A Sheet Snob Tries on Flannel Sheets

24 11 2008

So the title doesn’t really have anything to do with the post except that I bought Flannel Sheets for the first time and they are quite interesting. Kinda like jersey sheets which I’m not really a fan of but thicker. I was a bit scared that I would be too warm in them but I was actually comfortable. I do still prefer my 500 thread count cotton sheets (or higher, but I will be ok with 400) but these are ok. Actually they may do me some good in LA when it’s freezing. Yes. I admit it. I am. A sheet snob. My sheets are all chocolate colored. I debated on getting white (well cream) but the last time I got white Nemo/Frad destroyed them. Those were 550 egyption cotton. Rest in peace oh white sheets. I loved you for the short time I had you. 

 

I don’t know what made me a sheet snob. I used to be fine with jersey. I mean hey – what is so wrong with sleeping on t-shirt material. In fact, I didn’t really like cotton sheets to begin with. They were a bit starchy, really. And cmon, those jersey sheets came in some pretty funky designs. And they conveniently came in the XL I needed for dorm room beds. By sophomore year I had grown into queen size sheets and was still wrestling in star studded jersey. But by Jr year it was time for a new duvet cover. Blue stars just wasn’t… well I decided 21 was a bit too old for stars. My old roommates Tweetie comforter was no longer there to combat the maturity of my own duvet and I just wasn’t doing enough drugs to excuse my bedspread. Bed bath and beyond produced a wine colored duvet, except long gone was the jersey. I had discovered Egyptian Cotton. And not just any Egyptian cotton – but 450 thread count. Oh my. These were not the starchy sheets of my past. This cover was more than I dreamed. I quickly tossed all of my old sheets and a more, polished look was formed. Since then I’ve learned to wait for close out sales to purchase sheets. Splurging, even after 40% discounts for the sheets I crave. Knowing I would have to “deal with it” when I slept in boys beds who didn’t share my fascination with bed spreads and keeping in the back of my mind that should we ever share a bed permanently that my sheets would be the chosen keepers. 

 

But now I am in a financial crisis. I’ve had panic attacks left and right. The ones where you question whether or not you need to see a doctor because your arm may or may not be going number and your chest is definitely hurting. The kind where you’ve technically only smoked 1 cigarette but there is a whole pack stubbed out in the ashtray because you’ve only taken 2 puffs of each one.  

 

I have gone back and forth with moving, not moving. Do I take out a credit card with a high limit (of course the credit card company will do it – I have impeccable credit and banks are so desperate they’ll give any schmoe a card) and put myself into massive debt just to afford the movers, which are going to cost 2 times as much as anticipated. Then there is the wedding. Have to pay for the dress. And a present for the bride and groom. And the trip out there. And the trip to LA to look for the apartment. Not ot mention rent, bills, the new deposit on the apartment, the car, life. I’d stop living but death is more expensive than life so forget that (ok sick morbid joke, i would NEVER) I don’t want to borrow from my parents. I’d rather go into debt. I know that may sound crazy but for once in my life I need to step up and be a (wo)man. How do I afford christmas. I know, people will understand but that does NOT mean I want to skimp out on everyone. Not to mention packing. Where do I start. I need to start now but oh god. 

 

The good news is I don’t have to go into debt. And I don’t have to borrow, There is another option I learned about today. Its not something I WANT to do but its not the worst thing in the world. 

 

And that is why, the sheet snob, resorted to flannel sheets. Its a step. I needed sheets. And there they were. Staring me down. Chocolate. I had been using one set for too long. And even with the going out of business sale at Linens and things I was suddenly ok with 10 dollar Flannel sheets. Of course. 10 dollar flannel sheets also meant a 4 dollar felt elf outfit for nemo. Sometimes, you just gotta splurg.

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24 11 2008
lara21167

Rowdy, just a quick comment. First I loved this post, I love the way you write. 2nd Everyone is tightening up financially, we have to. I’ve actually been cutting back for about 3 years now, and finally getting where I want to be going. Christmas gifts, you can give nice gift cheap. Umm one thing maybe we all can do is share gift ideas especially homemade gifts. Let me think of something…

25 11 2008
Witchypoo

Helloooooooooo, Ladies! How’s it going this evening? I “talked” to you briefly on the last post, Cloey…but I don’t know if you’ll read it or not, so, I hope you’re feeling reasonably comfortable, Sweetie, (I know there is bound to be SOME discomfort after surgery – but hopefully you’re not in too much actual pain). Now it’s over with, and you can take a deep breath and relax, hugh?

So, Turkey Day is just around the corner…I can’t believe it’s here again already; it seems like we just had the holidays. My sister-in-law and I trade off…last year she had Christmas Day at her house, and I had Thanksgiving here, so this year it’s the reverse. My sons are going to be helping me touch-up paint inside the house…along with some other cosmetic improvements. Jerry is working on getting our spare room redone to put Beau in there; he and Chance have always chosen to share a room, (comes in especially handy to have an extra warm body in the dark room with you after spending 2 or 3 hours watching a scary movie, you know?)…Beau is ready for a little more privacy now, though. So, eventually the plan is to get our littlest spawn in the big room with Chance; he follows Chance around constantly, anyway, (he calls Chancey his “best buddy in the whole world”). Of course, if Chancey displeases the little man in some way, (like telling him “no” to something he wants but shouldn’t have, for instance), then Heath informs his patient, older brother that “you’re NOT my best-buddy-in-the-whole-world anymore, because you’re MEAN!” Mini-spawn is like the rest of us though: he doesn’t stay mad for long…he’s “fiery”, but forgiving. He can be a tad stressful on the nerves, sometimes…hahaha; he’s lucky he has two older brothers who are so sweet to him, for the most part.

So…economical Christmas gift ideas? Well, there’s always the oldie-but-a-goodie standby of homemade cookies wrapped up in a pretty basket, or maybe fudge, or whatever your specialty happens to be. If you know a female friend/relative’s preferences, you can also make a pretty basket out of soaps/candles/lotions/tea…that type of thing. I’ve done the cookie thing, but these days we give out a lot of gift cards to places we know the recipient likes. For instance, my two nieces like movies, music, electronic things, etc.,…so we’ve given them Best Buy cards, or Kohls cards sometimes, since they also love to shop for clothes, and they were going there for a while. This year my niece, Danielle’ will be newly married, (December 14th…or is it the 21st?…I have to check), so we’ll probably give her a “domestic, nesting” type of card…like Bed, Bath, and Beyond, or Crate & Barrell, or something like that. My sister-in-law and I went out for Coffee on Sunday morning and it turns out she’s a big fan of, yes…you guessed it: Victoria’s Secret. What a coinkydink, hugh? So, that will be a convenient gift/card to acquire for her. Anyhoo…you get the general idea; unless I know the exact, specific item someone wants, I’d rather give him/her a gift card to somewhere I know he/she patronizes, since that way I haven’t wasted my money on something that won’t be used or appreciated, anyway.

So, Goldie…you’re happy with the flannel sheets, then? Yeah, they’re comfy. I buy the “hotel quality” sheets that are Egyptian cotton, 400-500 thread count; they last longer, anyway, besides being nicer to sleep on. You’re funny…are you that particular about all your housewares, or are sheets and duvets/comforters your main concern? I love my bed – the matress/box spring are really nice/cushy…and it’s really high off the floor, (I like that, for some reason)…so comfy. Beds/bedding should be a haven, since we spend so much time there. Hmmm…I’m getting sleepy just thinking about it. Jerry and Chance just left for training, (baseball), and Beau, Heath and I are going out to get the baby some new jeans/pants, and maybe a couple of shirts. I guess I better wake my ass up then, hugh? Hahaha…take care, ladies.

25 11 2008
Janelyse829

hey Lara- i put the pictures of my nails on myspace.
you can check them out if you want =]

25 11 2008
lara21167

I love ’em Janey. I’ve always loved funky nail polish lol. Where I used to work when I always did my nails toe nails and finger nails matching colors. this guy at work always had to check out my color choice on my toe nails when I wore open toed shoes. Probably had a foot fetish ha!!

Rowdy I had a suggestion for your money problems, although you said you have it under control now. I was just going to suggest checking into a personal loan option instead of a credit card. The interest would be lower and you would have a set amount and set monthly payments. With a credit card their is too much temptation!! Do I know that!!

