Happy Birthday and a Growing Puppy

9 04 2009

YAY for birthdays! Im such a birthday snob too. Its “officially” my birthday at least a week before the actual day lol (which is today). Its been a pretty good birthday too so far.

Sunday night Ape and myself went out with a handful of friends (a couple, a friend of mine from work and his sister) to this awesome thai place that has a singing thai elvis who sang me happy birthday. Then Ape, myself and my friend Jen went over to The Beer Garden, our local bar, and met up with another couple we are friends with and some of their friends. Monday was a tough day coming into work after all the partying.

Then tuesday night his sister came back over and we all went out to dinner together at our favorite chinese place… and then last night he took me out to a special dinner, just us two, to a japanese curry place.

 

And because i dont have pictures of that… lol… here are some more pictures of the baby:

 

 

with-gramma

 

she loves falling asleep on me... or she just loves sleeping

she loves falling asleep on me... or she just loves sleeping

nappy time!

nappy time!

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119 responses

9 04 2009
lara21167

Ahhhhh!!!! She’s soooo cute. And Happy Birthday to you……. Sorry not a very good singer lol. Glad you having a great birthday!!!

9 04 2009
janey

Rowdy.! HAPPi BiRTHDAY.!!!
im glad you are having such wonderful time.
nd the puppy is soooo cute<3

10 04 2009
Clo

Happy birthday!

And she IS getting so big so fast!

10 04 2009
WItchypoo

Goldie…may the birthday girl have a incredibly great WEEK…and an awesome year, for that matter! Your “baby” looks very content; so cute.

Take care.

10 04 2009
janey

Teens Addicted to Death like Men Addicted to Sex

If people keep dyin’
i dont know what i’m qoinq to do…
for me, it comes to this:
Heaven or Hell, which one do i choose?
could escaping to the fiery depths of insanity for eternity have helped?
did it erase or magnify all the pain you felt?
what about me? my pain, the one you created?
that qot me thinkin, were these suicides related?
whatever the problem talkinq is better than takinq
leaving loved ones behind, cryinq, broken and shakinq
when you talk, you try, when you take, you die
i wish you were here to tell me why
why you chose to die instead of try

10 04 2009
WItchypoo

supposed to read: have AN incredibly great…blah, blah, blah.

10 04 2009
janey

Poem is not done.
i will post the rest of it later. this is just what i got done to day
tomorrow i will write the rest. um, i guess i should explain subject.
about a month and a half ago maybe clo may have notices but i had R.i.p Jalissa as my name on myspace. she was a friend of mine and she committed suicide.
[i havent talked to you guys or anyone else for that matter about it cause i wasnt ready.] but after her death 5 more teens from my area also comitted suicide and another one of my friends was among them. she died last night and i just found out two hours ago. the other four were from the high school. on the news last week they informed parents that our school district had reported 12 suicide attempts over the weekend and all those students were in the hospital under suicide watch. so tht is why i wrote the poem. like i said. im not done. i might add to it tomorrow.

10 04 2009
lara21167

OMG Janey, what is up with that. Are they doing some kind of mass suicide thing. What on earth could be that bad that you’d take your own life. How are you handling this Janey? We are here if you want to talk.

10 04 2009
janey

i d0nt know whats wrong but it is starting to worry me. i mean im really sad that Jalissa and Ashley died. but this looks like its becoming the new trend in town. i really hope not. and whatever it is that these kids are doing, i hope it doesnt catch up with my sister and my cousins. i really would go crazy if i lost one of them. one of the girls that died, Mary was 15 and three months pregnant. and Cherelle was only 14. i mean she was barely starting High school. she was related to my best friend and its just sad. im trying not to let it affect me as much as it should because i want to have a clear head and not be depressed and stuff in case my sister or my cousin ever want to talk to me about something that they are going thru i could actually help them and not just give an example that its ok to feel bad and not tell anyone, cause trust me, i kno its not.

