Where the Hell have I been??

12 11 2008

So, other than the fact that I am a COMPLETE moron and forgot how to log into this damn thing, I have been a bit of a bum. On October 3rd, I was laid off from my career. The first 3 days after were a bit tough, but I am enjoying the break. I used to think that the company I work for was EVERYTHING… however over the summer, I realized that that just wasnt a true statement anymore. Hell, I am a 28 year old woman who wants to live!!! So Recently a nice career opportunity has come my way. I have to take an exam that was pass / fail to even get an official interview. Well I am pleased to say that out of 10 people who took this exam, I was the only one to pass. HELL YEAH!!!ย  So I get to meet with the regional manager sometime the week of the 17th. YAY ME!!

So… Monkey..,. here I am again… I will try to write more frequently, but no promises! I hope that everyone is doing well!

Peace!

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12 11 2008
lara21167

I assume this is belle? Nice to hear from you. Nice job on the job haha, That should give you a boost of confidence to ace your interview. Good luck

13 11 2008
Janelyse829

hey guys!!!!
hi Belle, its nice to hear from you again.

im having some family issues. my 16 year old cousin has self image issues and i dont know how to help her. i mean i dont even know why. she’s really pretty and she just doesnt see it. i try to help her and she’s like “why do you care? everyone thinks youre pretty” and like, i’ve never had those type of problems because i’ve always been comfortable the way i am. sure i could lose about 15 pounds but i dont really mind cause im comfortable and i think i look okay. but my cousin just HATES the way she looks. and her brother dont make it easier for her always comparing her to her sister who is also pretty and skinnier than her. but my cousin isnt fat. she isnt even chunky. we went shopping for a dress for her homecoming dance and we just stared crying in the store because she felt ugly and fat. and i dont know what else to do. i buy her clothes, i do her hair, i do her make up and make her take hundreds pf pic so she could see what i see. but she just notices how ‘pretty’ i look and walks away from me. i just i dont want to give up on her cause she’s really depressed and last night she was saying how everyone thinks she’s ugly and no boy wants her and how she wishes she would just die.

i think she’s feelin a little suicidal. but i thinks its crazy. she got a good lookin body, she’s beautiful and she just doesnt see it. i want her to be able to look in the mirror and see herself as i see her. it doesnt help that she’s constantly comparing her self to other females in our family. and i lose patience with her cause its like…not again. i dont understand her cause i’ve never had to go through that. and she’s like “OMG i wish was pretty like Nikki, and Leslie [her older sisters] and you” and im like “you ARE pretty!!!”

so yea. i wanna make her feel better. dont know how but i have to do it. cause her older sister is a stuck up pain in the ass who cant see past her own nose. its the same cousin who was having problems with that girl that wanted to fight me.

anyways, i know i’ve been complaining a lot lately and i wanted to thank you guys for listening to me =]

CLO hope that your brother does well and continues to get help. you should feel glad that he’s got you to turn to when he needs someone to talk to. its always good to have a person like that in the family.

13 11 2008
gabberjazz

Jane:
when you are with your cousin when she starts listing the things she hates about herself get her to turn it around and say to her now that I have listened to you about what you don’t like you have to give me x amount of things you do like and don’t let her get away with not telling you these things keep this up until sh e actually see these good things… I took courses in this when I went to University. it takes about 60 times of doing this to change the habit. If you get what I am saying… Hope it works and its great she has a cousin like you that cares!

13 11 2008
Witchypoo

Hey, Gabber…Lara and I answered your question on the last post, ‘I Reckon It’s Again My Turn…’ , since that’s where you asked it.

Also…Hi, Belle…how’s it going? Enjoying your kickin’ back time off work? Good luck to you on the job interview…sounds exciting. Maybe Santa will bring you an early Christmas presant in the form of a great new job.

Take care.

P.S…Goldie…what’s up, girl? Did you have an insane amount of fun on your weekend getaway/maid-of-honor duties?

13 11 2008
lara21167

Janey Gabber gave you some great advise that you should really try. If you really think your cuz could be suidcidal maybe you should talk to her mother (of course cuz will probably get mad at you) but her mother could take her to the doctor and discuss with the doctor she may need antidepressents or even counciling or both. I don’t like antidepressents and I think they are way over prescribed, but sometimes they are necessary. Try what Gabber says, you could also get her to do the gratitudes thing, where you write down at least 5 things you are grateful for every day. I think everybody suffering depression should do that it really helps. You can also do it with Acknowledgments. You write 5 things you can acknowledge yourself for. And that can be something simple like you want to start exercising regularly. So you can acknowledge that you decided what kind or exercise to do. It’s not meant for just major accomplishments, just little things so you can realize your not a complete failure lol.

13 11 2008
lara21167

Ahhh!! there’s a mouse in my office!! I went to print something and my printer started “screaking” and I thought “what is wrong with that printer it sounds like a mouse” next thing I know a mouse ran out of the printer!! I don’t know where it went. Probably over to my boss’s office, my office adjoins hers. I’ll hear her scream shortly!!

13 11 2008
Witchypoo

Good morning, Ladies…how’s it going? Hey, Janey…yeah, all the suggestions from Gabber and Lara regarding ways your cousin can “remember” her true worth do work…if they’re done with a sincere desire for change to a happier, more satisfied outlook. Is it any wonder why females of ALL ages tend to harbor insecurities about their looks in our society? I mean, a lot of emphasis is placed on a woman’s worth being tied to her physical appearance…from weight issues, to the size of our boobs, to what our faces and hair look like. Though, more and more, a standard of physical “perfection” is being foisted on men, also; they’re getting more and more self-conscious about how their bodies look, “manscaping”…all that. I say it’s about time that they got a little taste of what females in our society, (acutally, not just our society, but all over the world), go through to achieve a standard of accepted beauty. Your cousin is going to have to accept herself sooner or later, if she ever hopes to achieve any contentment and peace, though. I know exactly what you mean about her being pretty, but not seeing that in the mirror. I’ve had friends like that…who dieted until they were weak, screwed around endlessly with their hair, makeup, etc…but still didn’t think they measured up. If all we do is look only to outside sources for approval, rather than develop at least some self-esteem to keep us secure…females in general will always be at a serious disadvantage in relationships, the workplace…in any situation, really. Is there a specific aspect of her appearance that she particularly doesn’t like, or just an overall dissatisfaction? That’s a tricky problem to deal with; it’s good that she has you to care and help her out. If you really believe that she’s suicidal, then whoever is responsible for your cousin needs to be told, so that she can be helped. Threats of suicide can go on for years, but it only takes once to follow through.

Take care.

13 11 2008
Witchypoo

Oh, and Belle…join the COMPLETE MORON club, then…since it took me quite a while to even find this site in the first place. Then our computer crashed, and I had look for it again. “Gadgets” frustrate me, for the most part; I need to develop more patience with that sort of thing, (since throwing things and banging them against the nearest wall hasn’t seemed to help much, if past experiences are good examples).

Take care.

13 11 2008
Witchypoo

supposed to read, “and I had TO look for it again.”