Bedding – kinda of funny, my mother in law gave me and my husband a new bedspread and shams. It has gold tones and is very pretty. Although it doesn’t go with the mauve I was going for. Actual sheets and pillow cases that I have now are mismatched, so I needed something to cover that up lol. Anyhoo my husband crawls in bed last night drunk and just whines that the bedspread is too stiff and he can’t sleep on the shams. So I very patiently took the shams off the pillows and pulled the bedspread down off the bed. Put another blanket on him (basically tucked him in) and he was happy! I swear he is like having another kid. One that will never grow up and move out ahhhh. And talking about beds, I have a gorgeous head board, one with shelves and cupboards with etched glass doors and a mirror. Problem is the bed itself has fallin’ apart (you can probably guess how that happened lol) and so now we have the box spring and mattress on the floor with the headboard. I want to keep the headboard, so i need to see if I can get someone the build a bedframe from the headboard, my husband could probably do that if he set his mind to it.

Oh I wanted to check the ingredients for hot chocolate (cocoa) there is a gift idea where you put ingredients for hot chocolate, like unsweetened cocoa, sugar, I think powered milk and marshmellows. in bags you buy the mug and make a label for making the hot chocolate. I forget exactly now but I always thought that was a cute gift idea. Also popporri (I can’t spell this morning!!) and a cute jar or something to put it in.

25 11 2008
lara21167

http://allrecipes.com/Recipe/Hot-Cocoa-Mix-in-a-Jar/Detail.aspx

ha there is a link to the hot chocolate gift thing. You put it in a jar and decorate with a ribbon or whatever. And put a tag on how to make.

25 11 2008
lara21167

Update on my niece in rehab. Hasn’t had the baby yet, she is due Friday. Anyhoo I knew she was going to court yesterday on her distribution charges so I our Maryland Case Search thing (you can get anybodies records with this) She got 10 years suspended with 4 years of probabtion. that judge wants her on a tight rope I believe and she better not screw up!! But I’m glad he was that hard on her It will def give her incentive to keep straight!!

25 11 2008
Witchypoo

Good morning, Ladies…how’s it going? I forgot to mention to you, Cloey and Lara that I did get on Cloey’s myspace after Lara sent me the url. It’s the strangest thing, though…that whole “conversation” between Lara and myself was weird because I didn’t get the “link” part of her comments, or a couple of the comments themselves, as well as Cloey’s comments from that same period until…I don’t even know when. See, I just accidently went on that post today, after I’d meant to go to Goldie’s latest, (Sheet Snob…), and found the comments and link. Twilight-Zone-Strange how several of the comments “waited” to pop up…while Lara’s last one, (“Have a good weekend ladies”), showed up right away. I’m not sure why several of the preceding ones didn’t until now; anyway, I’d visited Cloey’s myspace that day, (I think it was the 21st – did it the “old-fashioned” way by typing in her url), and viewed a couple of pictures…but I think the rest were private. I’ll try again; I love the picture of the three of you, Cloey…with you and Jeremy holding Cayden. It’s very sweet…and the song lyrics you have on your page from Edwin McCain’s song, ‘I Could Not Ask For More’…so perfect for the events surrounding your current lives together. I LOVE that song…I have it on my Ipod and listen to it frequently…mostly while I’m falling asleep at night in bed. As corny as it sounds…we really do need to remember, (frequently), how grateful and happy we really feel for the loved ones in our lives; it’s easy to lose sight of that during the chaos and frequent hassles of day-to-day living. I mean, why else are we here? I believe it’s the connections we make, and also the periodic opportunities that arise for us to help someone else out – if only in just the smallest way. Because, what seems “small” to us may be a HUGE difference in someone else’s life, you know? What’s that saying about entertaining EVERYONE you meet as a friend, because you could be entertaining an angel, unawares…or whatever the actual words are. It’s true…you just never know how much a kind word, smile, or small deed might help someone else – maybe helping them plow through a rough day…or more. ‘It’s A Wonderful Life’ illustrates that concept so well; Jimmy Stewart is such a sweet character in that movie.

Take care.

25 11 2008
lara21167

I love that movie Witchy. Glad you got on Cloey’s site. I couldn;t make the link work anyway. I posted a link today for the hot chocolate thingy I was talking about and it came up waiting for moderation then went away. Must be something with posting links. And yes that is something I have really learned in the past few years is to appreciate what you have. So easy to “compete with the Jones” so to speak. Allways wanting more than you have when in reality you already have everything you really need and want.

25 11 2008
Witchypoo

Yup…that’s the truth, SweetLara, (about wanting what/who you already have).

25 11 2008
Janelyse829

thanks Lara.

i’ve had a very stressful day. i think that im getting a migrane. god knows how i hate those. =[
im waiting for Ezi to come over. i dont feel good at all. he wants to stay
with me but i dont want him to get sick too. stupid headache. stupid stuffy nose. stupid nausia. =[

26 11 2008
Clo

Just got home like an hour ago. Got into a fight with my mom and hubby. Long story there, when I’m feeling better maybe I’ll elaborate. but it took me so long to get discharged cuz my pain meds weren’t working… And still aren’t but I didn’t want to get stuck there for another night so I just said OK. My IV meds were working but they couldn’t send me home on IV meds so… Whatever I’ll just suck it up. I’m super sore. I have a total of 5 incisions, all small, but I have a drain which is super annoying, it’s like a little plastic balloon attached to a rubber hose that comes out of one of the incisions. Apparently I was more inflamed than they thought, so I have more drainage. The thing that sucks the most is that I can’t lift anything heavier than a milk carton for 2 weeks. Which, Cayden is WAY more than a milk carton. I miss him so. I’m really tired.

Witchy- My comments weren’t showing up for a few days, I’m not sure why. Did you all get the links to the hot guy on facebook that I went to highschool with and the hot bodied guy on myspace that I went to highschool with? Yummy. And let me know if my pictures aren’t all viewable. They should be, but I’ll double check. Some of my pics I look HORRIBLE in. Sleep deprieved, the whole nine yards.

I really missed Cayden hardcore. I still do, cause I can’t really hold him. Tell me how can a child grow that much in a day? And I really owe my sister like a million dollars for helping out so much.

26 11 2008
Clo

oh yeah, sheets. I used to make fun of my sister for needing expensive sheets… Then my Mom jumped on that bandwagon when our nun friends gave her old 500 count sheets from the convent (nuns take a vow of poverty, but my aunt lives a pretty decent life. Did I ever mention my aunt is a nun?) anyway, I made fun of them and said sheets were sheets. Then when my mom was in the hospital, I stayed at her house to watch her cats, and slept in her bed. Totally fell in love with the sheets. Made my hubby buy an expensive sheet set, he made fun of me for it, until he slept on them, now he gets it. Sometimes http://www.overstock.com has decent prices on sheets. We got ours on sale at target. We also got a really nice bedding set on sale when a linens and things up here went out of business.

26 11 2008
Janelyse829

i have a cold.
its 7:30 and i cant sleep =[
i hate new york

26 11 2008
lara21167

Cloey just take care of yourself so you can hold your baby soon. Yes that is hard I know. I had one of those drainage ball things when I had my stomach surgery. It hung down between my legs when I walked so I called it my “ball” as in a guys balls but I only had one lol. But that s what it felt like just hanging there when I walked 🙂

26 11 2008
lara21167

Ahhhh!! Having a bad day. Our payroll is stuck in Baltimore. Thank heavens I can run the checks myself or we’d have some p.o.’d employees 🙂

26 11 2008
Witchypoo

Good Morning, Ladies…how’s it going? Just thought I’d check in with everyone before getting started on my “to-do” list.

Cloey, I hope you’re feeling more comfortable this am; has your pain lessened? I know it must be so hard to want to hold your baby, and not being able to. Can you cuddle with him in bed, or on the couch? So, what did the hospital personnel tell you about managing your pain, since the medication they gave you to take home wasn’t working? Is your husband attentive to you when you’re in real pain like this? It probably disturbs him to see you like that; men hide that pretty well, which can make them appear uncaring – when they’re really just trying to be “strong and reasurring” for you, instead. Is someone staying with you during the times that Jeremy isn’t there?

So, I’m toodling down the road on my way with Chance to Chance’s school conference, (you get to talk individually with all your child’s teachers about his/her academic progress ), when a cop going the opposite way whips around after I pass him…following me for about a mile before pulling me over. The road I was on is heavily travelled, and it was the beginning of rush hour, so I was just following the flow of traffic…not really paying attention. So, of course I mentioned this to the cop, and he replied, “Yeah, and I’m handing out tickets on this road right and left today.” I looked behind my truck where I had pulled over on the side, and there were cars lined up waiting for a ticket, after he was through with me. So, I guess he was telling the truth. Usually, I follow the 35 mph speed limit on that road…I guess I’ll just have to be more careful, (that road DOES wind around a lot, so law enforcement must be tightening up on it now that colder weather will bring icy roads and all that). My own fault…still, BLECH!