10 04 2009
lara21167

14 years old i just can’t imagine. You just can’t think of it too hard cause yes it will really depress you. In my area a 22 year old fell off of scaffolding and died. A Maryland state legislator’s son ran his motorcylce into the side of a tractor trailer that had pulled out in front of him (300 ft skid mark, he must have been flying) and died, 22 years old. Then the Angels baseball player that died in that car wreck yesterday, he was 22 as well. He went to the same High School I did. Which is Williamsport high school in Williamsport Maryland, not Silver Spring Maryland as the national news reported. Just so much death and destruction. You can’t let it get to you. You have to focus on the good things that are going on. and there is alot of good out there.

10 04 2009
Clo

Our highschool was called suicide high. We had a kid die every year at least,which may not seem like a ton, but statistics show in a school of around 400 is really insanely high, and so many attempts that they pretty much stopped counting. My freshman year a kid in my class did it, he had just turned 15.

They say when one attempt actually goes through, the number of attempts climb. And they actually say boys are more likely to die than girls, because girls tend to pick things like overdosing or slitting their wrists… Things that take time and give them more time to be saved. Boys tend to go for things that are more instant, like guns. Everyone who died in our school hung themselves. Including my sisters ex, who died recently.

I dunno, I’m weird about suicides, because I won’t say I don’t care, it’s just… I’ve been through so many attempts (including my own), and so many successful ones, that I just don’t… I dunno what the word is I’m looking for. I almost want to say that I don’t think they’re sad, but that’s not right either. They are sad, that someone that young especially would feel so hopeless, but… I dunno. I don’t know what I’m trying to say.

Now I’m pulling a Rowdy, and I’m late now. Which, I’m not really all too too worried about, my period’s been wonky and playing hide and go seek since I had Cayden. And I keep going back and forth about taking a test. On the one hand I’m like, just wait, because you’ll probably get it in a few days and it’ll save you the money of taking a test for no reason.

So I was out and about yesterday, running errands, and I’m like… Maybe I should just go pick up and test and get it over with. But I had my sister with me, and I didn’t want her to know. And I could have snuck and got one on the sly, but I didn’t really feel well (I’ve been feeling like poop lately, I’ve got this headache I can’t get rid of, and also TMI, but diarreah, which worries me a little because while I’m sure that’s not a sign of pregnancy, it happened to me when I was pregnant with Cayden, for the WHOLE pregnancy) so while sitting in the parking lot waiting for my sister to get out of the store I was like “Well, if I see a pregnant lady I’ll take it as a sign and go get a pregnancy test” (Am I the only one who plays this “sign” game?)

So needless to say, I didn’t see one. So then we went grocery shopping today, and again I was thinking I should go get one, only I was with my Mom which makes it ten million times worse because my sister wants me to have another baby soon, my Mom does NOT. So I was waiting for them, and what do I see? A pregnant woman. So then I’m thinking OK, maybe that was my sign. And I was like nah, that was yesterday. I was like, OK, if I’m supposed to take a test, show me another pregnant lady.

And five minutes later, no joke, there was a pregnant lady. And then I proceded to see like 2 more.

I mean it was wal-mart, so it probably means nothing, but now I’m super parnanoid.

10 04 2009
lara21167

No worrying about being pregnant until 2 missed periods in a row lol. I know can’t always keep from worrying

10 04 2009
Clo

Ha, with Cayden I barely missed one. I dunno. I feel sick is the thing. Not pregnancy sick, and not even ill sick, I just feel icky. And it’s been coming and going for the past couple weeks so I wish it would just go.

And this headache is really pissing me off. I’m in such a foul ass mood right now, lol.

10 04 2009
janey

hey guys.
um i have sort of good news i guess.
im applying for a summer college program at Dartmouth.
hopefully i will get accepted and i if i like it i will finally make my decision
about whether or not i really do want to go to college

10 04 2009
Clo

Rowdizzle, I’m reading the second Jen Lancaster book. First of all, I totally laughed out loud at the part where she’s at the gyno and they want her to give herself breast exams and write in a journal and she said “January: got to second base with myself…” Totally cracked up.

And then, I was started laughing when she said Fletch went to Westerville, Ohio.