13 11 2008
Clo

Gabber- It’s really up to you to decide how much of a compromise you’re willing to make, or if your needs can be ignored… I mean, there are things my friends put up with from their boyfriends/husbands, that I NEVER would, and vice versa, and there are things I can do without that my friends can’t… For example, I think we’ve talked before how my husband just doesn’t know how to be sympathetic… I mean, he’s not a dick, but he’s just not into babying me. Some people would consider that a deal breaker, where as for me, I just suck it up and get over it, because… I dunno, it’s not THAT important to me. I mean, I wouldn’t mind him being more sympathetic, but there are other things he’s good at that make up for it. Is what I’m saying making any sense?

I get frustrated sometimes cause I know what I want to say and I feel like it’s not coming out right.

Basically, it’s like I told Janey the other day, only YOU can decide what you’re willing to put up with, because YOU are the ONLY one who has to live with it.

13 11 2008
lara21167

Hi Clo how’s your brother doing. What Gabber and I were telling Janey may help your brother too. Btw the mouse ran at my feet earlier and vanished again. Mice get in this office and I swear they go nuts. We had one in here last year about this time was totally crazy!!

13 11 2008
Witchypoo

Lara…mice: Yuck! Gross! Blech! I don’t care for rodents…but RATS? THEY are the worst…much worse than a lil’ old mousey; I’d take a snake over a RAT anyday, (if forced to choose one or the other). Are you paranoid to put your feet down on the floor now? I would be; I think I mentioned before that I have a “touchy” stomach, and nasty little furballs teaming with who-knows-what kind of germs don’t sit well with me. Nope…not well at all. Good luck, (don’t get bitten or anything).

Take care. (p.s…I wonder if Gabber read our comments from the last post; I’m curious what specifically she’s wondering whether to give up or not in order to have a happy relationship). Not sure why this is so riveting…

13 11 2008
lara21167

Witchey I’m wondering about Gabber too. Guess she’ll let us know when she is ready (hint hint Gabber)lol. So long as the mouse stays away from me I’m ok. Plus I have boots on today. If I had sandles or open toe’s or something like that, I’d probable have my feet on my chair ๐Ÿ™‚ the one last year one time (my computer is behind my desk so I have to turn from one to the other) well I was working on my computer, turned around to my desk and there he was sitting on my desk watching me. And he would run from my office to my boss’s just back and forth all day. He was crazy…

Oh and MT and Rowdy haven’t heard from either of you in a while….

13 11 2008
Gabberjazz

Witchy:
Sorry I didn’t respond right in the middle of writing to janey I got a call out there was a major riot at work..Lots of guards got hurt! I just got home from it….

As for what I will be giving up hmmm it would be time and attention from him because he feels like he can’t give me the attention I need and deserve.
I am an independant person I don’t need him by me time in and time out it just the fact that I can’t be ignored doesn’t mean he has to be at my beck and call. I want him to meet me half way I am willing to give a bit if he can give a bit too. I don’t know Like my partner said I am hopeless LMAO:)

Lara:
A mouse awww he/she just wants to be friends:) Sorry I am in a weird mood today.

13 11 2008
Clo

I haven’t talked to my brother today. I guess he finally saw a doctor last night and they switched him out of the crisis facility that they were holding him in, so I’m not sure where he is, or how to get in touch with him. I talked to my mom and she had talked to him, but I forgot to ask for a number, and she seemed really busy so I don’t want to call back.

According to my Mom, Chris said he may get discharged tonight. I dunno if this is the truth or not, cause the doctor who read the report said something about a program that was 3-5 days long that they wanted him in, and my brother kinda tends to make things up sometimes, or do the whole “because I want it to be true, if I say it’s going to happen, it will”. I don’t really want him out, I’m not sure he’s ready, and I feel like he’s rushing things cause they won’t let him smoke in there and he wants to smoke. They offered him the patch and the gum, but he said he’s allergic to the patch (it stings/itches) and the gum is like chewing tobacco. But, then again, he could have met with the doctor and the doctor decided he’s OK to be released, I dunno. I guess they want to put him on paxil, which I am strongly against. It was the ONE medicine I didn’t want him going on, I personally had a bad experience, and I know SEVERAL other people who did as well (And the bad experiences were several people, including myself, either killed themselves or attempted suicide while on paxil) My Mom tells me that everyone reacts differently, which is true, but I think with all the other meds out there, it’s just a risk that doesn’t need to be taken. But, of course, she’s not listening to me, so whatever.

13 11 2008
lara21167

Like I said I don’t much care for anti depressants and that’s one reason. They are supposed to help you to feel better not kill yourself!! Hopefully they’ll keep him a few more days for evaluation.

Gabber that mouse doesn’t want to be friends its scared half to death of me!! I hope everyone involved in the riot is ok. Now that’s scary. I guess with what your guy wants to give in the attention area, and what you need in the attention area is a wait and see thing. He may give you more after he gets through his male fear of commitment faze (they all go through it) That’s just something that time will tell. Just make it clear to him you don’t want to be ignored if he doesn’t feel like talking tell him to just tell you that, then don’t take it personally or overanalyse and give him his space. I do wish you the best…

13 11 2008
Clo

nope, he’s home and on paxil, so. this’ll be fun.

13 11 2008
Gabberjazz

Lara:
ya I know I am just going to wait and see….. and what ever happens happens.

As for the riot it was a hard night, I had to kill my first inmate to save my partners life. and even though I know its right it still feels bad… I have 6 stiches in my left arm. 6 inmates are gone and we are shipping 6 more to a different prison. 4 guards in my unit got hurt. It all started over one guard that wouldn’t let 4 inmates do something. The PPA went off and we all responded.

13 11 2008
lara21167

OMG Gabber. That must be a horrible feeling even though you did what you had to. I could not do your job and I’m sure right now is when you need some TLC from your guy. If he won’t come through just take care of yourself and your kids. God Bless.

Clo – God Bless to you too. Now this is a pet peeve of mine. Doctors who don’t want to take the time to really help someone, no matter what it is they need help with. Just give them some drugs and send them home…

13 11 2008
Clo

Gabber, your situation is so much worse than mine, but I am so very annoyed right now. So, let me start by saying I’m sorry you had to go through that, and I’m glad you and everyone else (gaurd wise) is OK. As for the inmate… You did do the right thing. I know it must be hard, I don’t think I could kill anyone even if my life depended on it (I’m such a puss) but you never know until your in that situation, and I know I would most certainly want to kill someone if they tried to kill me/someone I love, I just don’t know if I’d have the balls to go through with it. Well, I would have the balls if it were someone I loved, but maybe not if it were myself. Isn’t that weird?