So, I called my husband’s phone while the ticket was being written up, and some guy answered who’s voice I didn’t immediately recognize, probably because I was disctracted and trying to control my annoyance with the current situation. Just about the time I’m taking a second look at the phone number on the screen, he blurts out, “It’s your BROTHER, don’t you recognize my voice, Kim?” So, I was flustered and in a hurry, so I just told him…”I’m in the middle of a ticket, Paul, and I’m pissed right now; put Jerry on, will you?” I heard him sigh or something, and hand the phone over. So, I was busy after that, and since Paul is quite a gabber, I didn’t call him back last night. So, I guess I better call him now. Hey, speaking of brothers: how’s your’s, Cloey? Is he doing any better? Any improvement with the antidepressant that he’s on?

Talk to you Girls, later…take care.

26 11 2008
Witchypoo

Hmmm…SO, I wonder how many times I can use the word “so” in one paragraph?

26 11 2008
lara21167

I don’t really have a minute but your police encounter made me think of Saturday morning as my daughter and I were heading through town, police were zipping around everywhere. At one point I had one in front of me, one on the side and one behind. I looked at my daughter and said “we must be in the wrong place at the wrong time” and got the hell out of that area. I still don’t know who or what they were looking for, they were just circleing all around that area. The night before there was a shooting caught on video on a street so it may have had something to do with that. Although they still haven’t caught the shooter nor found the victim. A guy got out of his truck after hitting a utility pole walked up to another truck shot inside it and took off. And as I said they haven’t found either yet.

26 11 2008
lara21167

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!! Everyone.

26 11 2008
Clo

Jeremy and I got into it at the hospital. Monday when I went into surgery I had to be there at 6 AM, so we got up at 5:30. I slept for maybe an hour, Jeremy got a little more sleep than me, but still 5:30 is pretty early. Anyway, so After surgery I get up to my room and I’m trying to stay awake since Jeremy is there but its not working, so I send him home. Then I wake up and I’m lonely, scared, and hurting, and they’re messing with my pain meds and not giving me what I want (they kept telling me they weren’t going to send me home on IV meds, which I understood, but they wouldnt give me my iv meds while I was in there They wanted to try the pain pills first, and after an hour if they didn’t work, give me my IV meds. The pills weren’t working, and I just wanted my IV meds, while I could have them. I was pissed) So I called Jeremy and asked him to come back. It took me like 1/2 hour to get ahold of him, and then he kinda got short about coming back, which hurt my feelings. So he finally agrees to come back… And doesn’t show up for an hour and a half. Then the next day I was supposed to leave (yesterday) he was going to leave work early to come pick me up and go back to work. But then they said I could stay until he got off… But then I had all these issues with my pain pills not working, I was out of it and sore, and ugh. So I wanted him to leave work and come help me. And I couldn’t understand, if he was going to leave work for an hour to come get me, take me home, and all that jazz, why couldn’t he leave work a half hour/20 minutes early to come help me? So then we get into it, cause again he’s just being short and mean, and I decide I’m not going home with him. So then my Mom comes and yells at me for being unfair, but I don’t see how I am being unfair… I just want my husband to be nice to me…

It just sucks, cause it hurts a lot, and my pain meds aren’t working (but there’s nothing they can do, and my doctor says this is “normal” and to make it stop I should get up and walk, but that makes it hurt worse… I can’t hold my son at all, it hurts too bad and he moves too much, and he’s smiling at everyone but me… And while my pain meds aren’t working on my pain, it’s making my brain fuzzy. It’s a mess.

27 11 2008
Monkeyspeaks

clo. I am soooooo sorry you are going through all of this. And right before thanksgiving none the less. I don’t understand why none of them are not being accomidating. First you just had a baby!!! Now you’re going through all of this. You’re in pain, you’re fuZy you can’t hold your son and all you are asking for is some freaking tlc??? ( tender loving care ). Unacceptable. Do I need to go over there and bust some knee caps?? I’ll do it. And then I’ll give ya the tlc you need.

Pls excuse typos. I’m typing on my phone. Not that I do t have a million anyway when I am ok my computer.

Ok so. I’ve been working my ass off. I run 2-4 miles every day. I’m not eating a lot, I don’t eat meat, fried foods, candy, sugars, high sodium or things like that. I’m only really bad foods are pastas and even that is whole wheat and seriously I’m gaining weight!!!!!! What is wwwrroonnnggg with me. I dunno if it is because I’m only eating once or twice a day and when I do I binge. Like I’ll eat 2 big cups of pasta instead of like half a cup like I should cause I’m so hungry from not eating all day. Sigh. But I still don’t know why I’m gaining!!!!!!! I’m just a freak. I’m gonna try eating really small portions all day and these acai berries and if that doesn’t work then I’m giving up.

27 11 2008
Gabberjazz

Rowdy:
Yes you are gaining weight, but the only reason why your weight is going up is because you are building muscles. I was always told never go by weight…..

28 11 2008
Clo

dying, calling tomorrow. hope theyre open, pain meds aren’t working.

29 11 2008
Clo

Hate doctors. I told mine in the hospital repeatedly that the pain meds they gave me aren’t working. They send me home anyway. So I give it a day, it’s worse. Called them 3 times today. Finally get ahold of someone. He tells me since he’s the on call doc, and not my doc, he can’t prescribe me anything except what I’m already on… How is that going to help me when what I have isn’t working? It doesn’t help that I’m pretty much fighting non stop with my hubby cause he sucks at the sympathy thing, and both he and my mom said I should have refused to leave the hospital until my pain meds were right… But I was on meds, and not thinking clearly, and neither one of them was there to help me… Hubby says I’m different since I’ve been on the meds, and I agree I’m super fuzzy but the pain is there and it’s constant. This is so much harder than any other time.

29 11 2008
Witchypoo

Hey there, Ladies…how’s it going? How was everyone’s Thanksgiving? As I said before, we were at my sister-in-law’s this year…then I’ll have Christmas Day here. It was really nice…even Jerry seemed to enjoy himself there. I say “even Jerry” because he sometimes gets tired of his family, especially lately, for some reason. It was just really nice and relaxing, though – of course, I stuffed myself all evening. What else can you do with all that mouth-watering food staring you in the face, (hey, it’s a holiday to celebrate the “bounty of our harvests”…right?!). Heath had so much fun playing with his two younger female cousins. The little girls are going on 2; it was great watching our mini-spawn being so patient and helpful with them. One of them is used to rough-housing and is kind of a tomboy; she kept slapping and hitting heath to get his attention. His mom kept getting after her and was self-conscious about her little gal being somewhat aggressive…but Heath barely registered it. When he did notice he just laughed and encouraged her; it was hilarious. I kept telling Debbie, (Mom) to not worry about it everytime she came scurrying over; it’s always embarrassing when it’s YOUR child who appears to be a little brute, (even though they’re just playing). So, I discovered that the wedding we’re going to on December 14th is REALLY a formal affair, (surprising, since my husband’s sister is a “casual” type of person, and so is the bride-to-be, Danielle). Anyhoo, I have to go out and spring for a formal, floor-length dress, (I have some pretty ones, but the only floor-length one I have is from my brother’s wedding…it looks too “bridesmaidsy” to me). I’m not crazy about the prospect of having to go hunt down a dress, as well as new shoes, dress-pants & shirts for my boys…and maybe a new suit jacket for Jerry – all right before Christmas. It’s an expensive time of the year, you know? That’s all in addition to the wedding presant; yeah, I know: I’m whining about relatively unimportant crap…but I was in the mood to complain a little.

Cloey, you poor thing…are you still in a lot of pain? Pain medication DOES make you moody and metally fuzzy, sometimes; it’s had that effect on me in the past, also. Are you and Jeremy getting along better? Regardless of whether he’s skilled at the TLC thing or not, he should be supportive when you’re feeling so overwhelmed with pain and frustration. Marital partners are supposed to be a shoulder for each other to lean on, when circumstances call for it. You know, Sweetie, you’re still in a very early stage of the postpartum period of adjustment; surgery and all that pain medication are probably wrecking havoc on your whole system – especially your emotions. I’m surprised that the people closest to you seem to not be very understanding of that fact. Try to hang in there, (what other choice is there, right?), and things WILL get better. (Envision a big hug and some pats on the back from me here).

Janey, are you still hating New York? How’s it going with Ezi since returning from your trip? Any more trouble with that persistent girl chasing your guy? Hmmm…20 questions, hugh?