That’s like 15 minutes from me, which isn’t what made me laugh. My in laws live there. I don’t know, since he was there on strike I could just picture my MIL being there and causing the strike. It was a funny picture in my head.

10 04 2009
Clo

oh, yeah. And the part where she doesn’t know what to cook cuz Fletch is out of town? Jeremy’s at work. I’m going to eat a bowl of Coco puffs.

heh.

11 04 2009
janey

cloey- that sounds sooo relaxing. hehe.
hope u r. is Cayden still sleeping thru the night?
i hope he is. the last time u talked about sleep u sounded like you really needed some

11 04 2009
Clo

Lol< it wasn’t relaxing, it was kinda annoying. I wanted real food, but we didn’t really have any in the house, so I settled on Coco puffs, kinda like this chica in the book settles on lucky charms.

And Cayden is kinda sleeping through the night. I’m still wicked tired though, so I’m not sure what’s going on. Cayden tends to get up once or twice, and usually Jeremy since he has a new shift at work, tends to get up with him.

11 04 2009
janey

thats cool. at least you get the extra sleep since your r with hima all day.

so you know how you guys said you hated birds?
i went to change the water in the bird cage and Baby bit me.!
i was madd. lol Sunshine likes me. Baby? not so much.

hangin out with Stephon today. we were goin to go bowling but hes been working all week and hes tires so we will prolly just rent a movie and stay in.
and im kinda nervous about it. we havent had sex yet and i kno we might today [we came pretty close last sunday] and i dunno. i want to do it with him but i have a strong feelin that maybe i shouldnt or i should at least wait a little longer. i think that maybe im just scared cause Ezi is the only guy ive ever been with and im kinda worried that he wont be able to please me like Ezi did.

what are everyone elses plans for the weekend??

11 04 2009
WItchypoo

Hey, Ladies…how’s it going? Well, Janey…we’re going to my mother-in-law’s on Easter Sunday. Today, just some chores and little things around the house. This is the first weekend in a long time that we don’t have every minute crammed with activities and obligations. So…we’re going to enjoy it.

If you’re unsure about sleeping with Stephon, maybe you should wait. Do you have a concrete reason to worry about him not getting you going…or are you just nervous because you only have Ezi to compare with? When you’ve only slept with one person, sometimes it feels nearly impossible that you’d ever be able to relax with someone else. These things can just build up in your mind; rarely is it as bad as you envision it to be. You think a lot, hugh, Janey?

Take care.

11 04 2009
janey

lol, yes witchy, i DO think a LOT.
some people thinks its actually a good thing,
but many times over thinking/analyzing things has
kept me from doing things that ive really wanted to do.
you r prolly right. since ive only ever been with Ezi
i only kno wht pleases him. i dont want Steph to think
im not good in bed. and i havent had any since Ezi and i broke up.

11 04 2009
Clo

Janey I think everybody knows when you first sleep with someone it’s usually kinda awkward (I know there are some couples who just hit it off, but usually you don’t) So I wouldn’t worry too much about it. If you want to sleep with him, then do it. If you don’t feel comfortable, then wait. I mean you could always have that conversation with him – tell him that you’ve only been with one person and you’re a little nervous to have sex with him. I would say if you’re not comfortable telling him all that yet, then you probably shouldn’t be having sex.

Today we went grocery shopping, which I am not a fan of. I might be heading over to the hospital later, my friend texted me that her boyfriends Mom had a heart attack and has to have a bypass either tomorrow or Monday. I love her boyfriend, and while I’ve never met his Mom, the hospital is like right around the corner from me, and they plan to stay there all night. So it’s nothing for me to drop off some food or a pillow or something, to help make them more comfy. Or they might come over to grab a shower or some sleep. Then the rest of the afternoon, we’re doing egg coloring tonight and a bbq, and then tomorrow we’re headed to my Mom’s for easter. I’m kinda excited. My Aunt is supposed to be coming. She’s an alcoholic, which you know, is pretty much what my family is, but she’s had a rough time, and had a falling out with my mom (long story) but I think they finally made up so, I’m excited to see her.

