If i were there i’d bust a kneecap for ya!

 

Janey – Take time before you decide to move in with him. You are so young. LoL. I felt really old the other day when you mentioned you’ve been out of school for a year and how it made you feel old. I’m like, geez, that 10 year reunion is around the corner. Gaak. I graduated about 6 and a half years ago. And Im still a baby. Enjoy the youth. Moving in is a huge responsibility. What about getting a place with some of your friends first. You guys would have the privacy of an apartment but you could take the baby steps toward living together. I don’t think Boo and I will even make that move for a while. It would be nice but gotta go slow. Ive had a few falling outs too. Sometimes it happens. And sometimes you find your way back to the person. Just remember… your world revolves around you. And your cousin probably has some inner issues if she is acting out maliciously. Its not you. Its her. 

 

Witchy – how are those stats comin along! Do we have a future husky in training? Or better yet.  a future GATOR. HAHAHA. I know I know you west coasters, he’ll probably run as fast as he can for USC. Oy. 

 

Am I forgetting anyone? I hope everyone is great. And Belle. Cmon girl. Post it up. I’ll call ya later today. Im home all day so feel free to just hit me up. 

 

OH! Cable guy is here. Woohoo. (Did I mention someone is stealing my cable? No? Hmm. Well we think there is. I’ll get into THOSE fun details soon. Lets just preface the story with gay neighbor who loves 6 inch heels and apparently is taking advantage of my kindness. hmmm). 

 

 

 

 

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9 10 2008
lara21167

Rowdy good luck with the interview, we will send positive engery your way. When I have trouble getting started cleaning I put on some good upbeat music and just force myself to get started. Once you start you find out it’s not as bad as you thought it’d be. And Happy Yom Kippur!! BTY I’m not real knowlegdable with art. Looking forward to learning some Art Appreciation from you 🙂

9 10 2008
mt

Hey! Bagels and cream cheese! That reminds me of dating the ex. lol. and hummus. his dad always had hummus.

clean up is going ok. we got the hot water heater fixed. the “do all-er” at the boats came by and fixed it. it is, knowing his repuation, ebonically engineered, so we’ll see how long it holds up! AC will be fixed next week, but it’s down to 85 during the day, at 65 at night. so we’re ok right now. the offices are another story. we’re still sorting through nasty files dating back to the 80s.

How is everyone else?

10 10 2008
Witchypoo

Hey, Goldie…just wanted to quickly tell you to have a great trip. Are you excited? I’ll be back later, when I’m not running around all over. Great post, and Puptard is kissably adorable in that photo, btw! Take care, Ladies.

10 10 2008
Janelyse829

awwwww!!!!!!!!!
Puptard is ADORABLE!!!!
i love dogs…Wow, Rowdy sounds like you’ve had quite
a time with rain. i hate rain. it makes my hair feel gross. lol
i had a white and tan Papillion but i had to
give him away because he was giving my mom alergies and she has asthma.
i miss. i want another dog, which i’ll buy when i move out. =]

10 10 2008
Janelyse829

forgot to add.
you must be super excited about your trip!
hope all goes well and you get the job!

10 10 2008
Monkeyspeaks

hey everyone. Yes he is very kissable and cuddly. He LOVES to snuggle. I’m on my connecting flight to la right now. Long flight ahead but yes dry excited. I think we may even take off early. Phew. The guy next to me kinda smells but I took some Tylenol pm so I’ll pass out soon. Will send a reprt from LA when I find an Internet spot. Unfortunaly boo doesn’t have Internet at his place. Ok gotta shut the phone off. Have. Good weekend!

10 10 2008
Janelyse829

Have a great time, Rowdy!

11 10 2008
mt

YAY! you finally get to see him! i hope it does wonders to ease those rough patches ya’ll have been having on and off. good luck on the entre-vue. 🙂

BTW, ladies! Wish me luck. I’m making a quilt for the honey and i’m almost done, but i’ve got 6 days, a weird schedule and school to deal with before his birthday party-thing next sat!

11 10 2008
Janelyse829

good luck MT. and happi b`day to your boo!

11 10 2008
Clo

Rowdy- I was a nanny for a Jewish family… And they were always begging me to try the food (The mom said it was a Jewish Mom thing, trying to feed people.) anyway, I MISS Challa (Did I spell that right?) hardcore, but Kugal I DON’T miss at ALL, lol. I wasn’t a fan. I liked Latkes and then there was a doughnut type thing they made that I forget what it’s called but was rather tasty as well.

Lara- I forgot to answer your question about how they cut my uterus… I believe it was a T cut, which means I can’t try the vbac… I’m not really all that bummed about it, although I’m starting to get REALLY frustrated. It sucks not being able to do what I feel like I’m supposed to be able to do, like bend down or move… And then on top of it, something doesn’t feel right, I feel sick. I get headaches and stomach aches and sick to my stomach, I just don’t feel good. And hubby goes back to work on Monday so I’m like, will I be able to handle this by myself? Then there’s this whole gall bladder deal, and I feel like whenever I start feeling better the doctors do something else to make me feel worse. Like taking out my staples? Yeah, the lady had NO idea what she was doing, and the steri strips they put on fell off before I even left both times (they only pulled 1/2 my staples on Wednesday, and then the rest friday.) I have two holes basically, and now I’m on antibiotics to prevent infections from the holes… Then there’s my whole gall bladder deal… I’m not sure what I’m supposed to do about it. Nobody ever really told me anything in the hospital, I had a different surgeon come talk to me every day, they always came SUPER early in the morning when I was still asleep, and I was on some hardcore pain meds, so I was out of it anyway… They wanted to wait till my staples came out to do an MRI, but now that they’re out, I’m not sure where to go to get the MRI. It’s just a mess, really. The baby is doing great, he’s eating more, and he’s awake more in the day, but he still has these periods of awake-ness at night… Which sucks cause sometimes even when he falls back asleep, he wants to be held, so you still have to sit up with him. His eye is better, I got projectile vomited on this morning, so that was fun….

My in laws are really ticking me off, and I think they’re mad at me as well, which is fine with me. We’ll have words here soon enough. It’s just that I feel that they’re very inconsiderate. And my husband says it’s his mom playing games and it’s just old. Like when he was born, they didn’t show up till like 8 or 9 PM, and they stayed till 11 PM. Which I thought was rude, I had just given birth that morning, I was tired. I mean I get why they couldn’t come till late, my mother in law doesn’t drive and had to wait for my father in law to get off work. But still they didn’t need to stay that late. Then they finally came over yesterday, but again didn’t show up till 6 PM, and that’s crazy cause my father in law was off, they could have come way earlier. Then 9 o’clock rolls around and they’re still here. I needed to pump I was leaking everywhere. And then my mother in law starts talking about what TV shows she likes to watch at 9, as if she’s going to stay and watch it here. My husband was like “Well Laura needs to pump so we gotta kick you guys out. Sorry, but it’s getting late.” and they seriously said “Oh, well we can just wait outside.” Um, hello????? I mean my sister was still here, but that’s cause she was spending the night and taking the baby during the night so I could get some sleep, they come over and they just sit, which is fine, but it’s like… Other people come and they stay for like an hour, and then they leave. And they come way earlier in the day. Who comes late and stays forever? I mean am I wrong to think that’s just really rude?

MT- Good luck on the quilt! I’ve made some basic ones but I don’t really have the attention span to finish them all the time.

Rowdy have fun on your trip, and Witchy how are the kids?

11 10 2008
Janelyse829

no Cloey i dont think that you are wrong. That is kinda rude. and if they cant take an obvious hint that they are being kicked out, then maybe they need to be told to either come earlier or just dont show up. i dont think that your husband could have been anymore straight foward… some people just dont get it. maybe you should come up with some type of schedule and have a specific visiting time. and the you should tell them about it. if its past visiting hours then they cant come. that what i would do.

12 10 2008
Clo

I mean on the one hand, I feel bad because my family doesn’t have a visiting schedule… But again, my Mom shows up early, stays for maybe an hour, 2 hours tops, and leaves… With the exception of the days that she spent the night to help out. And my family helps, my mom and sister do dishes, laundry, fix bottles, change the baby, feed the baby, ect… They just sit here and hold him… Which is annoying too, because they came over when he was sleeping and held him the whole time, and now he’s starting to get into the habit of wanting to be held while he’s sleeping, so we’re really trying to put him down when he’s asleep so he gets used to being held. I mean, I tried to tell my husband, you need to give them a time they need to be here by, and a time they need to leave, cause I’m pumping like every two hours or so, and if I don’t, I leak which is gross and uncomfortable for me. And sure, I could go upstairs or something, but I just feel right now that two hours is plenty of time for them to come visit. Again, cause he’s not awake that often yet, and all that jazz. I don’t know, like I said, I think they feel like I’m the one trying to keep them away from the baby, and I’m not, but I really feel like they just don’t even have a clue. And then there’s the fact that they don’t really feel comfortable around the baby, so he starts to cry and they try to handle it, but then they get all flustered and the baby gets upset… I dunno. I really wish my husband would just lay down the law, like visiting hours are such and such time and if you don’t make it tough luck. But he won’t, so I have a feeling I’ll have to do it, and I have a feeling that my Mother in law and I will get into it, which doesn’t really bother me in the least.

I feel much better today though 🙂 So we’ll see how it goes tonight when I have to get up with the baby all night (hubby goes back to work tomorrow) How’s everyone else?