Goldie…Gabber made a good point about muscle weighing more than fat -hence, the slow-going of progress on the scale. I don’t even own a scale; I just go by how my clothes fit. So many factors can influence that number, anyway, (I’m sure you’re well aware of that). The only time I get weighed is when I go to the doctor. It sounds like you’re doing great with your running regimen; make sure your body receives enough fuel to power your workouts, or your metabolism might get yanked around and screwed up trying to adjust itself to the cut-back in calories, (also, you don’t want to wind up feeling fatigued and depleted). Watch, unexpectantly, your clothes are going to start getting roomier…then you’ll realize that your workouts are making a big difference.

Gabber…you checked in briefly, but let us know how everything is going for you. Is the atmosphere at the prison where you work any less tense? How about the situation with the guy you were seeing?

Lara, did you have a nice time celebrating with your husband and daughter? I know you won’t see this until Monday at work, but I thought I’d ask now, anyway. (I wonder if that little mouse in your office had a happy Thanksgiving? Hahaha…he/she is probably all snuggled up in your printer, right this minute.

Take care, and nightie-night, Girls.

29 11 2008
Monkeyspeaks

wow clo. I don’t know what to tell you! Is mars inretograde or something. I don’t mean that literally but the concept. Why would they be treating you so poorly. It just isn’t fair. I wish there was something I could do. Do you think your hubby feels overwhelmed with everything and misses how independent you are and is acting like an ass cause he doesn’t know what else to so? It’s no excuse though. He needs to take care of his wife!!

Yea. Boo accused me of cheating the other day. WTF right!!!’ I would never in a million years. Basically I passed out really early and I guess my ringer was too low or something. I don’t know. Anyway he called a few times and I didn’t hear. So I woke up at some weird hour and saw he called so I txted him to call me in the morning. He does but u was gong for a run which seemed to upset him and I could not figure out why. I was like ok forget it and went running. When we finally talked he told me I was mean. I asked why. He said last night. I said I passed out early. He called me a liar. Suddenly we are in a massive fight. I’m crying bc I’m confused and he just wouldn’t believe me. Told me to never call him again. That I was obviously out with someone if I would ignore his calls and I’ll find a new guy an be fine. I was like holy shit. You are insane. I fell asleep and this is the first conclusion you come to?!?!?! It went on like that for a while and finally I dunno he realized he was worng or an idiot or bring an ass but it worked out. I mean we are completely ok now. But whoa was that strange. Me cheating on someone is about as likely as palin not being annoying.

Witchy. You mentioned something that confused me. Bride to be and bride? I’m from Miami beach and voted no on 2 (i.e I support gay rights) but am just clarifying.

So weight thing. I do know muscle weighs more. I’m not as concerned with ## as I may have given off. But my pants all went from
fitting me to being so tight I don’t want to wear them. Don’t forget girls. I’ve lost 110lbs befor and used to work out religiously so I do know a lot about muscle and how it burns fat and how it’s the bmi that matters not my weight. But I’m about 4-6 Pts above where I should be at my bmi (28 and I probably want to be at 22… I think I may be off by a few pts). But yea. Tight pants. And I see boo in 5 days.

Oh. My computer crashed so I can’t post till I fix it. Yea. More money down the drain!!

29 11 2008
Clo

Rowdy- I thought it was bride to be and bride to be as well, but I think it’s her neice getting married, so she was saying bother her niece and her nieces mom (hubbys sister) is laid back, right witchy? And while I hate saying thing, and I hope it doesn’t offend, (if it does can I just blame it on the pain meds?) are you sure you’re not pregnant Rowdy? I dunno, pregnancy has been on my brain a lot (NOT that I’m getting pregnant again ANYTIME soon, my husband would NEVER do it for one, and for two I don’t have the time or energy or money or really even the desire right now.) Maybe it’s just because there’s tons of preggo people around me right now, my friend found out that in 3 weeks if she doesn’t have her baby, she’ll be induced, my other friend just found out she’s pregnant, I found out on thanksgiving my cousins are trying to get pregnant… SO maybe babies are on the brain (especially with Cayden, he’s getting SO big, his 2 month doc visit is monday) and for some reason when you said unexplained weight gain, that’s just where my mind happened to jump.

I do kinda miss being pregnant though. Not really being pregnant, I don’t really miss that at all, the end is still too fresh in my mind, but the outcome. The having the baby. We’ll def. have another one, in a year or 2. Or 3.

Witchy I’m glad your thanksgiving went good. I think mine did, I don’t remember a ton, but I did eat a lot, which I wasn’t supposed to do (I’m on an “as tolerated” diet, which means I should slow down. Plus I lost some weight and dont want to gain it all back, but it’s thanksgiving, so shoot me.)

We’re talking about what we’re going to do for Cayden’s first Christmas. Hubby doesn’t want to have it here, cuz we did last year, but I don’t see either one of our parents inviting the other set over (They like each other, but I don’t see them wanting to do the work) And I don’t want to go to both houses with Cayden. He’s started to get overhwelmed by things, if we do too much, and I think going to two houses would do that to him. But I don’t want to cut anyone out… And even though both Grandparents said they wouldn’t, they’re already going nuts buying him gifts so… That’ll be interesting.

My pain was horrible yesterday. Jeremy is trying since I yelled at him, but it’s frustrating, because we’ve had this convo before and after every procedure I’ve had, and he still does the same shit. And it’s like, I’m already sick, I don’t feel like having to fight with you in order to get you to understand. It’s the same thing with the insurance company. They sent us another bill for Cayden, to be paid in full, without bothering to charge the insurance first. We’ve called them like 3 times. I don’t want to have to call and yell at people, but if that’s the only way they’ll get it, then fine. But I think it’s crazy that I’m freaking sick and have to argue with them, and call them multiple times. It’s a plot to get me to pay more, because they’re hoping I’m too sick to deal with it, and it’s bull. The same with the doctors, they suck. We called them 3 times during their open hours yesterday and nobody called us back. Then after they closed we had the on call doctor paged. He was pissed because it wasn’t an emergency, but I’ll be pissed if we get billed for a non emergency call. It was an emergency to me, I wasn’t going the whole weekend without pain pills, and if they had called me back like they were supposed too during their open hours, I never would have had to page him.

This whole thing is a mess, and I can’t wait till it’s over. Cayden for a few days was breaking my heart, cuz he was smiling at everyone but me. And now he wants me again, only he wants me to hold him, standing up, which I’m not supposed to do and it hurts so bad to do it. But, when my kid is screaming and that’s what he wants, that’s what he’ll get.

I feel like nobody but my sister is trying to help me. My Mom and Jeremy half ass yell at me when I try to do stuff, but they don’t stop me. When Jeremy had his surgery I did everything for him, and I was 9 months pregnant. I dunno, I get Jeremy’s prolly stressed, he has work and all his work stresses too. I mean I get that he’s prolly over me being sick, but I am too.

Anyway, I think my pain pills just kicked in, finally. I’m feeling light headed so I’m going to go lay down. Sorry for complaining so much, I just can’t wait till this is over.

29 11 2008
gabberjazz

Hey everyone!

sorry it too long for me to check in things have been crazy!!!!!
where to start hmmm Work: is finally in lock down, after everything that happened there were 4 big things first one was when I had to fire my weapon,and 2 small riots then 3 inmates got into it and 2 are dead so its lock down and 3 steak dinners for me lol when ever an inmates dies a bunch of us go out for dinner they have been rehabilitated in our eyes. so we all had a meeting and said we would call WCB and walk out unless they did something is was getting too unsafe for us to do our job safely… so they are in lock down and we are getting a new warden. so we let them out for an hour a day to shower and get exercise and thats it.

As for me and my love life well its mixed upad confusing……..
I am no longer with that guy I decided if he didn’t want me then I am not waiting around for him to find himself so that has been over for awhile..
here is the big problem is my partner confessed his love for me….the problem with this is that I truely love him too BUT he just had a baby and is getting married again in 6 months. We both know he can’t leave….. So I think I am going to request a new partner. I feel like I am losing my best friend….
So this is why I haven’t been around for a bit just trying to sort out my life!