Anyway, so now I have to vent, and I’m sorry I have to vent about such a stupid thing, especially when you’re going through something so serious, but I really really don’t like my in laws. And right now I don’t like my husband. I was already agitated cuz they let my brother go home, which I didn’t want, and even worse he’s on paxil, and I hate that too, so I was annoyed. Then, my in laws were supposed to come over tonight at 6. I’ve been trying to clean myself (haven’t showered since Monday, gross I know, but with everything that’s happened, I honestly haven’t had time, especially with Cayden.) Cayden’s been unusually awake today, and he didn’t sleep that great last night (he was only up 3 times, but once was for 2 hours, the second time was just for an hour, but then he was back up again an hour later, and for a good part of the morning.) Anyway, so he finally goes down, so I jump in the shower, and of course, as soon as I’m in and all lathered up, he starts wailing. So I just let him cry while I finished (it only takes me like 5 minutes to shower anyway.) Get out, get him. Annnnd he’s been pretty much up since. Leaving me NO time to get dressed (sitting in my pjs) do my hair, make up, or clean the house. So then 3:30 the hubby calls. Are you ready for my parents to come over?

WTF? It’s 3:30, that’s almost 3 hours early. No. I’m not ready. Oh, OK, well I’ll tell them to stick with 6 then. Somehow dishes get brought up, he tries to tell me not to worry about them, only I know if I don’t do some of them, then they’re just going to pile up and I’ll have dish mountain to tackle. He says he’ll do them while he’s cooking dinner, only I know he won’t, or he’ll do like, 2, so… I’ll just do them. OK, bye. Cayden finally goes to sleep and I start working on cleaning. Hubby calls again, asking me if it was OK if we switched it to 5:30.

I have dishes to do, laundry (oh, and a nice little side story about the laundry, my husband opened the washer, put his dirty clothes in, with the clean wet clothes that were in there. Didn’t bother to switch the clothes just dumped his in.) , pick up the living room, boil water for bottles, wash bottles… And I gotta get myself dressed and ready as well, all the while hoping Cayden sleeps longer than 10 minutes this time. Not to mention my husband doesn’t get home till 5:15-5:20, sooooo when are we going to eat?

I just don’t get it. Either they’re really late or they’re insanely early. They’ve done this before, mothers day, they should up like 2 hours before hand. I was sick, sitting on the couch in my undies, and they just show up.

And hubby doesn’t see ANYTHING wrong with it. I’m just like, I thought it was an unspoken agreement, when my mom crosses the line, I deal with her. When his parents cross the line, he should deal with them, and I feel like they’ve repeatedly crossed the line. His mom says and does things and he’s just like “Oh, I just don’t listen to her/ignore her” and I’m like, just cause you ignore it, doesn’t mean she’s not doing it. And I just feel like they’re obviously showing complete disregard for us and our schedule. I mean you tell people a certain time to come over so you can be ready. And you don’t want them to be late cause you have stuff to do. And I see MAYBE a 20 minute frame in either direction (and that’s stretching it) but it’s like HOURS in either direction. I just want to go off.

I dunno if I’m even going to stay here when they come, I may just leave.

Again, I’m sorry, it’s so petty but they just make me want to punch them in the face.

13 11 2008
Gabberjazz

Clo:
ok breathe……my ex mother in law was a f$^#^& Bitch from hell… She put her 2 cents in where I didn’t want them and my ex husband never said a word until the day I blew up and told her to get the F^&* out of my house…. Maybe you need to tell them to be at your place no sooner than the time but make the time 30-40 mins later than you want them there and if they show up early put them to work. Hey mom since you came early wanna wash the dishes I was going to get to before you were supposed to show up. I bet if you make them work they won’t show up early…..

13 11 2008
Gabberjazz

oh btw never leave things with the in laws up to the man they never get done!

13 11 2008
Janelyse829

Gabber-OMG!!!! if that was me, i totally would have froze and got shot lol. thats really cool though, that you saved your partners life. i’ve said before i wouldnt be able to have a job like yours. i bet you were sacred. hope youre okay and your arm heals fast.

one of you guys, i THINK it was witchy that asked what my cousin hated most. its between her face and the shape of her body. sometimes she’ll bitch about her hair. and i think she really is depressed but not totally serious about suicide. i mean she talks about how she’d rather be dead a lot of times but i dont think she really means it. if she does, she hides it well. it just seems ridiculous to me though cause everwhere we go a guy hits on her and sometimes i have to remind the really old creeps that she’s only 16. and when they walk away she’s like “hes lying” soooo i dunno. i dont want to tell her mom or mine because unlike she her sister did to me i dont want her to think that i betrayed her trust. she’s stressed out as it is i dont want people constantly pesturing her, if that makes sense?

anyway, im reading this really good book called CRANK about a 16 year old that gets hooked on crystal meth and develops an alter ego that takes over when she’s high. and when she not high the alter ego wants to take over and it becomes a power struggle bettwen the person who she really is and her alter ego. its a great book but a bit depressing.

13 11 2008
Clo

I told my husband since he’s the one that schedules their visits he needs to tell them that we have things to do, so we won’t be home before a certain time, or that they need to leave by a certain time. He won’t do it. I don’t talk to them. My mother in law aggrivates the hell out of me, she doesn’t listen, doesn’t do anything, and I quit taking her phone calls since the time she lectured me for an hour and a half about how when she was a stay at home mom she had food on the table when her husband got home (which was a lie, my husband said they ate out 90% of the time) and how she had his shirts ironed and stuff, so that’s what I needed to do (Um, I’m up all night with a baby, thanks, fuck off.)

And put them to work? Ha. They both are SEVERELY overweight (prolly close to 450 lbs) and have super bad knees. They’re so big they can’t sit on our couch cause they sink in and can’t get back up. So, needless to say, they don’t do anything. I mean, that’s what annoys me the most about her. She doesn’t work, she doesn’t do anything, and yet she’s the reason they’re never here on time. My Mom has MORE than a full time job, lives farther away than they do, and was not only here every day after he was born, but doing my dishes, my laundry, cooking/bringing food, diapers, wipes, formula…

My in laws? Have bought us one outfit. That’s it. And they have way more money than my mom. I mean, that’s not what it’s about, it’s just they are not helpful when they’re here, they’re always late or super early, and they just suck and I hate them.

13 11 2008
Janelyse829

clo-that doesnt sound petty, it sound like its a real issue and it needs to be addressed. their not showing up on the time agreed is showin not only rudeness but disrespect for you house and your rules. i think that if your hubby doesnt fix it you should def sit down with your in laws and [kindly,gently] let them know that this is bothering you and they need to not step over their bounderies.

13 11 2008
Clo

I’m just going to punch them in the face. And now, after all this fuss over coming early, they’re not fucking here. I’m so sticking a pacifier in my sons mouth while they’re here. And I hope she says something about it, cuz then I will punch her in the damn face.

13 11 2008
Janelyse829

violence is not the answer [and i should be one to talk] although in your case i would havre done it to lol why dont you randomly ‘happen’ to metion the situation when/if they get there that way your husband HAS to talk about it and you can set them straight? i know youre mad but if you do mention it to them try not hit them. im pretty sure your hubby might not appreaciate it

13 11 2008
Gabberjazz

well I got the report of my shooting emailed to me plus my partner called because once you shoot an inmate and things have died down you go into questioning and no other guard is allowed to talk to you until the process is done. I remember watching the inmate behind my partner with a pipe ready to give the blow to the head which would have killed him and I aimed and fired at him. I was the first guard to shoot my weapon that night. Once that shot went off everything froze fro a min and then they started again. the 5 other inmates were killed by inmates.

my report said that my fatel shot to the inmate was justified and ordered by the warden. It also said that there was only one shot to the head of the inmate.( This inmate was in prison for raping a child under the age of 2)
It said that my shot was taken to protect another CX2.