12 10 2008
mt

the woman had a baby (albeit 30-something yrs ago, but still), so she should be more considerate! if the baby is on a schedule, or if you’re trying to get him on one, they need to respect it. do they see y’all often? like, it’s not a HUGE deal for them to come over, so there’s no need for them to come over and stay for a bazillion hours? at least your husband sticks up for you. he might not be 100% ready to tell his mom to fix her self, but it’s more than a lot of men would do.

speaking of family drama, my boo’s bro is getting married and there’s major venue issues going on (theirs was damaged in the storm and the wedding was supossed to be on 11/4) and this girl is already milking his ‘rents for 18-grand worth of wedding (her parents backed out of paying for anything and she won’t cut corners anywhere…she wanted flowers in the bathroom. the BAHTROOM)…so there’s drama with the boo’s older sis…she feels the little bro is getting a better wedding than she did, and now their talking about moving it to the place she got married! i’d be offended, too. so drama, drama.

thanks for the good luck, ladies! i’m quite proud of it, so i’ll see if i can post a pic of it on here somewhere when it’s done. it’s my first attempt. speaking of which…i’m off to finish it!

12 10 2008
Clo

We don’t see them too often… But that’s cause my husband gets REALLY annoyed around his Mom. I mean we’ve invited them over several times since the baby’s been born, and they’ve been the ones to cancel on us. I mean we canceled once, but that was when they said they were coming when his Dad got off work at 5 and 8 o’clock rolled around and they were just headed our way. And like I said, there’s no reason for them to show up at 6 the other day, his Dad was off ALL day, so they could have come earlier. But they’re stuff is more important, so they wanted to do it first, which again, is fine, but I just think the later you come, the less time you should plan on staying. I mean they live 20 minutes away from us, if that. It’s just his mom… Whenever there’s an event centered around someone else, something pops up to make it about her. She missed our wedding because she was “sick” she was “sick” when the baby was born, the baby shower she tried to say she couldn’t come too cause it was going to be outside and it’d be too hot, and then when she realized that wasn’t going to make us change locations, she said she’d come but a few days before started feeling “sick” again. She ended up showing but of course there was lots of grumbling about how she didn’t feel good. We didn’t announce our engagement right away cause we got engaged right around her birthday and my husband said she’d throw a fit if we took attention away from her. It’s just sad cause it makes both of us want to avoid her. And my husband is really putting his foot down about them coming over, I mean like the other night when they didn’t show till 8 he called and told them not to bother. He just says he’s done with his mom’s games, and I feel bad cause she’s the one missing out, but it’s her choice, you know?

I want to see your quilt MT! Again, I wish I had the patience to finish one. I started a baby blanket for Cayden and quit, lol.

12 10 2008
Janelyse829

hey guys… i’ve had the busiest sunday ever….i miss munchkin!!!!im used to seeing him every weekend and i havents seen him…he made huis grandma call me at 11 at niught the other night cause he wanted to know what i was doing! i should have been mad cause i was asleep but he sounded so cute and i missed him so much!!! ma pookie bear.

now i have a stupid question. im getting my eyebrow pierced but i dont know
if people normally get the left one or the right one pierced. can any of you answer that for me. i tend to be a bit slow sometimes lol

13 10 2008
Clo

I don’t know how people usually get theirs done, but when I had my eyebrow pierced I got my left one done.

13 10 2008
Witchypoo

Hi, Cloey! It’s good to hear from you, even if you’re not happy with what’s going on with your dreaded mother-in-law. Yeah, every now and then you run smack into a person who really seems to believe that the world revolves around her/him. These individuals are extremely annoying to the rest of humanity in general – and especially to the unfortunate people they happen to have ties with. They just don’t seem to have a clue, do they? Probably the best thing you can do to avoid repeating the same annoying patterns with this woman is just to set your limits – then be consistent; she’ll have to catch on sooner or later, right? If she doesn’t…it’ll be her loss. So are you feeling any more comfortable? Worried about being alone tomorrow? It’s going to be just fine, Sweetie – you’ll see. You try to get some rest tonight, (challenging, I know)…and we’ll check in with you tomorrow to see what’s going on. Nightie-night, and take care.

13 10 2008
mt

oh cloey. 20 mins away? no excuse. none whatsoever. i think your MIL has a self-centeredness problem, or she’s a hypocondriac, or both. she missed her own son’s wedding? ouch. i’m sad for him. i’d be heartbroken if my future MIL did. my mom will likely be the one to be sick. she’s been doing better about making things about her, but she’s still quite the hypocondriac, and my grandma enables her. it’s odd. speaking of odd old people behavior (also very strange), my grandma gets pissy when people do well. like, i know when i get married, she’ll see the ceremony and say “it must be nice to have the money to spend on this kind of wedding.” or “jeez. are they made of money?” my cousin got married last year and i mentioned how pretty the bride’s dress was and my mom said “yea, $600 bucks worth of pretty.” i was thinking “seriously? that’s a good deal for that dress…and, anyway, who’s bussiness is it how much she spent on her one and only wedding dress.” i swear my family is adverse to anyone doing well. it soooo strange. anywho. at least you have the odd in-laws, i’ve got the weird blood-related. my poor honey, having to marry into this…lol.

jane. i know what you mean. i miss my 4 yr old nephew when i don’t see him. i picked him up from school the other day and he was in trouble. he hit his after school teacher in the arm and wouldn’t apologize. they were just playing, but he wouldn’t say sorry. so he clung to my leg when i told him to tell the teacher sorry. it was cute. and everytime we get in the car, he “wants 4” so i have to let him press the 4 preset on the radio. it’s cute. ohhhh. i love kids.

CLO- i got the binding sewn on today. just a few more tweaks! you should wait to do cayden’s blanket til he’s a year old, and take his old baby clothes to make a quilt. you know, the stained and messy ones? take some scissors to the clean parts, if you can stand to see his clothes cut. my friend’s grandma did that with her husband’s clothes after he passed away. she took all of his shirt and jeans pockets and sewed them together.
😦 it’s so sweet, but so sad at the same time.

ok. enough with this book. how’s everyone?

13 10 2008
mt

epilogue:
JANE- i always do things opposite of the hand i write with; so everything is naturally “right” when i choose it. but i have a tocuh of OCD i think, and everything has to be centered or balanced…so i could never get an eyebrow or nose piercing. my tat is on the right, and i’ll balance it out with one on the left side of my body eventually; but because you can’t see it, it’s less irritating to me! 🙂 anyway, what i’m getting at, is if someone came up to you and said “left or right?” what would you choose? even if it had nothing to do with a piercing…

13 10 2008
lara21167

Good Monday morning ladies. Clo, just keep dealing with the inlaws the way you are. I like the idea of setting visiting hours and if they question why your family doesn’t abide by the visiting hours just tell them that your family is not “visiting” they are there to help out. I am afraid your mother in law will never change and your father in law will never stand up to her. So that is the way they will be for all time. As witchy said just keep your boundries.

MT – looking forward to seeing the quilt. I’m not very good at that kind of thing.

Janey- I don;t know anything about peircings today so I just can’t help you with that. When I was growing up straight guy got their left ear peirced and gay guys got their right done. Now guys get either one or both:) I do think that girls I;ve seen with the brow piercing is ususally on the right. But I like MT’s advise:)

13 10 2008
lara21167

Almost forgot to do some mother bragging lol. My town puts on a harvest hoe down every October. It’s a free event and kids get to make scarecrows, get free pumpkins and they have a hayride and this train thing. Anyway, my daughters cheer association has a food stand, we try to get local stores to donate food and drinks. Didn’t get as many donations this year because of the economy. But we still made $1,500.00 so not too bad. Anyhoo the girls put on 2 shows. They did excellant. Usually our coach is a little cautious on what she lets them do there because they perform on concrete. But this year they did their cheer, a dance, some stunting, my daughters stunt group (she’s a base) their flyer pulled an aerovest (don’t know how to spell it but I think you know what I mean) she’s just a little thing, then took her in a circle while she was in the air. Really cool. And some of the bigger girls (that had guts or confidence) did back tucks, on the concrete!! That scares the hell out of me. I don’t even want to think about them falling!! Then in the 2nd performance our coach had our youth hip hop team do their dance. They made some misstakes but otherwise it was great. First time they did their dance in front of an audience. We are the only cheer team they allow to perform there. They had a dance group and they were excellent. Well enough bragging. Take care.

13 10 2008
Clo

I’m not alone today, this may sound disgusting, so if you’re grossed out by stuff, you may not want to read on:

Remember how I said every time I felt better something else went wrong (now I sound like the hypocondriac, lol… But really, usually when I get sick I tend to bounce back pretty fast, so I’m REALLY annoyed that 2 weeks laterI still feel like crud, anyway) Last night I was feeling really good and moving really well and I’m thinking, oh, tomorrow won’t be so bad… So I’m sitting at the computer catching up on email while my husband has Cayden… And I feel something warm. I have two holes that didn’t really close up on my incision, and one of them had a scab that I guess because I was feeling so good and moving so well became separated from the side, and all this crap just came out. My Mom (who’s a nurse) said it’s not infected, but now it HURTS, and it started bleeding a little. So my sister came over this morning to help, because I’m back to not being able to bend to pick him up out of his pack and play. UGH.