29 11 2008
Witchypoo

Hello there, Ladies…how’s it going? Ummm, yeah, Cloey: even when you’re only at half-mast mentally, you’re still pretty damn quick. It’s my niece’s wedding, and her mother, my sister-in-law, organized and paid for it all. That’s why I said I was surprised about the formality and posh factor…they’re both normally pretty casual and laid-back. Danielle’ is only 18, though…I have a hunch, (Jerry suggested this to me this am), that she’s trying to placate Jared’s, (the bridegroom’s) parents. I guess they’re not pleased with the fact that while Danielle’ has a spiritual belief in some kind of higher power…she’s not really into organized religion. She doesn’t want the wedding to be in a church; it’s going to be in a local lodge on a lake, instead. Imagine the ignorant nerve of her soon-to-be-inlaws informing Linda, (my sister-in-law), that they have a “serious problem with Danielle’s lack of faith”. Holy shit! Do you believe the dimness of that train of thought? And to then VOICE it to the bride’s mother?! I don’t even think the future inlaws attend church regularly or anything. Ridiculous. At least Jared backed up Danielle’ by telling his parents that they were way out of line and to back off – a very good sign of the future success of their union, (in my opinion). No matter whether you disagree with each other over various issues…marital partners need to present a united front to the rest of the world…including to the parents of each, (unless of course, there are unusual circumstances where some sort of abuse or whatever is going on…that’s different). Anyhoo…I was just bitching because the wedding was very last minute, (in the scheme of big weddings, anyway; we got our invitation in October and didn’t hear about the impending marriage until sometime in September). So, we didn’t have a lot of time to prepare – like purchasing all the required clothing, expensive gifts, etc.).

Btw, Goldie…I too support gay rights – very much so. Who’s place is it to determine what makes an “appropriate” union, anyway, besides the individuals involved? People in general are very quick to jump on the self-righteous, stick-up-your-ass bandwagon, trying to dictate how others should live their lives. It’s bullshit…and the legal ramifications of benefits regarding married people are basically just a case of the “HAVES” wanting the “HAVE-NOTS” to remain that way…it comes down to sex and money. Doesn’t just about everything, when you think about it? I always express my support for gay rights, and basically any kind of civil rights, whenever I have the chance. Someday, our society is going to be a more enlightened one…I think we’re on the way, though. To the people who don’t believe that every individual has the right to live Life how he/she wants…FUCK ‘EM. Enough said.

Gabber…glad to hear that the administration of the prison where you work is taking the safety of the guards and other personnel seriously. You partner? Wow…that’s a whole other subject…and I have to go now. More on that later, (fascinating, though).

Take care.

30 11 2008
Janelyse829

Witchy- i am still hating new york. its so cold and just BLAH! lol dont get me wrong, its a beautiful place and in some way i fell in love with it but its just not for me. thats why i want to move to some place warm. Puerto Rico is out of the question. Neither i or Ezi want to go there. too small of a place. everyone knows everyone. Florida is okay but my brother lives there and i love him but im done with people constantly watching over me and telling what to do which is what he does best. i planned to go to California after i graduated high school. i wanted to go to Berkley. but then the whole pregnancy thing happened and kida fucked everything up. so me and Ezi are thinking about moving somewhere warm.

to answer your other question, we are great! i think that was the best thing we could have done as a couple. we had a lot of time to think, talk, sort through a lot of our issues and put a lot of things into perspective. i’ve been spending a lot of time over at his place. i’ve actully been there since tuesday night. got home last night. my mommy missed me lol we havent really argued or anything but we’re kinda struggling with the whole no sex for three months thing. and that chick has completely disappreared. i dunno where she is. she doesnt call, she stopped showing up at the places where i hang out. i dunno she was just desperate. hopefully she found someone else to harrass.

CLO- you mentioned pregnancy. my sister just told my family that she’s pregnant. she retarted. she is six months aslong and she just NOW deided it was time to let us know. i dont get why she couldnt just tell us when she found out. it makes no sense to have waited such a long time. anyway, its a boy. im going to be an autie again. and im thinking. with all the nieces and nephews i have theres really no need to have my own children. i like the fact that i can take care of kids for days/moths as long as i can give them back to their parents lol of course Ezi doesnt feel that way. he said if we break up again and we dont have kids he wilk never have kids cause im the only one he wants to be the mother of his kids. HA!

Rowdy- guys are just naturally jealous freaks who expects us to jump at their every command. so thats prolly why that was the first thing he thought of. however, he should trust you enough to never have to come to that conclusion.

Gabber- i dunno maybe im way wrong but i think that the fact that he told you he loved you 6 months before his wedding, and the fact that the feeling is mutual, is a sign tha aybe he shouldnt go through with this wedding. as far as just having had a baby with this woman, life is unexpected but everything happens for a reason. maybe that guy that you just broke up with wasnt supposed to be a part of your life because something better-like your partner-was coming a long. i dunno. im a romantic.

30 11 2008
Janelyse829

hey, you guys- where is MT? we havent heard from her in a really long time and i was just on the bedroom blog an noticed she posted a comment yesturday. i wonder how she’s doing…

30 11 2008
Clo

Quick update cause I’m at my moms about to eat but:

1. Jeremy and I, and actually my Mom got into a hard core fight yesterday. My mom told me I needed to grow up, which I took a lot of offense too, because all I was asking for was some support while I didn’t feel good. Jeremy said ever since I’ve been on my pain pills I’ve been acting retarded, which made me go off. He said he didn’t understand how he wasn’t helping me, and when I pointed out that he didn’t call and check up on me, he left me alone at the hospital cause he was tired (when I slept in a recliner while being 9 months pregnant to stay downstairs with him after his surgery cause I didn’t want to leave him downstairs alone, and then the day he got the OK, he left me home alone, 9 months pregnant, and sick…) didn’t help me with my pain med situation… The list goes on. Anyway, he pretty much saw that I was right and he sucks. Still, he always admits that, but then things dont change. *sigh* whatever. It sucks, but it seriously is like his only fault, so… My Mom got on her kick like “Laura, I had a husband who left me with three kids (whom she later tried to get back with, and then he died, that was my dad) and then another man who was a cheating asshole, suck it up” pretty much, but I’m like, she stayed in relationships where she wasn’t happy, and that’s on her. You’d think she’d want better for me. Whatever. Anyway, I guess we made up. I can’t and won’t keep her from Cayden, as mad as I get at her, it’s not fair to him but I wish I could, cause sometimes you just want to kick people where it hurts.

Still in a lot of pain. Still on my pain meds which I think I’m getting used too cause they’re hit or miss now on whether or not they make me fuzzy. I’m still highly irritable, so if I talk to you and snap and you I apologize in advance.

Cayden has his 2 month appointment tomorrow. I’m sad cause he’s getting shots! But excited to see how big he is. He’s pretty much in 3-6 clothe sand he’s only 9 weeks.

Gabber I thought of you last night. I’m addicted to this show called Lock up… It’s really neat, but I could never be a prison gaurd, cause I’d be… I forgot what you called it, but the ones that try to get on a prisoners good side or try to figure out what’s wrong? I realize you can’t do that, but I’d still want too, so yeah, I’d suck at the job and prolly get killed. And it sucks about your partner. I’d request a change too, it might get dangerous if you let feelings get in the way…

And Witchy, at first I thought you were talking about lesbians too, and then I got confused cause I didn’t think you lived in a state where that was legal (which, I think is so dumb. People talk about how marriage is a holy union between a man and a woman, and gay people marrying would turn marriage into a joke… But marriage is already a joke. Look at Britney who ran to Vegas and got married for what 72 hours? Or all the people getting divorced every other second. It’s not like straight people take marriage all that seriously anymore. We should let people who really love each other get married.)

I miss MT too!

I miss all you guys. I just feel like I haven’t been me lately, and I’m a little bummed about Christmas. I’m really in the mood to shop, and I’m broke so it won’t happen.

But, I did break down and bought a pair of chucks today, they’re uber cute, but they were super on sale, 10 bucks, go me!
Oh and today or tomorrow I’ll be posting pics of Cayden, you guys should check them out and see how big he’s gotten!

1 12 2008
Witchypoo

Hi, Ladies…how’s it going? Yeah, I guess if I managed to confuse both Goldie AND Cloey regarding the wedding/lesbian/non-lesbian thing…then I must really have been unclear. The wedding is a traditional coupling between a male and female – but I’d be just as enthusiastic to attend a wedding between a same-sex couple, as well. You’re right, Cloey: so many people don’t take marriage seriously; they’re just not willing, or able, to make the required adjustments, compromises, and sometimes sacrifices required to make a long-term relationship flourish and grow. I also think there are many who have NO concept of what they’re getting themselves into; this fact makes coping with stresses and difficulties when they inevitably arise almost impossible.

Gabber, yeah, I’d probably want to separate myself from the situation with your partner, also. All those strong feelings are bound to make things awkward between the two of you at times. I’d also be wary of getting involved with someone who doesn’t seem to be firm in his own convictions of exactly WHO he loves, wants to stay with, etc. I mean, he must have some pretty strong feelings for the mother of his child, also…asking her to marry him, planning a wedding, having a child, etc. Even if you got together with him, wouldn’t you wonder about the possibility of him falling for someone else? That’s just how I’d think; I shouldn’t be putting MY ideas into your head.