My partner said it was a great shot I nailed the sucker right between the eyes.

13 11 2008
Janelyse829

Gabber-nice shot! right between the eyes? i have horrible aim lol how come no other guard is allowed to talk to you?

13 11 2008
Gabberjazz

They aren’t allowed to talk to you so everything is still fresh in your mind and your thoughts are there why you took the shot.

My partner can’t believe how well the shot was because if I was off it could have hit him in the arm or chest. Iknew if I took the shot I had to be perfect. He also said most guards wouldn’t have taken that shot they would have yelled at him to get out of the way which he still could have been seriously hurt. I am the first woman to actually kill an inmate its the men who usually take the shot. i know it sounds sexist but I guess most women guards won’t do it. Ha maybe I can be on the mens ERT LMAO…….

So I am off work now till Monday, the inmates are on lock down till further notice…

13 11 2008
Janelyse829

Gabber-thats awesome!

so i got bored with myspace and the book was too depressing so i’ll read the rest of it later. this is the third book i read this week. can you tell i have nothing better to do? haha. so my boredom has taken me to new hieghts. i am watching REALLY BADDDDD american idol auditions on youtube. they are HILARIOUS!!!! i mean, you’ve GOT to have balls to know that you cant sing and audition for american idol. but its entertaining for me lol my best friend and Ezi actually wanted me to audition BUT i am a coward and dont really feel comfortable singing in front of a large group of people. i did a lot of solos at school concerts but i kinda choked on a couple os occasion cause i have stage fright

13 11 2008
Gabberjazz

How are things going with EZI

14 11 2008
Janelyse829

um, they’re going okay. we’re going away this weekened so hopefully that’ll be good. he’s supposed to come over at eight. wants me to help him study. and of course to cook him dinner, which i dont mind as i love to cook. im making lasanga[sp?] sooo yea.

i meant to ask you, do your daughters ever get scared when you come home all banged up and bruised? if you were my mom, i would be a nervous wreck until you got home safe and sound.

14 11 2008
gabberjazz

My girls are 4 and 6 and all I tell them about my job is I keep bad men away from good little girls like them. I don’t go into any details about my job with them…. they asked how I got hurt and I just said oh just scraped my arm at work its ok the dr. fixed it and thats all they needed to hear. I am more scared for my girls with what my job brings. I can’t let them have their pictures and names published in the paper or anywhere. its hard!

14 11 2008
Janelyse829

awwww. im sure they’ll understand when thy are a little older. my oldest brother and my brother un low are both in the army and i now my nieceshave a hard time understanding why daddy hasnt been home in so long. Abby, my sisters daughter she’s 9 so she gets it a little more. she knows daddy’s job is to protect so that she can have a safer place to live but my other niece just turned 5 and its really hard on her. my brothers wife stayed with us at out house while he was deployed for two years and my nice was about to turn 3 and one day she came to me sat on my lap and just started crying her little eyes out saying she wanted daddy. i couldnt do it.

Ezi was thinkin about the army while he was deciding what college to apply to and i told him “if you decide to go to the army forget about me cause im not putting our kids [if we had any] and myself through that” so he went to college. i wouldnt be able to sleep at night wondering if he was still alive

14 11 2008
Janelyse829

madddd typo’s. first line supposed to say ‘they’ not thy and second line supposed to say brother in law

14 11 2008
Clo

They’re gone, I made her put the paci in his mouth so I wiiiiiiin that one. But Janey I don’t really hit anyone in the face, it’s just kinda my saying…

Gabber that is crazy though. Again, I’m a pussy, I could NEVER do what you do.

14 11 2008
Witchypoo

Hmmm…so many interesting topics going on at once. Cloey…yeah, your mother-in-law must be a real treasure; she sounds AWFUL. I think the only way to deal with people that oblivious is to just be as blunt as necessary to get your point taken seriously. I don’t know how you got through that scolding on the phone about how to be a proper housewife/mother without hissing obscenities at her. Just ridiculous. I think I would just leave the house with the baby when I knew they were going to show up; rude? So what. I think a little avoidance is called for, sometimes. I’m pretty good at it when I don’t want to deal with someone. My mother-in-law is a little Japanese dynamo…pretty bossy, but somehow, not usually offensive to me. She’s actually pretty lovable; I’m pretty laid back about being bossed around, as long as the person knows what he/she’s talking about…and isn’t a TOTAL asshole about it. I can overlook a lot of tendencies from various personalities that annoy me, for the most part…WITHIN REASON. Your situation sounds a bit more desperate, though. I think I shock people when I decide to take a stand on whatever…everyone thinks I’m always supposed to be genial and pliable. That’s ok up to a point…like I mentioned before, I’m fine – until I’m not; then it’s not pretty. You sound like you’ve really tried to bite your tongue with these people; would your husband be upset if you just blatantly put her in her place, (as many times as it takes)? If he won’t deal with it…then maybe taking matters into your own hands will prod him into action. It doesn’t sound like being gentle or tactful gets too many positive reactions out of them…I’d just resort to straight talk. How else are you going to get any peace?

Wow, Gabber…I don’t even know what to say about what you’ve been through. You did what you had to do. I hope I’m not ever put in that kind of position…kill or be killed. There would be no question about me using extreme measures to protect someone I love – I would be ruthless in that set of circumstances. What other choice would there be? Are you required to receive counseling after a fatal shooting? It would probably be a good idea; I hope I’m not offending you by saying that. I just think that there could be some negative aftermath, maybe not right away…but eventually. Maybe not – but it wouldn’t hurt to try to be proactive about heading off any emotional complications that could result for you.

Janey…have lots of fun on your getaway with Ezi, and tell us all about it when you get back.

Nightie-night, Ladies, and take care.

14 11 2008
Janelyse829

i just noticed im a complete moron who a) cant seem to type today and b) i misunderstood myself. [it happens lol] we’re not going away this weekend. this weekend i have dedicated to me and Munchkin. we’re going away next weekend and i just bought the PERFECT dress. black, off-the-shoulders mini-dress, anyone? no i just gotta decide what shoes i want to wear….

14 11 2008
gabberjazz

Witchy:
yes I have to spend 6 weeks in councelling which I am happy to take. I tried to nap and all I see is the gun going off and me missing and killing my partner so yes I will try to book in ASAP.

14 11 2008
lara21167

Gabber don’t even feel bad at all for killing a son of a Bitch that would rape a baby!! I don’t even want to think about that. You sent that monster to hell where he belongs!!

Cloey- I guess you’ll just have to do what the other ladies are saying and take the bull by the horns where your in laws are concerned. I just can’t believe some people are that inconsiderate. And it sounds like your Father in law and your husband have always catered to this woman probably just to keep peace so I don’t think that is going to change.