MT- My wedding dress was 400 dollars. Then I sold it for 200 after I was done… I mean I would have liked to keep it, but for what really? I mean I wasn’t going to put it on, and we don’t really have the room to store it so… But I do think my mother in law has munchausen (spelling?) you now, where you make yourself sick so people feel bad for you? But yeah, she missed our wedding, which again was her loss cause it really was a beautiful/special thing. It was small but so perfect.

Anyway, I’ll write more later, Cayden was up alllllllllllll night last night so I’m exhausted and have a huge headache, so I’m going to take a nap. I hope all is well, Lara your daughter sounds like she did awesome.

13 10 2008
lara21167

omg Clo!! That would have scared the SH** out of me!! Good thing your mother is a nurse. Did that maybe help your sick feeling. Even though your sore, maybe that “stuff” just needed to come out. Keep taking it easy the most you can. You did just have major abdominal surgery. About a month after I had my stomach surgery I caught the worst stomach virus I’d ever had. And it hit suddenly. Like I was at the grocery store, started feeling sick, and began throwing up in the car on the way home, I was driving too!! And all that night. So of course I was scared I had some kind of infection from the surgery. So that Monday I had my yearly appointment with my gyno. who had nothing to do with the stomach surgery, but he is a surgeon. So he checked my incision and said it looked good and had to have been a virus. But I didn’t open up like that. I’d still call the doc if I were you…

13 10 2008
Janelyse829

Wow! I have a lot to catch up on.

CLO- you must have been scared. i would have been screaming my ass off! I’m glad that its not infected. Hope that Cayden sleeps better tonight so you can rest.

LARA- my ex bestie was a cheerleader. she was a flyer too. i wouldnt have done i if i was being paid!!!! i scared of height so thts obviously not my sport….
but she sounds like she is really good. thts awsome. if shes good enough on competitive cheerleading she could get a scholarship…

MT- your nephew sounds adorable…. my munchkin wont say sorry either. he’ll tell you to get over it. he’s mean. bt i spoil him anyway. he’s my baby. i want to see him sooooo badly. i guess he is moving at the end of this month to puerto rico with his mom and then i wont be able to see him at all. i mean my dad lives there but we dont really talk so….

i stayed at my older cousins house last night. she is 28 and has 5 kids. all under 10. the oldest is 8 and the smallest is 3. they are great kids but they are bad. we were watching movies and i fell asleep around midnight. and like at one in the morning the lil one-christian-woke me up and told me to go home! i was like “go away, im sleeping!” he was like “no, dont sleep, go home”

MT -to answer your question, i would say right. cause im right handed.

13 10 2008
mt

JANE- 5 kids under 10? i’d kill myself if they didn’t kill me first! jk. they sound cute. and i understand abou tbeing good, but bad at the same time. my nephew is a good kid, but he has…spunk. i’m so sorry your little guy has to move. 😦 maybe you can teach him how to use SKYPE or a webcam. if he’s anything like my nephew, he’s ridiculously advanced at electronics. it’s scary.

LARA- your daughter sounds bad ass. my older sis was in drill team in HS, so she takes care of the cheer and drill team for the league football in my hometown. they do well most years. super sweepstakes, or at least a place, and she usually gets a choreogrpahy award. but it’s not competitive cheer, so i find it boring. the competition is the cool stuff, flying and twirling…sounds scary. i’m soccer player; i like the ground.

CLO- i hope you feel better. don’t be too discouraged- you just had your internal lady parts cut open. you can’t expect to be up playing hop scotch 2 1/2 weeks later. take it easy. your family seems to be more than happy to help. and $400 is a good price for the dress. everyone has their perfect dress, and it’s nobody’s place to judge how much one spends. i’m just saying, it’s strange, because if my grandma pays for something, she bitches, if we pay for it and she’s not asked for money, she bitches because “it must be nice to be able to afford such things.” no…it must be nice to work your ass off for things you really want. anywho. munchhausen? sounds familiar and sounds like my mom. oh, good lord….no offense, but i hope she doesn’t end up like you MIL in the future.

13 10 2008
Janelyse829

my nephew just turned three. im not sure how technonogically advenced he is. but he knows how to use the phone! [did i tell you guys about how he called me in the middle of the night?] andim sure i can talk to him through skype but its not going to be the same and im pretty sure its only going to make me miss him more! i just LOVE to hold him and kiss him and play with him!

this sucks!

13 10 2008
lara21167

Janey, I think I may have confused you, and probably everyone else. My daughter, Kristy, is a base. The flyer was a 7 year old little girl who did the aerovesk (how do you spell that??) But it takes steady bases for flyers to pull off their stunts ; )

13 10 2008
Janelyse829

OH, but- its still amazing. i dont have patience to carry some one and cath them. i’d probably get distracted and NOt catch them. OUCH! i hope none of the girls fall!!!

13 10 2008
Witchypoo

Hey, Ladies…how’s it going? Just a quick aside regarding munchhausen’s disease…(I don’t know how to spell it, either). Anyway, the actual definition of it is a person, usually the primary caregiver, of someone else, (usually involves a child), who makes the person he/she is taking care of sick, (intentionally), and/or injures the dependent…all for the purpose of garnering attention,sympathy,admiration, etc. from health care professionals, family members – and anyone else connected with the situation. Usually they’re discovered through a detectable pattern that often repeats itself; it’s a documented psychological/psychiatric disorder. In the cases where a child is the victim of abuse from someone with munchhausen, it’s so backwards: the “typical” child abuser avoids detection by steering clear of hospitals/doctors as much as possible…but someone with this disorder actively seeks out interaction with health care professionals. It’s all about the attention/validation. Weird, hugh? Yuck, Cloey…what you described sounds…well, YUCK. Do you try not to look at it, or think about it much? That’s what I do, when something comes up – I would really have to use LOTS of self-discipline and mind/thought control to ever function as a nurse. I tend to have a pretty quick gag reflex, anyway…like with smells, nasty sites, etc. I mean, you wouldn’t usually know it, (I don’t go around acting like a wuss, or anything – I just gag easily). Once when my poor sister-in-law, (my little brother’s wife), came over for a visit, one of my dumbass dogs threw something up. I almost threw up myself while cleaning it up…just gagging all over the place. The sweet girl practically begged me to let her clean it up, instead, so that I wouldn’t retch. Of course, I didn’t let her clean up MY stupid dog’s barf…but she was probably a little shaken watching, (and hearing), me gag. Gross, hugh? Oddly enough, I didn’t ever have a problem changing my spawns’ diapers, or cleaning up other messes from them, (though, I do need to hold my breath in those types of situations). Interesting topic, hugh? Take care.

13 10 2008
Witchypoo

P.S…Janey, you poor girl. I can well imagine your sad feelings regarding your little nephew moving so far away. Try to make extra connections with other people you’re close with, to help with the emotion overflow. I know…it’s not the same. I’m thinking of you, and the little guy. Hey…when I was little, I learned to really write well, around age 5 or 6, by writing letters back and forth with my Grandma in Boston. She took a real interest in me, and really made me feel special. I remember looking forward to her letters, and she felt the same way. Maybe you could make a regular practice of not only e-mailing your munchkin, but actually sending him real letters…with little surprises/gifts in them, sometimes. Not only will he probably learn to read and write sooner – he’ll really value those letters. My Grandma and I each saved some of our’s; letter-writing can really keep a close bond going. Take care, Janey.

13 10 2008
lara21167

There was a mother fairly recently, in my little city here that was charged with child abuse that was that munchhausen’s disease i forget what she did to the poor kid, I want to say some kind of mild poison, but I seem to remeber it being kind of an odd thing.Very weird. Just imagine how many cases go undetected. Awful

13 10 2008
Janelyse829

well, i mean i probably will go dwn there and visit. but the thing is i dont trust his mom. she is only a year older than me. my brother is 22. they had my nephew really young. she was 16 and my brother was 19. about a year later she got pregant again. and it was a little girl. she was gorgeous and needless to say my brother was in love with his baby girl. she got really sick when a few days before she turned three moths and the day after she she turned three months she died. about a week after that she and my brother broke up. a month after that she married one of my brothers closest friends [who i already thought she was cheating on him with]. my brother moved to floida. he couldnt get over the fact that his daughter had just died and her mom got married to one of his best friends. so my nephews mom get pregnant again. the baby’s due on the day my niece died. its a girl. the baby’s born the day before my nieces one year death anniversary. my nephews new step dad beats the hell out of his mom and is into drugs. he ows his dealer money and they want to kill him. so they take the baby and move to puerto rico. and they leave my nephew here.

now she wants to come pick him up. my brother hasnt seen his son in a year and a half. she has no job, her husband has no job and they live with his parents. i dont want my nephew with her. im really scared about her coming to get him. what if he comes with her and they see him and think that my nephew is this guys son and the kill them both? my brother is trying to get a legal consent that states that she is not allowed to take hum out of the state of new york without his permission. and he wont give it to her. he wants him here. so if he gets that approved and she comes to get him anyway she can go to jail for kidnapping.

13 10 2008
Witchypoo

Hey, Lara…I forgot to mention how great I think it is that your daughter is involved in competitive cheer, at such a young age. If she wants to cheer, or be on dance, or drill team when she’s in jr. high and/high school, she’s getting the perfect background to make it easy for her. It’s fun to watch, hugh? I have a lot of great memories from all the Friday night games in high school, (also from jr. high), when we’d do our routines…watch the games, socialize, (probably more of that than anything else)…then go out after to eat, more socializing, etc…fun. It’s also a good way to help keep your little girl too busy to get into trouble; at least, that’s our, (my husband’s and mine), theory/plan with our boys, (sports). It is more difficult to get into any major trouble when you’re always either practicing, cross-training, or at some type of game, you know? Take care.