I think that’s all we got. I need to finish Cayden’s easter basket.

11 04 2009
WItchypoo

Yeah, Cloey said what I forgot to include: communication, communication, communication. If you can talk to him about these issues comfortably, and he’s able to empathize and reassure you… then it’s probably the right time, assuming you’re geared up physically. If you can’t talk to him openly yet, then waiting is the smartest thing to do.

We, (Jerry & I), have to do the Easter basket thing, too. Usually, since Beau & Chance are older, they just give us ideas about what they want. Heath is fun, since he’s little enough to please no matter what. He’s been begging for “Wolverine Claws”, a lot lately, though. So, we’ll be looking for those. Sheez. Hahaha.

Take care.

11 04 2009
Clo

It’s hard when he’s this little because I want to do something (especially since my Mom and Jeremy’s Mom made him a basket, I feel like I need to give him his actual first basket.) but I mean, he can’t eat candy, so what am I supposed to stick in there?

I got a few board books, and a soft book and a few toys. That’s pretty much it.

12 04 2009
janey

okay guys, i finished the poem.
i know its about death but i came out REALLY good.
let me kno wht you think…

Teens addicted to death like men addicted to sex

If people keep dyin’
i dont know what i’m qoinq to do…
for me, it comes to this:
Heaven or Hell, which one do i choose?
could escaping to the fiery depths of insanity for eternity have helped?
did it erase or maqnify all the pain you felt?
what about me? my pain, the one you created?
that qot me thinkin, were these suicides related?
whatever the problem talkinq is better than takinq
leaving loved ones behind, cryinq, broken and shakinq
when you talk, you try, when you take, you die
i wiish you were here to tell me why
why you chose to die instead of try
understandinq, you didnt want to sit in your room and cry
had you waited a little bit lonqer
you’d have realized that qettinq thru it would have made you stronqer
instead you took the easy way out
fearinq no one would care if they heard you scream, cry, and shout
you held it in, let your heart break, your feelinqs overcome you, didnt let it out
you could have asked for help, did you feel ashamed?
wondered if people would look at you the same?
they could have saved your life
but now i sit here, ponderinq on how to say goodbye

12 04 2009
WItchypoo

I like it, Janey.

Take care.

12 04 2009
WItchypoo

Well Cloey, what you got sounds about right for Cayden’s first Easter basket. He’ll be begging you for candy and toys soon enough, anyway. We actually found the Wolverine claws that Heath has been wanting so much at the first place we went to…a pleasant surprise. We got him those, plus a spiderman backpack/container thingy that we’re putting candy and little toys like bubbles and things in. The two older spawn got nice head phones for ipods, game control thingy-ma-jigs, (basically, assorted electronics), and some candy. We hide their presants along with the candy and colored eggs…they look for all of it on Easter morning. Heath can’t wait…keeps asking questions about the Easter Bunny.

Take care.

12 04 2009
Clo

Part of me can’t wait for Cayden to be excited about this stuff, but part of me can cause it means I probably won’t be able to get away with giving him his “needs” anymore, or at least not for the majority of his gifts.

I do want to do things though, like easter egg hunts. Tonight we dyed easter eggs and nobody wanted to do it with me. I’m such a kid when it comes to crap like that. My Mom used to hide our easter baskets and make us find them. I want to do that too. However, we still get easter baskets from my Mom. She says every year she’s not going to do it, but she still does, and I don’t really know how I feel about that. On the one hand I’m like whoo hoo free candy, but on the other hand I’m like, I’m 23 years old with my old child. It’s no wonder my brother and sister still act like 4 year olds.

12 04 2009
WItchypoo

I think it’s really sweet that your Mom still wants to hang onto a little of her babies’ childhood eras by gifting with Easter baskets. There’s a part of most mommies, (the ones who really care), that will ALWAYS think of her children as her special babies. Wow…that sounds kind of strange & demented when I reread it. Oh well. Moms are Moms forever. Your Momma loves you all enough to show it through affectionate gestures: very nice.

Take care.