Janey have fun with munchkin this weekend and fun with Ezi next weekend.

Ok I came in this morning and checked my printer for the Mouse, I’ll call him Mickey lol. So i didn’t see him. Went to print something and out he ran, I almost spilled coffee all over myself!! At least poor Mickey got smart, as soon as the printer started he ran out before he almost got smooshed like yesterday.

Now my turn to bitch and I know this is petty. Our Aministrative Assistant is quitting (we can’t keep anyone at that job) So there is a new lady she was trained briefly yesterday. I don’t think she’s going to stay. Said she went home crying and her stomach was upset all night because “it was so overwelming”. It’s really not that bad of a job. It is a small office Just me, my Boss, the estimator, and the Administrative Assistant and sometimes another office assitant (that usually helps me) Now she’s bugging me every 5 minutes to help her. And don’t get me wrong I don’t mind showing her how to do things. But there are some who pick right up on things and some that don’t and she’s one that doesn’t. Then she’s saying that she might not stay, so guess who will be doing 2 jobs again. I’ve done this a hundred times but it’s getting old. And I don’t know what she’s stressin’ about, she hasn’t even heard the big man yell yet lol. BTW I work for Barbie and Ken. Seriously that’s their names only “Barbie” goes by Barb :).

14 11 2008
Clo

Gabber- I hope you’re OK. It wasn’t your fault, and you shouldn’t feel bad, but of course you’re human so you do. Hopefully the counseling will help.

Lara- You sound kinda like my husband. If someone’s out at his work, he has to go fill in for them. Which, he usually doesn’t mind doing, but then they yell at him when his job doesn’t get done. It’s crazy. Have you told your boss you can’t do two jobs at once? You should ask the lady since you’re doing some of her work if she’s going to pay you some of her paycheck.

As for the mother in law situation… My father in law (George) totally does cater to her. She doesn’t work, doesn’t do much at home, she does laundry and that’s pretty much it… And it’s ALWAYS about her. And he can’t really go anywhere without her. Or, if he does, he has to jump through a million hoops in order to do so. Like, sometimes when the gory action movie stuff comes out, and I don’t wanna go with my husband, he’ll ask my FIL to go with him. And he gets a chore list, like he’s cinder-freakin-ella, and if he doesn’t get it done, he doesn’t get to go. She just want so control him and HATES being left out. I mean, I get it, I like being around my husband too, but there are just some things that he likes to do, that I don’t, and vice versa, so I don’t mind having an afternoon to myself, even if I’m just sitting at home.

My hubby says she’s been like that his whole life, and he chooses to ignore it or just avoid her. I mean I guess that’s a coping technique, but it doesn’t fix the issue at hand.

And she complains about the dumbest stuff. She got all bent out of shape because her sister in law just retired, and in her free time took a class on like geneology and doing family trees and stuff. So Judy (My mother in laws sister in law) sent Mary Anne (my MIL) a bunch of family info. I dunno why she did it, but my guess is, she just retired, has lots of free time, and was probably bored and trying to do something nice for my MIL. And my MIL was just like “I dunno why she sent the darn things, I know about everything she sent me and blah blah blah” just getting really upset. I think personally she’s just jealous of her SIL (Judy has money, is super sweet, has a beautiful house… And Mary Anne’s brother!) and is trying to be controlling a possessive over her brother. She tries to be controlling and possessive of Jeremy, like she got super upset when I mentioned that Jeremy (my husband) was my Mom’s favorite child (it’s an inside joke in our family) and she just got all worked up like “he’s MY son.” and you could tell she was TRYING to play it off as a joke, but that she was really upset by it. I’m like, your son is 31 years old, it’s not like anyone is going to kidnap him or anything like that.

*sigh* I tend to wait for things to blow up before I speak my mind, which I guess isn’t the way to handle things, but oh well. I know we’ll end up getting into it eventually, cause one day she’s just going to push the wrong buttons. I think it really annoys her that she can’t be possessive over Cayden cause he’s MY son, so that trumps her Grandson card, if that makes any sense. You could tell she was just SO annoyed when I had the paci in his mouth last night. And, of course, I got great satisfaction out of that.

I’m going through our music folders and I keep finding songs that I forgot I loved!

14 11 2008
Gabberjazz

LOL so much for me being off till Monday, I got the call lastnight just after 8:30 there was another riot in a different unit and they needed more guards so I went.
there was a stabbing in the gym during a fight withthe inmates so now the police are involved in this investigation. Ihave a feeling there is going to be a huge riot soon with the prisoners. there have been these little riots happening. I think they are doing this to see exactly how the ERt and the guards are responding to get ready to fight in the big riot. Its just a feeling but I think I am on to the prisoners. I told the ERT my thoughts on this. Non of them actually thought and put it all together like that but they are seeing the thought behind it all.

LOL maybe they need the logical thinking of a woman on their team:)

Clo:
Ya your MIL sounds like a bitch(sorry)… I think she needs to be put into place.

Lara:
the mouse poor thing but wait till the new girl sees it lol that will ake you laugh.

Witchy:
Ya I am happy it was that inmate that I killed because of what he did to the child.. and he has always been a pain in my ass, as he was on my caseload.

14 11 2008
lara21167

Cloey They treat me pretty good here. Guess I feel a bit obligated because loaned me money, just a couple hundred dollars before, and of course I paid it right back and I know some companies do that regularly, make employee loans. But I still feel like i owe them. I’m just like that. But I’ve been here going on 7 years and I think it’s time to move on. I really want to start my own Bookkeeping business. I need to start researching to do that.

Gabber – You are scaring me with this riot stuff. And yes a woman’s intuition is sharp!!

14 11 2008
Witchypoo

Good morning, Ladies…how’s it going? My littlest spawn has been experiencing an asthma flare-up for the last couple of days, (caught a cold, first)…so we’re just hanging out. The symptoms make it hard for him to breathe, espcially with physical exertion; my baby hasn’t been sleeping very restfully. He had to miss his marshall arts class on Wednesday, and I’ll have to see how he does today before deciding whether to take him for the 4:00 class, (it’s on Wednesdays, and they just added Friday, also). Anyway, that’s good, since he loves the class so much. I talked to the owner of his gymnastics/tumbling class on Monday, and I decided to take him out of the place. When we first joined over a year ago…there was a different director running the classes there – Jackie. There were also a couple of instructors who aren’t there now; it just seems like the whole atmosphere, or “feel” of the classes has changed since then. Jackie was really into sports, and she was a bit more authorative…somehow she made it REALLY fun for an athletic, fun-loving little guy like Heath, while keeping him in line, also. She made it obvious that she really LIKED Heath, and didn’t think he was a handful just because he’s so active. Same with the other instructors, who kind of followed her lead. Now, they don’t really have an official director…and there’s just a couple of overly-sensitive, (my opinion), really young, easily overwhelmed girls who handle Heath’s class. It’s just not as much fun…and I’ve been seriously thinking about taking him somewhere else comparable for a while. Last Friday was kind of the deciding factor for me; it works out great, since his marshall arts class has added the Friday class, anyway – he won’t feel the change so much while I get him enrolled in another tumbling class. There’s one that just opened the end of September; it’s a lot closer to us, so I’ve been meaning to check it out, anyway. Though, if I don’t think it will be a good fit for mini-spawn, we’ll look for something else, instead. So, that takes care of that.