13 10 2008
lara21167

Janey, to continue our convo from Joe Hottie blog. First Fat Friday sounds delish. Second. Do you think Ezi is just busy with school? Maybe planning some sort of surprise for you? Just everything you’ve said about him, his ignoring you and canceling plans just doesn’t sound like the Ezi you described!!

13 10 2008
Janelyse829

i kno it doesnt. he’s really not like this. but i just called his mom to see if she’d heard from him. she said that she hadnt spoke to him since thursady. thats the first time he cancelled. but she told me that she had told him that his gradma [who lives in Jersey] is very sick. he and his grandma are very close. i hope that he went to see her. and he’s not like at home refusing to talk to someone. he doesnt really like to talk about things he’s going through. when somethings bothering him he just like shuts everyone out. i hate that he’s like that. i can never get him to talk to me and he never tells me anything when we do talk. i guess he likes to figure things out by himself. but i was really worried. i thought he was cheating!!!! and now i feel bad cause it was something completely different!

14 10 2008
Clo

I thought Munchausen was when you did it to yourself and munchausen bi-proxy was when you made someone else sick, but I could be totally wrong.

As for my incision, I’m just so sick of going to the stupid doctor, lol. If I thought something was wrong, I’d go, but it’s not red, it doesn’t smell bad… And I’m already on an anti-biotic to prevent infection (which I have to take four stupid times a day, and I ALWAYS forget how many times I’ve already taken it, so I’m constantly counting pills to see if I took one or not.) But I did cry when it leaked, cause one I was peeved that it was leaking, and I was scared cause it was a lot, but today it hasn’t leaked at all, so…

Lara and Witchy- I hope Cayden gets involved in something…. I never was when I was a kid and I feel like I really missed out.

Janey- It sucks about your nephew. My Mom keeps offering to take Cayden for the night/weekend, and while I love the idea of getting a solids night sleep… I don’t even want him to go across town! I like being able to come downstairs and see him, so I’m much happier when they spend the night here and take him. But I Get that they’re probably tired of staying over here. I hope Cayden sleeps more tonight as well, but I doubt it. Tomorrow will be a challenge, because hubby is going to be gone all day at work, and then he has a work dinner, so I’m not sure when he’ll be home…

14 10 2008
Janelyse829

MUNCHKiN`S HERE!!!!!!!!!
YAY!!!!

14 10 2008
mt

JANE! first off- all of this concern coming from the girl who admittely “had no patience for children?” it’s amazing what a child in your life can do. 🙂 i’m confused: does your brother have custody or no? oh! you live in NY and you babsit him for his stupid mom? why doesn’t your bro come back and get custody? no judge in their right mind would allow a child to stay in that situation. i’d say call CPS (and i NEVER say to do that, but the circumstances are extreme here), but i’d be afraid they wouldn’t give your nephew to your brother….oh. sad stuff. i’m glad he’s got you. but, if they have no jobs, why are you always babysitting? please don’t tell me it’s so they can go out all the time. it just bothers me when babies have babies and then still want to be children.

14 10 2008
Janelyse829

sorry or the Caps…
i was really excited. i was bout to post and my mom walks in with him so i was excited. im goin to keep him till tomorrow. i haven seen him in like a week.

anyway. Clo- it might not be a bad idea to let him go over to your moms place. that way when he’s older and you do take him over and leave him for a littl while he wont be scared/disoriented by the new place. when Munchkin first started staying here he used to cry forever after his mom left because he wasnt used to being here. and that was scary for him. now he cant wait to come over!

14 10 2008
Janelyse829

i meant sorry for

14 10 2008
Witchypoo

Hey, Ladies, what’s up? Janey…have you tried telling your guy how much it bothers you when he totally shuts you out during stressful times? That would get to me, even considering that guys are usually a lot more reticent with their emotions/thoughts than we are. My husband was harder to pry open during the first few years that we were together; I guess he finally figured out that it helps to talk things over with your significant other, (plus, it keeps me happier, and we get along better). I think really young guys, especially, are still in that “strong, silent” mode that our society depicts as the ideal for men. It’s not a realistic style of relating, if long-term happiness and emotional closeness with their partners is a priority. Eventually, the smart ones figure that out. I’m used to most people confiding in me – this has been the pattern I’ve followed my whole life. Adjusting to the typical male style of communication was definitely a learning experience for me, (also, an exercise in frustration, sometimes; patience is not always one of my strong points – though I keep working on it). Do you ever have problems with him about it? Sometimes I wonder if other women find their guys’ tendency to clam up annoying – or alienating, baffling, counterproductive…feel free to add to the list. Anyway, at least you can feel relieved that he’s not out cheating, or whatever you were suspicious about. That’s a good thing, yes? Take care, Janey…and the rest of you Ladies. Nightie-night.

14 10 2008
Witchypoo

Oh, and Cloey…you’re probably right with the Munchausen and Munchausen Bi-Proxy distinction – that does sound familiar, (I told Goldie once that it’s a hit-and-miss situation when I’m reading something I’m not fully engaged in; sometimes I don’t retain all the details). Hmmm…so, you think your mother-in-law might actually make herself sick for attention? Her poor husband. Take care.

14 10 2008
Janelyse829

MT- i think you might be confused. Munchkin’s mom moved to Puerto Rico four months ago. he lives with his maternal grandmother and i get him on the weekends so that i can spend time with him. My brother moved to Florida two years ago and he doesnt have custody. he wants to but he doesnt have his own aprtment yet. i think though that he might be moving in with his girlfriend soo. and then he’ll come down here and fight for custody. if she still lived here there s no way i would have babysat so she could go party. she should be taking care of her kids. she was in disney world with her sister and father when my niece got sick and died. she’s a year older than me and i know better than to leave my two month old child with my mother so i could go act like a kid. dont get me wrong, i would totally lerave my child with my mom-she’s amazing. but i wouldnt be acting like a child wheni have a child of my own to take care of. what bothers me about her is that she seems to have gotten older but she never really grew up. my baby doesnt need that in his life. he needs someone to care for him and let him be a kid. and when my brother gets custody of him thats exactly what he’ll have. I say he’s my baby because he is and he knows it. i missed him SO much while in the week that i didnt see him that i didnt let him sleep in his room last night. he slept with me in my bed. he was about to fall asleep last night and before he did he turned to and said “i love you” then he closed his little eyes and went to sleep. its going to break my heart when he leaves.

14 10 2008
lara21167

So many different discussions… Lets see, we did have a girl dropped on the floor at practice on Saturday. Now my lovely daughter does have a way of blaming others even if it was her misstake, but I do believe her on this one. Kristy, my daughter, and her normal base partner. The flyer is a young girl also about 7. these 3 girls have been working together for 3 years now. They had a different back, an older girl from the Senior team. Well Kristy said the back grabbed Patton, the flyer, and threw her and when she did poor Paton went over the back’s head and on the floor. She wasn’t hurt, just a bit shook up. Just glad I didn’t see it. It just scares me…

Janey – 1 st – Ezi, I agree with Witchey about tring to get him to open up. My first husband was like that. Enough to drive you nuts. i mean you know they need some space. But they at least tell you, hey I’m upset about (whatever) just need a few days. or you know what I mean. Just let him know you are there when he is ready.
2nd – the Munchkin. I may be wrong, but he lives with his mother’s grandparents right now?? Yea your brother needs to do something in a hurry. I am so sorry about your niece, I don’t like to judge people so I won’t but I really understand your concern. Yea I would do anything I could to keep him here. What about where he is staying (maternal grandparents?) Could they do something, or maybe they won’t. They probably have the most legal group to stand on since they are guardians.

14 10 2008
Janelyse829

Lara-My mom and Munckin’s maternal grandma want to file for shared custody. and they are more then willing to give him to my brother when he gets settled. i just want whatever is best for him and i know that being with his mom is not in his best interest. i het that she hasnt seen her son if four months and she misses him and she wants him back. i know she loves hbim. she’s his mom. but nobody ever questioned i she loved him or not, the question here is if she can take care of him and provide for him. it was her choice to leave. in my mind whatever lif hands you-if you have kids they should ALWAYS come first. and she chose her new daughter and her new husband over my nephew.

14 10 2008
Witchypoo

Good morning, Ladies…how’s it going? Janey, does your little nephew seem to understand, or sense, the fact that his mother left him, choosing to be with another child and a new man? Little kids are so much more intuitive than we usually give them credit for. It’s so fortunate for him that you are there to provide a female role, (other than his grandmothers, I mean) – so that he won’t grow up with a feeling of abandonment regarding women. A really close guy friend of mine was left by his mother when he was around 7 years old; she left him, his sister, and their dad, (her husband), for her husband’s best friend. They moved to Germany…so my friend hardly ever saw her. I don’t think he ever got over that early abandonment – and there wasn’t anyone like you in his life to help take on his mother’s role. It made a huge impact on him; the poor guy never had any confidence with women as he got older; it wasn’t good. It’s so hard for me to imagine leaving my children voluntarily, or making any of them feel unloved, or unimportant…it’s just baffling to me how any woman can bring herself to do it. Like I said…your little guy is so lucky that you lavish love and attention on him – I’ll bet it makes a HUGE difference in his future, Janey. Take care.