Have to run out to get dinner…take care everyone.

1 12 2008
lara21167

Hello ladies!! So much going on… My Thanksgiving was good. Just a quiet meal with my hubby and daughter. Although I made a ton of food lol. My son’s father spent the week before Thanksgiving with him so that was good for him. My niece had her baby on the 28th 8lbs 3oz and he looks very healthy and no withdraws thank God. And she has the Best Boyfriend Ever!! (did I sound like K??) Anyhoo he is not the “father” of the baby but he is in every sense of the word. He is going to adopt him. Ashley and John have been together off and on since she was 13 (she got preggo by someone else on an “off” time) I’ve only met him like 3 times and never had a chance to talk to him, but he was just wonderful to her in the hospital and she was totally bitchy to him. They both have their own problems to work through but they are doing it so I hope everything works out for little Jayden’s sake.

Cloey As I was reading your comments I was getting real concerned about your pain. I think you should insist your doctor check you out to make sure everything is ok. And yes I think your husband and mother should be more supportive. I think your husband is like mine. He doesn’t like seeing you sick and really doesn’t know how to deal with it. Your mother is seeing what a great guy you have compared to her experiences and thinks you should be more appreiciative, which you are. I’m just seeing this from (what I think) is your mother’s point of view. All and all they should have been more caring and handled the doctor for you. I do hope you are starting to feel better…

Rowdy- Could you be retaining water. I know I do sometimes terribly. Use your finger and push and your shins. If it indents and doesn’t “pop” back out that may be the case. I’m not touching the preggo thing, although that sounds like a good reason for gaining unexplained weight. ANd yes do try the portions. Your guys jealousy, maybe he was just feeling insecure. Maybe that’s why he’d been acting funny recently.

Gabber- Do you think you and your partner are reallly in love or do you think it may have something to do with the near death experience you both just went through? Either way he may want to seriously reconsider getting married. Doesn’t sound like he is really ready…

Janey – Hey girl how’d your Thanksgiving go?

Witchy – That is alot having the wedding so close to Christmas. And you know isn;’t getting married in a more natural sourrounding closer to God?? I don’t know why people get so tight assed about religion. And there are so many different religions how do we know what is right?? I believe what I believe and that is that. Churches are just too strict and preach so much Hell and Brimstone.

1 12 2008
lara21167

Oh the mouse. He/she left my office and was seen in the estimator’s office munching on a muffin she had on her desk. Traps were set. Smart little “Mickey” left and went out to the shop where he/she was spotted by one of the shop workers. My printer has died!! The carriage froze up and I couldn’t get it unstuck. I just received my new printer today. And I will make sure it is covered and no mouse can get in it. lol.

1 12 2008
Janelyse829

Lara- my thanksgiving was great. my mom ended up canceling the dinner party cause she didnt feel well but we had a quiet dinner at home. then i went to my cousins house and she was have a dinner party. then i woke up at 4 to do my christmas shopping. I got munchikn this cut little thing. its a gitar and it has a mike stand that actually works so he can play the guitar and sing at the same time. *sigh* i love KB Toys. best store ever!!!

1 12 2008
Clo

i went back to the doc today and they pulled my drainage tube which hurt like hell but they said that may be where all my pain is coming from. however if it doesnt go away in the next couple days i have to go get a cat scan.

Cayden had his appt today as well, which was also horrible. he had 3 shots and has been cranky all day. but we just gave him some tylenol and hooked up this aquarium toy and he seems happy. he’s huge though, almost 14lbs and 24 inches.

jeremy bought rockband for our wii. we prolly shouldnt have spent the money but…. it was on sale and we havent bought anything in awhile and moving picked up this weekend soooo…..

2 12 2008
Janelyse829

im exhausted.
i spent basically all night in the hospital with
Munckin. he had a 104.8 fever and he was hivering
and would cry when i tried to carry him. so we went to the hospital.
he has a double ear infection. threy gave him antibiotics and tylenol.
but now he’s fever is up to 106.2 and he keeps throwing up. if he gets worse
im guessing im going back to the hospital =[

2 12 2008
lara21167

Janey I may be a bit late with this but get that baby to the hospital. That is a dangerously high fever. Also you may not know but you can give tylonal with motrin or advil together for a really high fever, knocks it right down too. The acedimedfin (sp??) and ibuprofen are safe to give together. Let us know how he is doing.

2 12 2008
Janelyse829

Munchkins fever went down to 99.4, thank god!
he’s taking a nap now. he threw up again but i wasnt like before.
hopefully when he wakes up he wont have a fever again

3 12 2008
Janelyse829

witchy- miss you.
havent heard from you today.
hope youre okay!

3 12 2008
lara21167

Cloey too, how are you feeling?

3 12 2008
lara21167

Janey how is Munchkin today?

3 12 2008
Clo

I’m feeling eh. I’m tired of sleeping on my back and I slept wrong last night and now there’s a kink in my neck. I’ve just been in such a constant bad mood lately. Most of my pain is gone, but I have a random pain in my back that I’m a little worried about…

I’m so sick of Christmas and it’s not even here yet. I just feel like such a scrooge this year. I made myself put up our tree but I just didn’t feel like it. I’m just so over it. I dunno why, I thought with a baby I’d be all happy and excited, and I’m just really Bah Humbug.

How is everyone else doing?

3 12 2008
lara21167

The Christmas spirit will hit you Cloey, your just not feeling good right now and i’m sure your tired of not feeling good. Next year will be more fun with Cayden (cute pics btw) then you get to play Santa and all that. Of course as the kids get older you get tired of playing Santa lol. I think it was last year or the year before I got tired of my daughters million questions regarding Santa Clause and just told her the truth. My son found out on his own and he actually got mad about it. He made a comment once about how parents lie to their kids about Santa Clause and all. He got over it though. Hope all is well with everyone else…

3 12 2008
Clo

I don’t think it’ll hit me. I think Christmas is just going to suck this year, and that’s all there is to it. I mean it just blows that we don’t have any money, and I know, I know… Christmas isn’t about the gifts, but… I LOVE giving gifts. More so than getting them. It’s just SO nice to find that PERFECT gift and then the excitement when they open it… I’m also bummed cause we have a tradition of buyinf for toys for tots, or firefighters for kids, or for the FCCS (Franklin County Children Services) but this year we can’t afford it… And we’re not doing any Christmas parties, Jeremy’s work canceled them because of the economy…. It just doesn’t feel like Christmas, and I just want it to be over already.

As far as Santa, my sister has a friend who told her son there’s no Santa right off the bat. It’s funny, cause to piss her off, he tells her there is a Santa, it’s funny. I dunno, either way it’s OK by me. I think it’s nice to have kids believe in Santa, I don’t consider it really lying just…. A childhood right.

3 12 2008
lara21167

I never considered it lying either, I thought it was magical when I was a kid. I have no money to spend either and my daughter wants a ton of stuff. That’s what really got me with Santa and her, she’d ask for expensive things and it’s not like I could say “I can’t afford it” because she’d say santa claus can bring it. But it’s fun when they are real little.

3 12 2008
Clo

lol, just tell her the economy sucks and Santa got laid off 🙂

3 12 2008
Witchypoo

Hello there, Ladies…how’s it going? Sorry I’ve been MIA today; I’m just a little busy. For one, Heath jumped on a nail last night when Jerry was working in the spare room; the nurses I talked to said he’s up-to-date on his dtap, (“t” stands for tetnus, if anyone is wondering). So, I’m just supposed to soak it in warm water several times a day, clean it, and keep the wound covered, (besides watching it for signs of infection, of course). Anyhoo…that means he misses marshall arts today, (the puncture is on the bottom of his foot; it’s sore)…but I still have to pick Beau up from weightlifting, then run Chance to his advanced pitching clinic, (during rush hour, and it’s kind of out-of-the-way). So, I read all your entries…I hope you guys aren’t all bummed out; it sounds like that’s the case. Cloey, anyone would be feeling down after all the medical complications you’ve been going through…not to mention being a new mom. That’s a lot to deal with there; physical conditions affect our moods, (you’re probably feeling worse about not having any money for Christmas shopping than you normally would feel in those circumstances). Try to be patient with yourself…you WILL feel better, sweetie. Lara, Janey…miss you guys…will “visit” later.

Take care everyone.

P.S. Hi, Goldie!