Gabber, it sounds like the prison you work at is a VERY dangerous place; are you sure it’s worth the risk? What if you get seriously injured, or worse? I mean, I know the pay must make it worthwhile most of the time…and you’re a single mother who has to provide for her children. Still…are you very confident that you’re going to stay in one piece working there? You must have to watch your back CONSTANTLY, hugh?

Cloey, extremely self-involved people like your mother-in-law are soooooo tiring to be around for any length of time. It makes you wonder how she can’t comprehend the fact that the more impossible she is to you – Jeremy’s wife – the less she’ll be able to see and enjoy the son she’s so overly possessive and controlling with. How hard is that to understand? That’s one reason I hope my guys eventually pair up, permanently, with a girl who’s reasonable, without a chip on her shoulder about me, or other family connections. Because, I know it won’t be ME who makes it difficult to form a cohesive, harmonious family unit. I’m looking forward to spending a little time with a nice, intelligent, good-intentioned woman that my son(s) bring home someday. It will be so much easier for me to fully embrace her if she’s not manipulative, hostile, (including the subtle, insidious kind of passive/aggressive hostility that’s not as easy to point out), or overly-controlling. I want to genuinely love the women my guys choose to be their partners in Life; hopefully, they’ll use good judgement. Hmmm…makes you wonder how your mother-in-law’s inlaws felt/feel about HER sinking her claws into your father-in-law…can you imagine THAT family dynamic?

Take care.

14 11 2008
Witchypoo

Hmmm…that comment about how I know that it won’t be me who makes it a trial to get along sounded kind of smug, when I read it. I just meant that I make an honest effort to get along with people, even when they’re kind of a pain in my ass.

14 11 2008
lara21167

Witchey I think we all got what you meant lol. I think that was a good desicion to take Health out of that tumbling class. Like I said some instructors/teachers just don’t give off the authority or whatever needed to keep control of children. My daughter s teacher last year. I had heard it was his first year teaching, well he had a really bad start because he came across wanting to be everyone’s friend. Then tried to enforce disapline. I know my daughter gave him a really hard time (and she wasn’t the only one) for about the first 1/2 of the school year. Then somehow he earned her respect and she stopped giving him a hard time. Now her Cheerleading Coach is someone who commands respect from the kids and yet they all love her.

14 11 2008
Clo

Lara- Totally know what you mean about the teacher who wants to everyone’s friend. Like I said, we had counselors at camp who would do that, and then they didn’t get it when the kids would turn on them and run around. I still talk to some of my kids from camp/after school program. But, they know when I tell them to do something, they better do it, cuz just because I like them doesn’t mean they won’t get into trouble. And, if you feel you should leave, then you totally should. (Your job I mean)

And Witchy, again the same thing happened with some of our after school kids…. A few workers (including myself) left, and parents started pulling their kids. It’s really hard to leave a job when you work with kids, cuz it’s not just the job and co-workers you’re leaving, but also the kids, and I cried when I left. It’s good you decided to pull him. It’s a little sad for me, though, cuz I wanted to hear if you had any more run ins with the crusty cunt! LoL

Lara and Witchy- I hope I’m like you guys when Cayden gets older. You both sound so involved with your kids (with the classes and cheerleading, and helping your son, Lara, figure out what he wants to do…)

And the mother in law thing? Now that I have a son, I realize how hard it must be to let go… But I mean, that’s also what you’re supposed to do, you know… Raise your child so they’re OK to be on their own… Anyway, I really wish we could have a good relationship. My Mom keeps Cayden one overnight a week, and usually sees him once or twice during the week. She works a TON, and is having to deal with my brother issues as well… And she can still make time to see him, be on time, and leave at a reasonable time. If my Mom was pulling this shit I’d let her know REAL quick to cut it out. And yet when my mother in law comes over, she wants to make dumb comments about throwing out my sons pacifier, and how she would never let my husband have one (guess what, my child is not your child.) and then show up late and all that stuff… I mean they only ask to come see him once every couple weeks, you think they’d make it a point to at least be on time. She made a comment last night about how they needed to come see him more, cuz he was changing so quickly… And it’s just so sad to me in a way. Cuz I don’t think the rules are that hard or that unreasonable… And it’s her being stuck up her own ass that’s making her miss time with Cayden. I do hope she comes around, cuz I know she really wanted grandkids and thought she wasn’t going to have any cuz my hubby’s ex can’t have kids… If she were on time I could put up with everything else, but the time thing is just really irking me.

Oh, and she was talking about my brother which almost really did make me punch her in the face… Especially since I know my husband didn’t really tell her what was going on, and yet she acted like she did, and was like “oh he should go to rehab” and I just wanted to be like “Oh, you shouldn’t talk about thinkgs you know nothing about.” but I didn’t.

14 11 2008
Gabberjazz

Witchy:
Yes it is a very dangerous prison… Its the maximum security . Um the pay is great I get 80,000 a year plus over time. 100% benifits and 120 hours of sick leave& 120 hours of annual leave which these both can be rolled over if I don’t use them plus I get 9 family days a year so I can call in 30 mins before work and say I am taking a family day.

Yes I always have to watch my back but I also have a great partner who watches it too. We aren’t with the inmates the whole time We can watch them from rooms where they can’t get into so it eases some of the worry. We do rounds every 30-45 mins depeneding whats happening. And then there are meetings with the inmates to see what their needs are and if they are being met(its a joke) they have so many rights in there it makes me sick!

14 11 2008
Janelyse829

hey guys, how is it going?

im waiting for Munchkin to get here. i cant wait! i miss him so much.

but im tired, so i dont know how much fun i’ll be. Ezi had a big test today and he came over last night so i could help him study and we were up pretty late. he left around one am. i think he’s coming over soon and just crash lol

Lara-hows the mouse?

14 11 2008
lara21167

Janey haven’t seen “Mickey” all day, since he jumped out of my printer at me lol. Thought I heard him rattleing things througout the day though. Well you have fun with the Munchkin.

Cloey I think you will naturally be very involved in everything Cayden does. Oh I wanted to suggest maybe you could tell the MIL that you would like her to spend more time with Cayden but you need her to be there when she says or at least within 20 min either way. Something like that so your not putting her on defense.

Now I’m am getting ready to leave for the weekend. Janey, Gabber, Cloey, and Witchy have a great weekend. Rowdy, MT check in soon and I hope all is well.

14 11 2008
Janelyse829

Lara-lol i HATE mice!!!!! i would have prolly gotten fired cause i would have left the job and not came back til it was gone!!!!

MT-hope you’re okay. havent heard from you in a while

15 11 2008
Clo

Stupid firefox… Thanks Janey ๐Ÿ˜›

15 11 2008
Janelyse829

is chucky cheeses a fun place for a three year old?