14 10 2008
Janelyse829

WItchy-Munchkin knows where she is and he knows that they baby is his sister and he says that he loves her. BUT he doesnt call her Mommy he calls her by her first name. He talks to her on the phone sometimes and when we try to tell him that she is coming to get him soon he starts crying and says that he doesnt want to go. he says he wants stay here with his grandma. but he is crazy about my brother. He talks to him daily. i was on myspace and i was on my brothers page and Munchkin jumps up and says”Hey, thats my Daddy!” and i showed him a pic of my brother and his girlfriend and he says “She’s pretty. I want a girlfriend like Daddy’s.” he is too smart for his own good.

14 10 2008
lara21167

Janey you’re going to make me cry. I hope something can be done to stop her from taking him. She ought to get smart and leave the drug dealing loser and come back to her baby,

15 10 2008
Janelyse829

hey guys!
I’ve had such a wonderful day with Munckin!
he’s home now but after i run some arrends i’ll pick him up and he’ll stay with me through the weekend. but now im exhausted.

What the hell is wrong with people at the Joe Hottie site?
We’re having harmless fun killing Joe and they have to bitch about that too.
that Lilygal person REALLY pissed me off!

15 10 2008
Witchypoo

Hey, Janey…I’m thinking the dumbasses just need something to vent about, (you know, it gets stressful bottling up all that seething hostility toward the world; these snippety girls are only doing what comes so naturally to them: bitching about nothing). I think they’re just looking for a reaction. It sounds like your day with the munchkin was pretty great – for both of you, I’m sure. Get some rest, Janey…I’m sure you’re going to need it. Hahaha – take care, and nightie-night. P.S….I wonder how Goldie’s trip is going, with the interview and all that; hmmm.

15 10 2008
Janelyse829

hey witchy! yea I was wondering that too. i hope all is well with her. i hope she gets the job!!! What have you been up to?

15 10 2008
lara21167

Hey Ladies, I guess Rowdy (Goldie) will let us know something as soon as she can :). Janey I just laugh to myself about the “bitchers” on Joe’s blog. It is soooo ridiculas for them to bitch at us talking to each other or castrating/torchuring Joe. Like Witchy said they just need to vent out some of that “anger at the world”. Boy I would hate to be that misserable with my life lol!!

15 10 2008
janelyse829

Lara- you’re right. my life is crazy sometimes but thats just like why bitch?
just shut the hell up and get over it. i’m telling you i wanted to slap her. she really tried to yell at me like she was making sense!!! anyways, how is your day going?

15 10 2008
lara21167

My day is going good. My husband is going on a 3 day road trip with a friend. The friend drives a tracor/trailer and my hubby is going along for the ride YAY!! I know I’m terrible but we really need these couple days apart. I read what lilygal wrote, what an a** All that bitchen would stop if “Joe” would reappear. You’d think someone at Cosmo would at least let us know something. That might settle them down some. I mean it’s just a silly blog not all that serious!!

So how is Munchkin? My great nephew and his mamma are moving into their own apartment this week. They have been living with my mother in law. She’s the one who is pregnant and has cervical cancer. So I hope she does alright on her own. She’ ll be closer to me where she is moving so I can help her some. Then the apartment she got has a million steps and I worry about the little one getting out and falling down the steps. SHe is such a sound sleeper. I think I listen to my mother in law too much, I’m sure they’ll be just fine.

15 10 2008
janey

Munchkin is great! he’s taking a nap. he sure needs the rest and i dont mind the quiet!! yea she do need to stop all that bitchen. i’m sure your niece[?] will be fine. but its nice that your are going to be able to help her. munchkin’s maternal aunt gave birth to twins last night. they are sooo cute! they are not identical and they are a boy and a girl. she is my age so i hope that twins wont be too much for her! i almost had one and i was freaking out!!!

15 10 2008
Clo

Lara- Maybe she’ll be OK, I know I’m the heaviest sleeper ever but I can hear Cayden wimper, so some sounds you just can’t block out.

Good news (well, kinda)- My OBGYN is going to follow me for my gallbladder since it popped up during my pregnancy. So they scheduled an appointment for me to go to the surgeon next week to find out what they want to do. We’re hoping to take care of it by the end of the year (insurance reasons, we found out we have a max out of pocket expense, so we only have to pay 2,000 dollars and then the rest we don’t have to pay. It’s still a lot of money, but if you take into account hubby’s surgery, the baby/my surgeries… It’ll be a lot cheaper.) I’m nervous cause I’m just starting to feel better, so it’s like, I don’t want to turn around and feel worse, but I’ll just be glad when this is all over.

And that chica on Joe’s blog? She obviously doesn’t have anything better to do. Like I get that sometimes it’s nice to go online and be able to go off on someone you don’t know just to release some tension or stress, but it’s funny to me that she’s telling you what you’re telling her: If you don’t like it, don’t read it. Whatever.

15 10 2008
Janelyse829

Hey gus!
Lara-I’m sure your niece[?] will be fine. but its nice that you will be close enought to be able to help her out. My day with Munchkin was great and he’s currently taking a nap. im sure he needs the rest and i sure dont mind the quiet!!
his moms little sister gave birth to twins yesturday and they just gorgeous!!! but i feel bad foe her because a) she’ll be exhausted b) she is my age and her boyfriend has two previous kids. I know i almost had ONE and i was freaking out.

Clo-She was irking me. but its whatever. i let little things get to me and i shouldnt. but yea she was just really retarted.

15 10 2008
lara21167

Janey I don’t know if you read the latest from miss lilygal. But she did say she wasn’t coming back to Joe’s blog anymore.

Cloey, I hope everything goes well with the gall bladder. Do you think they’ll take it out? My gyn thought mine was going bad a few years ago. Gall bladder was fine (my problem was the bleeding ulcer I didn’t know I had) dumb doctors. Or dumb me for not going to the right doctor. I use my gyn for a family doctor alot. I just feel more comfortable with him. HE delivered both my kids. Was there through my cervical cancer scare and through my hysterectomy…

Witchy how is your day? Any big games coming up?

MT are you surviving the cleanup?
Rowdy guess we will here from you as soon as you are able.

15 10 2008
Janelyse829

I mean if she doesnt want to come back thats on her. but im kinda shoicked that she said she was attacked. WHEN DID WE ATTACK HER?

15 10 2008
Witchypoo

Hi there, Ladies. Lara, (and, I think Jane had asked, also), my day is…better -now that I’ve taken care of my stupid 2007 taxes. I took the prepared return to the post office about an hour ago; I had it certified and all that…I don’t like to take chances with the IRS. Almost every year for a long time, we’ve filed for extensions on April 15th, and the final deadline for filing is October 15th. I’ve used the same tax guy for about a decade now…but he’s so far away, (also, he’s older, cranky, and sometimes patronizing toward what he probably considers a “silly little woman”); my husband and I were referred to a practice around our area by my husband’s partner. So, we had a “get-to-know-you” meeting with the owner of this tax/accounting service last June. While I had misgivings, (specifically: price gouging) – I agreed to proceed with this firm. So, I dropped our tax information off at this place in September, and, imaging my surprised dismay to learn when I called up on October 13th that, “Gee…I’m so swamped; I don’t think we’re going to make the deadline…blah-blah-blah,” (this is some jr. partner that the owner pawned our file off on). So, as you can probably imagine, I was not pleased. I wigged out a little over the phone…he called the owner to see what to do…called me back to say he’d somehow get it done, etc. In the meantime, I’d started looking for another tax place to take over, since now I really had some misgivings about this firm. Anyway, I called really early on Tuesday am and this jr. guy tells me that he hasn’t looked at our taxes yet…so he doesn’t know how much it will cost, but it would be in the neighborhood of around $1,000.00 or so…just to prepare our tax return, (it’s not a complicated return). I’m like, “WHAT?!!…and after you were just going to leave us hanging, until I called? I don’t think so…” The owner called me yesterday afternoon, obviously peeved that we were taking our business someplace else; he informed me that to get my information that I’d previously dropped off out of their office, we owed them $450.00. I was indignant – I don’t like being taken advantage of. He tried to say that it was a fee for the original consultation meeting…which he’d never mentioned before. They only charge $100.00/hour anyway…the meeting was under an hour – so where did the rest of the amount come from? He tried to hand me a load of shit, (pardon my language…but I’m still disgusted about this)…I called him on it…told him he was stealing from us, even if he’d found a legal way to do it…called him unethical…you name it. I also told him that I’m going to be spreading the word about the unethical way he conducted himself with us; I might report him to the Better Business Bureau, just to have a complaint on record for that crook. Anyhoo…I found a sweetheart of an older woman who has her own tax service, right in my area. She graciously did our return for me at the LAST minute…and only charged $160.00. She knows this jerk somewhat, professionally…I can tell she doesn’t think too much of him. So, that’s what I’ve been up to for the last couple of days. In the midst of all that crazy fun, my 12 year-old had to be picked up from school yesterday – sick. My 3 year-old is still recovering from asthma complications, (brought on by this same virus), and my husband is still trying to get back on track from this bug, (it originally started with my 9th grade spawn bringing it home from school). When you have asthma, viruses can be more potent, causing more complications. I’ve been struggling with it also, lately. So…aren’t you glad you asked about my recent activities, Ladies? Did you enjoy my rambling rant? Hahaha…I’m not really worked up. I mean…what are you gonna do, right? I have to get ready to take my baby spawn to his marshall arts class, now…take care, Girls.