12 04 2009
WItchypoo

In that line of thinking, sometimes I try to envision what kind of girl/woman each of my guys winds up with. I have only one requirement for me to LOVE whatever female they drag over my threshhold: she must be crazy about my little boy, (however that translates in her behavior…I’m sure it will vary from girl-to-girl). No, I don’t mean that I want her to be a doormat for my son, (whichever son we’re talking about). I just want to be able to tell that she has a deep and consistent love/affection for him…and will give him the benefit of the doubt in most situations…and will try to treat his feelings tenderly, and will be loyal and true and honest. Of course, I picture my boys treating whatever girl they fall for with the same consideration, respect, and affection. I am a complete SUCKER for anyone who likes and appreciates my boys: coaches, teachers, other parents, peers, girlfriends Beau and Chance have already had…etc. Anyone who likes my guys and treats them well is a-ok by me, and they can come over and grace my couch whenever they feel like it. I mean, she could have a hunchback and a hairy wart on her nose, and talk in monosyllables, saying, “Duuuuuuh?!” a lot – but if she’s good to my guy, and he’s crazy about her, too…then I’m going to do cartwheels and dance the congo at their wedding, you know? (Btw…all the former would also apply if the “she” in question happened to be a “he”, instead. Though, so far I haven’t seen any indication of that).

Why am I following this line of thinking? I don’t know, exactly…other than I’ve been reading some of the comments on the Bedroom Blog, and Hottie’s blog, and all that about dating, mating, falling in love, etc…and we’re, (Cloey and I), have been talking about our little guys and all that. I don’t know. Beau was just telling me about his latest girlfriend, so there’s that, too.

Take care.

12 04 2009
WItchypoo

Congo? I guess that’s supposed to read: conGA, hugh? Sheez.

Nightie-Night.

12 04 2009
Clo

I worry about Cayden getting married, or even dating. I want to be able to teach him how to be nice to girls, but also how not to be a doormat either. But, then I worry too, because of my relationship with MY mother in law… I want to be able to remain close when Cayden is older, like my Mom and I are, but not overstep any boundaries you know?

Sometimes I think girls go into marriages hearing enough stories about having a monster in law, that they make their mother in law that, even if she’s not. And my Mother in law is TOTALLY annoying, but, I know underneath it all she means well, you know?

12 04 2009
janey

HAPPY EASTER EVEYONE.!

hope you guys have a wonderful day with your families.!

12 04 2009
WItchypoo

Yes, Cloey, I think I can relate to your worries/doubts where your son and females are concerned. Chances are, though, that if you’re close with Cayden in the first place…he’ll be able to convey that to the girl he becomes serious about. Assuming his judgement is good, he’ll be with a woman who is reasonable and intelligent enough to comprehend that it’s in everyone’s best interests to have a decent relationship with you. If she cares about Cayden, she won’t want to be a divisive factor in your relationship with him. I’m hoping my boys exercise good judgement with women. I figure, between three of them, at least ONE of them will have to wind up with a girl I can embrace. Hahaha…I”ll plaster a grin on my face either way and we’ll all get along just fine. That’s the plan, anyway.

Happy Easter, Ladies.

Take care.

12 04 2009
janey

okay. goin on my third cup of iced coffee.
i think im becomin addicted lol

13 04 2009
Clo

I forgot to tell you guys, my friends boyfriends Mom had to have Quadruple bypass this morning. Eek. So far so good, the surgery went fine, so as long her recovery is good she should be OK, but it just scares me a little.

My Mom smokes like crazy and has already had several scares re: heart attacks. No real ones yet, but like a little over two years ago, she didn’t feel good and went to the ER where they told her she might be having one. Turned out it was just a REALLY nasty case of pnemonia (she had it in both upper and lower lung or something like that) but still… My Uncle (my Mom’s brother) underwent either double or triple bypass a couple years back too, and my Dad died of a heart attack (his third one got him.) They were all smokers, but it’s another reason why I want to lose weight. However, I’m crazy concerned with my Mom. She was overweight, but lost a ton of weight on the atkins, which is SO not good for you, and her diets consist of meat and salads and cheese. Seriously, nothing else.