15 11 2008
Witchypoo

Janey…are you kidding?! Hahaha…yeah, I’d say it’s a safe bet that your little munchkin will enjoy himself immensely at the Mouse House, (Chuck E. Cheese). The first time we went there, my 12 year-old, Chance, was having his 2nd birthday party. (He’d just had his very first hair cut…until then, his little curls prompted us to call him Kenny G….I don’t know if you are familiar with that pop/jazz musician). Anyhoo, I digress…he was kind of shy and standoffish of new people back then, so we weren’t sure how Chance would react to a huge mouse trying to dance with him, and whatever else Chuck E. does to entertain little kids. Chance absolutely LOVED Chuck E….he kept following him all over the place, wanting hugs and patting the mouse’s hand. It was the cutest thing…and we were so surprised that our little guy was SO outgoing with Chuck E. Yeah, take your little guy there; he’ll probably love it.

How’s the weekend going for everyone?

Take care.

15 11 2008
Janelyse829

my niece loves it there too. but Munchkin can be a pain in the butt when it comes to too many people/noises/action around him. he’s happiest watching cartoons at home but its really nice out and i dont want him to feel like he has to be stuck inside the house all day. he’s taking a nap right now so that’ll be his surprise when he wakes up =]

thanks witchy!

16 11 2008
Janelyse829

Im going to kill him. he didnt go to bed last night till 11:00 and then he woke up at 7:30. he took like a 15 minute nap at 3 then we went to chuck e cheese. he should be tired as hell right now. its 10:00 and he just wont got to sleep.

16 11 2008
Clo

lol Janey I’d love it if Cayden went to bed at 11 and slept till 7:30. It seems like as soon as we get a pattern down he switches it up. The other night he fell into his “normal” pattern, down around ten, up around 2, but he was up for two freaking hours. Then he went back down and normally his habit is sleeping till about 7, but since he didn’t go back down till four, I thought he’d make it till 8 or 9. Nope, 6 o’clock. Then he was up for good around 9. By the time he made it back down again for his long afternoon nap, it was noon and I was too awake to take my nap.

16 11 2008
Janelyse829

Clo-lol i was just irritated cause i was REALLY tired myself. and i wanted to go to sleep but i couldnt fall asleep unless HE was asleep cause then he makes a mess and i would yell at him nad balh blah blah lol but i FINALLY got him to sleep at 10:30 and he woke up at 8:30 soooo thats good. hopefully today he takes a longer nap cause my room is in serious need of a good dusting and my kitchen floor is begging for the mop lol

16 11 2008
Clo

That’s the hardest part of being a mom (at least in my opinion) is the lack of sleep. I mean he sleeps a ton, it’s just interrupted and I get so excited when I get a solid four hours, lol.

16 11 2008
Clo

Whoops, I hit send and I wasn’t done…. My husband is the type of person who is up and down all night long, he wakes up at least twice a night and goes to the bathroom. I’m a sold sleeper, usually once I’m down, I’m down for the count, and if I wake up a bunch I feel like I got no sleep. But I’m hoping sooon….

16 11 2008
Janelyse829

yea, im a heavy sleeper too but when he’s here im like up every ten minutes to make sure he’s okay. nd i havent really been sleeping that well as it is these last couple of days. im worried about him cause he’s a REALLY picky eater but lately he just doesant want to eat. he just refuses to eat. so i have to force feed him and its just crazy. he’s lost some weight but im not sure if its cause he got taller or because he’s not really eating right.

my aunt camer over last night with 3 of her 7 kids. and it was CRAZY! i had to make dinnr, wash dishes, make sure that Derek [munchkin] and Kevin [little cousin thats Dereks age] werent fighting. then i had to listen to Nikki and joanyelis fighting with th boys and each other, the tv was on, the phone kept ringing. i just wanted to scream and tell everybody to shut the fuck up buuut i coouldnt =[

16 11 2008
Witchypoo

Hi, Ladies…how’s it going? Hey, Janey, how much weight has your little guy lost? Has he been sick? That would be an explainable reason why he’d lose weight. At his age, children are growing quickly; increasing in height shouldn’t make him lose acutal poundage – it might just make him appear slimmer, since the weight is redistributed into height. If anything, when my boys go through growth spurts of added height, they gain weight, even while appearing to “slim out”…if you know what I mean. You mentioned that he’s not eating well; is he upset about anything? Or, sometimes children go through phases where their appetite just naturally drops off for awhile. Do you ever give him Pediasure…that nutritional supplemental drink, (different flavors like chocolate, vanilla, strawberry, etc.), to help him get important vitamins/nutrition? Does he like veggies/fruits, and good sources of protein, (chicken,eggs, etc.)? If he keeps losing weight, or continues to not eat much, taking him to the pediatrician would be a good idea. Little guys do need their nourishment to grow.

Cloey…I really feel for you about the lack of steady sleep; my children were all sporadic sleepers. I was always exhausted the first 18 months or so after they were born; it really catches up with you after a while.

Take care, Girls.

16 11 2008
Janelyse829

his mom came back yesturday, but i dont thinnk that would upset him. i mean, he eats but VERY little and when he doesnt want to eat and i make him he’ll throw it up. i guess hes not used bein forced to eat. he lives with his other grandma so he pretty much eats when he feels like it. i dunno. maybe its cause i hadnet seen him in two weeks and he looks different. but the whole not eating right threw me off a lil bit. but i took him home already. he was excited to see his little sister who he hasnt seen in 5 months. she’s so cute =] has to be about 8 months old by now.

17 11 2008
clo

janey- I wouldn’t worry too too much about he eating thing. like, I may take him to the ped, just cuz id rather be safe han sorry, but all the parent/baby mags I read have articles about fussy eaters and how to get them to eat… so it seems to be a phase. I know the one of the girls I was a nanny for was 4 and a very picky eater. on top of that she would fight eating as well, we had to remind her to eat and sometimes shed throw a temper tantrum cuz she didn’t want to. theres a cookbook about “sneaking” in foods that are good for you that kids normally don’t want to eat. I think its called deceptively delicious its by jerry seinfelds wife? maybe you could try that. my husband wants to get it wicked bad. it may help, but I do remember when I was a preschool sub we had to watch this preschooler carefully cuz at 4 she had a eating disorder and would make herself throw up or hide fher food… but she had some crazy family issues. ibelieve she was fostered or adopted by this gay couple (not that being gay had anything to do with it.) but they just owned their own beauty salon and like waxed her eyebrows and gave her makeovers… im like, shes four she doesn’t need that shit… it was craaaaaaaaaaaaazy! but witchy I hope the sleep thing gets better sooner than 18 months! im tired! lol. were on our way back from toledo, im bored. the drive up was good, I love driving in the country and seeing the old barns but now its dark and snowing! what happened to fall? this week is going to go by fast. my 9MIL’s bday is tuesday so we have to see them, ugh. but next sunday cayden will be 2 months! and next monday is my surgery ๐Ÿ˜ฆ but then its thanksgiving… its so crazy how time flies!

17 11 2008
lara21167

And Cloey before you know it Christmas will be here!!!! Had to throw that in. So how is everyone today?