15 10 2008
Janey

Wow Witchy!! you sound like you are ready to kick ass!!! maybe you should be taking that marshall arts class instead of your baby…lol
Speaking of midly violent babies….
Ezi came over for a sec and we sat down to talk and he kissed me and Munckin jumps up and tells him to get off me! so Ezi being a kid himself kissed me again and Munchkin charged him. they are now battling it out on my couch. Munch says thats “Ewwww, he nasty”

OH!!! I have GREAT news!!! Munchkin is not leaving!!!!!!!!
his mom said that things are not as well as she hoped and
she wont be able to afford to have him with her for a couple more months…
so I GET TO KEEP MY BABAY!!!! I am sooooo happy and so is my brother. he is planning to come down and see him.

15 10 2008
Janelyse08

Wow Witchy!! you sound like you are ready to kick ass!!! maybe you should be taking that marshall arts class instead of your baby…lol
Speaking of midly violent babies….
Ezi came over for a sec and we sat down to talk and he kissed me and Munckin jumps up and tells him to get off me! so Ezi being a kid himself kissed me again and Munchkin charged him. they are now battling it out on my couch. Munch says thats “Ewwww, he nasty”

OH!!! I have GREAT news!!! Munchkin is not leaving!!!!!!!!
his mom said that things are not as well as she hoped and
she wont be able to afford to have him with her for a couple more months…
so I GET TO KEEP MY BABAY!!!! I am sooooo happy and so is my brother. he is planning to come down and see him.

15 10 2008
Janelyse08

OH!!! I have GREAT news!!! Munchkin is not leaving!!!!!!!!
his mom said that things are not as well as she hoped and
she wont be able to afford to have him with her for a couple more months…
so I GET TO KEEP MY BABAY!!!! I am sooooo happy and so is my brother. he is planning to come down and see him.

Wow Witchy!! you sound like you are ready to kick ass!!! maybe you should be taking that marshall arts class instead of your baby…lol
Speaking of midly violent babies….
Ezi came over for a sec and we sat down to talk and he kissed me and Munckin jumps up and tells him to get off me! so Ezi being a kid himself kissed me again and Munchkin charged him. they are now battling it out on my couch. Munch says thats “Ewwww, he nasty”

15 10 2008
Janelyse829

okay guys it might look like i posted the same thing twice just backwards but munchkin was messin wiff my computer. sorry

15 10 2008
Janelyse829

OH!!! I have GREAT news!!! Munchkin is not leaving!!!!
his mom said that things are not as well as she hoped and
she wont be able to afford to have him with her for a couple more months…
so I GET TO KEEP MY BABAY!!!! I am sooooo happy and so is my brother. he is planning to come down and see him.

Wow Witchy!! you sound like you are ready to kick ass!!! maybe you should be taking that marshall arts class instead of your baby…lol
Speaking of midly violent babies….
Ezi came over for a sec and we sat down to talk and he kissed me and Munckin jumps up and tells him to get off me! so Ezi being a kid himself kissed me again and Munchkin charged him. they are now battling it out on my couch. Munch says thats “Ewwww, he nasty”

16 10 2008
mt

lol. JANE: have Ezi give you a hug and say that your HIS jane. see what munhkin does. if it’s anything like my nephew, it is cute. hopefully it doesn’t go opposite and he starts to cry, but usually they “defend their territory.” 🙂 btw, i’m so happy you get your baby. your bro needs to kick it up a notch and get the ball rolling on custody. oh, and thanks for clearing it up for me…it was a little confusing.

LARA- clean up here at the houses are done (except we’re painting, getting furniture, and waiting for the sattelite guy [it’ll be years til that one comes]…) and the boo’s friend just lent us a window unit since old man A (our 92 yr old landlord) hasn’t said one way or another about our central AC unit. it was about 80 degrees today with 96% humidty…the 80 degrees wouldn’t have been too bad w/o the AC, but it is soooo STICKY. anyway…cleanup at the office has been interesting. we had and ice house and a fuel shed go into the water, and a big floating crane picked them up yesterday. i got pics. i’ll post them on flickr soon so y’all can take a look. it is quite an interesting sight if you’re not used to the wharf scene. oh, and i’m glad you get a few days to yourself maybe you should have a girls’ night, and another day where you take your daughter for a mani/pedi???

CLO- how are the in-laws?

16 10 2008
Clo

Why do people do the things they do? I mean, I never understood what people get out of screwing people over or hurting people… I mean, Witchy in your case I guess they would get the money, but still… Maybe it’s cause I feel easily guilty, but I’ve just never been able to screw anyone over.

I’m pissed cause my sister spent the night last night and we went by my moms to drop her off (both my brother and sister are older than me and still live with my mom… Neither work, which is a whole other story. But I digress…) Anyway, we’re sitting there and my mom’s playing with the baby and my brother walks in… My mom asked him to go to the store to get some soda for her. He doesn’t drive, but he loves walking places and listening to his MP3 player. My brother’s had a really rough life… After my Dad died he kinda went crazy and has some serious emotional issues. My Mom, being a single mom of 3, couldn’t afford therapy for him, soooo the state took custody of him and put him into foster care. My Mom let them because she thought it was the best place for him, he’d get the care she couldn’t afford to give him, and even when the placed him in homes far away she’d drive and spend tons of money and time to see him every chance that they’d let her. Anyway, in one group home, he was raped. In his last one, he was shot in the head by his foster brother… The state wanted to place him back into that home after he got shot, with the same foster brother, and my mom said no way, he’s coming home with me. My brother’s never really been the same since. He can’t really hold a job, his hygiene isn’t that great… But he’s the nicest person you’ll ever meet… And that’s his downfall. He trusts people waaaaay too easily, and he’s already been robbed at one point because he was naive enough to take a ride from a stranger… We think more happened to him than just being robbed… But he wouldn’t tell us. Anyway, he walks in, the 12 pack my mom sent him to the store to get was ripped open, his shirt was torn and he had this big red bump on his head.

My mom lives in a nice neighborhood. It’s bordered by a nicer neighborhood on one side, and then on the other it’s pretty much the ghetto. My brother, because of his foster care upbringing, likes to think of himself as being pretty ghetto. He just, relates better I guess to “working class people” (those are his words, he kinda tends to snub white collar people a little bit.) Anyway, he cut through an alley on the way home, and got jumped.

I really just wanted to go out, find the two guys that did this, and beat their asses. They stole my brothers MP3 player, which… Is a big deal. I mean, not cause it was expensive or anything – it wasn’t… But it’s pretty much my brothers life. He doesn’t take care of things very well, he tends to break things and lose them and stuff… But he’s never without his mp3 player, his music is just everything to him. And then they took his cigs, his lighter, and 30 dollars my mom had just given to him… It just kills me to see how upset he was. He was crying and talking about getting a gun because he’s tired of things like this happening to him…. It just broke my heart, and like I said, my first reaction was to run out and find them, and I really just wanted to plow them over with my car. Like what the hell? Maybe they had nothing, but my brother doesn’t have a lot either. And OK, maybe take his stuff, but why’d you have to hit him and throw him to the ground? Such bullshit.

I just hate people sometimes. I really do.

16 10 2008
Janelyse829

Clo- I am so sorry that this happened to your brother. people suck sometimes. Maybe he should think about taking a self defence class instead of buying a gun…? I would have also acted as you wanted to but i am glad that you didnt. You would have been in a whole bunch of trouble for running them over. Its awful what people will do for money/material things that they want and i’m sure dont even need.

MT-we tried that. Munchkin has a very smart/wise mouth for his age. he told Ezi “NO, she’ mine. And her sleeping in my room today, not yours!” I was like WHAT??? my little man thinks he’s my Big man. so cute. Ezi pretended to be mad and left the room and munchkin goes “haha she loves me” in that little na na na na naaaa chant voice that they have.

16 10 2008
Clo

He talks about getting a gun all the time, he has some pretty rough friends and he could get one easily… However, I don’t think he’d disrespect my mom like that. As for a self defense class… It’s a good idea, but then again sometimes it’s best just to give up your stuff and get away unharmed you know? I’d be afraid if he took a class that he’d come across the wrong person some day, someone who’s bigger and stronger or maybe has a gun of their own and then get hurt really badly or killed, you know?

He just needs to be smarter as well. I mean, I’m not saying this is his fault, but as I said before, he’s way too trusting, and also considers himself to be pretty badass…. And he’s not. I mean when he got robbed before it was actually in the same neighborhood, and he accepted a ride from some stranger… And you just can’t do that anymore. And he got jumped this time cause he took a short cut through an alley. Yes, it was broad daylight, but… Like I said this isn’t the best neighborhood, and unfortunately you just can’t do that kinda stuff anymore. I mean, it’s not the best neighborhood, but it’s not the worst either… I worked in that neighborhood for 4 years, and for a good year I didn’t have a car and had to walk to the bus stop and wait for the bus, sometimes in the evening. I was never bothered. But I also stuck to the main streets as well, so I dunno. Plus, they just said on the news this morning that crime in Columbus is on the rise… We’ve had like a shooting every freaking day, which is weird cause it’s really not a dangerous city. But I guess times are getting harder so people are getting more desperate. It just makes me really mad though. I’ll just never understand people.