I dunno, now I’m on a tangent about nothing. But hey, send out good thoughts to my friends please? He’s a super nice guy, so I’m sure his Mom is too.

13 04 2009
janey

hey guys.
thanks about the guy advise [i forgot to thank you yesterday]
today we were at his house and things were heating up
so i stopped him and talked to him about it like you
guys said to do and he was totally fine with it. then we just got comfy
and things sorta happened on their own :]

cloey- ill bey sending good thoughts to your friends mom
i hope she gets better soon.

13 04 2009
lara21167

Janey if I’d been around this weekend I’d have given you the same advise withcy and cloey did, glad you took their advise. Your Poem, Do you think your Local paper would print that or something. I think you need to see about getting it out where these kids can see it and maybe it’ll get through to them. When someone commits suicide they just don’t think how it effects everyone. Your poem may open their eyes.

Hope everyone had a Happy Easter. Mine was fine, nothing exciting. I haven’t been feeling well either, and yesterday was bad. Going to the Doc this morning.

13 04 2009
janey

lara- thnx.! my easter was fine. nothing too exciting either lol
i was thinkin ehrn thr kids come back from break i would see about getting it printed in the high schools newsletter
i hope you feel better soon.!

13 04 2009
janey

supposed to say WHEN THE kids…blah blah blah

13 04 2009
lara21167

yea, I was thinking that too. I am sure the school would allow it. And who knows you may save a life.

13 04 2009
janey

ugh. so tell me guys.
is bein addicted to coffee bad??
cause like yesterday i had four cups of iced
coffe and im alreaday workin on my second today.
:]

nd i my throat feels kinda iffy.
its this stipud weather change :[

also im postin new pic on myspace today
of my new hair color and baby and sunshine

13 04 2009
janey

ohk. pics are up.

13 04 2009
lara21167

I’ll check your pics later. Its caffine your addicted too. Just start cutting back. I only drink 1 cup of coffee a day, but I take excedrine for my headaches. and get caffine withdraw if I don’t take them. I’m not supposed to have them because of my stomach, but it is the only thing that helps my headaches. Then talking about addiction, my one doc put me on xanax and I ran out of them and had a horrible aniexty attack, so I went to the doc this morn and he gave me paxil and lorazapan (to take until the paxil kicks in). I hate taking medicines.

13 04 2009
Clo

Be careful with paxil. I’m not a fan of that. That’s what I was on when I tried to kill myself. Turns out they weren’t supposed to give it to teenagers. I found out later my friend was on the same medication around the same time, and ended up pretty much having the same side affects as me.

And I don’t drink coffee. I think it’s gross.

13 04 2009
lara21167

I was just reading up on Paxil. Yea it says not recommended for under 22 or something like that. I don’t like any of those medications. I liked the xanax, it has an almost uphoric (sp) “a happy pill” haha, But it’s highly addictive. The Paxil though, I think I should call my gastrologist and make sure it’s ok to use. Saw a mention of letting the doc know if you’ve had stomach ulcers and I don’t know If that goofball I see knew that without looking at my file, which he didn’t do.

13 04 2009
janey

hehe, clo really?
i LOVE coffee.
i would be the crankiest person if
i didnt have a cup as soon as i fished getting ready in the morning.
it helps me wake up. i dont really like hot coffee tho. i always drink
iced coffee. it tastes better to me.

13 04 2009
Clo

Uh uh, coffee is gross. Everyone tells me it’s an aquired taste, like beer, but I think both are digusting and want to know why I would want to drink enough of gross tasting stuff to get used to it.

13 04 2009
lara21167

You have a point Cloe. If you don’t like something, especially if it’s not good for you, why drink enough to aquire a taste. I;ve always liked coffee with cream and sugar, but I just can’t drink much, gives me the jitters. lol.