Janey on the eating thing. Young children and babies do eat sporatically (SP?). And they don’t seem to like to sit down and eat a meal. Although I personally think an attempt at dinner should be made. But if he prefers to snack throughout the day try to get him to eat healthy snacks. A bite here and a bite there is better than nothing. And they say kids will eat when they are hungry. Both mine were bad eaters and now eat like horses(witchy knows what I mean!!) My daughter will eat dinner and an hour later want a snack!! I told her yesterday that all I do is find her things to eat. My little nephew who is 16 or 17 months old is the one I worry about eating. All I ever see him eat is crackers and cookies. And I want to scream at his mother and my mother in law who has him about 1/2 the time to try to get him to eat things that are good for him. I’m sure they do at some point, but I never see it. He does drink a good bit of milk, so that’s good at least.

And Clo I don’t know what to tell you about the sleeping, just hang in there. After 2 months you may be able to add a little cerial to his formula at night. Some doctors say that’s ok and some say no. But it does help them to sleep. Keeps them full longer.

17 11 2008
Clo

It’s just hard sometimes. Last night he really only slept 2 hours at a time, and then he’s been pretty much up since 8:30, with like a 20 minute nap here, a 10 minute nap there. My Mom says maybe it’s good, and he’s turning his schedule around, but I know he’s just going to crash this afternoon. I’m not even going to attempt to put him on a schedule though. People tell me to keep him awake, and there’s just no doing that. When he’s out, he’s so out, and there is no waking him up.

It just sucks cuz he gets on a schedule, and then when I get used to it, he changes it. He’s also doing weird things with his eating. He used to be eating a little during the day, and then like taking a whole bottle at night, but now he’s barely eating at night and eating during the day. I’m like child make up your mind.

And now the cold weather is messing with my bones. I hate it.

ANd yeah, Christmas will be here soon! We’re not buying gifts this year. At least my family. My in laws are, even though we told them not too, but I don’t really care, as long as they don’t expect anything cuz we’re so broke. I think I’m going to make people things though.

How’s everyone else today?

17 11 2008
lara21167

Clo maybe ask your mother about giving him cerial since she’s a nurse. Or next time you’re at the doc. My son was a bit older pushing 4 months I guess. My doc said not to put it in a bottle but he wouldn’t take the spoon. So everyone said to mix it really running, put it in a bottle, cut the nipple hole a little bigger and let him drink it that way. Worked great and he did sleep better at night. Of course if Cayden’s not drinking well at night it won;t do you much good anyway. I think Kristy was about 2 months when I started her on cerial. Of course she was a big baby and def needed more food. I don’t know everyone has their own opions about starting cerial.

17 11 2008
Janelyse829

iTS SNOWiNG!!!!!!! i HATE NEW YORK.

17 11 2008
lara21167

Keep that snow Janey!! It is supposed to snow in Western Maryland tonight. Where I live is more or less in a valley, so I don’t think we are supposed to get anything. Maybe some flurries.

17 11 2008
Janelyse829

yes but i was somewhere and im wearing the type of winter boots that are not exactly supposed to get wet. so imagine how mad i was when i stpeed out and HAD TO WALK in my brand new $160 Ugs that ARENT supposed to get wet =[ lol this why Ezi said he doesnt buy me shoes. hahahaha

17 11 2008
Clo

LoL, Janey, if they’re boots that aren’t supposed to get wet, then they aren’t really winter boots. We got snow last night and this morning. Some of it stuck for like an hour, but then it warmed up just enough to turn the snow into a wicked cold rain. I’m just worried, if it’s snowing this early, how bad is it going to be when winter really hits?

17 11 2008
lara21167

I don’t know, I expect a bad winter. I’m not going to worry about it. If I can’t make it to work in my ’85 (yes 1985) Firebird (that hates the rain) then I’m not going to try. The car just sucks in bad weather.

Janey I never got into to spending that much money on shoes (although I love shoes, I did mention I was a Bookkeeper right??) But I really don’t like sensible shoes. I’ve always slid along in high heel boots in ice and snow instead of some ugly sensible things you can actually walk in!!

17 11 2008
Janelyse829

i know!!! but im a girly girl nd i mean whats the fun in being a woman if you cant show off your legs in really nice heels? i totally know im not paying for the shoe but for the brand. but these shoes are SOOOOO COMFY nd warm!!!!!the have a thick coat of fur insed and its like walkin on air [cause i totally know what that feels like haha] dont get me wrong: my sneaker collection is as huge as my heel collection. but i like to mix sporty and chic together and i usually pull it off nicely. ma fave sneakers that i’ve been wearing for like 2 months when im not wearing heels??? my black and white high-top converse!!!!! i LOVE those damn sneakers lol

17 11 2008
lara21167

I gotta go but my daughters hip hop dance is wearing pink converse high tops. they are adorable!!

17 11 2008
Janelyse829

im getting the purple ones!!!!

17 11 2008
Janelyse829

hey guys.
i come bearing news.

Rowdy said she’s sorry she’s been MIA. things have just been a bit insane at the moment and she’ll try to update when she gets a chance =]

18 11 2008
Janelyse829

i miss witchy!!! =[
haven heard from her today…are you there?

18 11 2008
Clo

I’ve never been a shoe person. I have like one pair of black dress shoes, and one pair of tennis shoes. I usually have a ton of flip flops, but this year I only really had one pair. I think I was too pregnant to go shopping.

I dunno, I’ve never gotten into “girly” things like clothes, shoes, jewelry, and purses. I mean I like them, (especially purses) but I just can’t fathom spending that much money on something that isn’t practical. Like with my engagement ring, my husband wanted to save up and find me something nicer, but I dunno. I just can’t see spending a ton of money on something that goes on my finger. I love the ring I ended up with, it’s so me, and it wasn’t that badly priced. Like I love some of the Louie bags, but dropping that much on a bag? Yeah, right.

My husband came home early from work today. He got suspended for 3 days, no pay, over some big bullshit. I’m livid cuz he vusts his ass for them and then they do this. And all that happened was when he was gone on leave for the baby, they changed the way they handled insurance billing, and so when he came back, they didn’t explain to him how to do it. So someone from the Cleveland office emailed him telling him he made a mistake… Only he didn’t know what she was talking about. He tried to call her, but when she didn’t answer or return his calls, he emailed her back saying “I don’t know what you’re talking about.” They suspended him for being sarcastic and having a bad attitude???? Then they told him they don’t feel like he always wants to be at work. I think most people don’t want to be at work.

I’m just really upset, I’m like we have a newborn and I’m having surgery next week and we really needed the money. And like I said, he works late, comes in early, works on the weekends (his days off) and they’re just being idiots. So, with his 3 days off he’s looking for another job.

18 11 2008
lara21167

Cloey that’s awful!! How else are you supposed to say “I don’t know what you are talking about” ? That’s not being sarcastic. Didn’t you say he has a side business? Maybe it’s time to expand? The other thing is if his company is feeling the pinch of the economy this may be their way of cutting costs and preparing to get rid of some people. If they start nit picking good employees they may think they can fire some people without having to take a hit on their unemployment rates.

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