4 12 2008
Janelyse829

Clo- i was laughing retartedly loud after reading what you wrote about santa being laid off. best thing i’ve heard all day. and what a day its been. ill write more later cause munchkin is crying. =[

4 12 2008
lara21167

Good morning ladies!! Yes that was funny about Santa being laid off. And cloey did you watch Rudolph last night. I thought about you, if Rudolph doesn;t get you in the Christmas Spirit nothing will lol.

witchy, I’ve been struggling the past 2 – 3 years financially and am finally getting somewhere. So the economy problem is no big deal to me. My advise to everyone is budget, budget, budget and stick to it!! That’s the hard part 🙂
Poor Heath that had to hurt 😦

4 12 2008
Witchypoo

Good morning, Ladies…how’s everyone today? Janey, is your little munchkin a lot better, I hope? It’s pretty terrible when the babies are sick or hurt; everything else seems pretty unimportant when a loved one isn’t doing well, hugh? Yeah, I got a good giggle out of Cloey’s suggestion for Lara to tell her daughter about poor Santa’s unfortunate lay-off. You ARE a funny girl, Cloey!

Heath’s foot seems to be doing fine; no signs of infection so far, (knock-on-wood). We’re going out this weekend to get our Christmas tree, (we go to a tree farm and make a fun outing of it). Heath keeps telling me that “Dad says I’M going to pick out the tree, Mommie!” He’s SO excited about everything to do with the holidays, this year…lots and lots of questions about when he’s going to see Santa, when we’re getting the tree, are his presants wrapped, (he knows that some are from us and some are from Santa) – the list of questions goes on, and he repeats them about 50 times a day. Hahaha…it’s so fun to see his enthusiasm and wonder.

Cloey, feeling any better emotionally? How’s it going between you and the hubby? Have you seen the commercial, (I think it’s for Johnson & Johnson…or some other huge corporation that we associate with babies, anyway), where the babies are shown sleeping so peacefully and sweetly to the background song of ‘Silent Night’? That commercial first started airing the Christmas right after Heathness was born…it made me cry then, and it still makes me teary-eyed, now. Couldn’t be any more heartstring-tugging…(thinking of Cayden reminded me of it). Each time I see it, I’m reminded how much I love the people closest to me…how that connection is the most important thing in my life.

Hey, Janey…how’s your friend who walked in on her jerk-off fiance’ and her sister? Do you see her much? I hope she’s not sad and lonely during this first holiday season on her own. Or, (and I hope this is the case), maybe she’s already realized how lucky she was to escape at the last minute from a potentially disasterous marriage to a cheating, lying ass – and she’s living it up with other really hot-smart-sweet-funny guys, instead. A nice, chatty lady ringing up my groceries last night at the store was telling me about her sweet 18 year-old son who was feeling down because he didn’t think he’d ever meet “The Girl” for him…someone he’d want to be with forever…and vice-versa. Sometimes being that young and hopeful/worried can be really lonely sometimes…when you look around and don’t see anyone you’d want to get involved with. My heart goes out to young would-be lovers who want a connection, but haven’t found it yet; they don’t yet have the experience to feel confident that the right person for them will eventually show up in their lives, you know?

Hmmm…I don’t know what got me started on that subject; funny mood, I guess.

Take care, Girls.

4 12 2008
Clo

Yay for Heath’s foot! He and I are in the same boat, it seems. Most of my incisions have already closed up, except for where they had my drainage tube in, so we’re watching that/cleaning it. But no infection for me either! I cringed when I read about his foot and a nail, that seems SO painful to me. I guess having a little boy I should get used to that?

hubby and I are ok i guess. We had a knock down drag out fight a few days OK, and he’s been nicer since. I’ve been trying to get into the Christmas mood… Putting up the tree, we bought Cayden’s one “real” present (the rest will be diapers, bottles, paci’s, and maybe some teething rings) we’re going to take him to see Santa (he’s not too young, you think?) Mom wants to take him for the weekend, but idk. my sister has been here all week and all last week to help out (either she was here or Cayden was over there) and she’s been a HUGE help, but i’m ready to be a mom again. I mean it’s kinda annoying when she tries to tell mewhat to do or takes him from me when hes crying. Again, shes just trying to help, but i feel better now so…

i have a call into my doctor cause my back hurts in the spot it did when i had pancreatitis… lol my doc is going to think i am such a hypocondriact.

witchy are the older 2 excited for christmas? I did see that commercial and i love it!

how is evertone else? Lara?

4 12 2008
lara21167

Glad to see you are feeling better Cloey. Also glad to see that Heath;s foot is getting better. I cringe ever time I think of it lol. Cloey don’t feel like a hypocondriact. You hear so much about doctors messing up or missing something. You just have to keep after them if you’re not up to par. My daughter has a chorus concert tonight. She needed a white shirt, so I got her one the other day. it has ruffles on the cuffs and down the buttons soooo cute. She hates it!! She just doesn’t like girly things. I really hope she grows out of that soon… lol

4 12 2008
Clo

Lara, I was like that, lol. I hate girly stuff. I never did grow out of it, but, I had a lot of tom-boy friends who became girly once they hit high school, so you never know.

4 12 2008
Janelyse829

im girly girl but i have my tomboy moments. like when i play football with Ezi and his friends. idk. im just into hair, nails, make up and heels and stuff.

so Munchkin is Def feeling better.
yesturday i was layin on the floor with Ezi and i was on my stomach. Derek [munchkin] told Ezi took at him. then he GRABS my assand says “this is MY booty. not yours!” im laughing and tell him to stop and then he lets go and spanks me then runs away. so then I say “Derek i love you” and he goes “no you dont. he slept in your bed last night. i didnt”

4 12 2008
Clo

So doctor called. I have to go get a spiral ct chest scan tomorrow? I dunno what it is, and it sounds scary and I hope it’s not like the horrible MRI machine. I’m so over tests and hospitals and all this other bullshit.

5 12 2008
Janelyse829

witchy- i forgot to answer your question about Kalayiah. she met some guy named Devin. she hasnt told me if its serious or not. she said that they are havinf fun for the moment. she and Keisha arent speaking yet but Keisha is pregnant and her parents are begging them to work this out becauseof the baby. they dont want it to be born into a “dysfunctional” situation. Keisha doesnt seem to really want the baby anyway. i think she is keeping it to make Kalayiah jealous csuse she really wanted a child with Darrell. in fact the only reason she wanted to marry him was because she thinks that a child should never be born out of wedlock so its obvious that she doesnt agree with what her sister is doing. and i mean Keisha is only 19. Darrell is 24. id be surprised if he actually stayed and took care of them but i dont think he will.

me and kalayiah have a bet going to see how long he’ll stay after the baby is born or if he’ll levae before the baby even gets here

5 12 2008
lara21167

This is totally mean and I know that, but Keisha soooo deserves what is coming to her. The poor baby doesn’t though. And I hate to inform her parents but this baby is already going to be born in a dysfunctional situation. Do they even realize what Keisha did was wrong?? Sounds like they are turning a deaf ear to the whole mess.

Cloey that does sound scary, what exactly are they looking for? Hopefully the test won’t be as bad as the MRI. We’ll be sending positive vibes your way.

Oh Janey, Munchkin and his ass grabing, you better put a stop to that before he starts school. A couple years ago there was an article is our local paper where a Kindergardener, a little boy, was charged with sexual assault for grabbing or smacking a little girls rear end. I don’t know whatever became of that, our news media never follows up on anything. But I thought that was sooo ridiculas. He didn’t really know what he was doing, he just needed a talking to.

The chorus concert went great, I really need to invest in a camera a disposable if nothing else lol. Anyhoo I must say Kristy looked the most stylish of all the girls. SHe had her cute white top and black capris, which were a bit tight, actually they fit great just made me a bit uncomfortable I guess because I’m used to seeing her in baggy pants. And she wore low heal suede shoes, that were mine. And complained they were unconfortable. I told her “welcome to the world of women’s shoes” lol. You know what is pathetic though? THe kids had to tell the parents how to act during the concert. The had a whole speach, they wrote, on proper etiquette at a chorus concert.

5 12 2008
Clo

lol I remember my choir concerts. We always had to wear black strappy shoes, no flip flops. I hope she did well. You should invest in a digital camera. I know off the bat they’re a little expenisve, but they’ll save you in printing, because you’ll be able to see what prints you want and what you don’t, and you can also save the pictures until you’re ready to print.