16 10 2008
lara21167

Witchy as an accounting/bookkeeping professional I am appalled at the treatment you received. It is extremely unethical. So I have to ask if this is a CPA or a Certified Bookkeeper. Both professionals have to adhere to a very strick code of ethics and if he is ceritified in one or the other I would report him to the state certification board. Should be able to find it on the internet. I am glad you found someone to help you and charge a reasonable rate. And I hope your family all feel better soon.

Clo – I am so sorry about your brother. The worst thing is like Janey said, they probably didn;t need money they just did it because they could. Yes they need a good old fashioned ass whoopin’ But not by you Cloey!! I feel for your mother, to let her son be taken away to receive help she couldn’t provide only to find out he was raped and nearly killed instead of helped!! And they were going to send him back there!?!

Janey- So glad the munchkin gets to stay!! MT is right either your brother should work on custody or munchkins grandparents.Start moving on it while there is time.

MT- My daughter and I had a “Fat Wednesday” Janey I used your term and changed the day to Wednesday!! Anyway we ate lasana and chocolate chip cookies and cheese popcorn and watched Aladin on Disney.(haven’t seen it in a long time) After she went to bed I did catch the end of the debate. And I don’t even have a belly ache from eating too much junk!!

16 10 2008
lara21167

AAHHHH!! My boss is on a rampage!! That man needs a friggin’ chill pill. At least his poor wife left for the day. She has to take the brunt of his yelling. It is ridiculas for a business man to go around yelling like he does. I mean problems arise in any business and you deal with it, yelling and blaming your business partner, in this case his wife, isn’t going to go anywhere!! Sorry had to vent somewhere….

16 10 2008
lara21167

I just thought of something, yes I should be working, anyhoo I had asked for suggestions at one point on how to motivate my daughter in school. Well I had decided after hearing from you ladies that bribing was acceptable and I adopted a system of $5 for every A or $50 for making the honor role or $100 for extinished honor role. (I think I should have went $25 for honor role and $50 for extinished) Would have been more in perspective and easier on my budget. Guess it’s too late to change that now. 1st marking period report and she made the honor role. And only 2 B’s on that. And one was like 88 or 89% I got a little scared when she brought home her mid term report a few weeks ago and she only 1 B on that and it was a high B. She’s having just a hair of a problem with fractions, Math was one of the B’s. Not that she doesn’t understand them, more like laziness on figuring common denominators. I don’t blame that can be a real pain. But I guess my plan is working. Now (haven’t given her the money yet) I think I need to make her save part of her money. She is really bad about spending. Time to learn how to save. I need to get back to work. Now both bosses are gone so my motivation has gone too. Take Care ladies

16 10 2008
Clo

Lara- I think you should make her save some of it as well. I know it’ll probably sound lame to her but I wish my mom would have taught me how to save/made me save money…. Because my dad died, we got his share on my grandmas insurance money when she died… and it was a lot. i was in the 5th grade with my own atm card. needless to say, that money was gone and gone fast, as well as the money i got from my dad when he died. and i, of course wasted it on dumb stuff and have nothing to show for it… so even if you make her save short term for something she wants, i think it’s a good idea. and congrats on the smart daughter!

16 10 2008
janelyse829

Hey guys!
Lara- i think that was very smart of you to bribe your daughter. but also you want to do it in a way that lets her that is nice to be rewarded but that that isnt the only reasont to do anything in life. she she should know that she’s doing it because its mandatory and it’ll help her in the future. i wish my mom would have payed me to get good grades. it was either get good grades or get grounded, cell phone taken away, and social life taken away until next report card. and then she made me saty after school 3 times a week for extra help.
but it paid off. i got at least all b’s on all my report cards since ninth grade!!!

16 10 2008
Witchypoo

Good morning, Ladies. Hmmm…where to begin? Cloey, I had started a reply to you last night about your brother, but it was getting late, I still had things I had to get done, (husband’s lunch, getting baby spawn ready for bed, teeth, face-washing, medicine distribution, etc.)…like my itemized list? Plus, my 14 year-old spawn jumped on the computer when I was in the kitchen, accidentally deleting what I’d already written…I decided it was time to pack my weary ass off to bed). I know: tmi, right? Anyway…wow, your brother sounds like he’s had a really hard life, so far. Sometimes I wonder why some people are born into lives filled with one hardship after another – while others seem to lead charmed existences. Most people fall somewhere in between: mixture of positive and negative. Reading about your brother, (do you tend to think of him as your “Little Brother”, even though he’s older than you? You sound maternal toward him), made me almost cry…I can only imagine how you and your mother must feel about everything he’s been through – and continues to go through. Can you or your Mom afford to get him a new MP3 player? I don’t remember how much they cost…my son had one until he got his fancy IPod-touch-thingy. Last week, one of his friends decided to pull a prank on him; after football practice, in the locker room, the guy took my son’s IPod out of his back-pack, intending to give it back before the parents got there to pick them up. My son left earlier than his friend was expecting, so he couldn’t find him in time. When my guy went to fish his IPod out of the backpack later in the evening, he was pretty upset to find it missing. I felt really crappy watching him feel that way – music is a very important part of his life, (like mine, and my husbands). I have a much simpler version of an IPod…it holds like, 1,000 songs or something, plus videos…but I love it. I usually fall asleep listening to my music. I can really understand how music is such an important part of your brother’s life…makes total sense to me. Anyway, my guy called me from the bus the next morning, like at 7:15…he was so relieved to find out what happened, and get the prized IPod back. I’d thought we we’re going to have to fork over the money to replace it; he loves it so much, I couldn’t stand to watch him miss it. Your brother would probably feel so much better if he could have something to replace his treasured MP3 player…just the loving gesture from a close family member would probably go a long way toward soothing his feelings, also. I’m just guessing…obviously, I don’t know your brother – so I could be off, completely. You must hate to visualize him getting brutalized. Coincidentally, my 9th grade spawn, Jerry, (my husband), and I were just discussing what happened a few weeks ago, (how my 14 year-old and his friend were roughed up and stolen from). Btw…I’m getting tired of always referring to my children as “spawn”; it seems silly to be so covert on this site…I feel like I know you, anyway. My oldest son’s name is “Beau” – pronounced Bo, with a hard “o” (I liked the French spelling better than the “Bo” version, plus, I’m mostly French, anyway). Back to the subject at hand…we were talking about it early yesterday evening, and I felt such helpless, frustrated anger about some asshole putting his hands on my baby and hurting him, (even though he wasn’t seriously hurt, THANKFULLY)…I still feel this way weeks later, so I know you must be pretty upset about your brother. Your brother sounds like a real teddybear – it must be heart-wrenching to see him cry over what happened. I think I’d want to bang my head against a wall in the same situation. Does he respond positively to a little extra attention, a little fawning and affection – from you? Maybe you can just treat him with some extra TLC, and let him know how much you care. Some guys feel a little self-conscious when they’re fawned over by females, (as only we know how to do…men don’t usually have the same knack)…but most men/boys – I don’t care how old, “bad-ass”, or independent they try to be – are really responsive to some extra babying from a female who they’re comfortable and close with. Your poor fella. Janey…your little Munchkin sounds adorably possessive; that male possessive streak starts REALLY early, doesn’t it? My 3 year-old baby, Heath, (I told Cloey: I’m tired of only using the term, “spawn” to refer to my children…the other guy is Chance, my 12 year-old), is so gallantly protective of me…besides the possessive thing. When my husband, Jerry, holds me down to tickle me, or throws me over his shoulder and jumps up and down, or pulls a wrestling move on me…Heath jumps to my defense, pummeling his Daddy, (playfully, though – he loves Jerry very much), to “save” me. It’s so funny, and really sweet, (since his efforts usually earn him a few minutes of being tickled, held down, teasing in general from my husband). Heath also strenuously objects to any form of affection between us that seems, ummm, too intimate…you know what I mean. He’s unexpectantly walked in on us a couple of times – and he wasn’t happy, (“PUT YOUR CLOTHES BACK ON, MOMMIE, RIGHT NOW!!!”). You get the picture, I’m sure. It’s funny how you mimic Munchkin’s speech – that’s really what the little guys sound like at their age…so cute. Lara…yeah, like I said: the idiot was ticked off that we weren’t going to jump on board with him, so he was an ass about it. Yeah, he’s a certified tax accountant, (I have his card around here, somewhere, but I don’t feel like looking for it). He is the major owning partner in this firm. Your suggestion to report him to the state certification board sounds like a good, practical way for me to go. While I know he’ll just “cook the books”, (create a false record of hours spent on our tax return), it will make me feel better to do something constructive to let him know that some people will call him on that kind of shady, vindictive crap. We’ll see if I follow through…while I can occasionally demonstrate my ire vividly – I tend to let it go pretty quickly, and don’t usually waste my time, energy and attention on the smaller annoyances. Speaking of smaller annoyances, that Sexybeezytaurean person is hacked off about one of my comments from yesterday. I didn’t stop to analyze every little word I wrote; it didn’t occur to me that someone would take it so personally, or feel insulted. I didn’t intend it that way…I think some of these women need to lighten up, you know? So, your Fat Wednesday with your daughter was fun, hugh? (Btw, my two younger sons and I had on ‘Aladin’ yesterday, also…the Disney channel, I think). I’ll bet it was nice to just goof off and do nothing for a change. I love kicking back, watching movies, or tv, and stuffing my face silly. Though, I can’t seem to fit as much crappy junkfood into my tummy as I used to…I get full faster, and stomach aches easier, than when I was younger. But, I still hold my own in the garbage-mouth olympics pretty well, (every Saturday, my family indulges in this). So, are you enjoying your time apart from the hubby? I don’t think that most men realize how overbearing they can sometimes be…no matter how great they are in other respects. I’ve always gravitated toward alpha-males, but the trade-off with that kind of guy is occasionally feeling suffocated, you know? Hmmm…I’m really starting to get curious about what Goldie’s up to; I wonder how the interviewing went, and her visit with the “Boo”…, (I have to confess here that I’ve alway felt really ill-at-ease…downright assinine, even…to use current slang-terms. Other people sound perfectly natural and fine using them, but I just sound like an idiot. Even in highschool, when so many kids used the current slang, my friends always laughed their asses off at me when I’d use terms like that. I just sound – awkward…you know?) Anyway, I saw that Goldie commented on the Bedroom Blog – yesterday, or the day before. Does anyone know when she was due to go back to Florida? I don’t remember. Well, there’s my volume – I rambled for quite awhile. Take care, Ladies.