As for the test, I didn’t go. I called the radiology department last night to ask why they would do a chest spiral, and they said to check the lungs. When I was in the doctor the first time, I was complaining of a couple of things, one of which was shortness of breath, and this dull constant pain in my back that was like when I had pancreatitis. Anyway, the doc told me if the shortness of breath continued after they removed the tube, then they’d have to do a CT scan to check my lungs for clots. Well, the shortness of breath stopped, but not the pain. I dunno if it’s sore from where they cut out my gall bladder, or I’ve read that you can et pancreatitis after a gall bladder removal. Anyway, I dunno if the pain can be a side affect of blood clots, but I don’t think I have a clot. I’d much rather them draw blood first and check my labs, which is less expensive than a CT, and then do a CT. I said yes to the CT because I thought they were looking at my pancreas, but when I called the radiology lab they said that they were looking at my lungs, and that a chest CT would only get my lungs and heart.

So I’m just hoping my doctor doesn’t get mad. But, in the end, it me that pays the hospital bill, so… I’d rather check this first and rule it out before they order yet another test that’s going to cost me a couple hundred dollars.

I was thinking the other day and I think it’s crazy health care isn’t free. In some states, suicide is illegal, but by not taking care of your health, you’re basically committing a lower form of suicide. It’s not a want, it’s a need, and I really think all basic needs should be free.

5 12 2008
lara21167

If that’s the same CT scan I’ve had, it really isn’t much to it. But your right they are probably looking in the wrong place. And it may just be pain from the surgery. I really hope our new president will be able to do something with it. Unfortunatley it’s not entirely up to him. And I don’t see a problem with going with a socialistic healthcare system. Healthcare and insurance is so expensive. I finally realized that I qualify for the state’s children’s healthcare so that has saved me a bunch of money. My company pays for me only. My husband has no insurance, because I just can’t afford it. Just for him it’ll cost me over $100/week.

Ok I have to write out this Etiquette thing the kids wrote for the parents for last night. It’s really cute:

” We have worked really hard on our performance tonight. We would really appreciate your cooperation on following our concert etiquette guidelines. Please enter the auditorium quietly and take a seat. Once seated, you may quietly and calmly talk with your neightbors around you until we enter onto the stage. While you are talking, please make sure your cell phones and pagers are turned off or on silent. We hope that you will be able to STOP TEXTING FOR AT LEAST 15 MINUTES! When we enter onto the stage you may applaud, but don’t call out our names and embarrass us horribly! Please refrain from using the following “that’s my baby boy” or “my little angel” or “my little cutie pie” Please do not hoot or holler for this is not a footballe game! Once we begin, please stay seated and silencio your yappers! If you need to leave the auditorium for any reason, please wait for applause before you stand to exit or enter. Please keep our sisters, and brothers, and cousins, and nieces, and nephews, and babies, and any small children seated and quiet during the performance. If someone starts to cry or needs to go potty, please exit the auditorium quickly and quietly until they are ready to come back in. We will be dismissed when the concert is over. We hope you like our singing and enjoy hearing us do something unbelievably awesome. Thank you for all of your support!”

I thought that was really cute.

5 12 2008
Janelyse829

Lara- Derek only grabs my butt.
he knows better.
i already sat him down and told him how to
properly treat his little female friends and what not to do to make
them feel bad or embarrassed and i told him how not to be rude
or verbally/physically disrespectful. he knows the rules and he knows that
he will have consequences if he breaks those rules!!! theyre never too young to learn manners/respect.

he just did it cause thats the way he and Ezi fight

5 12 2008
Clo

Lara-

That was super cute. And, btw I loved the kid’s say the dardnest things you emailed me the other day. I laughed my butt off.

The in laws have struck again. I guess it’s not really the in laws, so much as my mother in law. I feel bad for my father in law, cause I have a feeling we’d see him tons more if it weren’t for her. But I am so done, and my husband is no help. I don’t get it. My Mom smokes, and he didn’t like that, so he asked me to talk to her about not smoking in the house when the baby was over, and to get an air purifier. And I did. It was uncomfortable for me, because a.) how am I going to tell a grown woman she can’t smoke in her own house? I mean, my Mom understood, but it was still really uncomfortable. b.) air purifiers can get expensive, especially the size needed for Mom’s house. She had already spent SO much money helping us, and it just made me feel guilty asking her to spend more money. But, I did it. Cause I agreed that I didn’t want Cayden around the smoke, and since she’s my Mom, I felt it was MY responsibility.

We’ve had issues with Jeremy’s parents EVERY TIME we meet them someplace, or they come over here. If we go to their house, it’s us controlling when we get there, and when we leave, so it’s no big deal. However, either they show up super early, super late, or stay forever, or cancel at the last minute. Like I said, I know things come up, so showing up a little early, or a little late, or having to cancel every once in awhile…

Anyway, this time I realized we hadn’t seen/heard from them in like 2 weeks. Last time we saw them, they tried to give us a guilt trip about how big Cayden had gotten and how they needed to see him more. So I decided to call them and schedule a time to get together. We planned for tonight. Keep in mind we planned this on Sunday, and hammered out a time/place on Tuesday.

My husband calls me today, at 3, 3 and 1/2 hours before we’re supposed to get together. My Mother in law has randomly decided that it’s not a good idea to get together, because it’s a friday and we were planning on going out to dinner with them, and then going back to their house for a little bit, and she thinks that all the resturaunts are going to be too busy, and by the time we get out of their, it’ll be too late to hang out. So, rather than waiting and seeing if that’s true, and at least getting to see Cayden for a few hours even if it IS true, she decides just to cancel all together.

I’m angry because she knew ALL week what day and time we were getting together, she had ALL week to cancel, giving us time to plan something else. Second of all, he’s changed so much, and I think it’s crazy that they don’t want to see him. Third of all, she didn’t even try to think of an alternative, like picking up dinner and eating it at their house.

So I suggested that to my husband, and he called them, and they want us to eat before we come. So now, instead of getting a nicer meal, we’re supposed to eat fast food, which I don’t really want, so we can go run over there. And the whole fucking thing just makes me so angry. Like one, why am I the only one trying to figure out how THEY can see him? And two, why is it that we always have to adjust our schedules to theirs?

So, I explained to my husband that I was mad. I explained that when we had a problem with my Mom, I spoke to her, because she’s MY mom, and he should be the one to talk to his parents. He said they’ve gotten better, and I asked him how, when they’re still doing the same shit. He didn’t have an answer, I asked him if he wanted me to talk to them, he said yes. I said I’m not going to be nice, and I’m not going too. Nice obviously hasn’t worked. So I’m just going to tell them, I’m tired of you being rude and inconsiderate, I’m tired of you acting like our world should revolve around yours, I’m tired of showing up early, or late, or canceling at the last minute, so until you get it together, you just won’t see me or Cayden. I don’t want to keep their Grandson from them. But that’s the whole point, it should be about him, and since we’re the ones who need to pack him up and get him ready and “lug” him around, we’re the ones who’s schedule needs to be adhered too.

5 12 2008
lara21167

Good luck Cloey, but it needs to be done. My mother in law gets like that with the eat before you come thing. Sometimes she’ll practically forse feed you and other times its “eat before you come” like we mooch off her or something. lol Your mother in laws’ inconsideratness (is that even a word??) has to be delt with and neither your husband or his father are going to stand up to her. Hope it all goes well.

That’s good janey, I just thought that little kindergardener thing was ridiculas, I mean the kid probably saw something on TV or saw his dad grab his mom’s rear end or something and thought it was ok. To charge him with sexual harrassment is just crazy. Wish I knew what happened with that…

Well ladies ya’ll have a great weekend, “talk” to you on Monday.

6 12 2008
Janelyse829

well its 10:15 and i just finished cleaning.
yay! i can relax the rest of the day.
i woke up at 6:30 and started cleaning and now i think im gonna go back to sleep =]

HAPPY SATURDAY

6 12 2008
Janelyse829

ok im bored =[

7 12 2008
Witchypoo

Hey, Ladies…has anyone seen that the Joe Hottie site is back up with a new “boy-of-the-week”? Yeah, I didn’t feel like going to bed and was just sitting up looking at whatever on the internet… (late on Saturday night), decided to go to the Cosmo site to see if anything new is on ‘Bedroom Blog’ – and somehow or other, (not sure what I hit, but it was an accident, since I didn’t really think Cosmo would be starting up the Hottie blog anytime soon), the blog popped up. I’m tired and a little fuzzy in the head, so at first I thought it was just an old Hottie post from whenever; after a minute or so I realized that it’s a new author…and he’s posted 3 times already! What do you think of that? Hmmm…not sure why this fresh-off-the-press news should be so compelling. Giggle-giggle, (like you, Janey, I must be a little bored or something).

Take care, and nightie-night, Girls.

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