16 10 2008
Witchypoo

I forgot…Janey, that’s so——-ooo great about your little guy being able to stay with you; time to jump on that plan to keep him with you, permanently. Take care, Sweetie.

16 10 2008
Clo

Rowdy posted a survey thing on myspace yesterday I think? Or the day before, and I believe she said her interview was either that day or the next. (I know, I’m so helpful with remembering details. Sorry, right now I’m waging a war with Cayden. He’s gotten so used to being held all the time that he wants to be held when he sleeps. And that’s not happening. And now I’ve finally gotten him to lay down, without fussing, only if he has his paci, which as soon as he falls asleep falls out of his mouth and wakes him up, so I was trying to take a nap when he did, only after getting up six times to put his paci back in his mouth I’ve given up.) I know she said that her boyfriend doesn’t have internet at his house, and when she posted the survey she said she was in a coffee shop so… Hopefully she’s just busy having tons on fun.

I love the name Beau, by the way.

I do feel like the older sister to my brother (I call him Kissy, his name is Chris and we used to call him Kissy when we were too young to pronounce Chris.) Sometimes I feel bad for him, and other times I’m just so frustrated and angry. He did and does have a hard knock life, but some of that is on him. I feel like he likes to use his childhood as an excuse, and it’s kinda like, you’re 24, it’s time to get over it. I mean, that may sound harsh, but it’s my opinion that nobody really has an easy life. I mean yeah, some peoples mountains are another’s molehills, but they’re still mountains to those people (If that makes any sense to you guys.) I think he’s depressed and I think he needs help, and people have tried to offer him help… My Uncle works for the Health Department and has tried to hook him up with programs… Personally I think he needs to go on disabilty for mental health… Just so they’ll pay for him to go to a therapist and maybe get on some meds. He’ll start to do it and then quit. Which makes me want to punch him in his face myself.

My Mom offered to buy him another MP3 player, and he said “I don’t want anything anymore” and I don’t think he was trying to throw a pity party, I think he really is just giving up – if he has nothing, nobody can take anything from him, you know? My mom also tried to give him the money the took from him back, and he would only take 20 dollars of it. I’d go out and just buy him another MP3 player and leave it, but we’re REALLY short on money right now. Even though the one that was stolen wasn’t that much, we got it on sale for around 30 bucks, we just don’t even have that, and it kills me. My mom will probably go out and buy him a new one this weekend. But, it’s our whole family has like, a guilt issue, lol. I feel guilty that he got jumped, even though I had no part in it what-so-ever, and wasn’t even there when he got sent to the store. My Mom feels guilty because she’s the one who sent him to foster care where all that bad stuff happened, and she’s also the one who asked him to go to the store for her. And then Chris will feel guilty because my Mom feels guilty and is spending all this money to get his stuff back, when it’s not her fault that it got stolen in the first place… And my sister doesn’t have the guilt complex, lol.

But Witchy, didn’t you just want to take a baseball bat and go find the kids who jumped your son and beat them upside the head? I mean it really broke my heart to see him walk in, the 12 pack he had was ripped open, he managed to find a bag to collect the soda and carry it home, cause I guess it flew every where…. His shirt was ripped down the front, he had this bump on his head that was already red and big, so I can only imagine what it looks like today… And he wouldn’t even talk to us, he just set the stuff down and went into his room, came out five minutes later, he’d obviously been crying and just goes “Mom, do you have a ciggarette and lighter?” and my Mom goes “What happened, did you get into a fight?” and he was like “Sorta, I don’t want to talk about it, I just want a cigarette please.” and my Mom goes “what happened to yours?” and he just looked so sad and went “They took everything, they took my cigarettes, my lighter, my money, my MP3 player…” and then he started to cry again and I swear it took everything I had not to go out and just… I dunno. That’s what stopped me, because I was like, how am I going to find them? Cause there’s no doubt in my mind if I knew that they were still there, I really would have gone out and run them over with my car. I’m not even kidding. I know, it sounds irrational and all that jazz, but it just made me SO angry. I just wanted to be like, this is what happens to people who take shit that doesn’t belong to them, and then cruised over them at 95 mph, you know?

Again, I just hate people sometimes.

16 10 2008
Witchypoo

Oh, Cloey…yes, Sweetheart, I DID and DO just want to hunt down those f—ing a–holes and take a baseball bat to their skanky kneecaps. How’s THAT for “irrational” rage? The thing is…it’s not irrational to instinctually want to protect your loved ones from any types of pain and suffering – especially violence and hurt intentionally handed out by another person. I would take the place of someone close to me being hurt – in a heartbeat…if only it were possible – or that simple. So, I know how hard it is for you to have to witness your sweet brother’s pain…it’s excruciating. And, I can relate very well to your guilt-complex, Cloey. I very frequently, and automatically, question myself and analyze my actions/words regarding any interaction with others: did I hurt his/her feelings, confuse the issue, leave the wrong impression, take out a pissy mood/emotions on someone? The list of possibilities goes on. What’s even more frustrating for me is that I even do this with someone who has a good “ass-whooping” coming…someone who deserves to hear a thing or two, I mean. I’m compelled to be fair and kind…yet, there are times when I KNOW my righteous anger, or indignation, or whatever – is justified. It’s hard for me to draw the line of standing up for myself, and treating others as I want to be treated, you know? I’m not a doormat by any means…yet I also don’t want to hurt anyone, since I’m aware how much simple words can damage someone. I know by close observation that not everyone has this tendency – and I often think how lucky they are for not having that weight to bear; things are certainly simpler without that extra awareness. I believe this tendency arises out of having a wide range of experiences to draw from…the ability to genuinely empathize with others, (you know…walking in another’s shoes, and all that?) When you can relate so easily with others’ experiences and emotions, you’re bound to “think” more…consequently feeling guilty about things that aren’t your fault. Plus, I have picked up from you from the very beginning of our acquaintance that you have a big heart, and are highly intelligent. So, try not to allow yourself to get so immersed in that complex mind/heart of your’s that you wind up suffering needlessly. NICE, genuinely good-hearted people deserve to be happy, too…so guard against the tendency for your high intelligence working against you, Cloey. O——k! There’s my lecture for the day…giggle-giggle. Btw…I think your name is very pretty – Laura. Mine is Kim…some people call me Kimberlee, my parents used to call me Kimmie, (back in the days when we had a relationship…screwed up as it was)…my husband usually calls me Dumbass, (kidding…that’s only when he’s making fun of me). Anyhoo…smile, and have a great day. Take care.

16 10 2008
lara21167

Witchy no that sexybeesy (whatever) person is my new biggest fan. Have you noticed?? I don’t know what was wrong with what you said. On Joe Hottie #1 her and Rowdy had a few spats so I just don’t know what her deal is. But I wouldn’t worry about it.

My mother loved the French language and culture. I took French briefly in school, till we moved from the City (outside of DC) to a more rural area where it wasn’t offered in Middle School. Wish I had taken it in High School though. I would lovvvve to go to Paris some day….

Oh and btw my name is Laura (spelled that way) too. Isn’t that a neat coincidence??

16 10 2008
Janelyse829

Wow! there is a lot going on!!!
my name is actually my screenname: Janelyse. its really hard to pronounce.

Clo-Your brother probably needs time to get over it. and he should go for some proffesional help. you say that he probably will and the just quit? Maybe he just needs someone there to constantly encourage him?

Witchy-You sound very fiesty today!!! I think that maybe YOU should remind ME to never get you pissed at me!! but everyone does feel overly protective of their loved ones. i remeber when i was younger and girls used to call the house for my brother i woul lie and say he wasnt home. or i would tell them flat out: “I dont like you. Stay the hell away from my brother.” He still hasnt gotten used to the fact that i am with Ezi and its been FOUR YEARS!! lol he just thinks that i’m “his” baby… his son seems to think this as well. must be hereditary lol

So Munchkin was with me for a little while today. he tells me he is going to marry my 5 year old niece. her name is Darya. and then he tells me he is going to marry the little girl that lives next door to him. her name is Stephanie. so i tell him he cant have both because its wrong. he has to chose. i also tell him that he better think carefully because Darya is my princess and he wasnt going to mess with her. and he goes “She’s your princess?” i said yes. “are you going to kiss her?” first off, WHAT??? so to tease him i said yes. these are his exact words. “Ewww, you nasty!! she’s like a girl….and you like a girl…kiss me, i’m a boy!”

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