Janey love the hair, and the birds are pretty. Talking about not liking birds or rather the movie “The Birds” I took Ginger out to pee the other night, it was dark and I was standing under a tree. Must have been a bird roosting in the tree above my head. All I know is that all of a sudden all I heard was flapping wings. I screamed and ducked. Ginger my fearless pup (who goes up to dogs 3 times her size and snaps at them!!) ducked too. Then we ran back to the apartment.

13 04 2009
janey

thanks.!
baby doesnt really like me but sunshine is a cutie.!

14 04 2009
Clo

I should be picking up the apartment right now, I just got Cayden down for the night. But instead I’m making up fake missed connections on craigslist for fun.

14 04 2009
Clo

Ohhh, and Rowdy, I finished Bright Lights, Big ass, and am now onto the 3rd book. Now I’m off to baby center’s book club to see if I can get anymore book suggestions.

14 04 2009
janey

officially sick.
goin to the doc tomorrow.
persistent headache, throwin up, fever and my throat is on fire

14 04 2009
lara21167

Janey, hope you feel better.

14 04 2009
janey

me too :[[
i couldnt sleep last night cause i kept
throwin up. i feel so0o0o0o crappy.

14 04 2009
lara21167

Is anyone following the story on the little girl murdered in CA. They say it was the littles girl’s Sunday school teacher, and they are saying that this woman raped the little girl with a foriegn object. I just can’t understand what would make a person, especially a woman with a daughter of her own, do something so horrible. It’s just awful!!

14 04 2009
janey

no i havent heard but thts disgusting.!
ew. y would anyone do tht to a child???

14 04 2009
lara21167

I guess it shocks me because it was a woman. You hear about men doing sick things like that all the time. But not women.

14 04 2009
lara21167

I think you guys freaked me out with talking about “The Birds” Then that little incident while taking Ginger out. I went home at lunch to take Ginger out, and when I went around the corner of the apartment complex, sitting on the ground was a huge bird. Looked like some kind of hawk or some scavanger bird. I took off then on the way out I saw, either the same one or another flying and then on a branch in a tree another. And I mean HUGE!! Usually don’t see hawks unless you go into the mountains. Not down here in our little valley!!

14 04 2009
janey

hehehe.
thts crazyy.
i always see birds around here.
so im not goin to the docs cause i feel better and my headache
is almost gone. its prolly the flu or a cold. but i did get like
blood spots on my face and around my eyes. so maybe food poisoning?
idk. i just finished doin some work. im goin to bed.

14 04 2009
Clo

My sister had to do a report on like women child abusers for her social work class. There are lots of women who do that sort of stuff, but most of the time don’t get caught or reported.

But yeah, I’ve heard about the case, it’s super sad. The saddest part is, she was just walking across the street to her friends house. And she got there OK, she just never made it home. Which makes me super duper paranoid with Cayden. I yell at Jeremy cuz he’ll walk away from the cart with Cayden in it. I mean he can still see him, but you just never know anymore.

14 04 2009
WItchypoo

Yeah, Cloey…I know it’s somewhat paranoid, but I’ve always felt that if I have to error, I’ll error on the side of caution where our kids are concerned. Jerry and I are probably looked at as overprotective with the boys…most of the parents we know don’t think twice about letting other families take their kids for a night or two for sleepovers and all that. We’re cautious about who we allow them to stay with; we have to know them and be comfortable with them. Beau has a couple of close friends who’s parents we know…sometimes Chance will stay over with him at one of these friend’s,( who we’ve all known through various sports for years)…sometimes Chance will stay over at one of the kid’s from his baseball team, (normally a group sleepover). The point is, we don’t allow them to even visit after school at the houses of people we don’t know. When Chance was in grade school, sometimes a mom who I volunteered with who’s child was friends with Chance would invite him to go home with her child on the bus to hang out; I didn’t know them well enough, (or the other people, such as older siblings, the dad, etc.), to allow that. I’d have to think fast for a plausible excuse that wouldn’t offend. I just won’t allow my kids to be in an environment that I’m not familiar and comfortable with. And another thing: no matter how well you think you know someone, (with the exception of a very few)…you just might not. I don’t take chances with my boys…even at Beau’s age. Paranoid? Yes, definitely…but with good reason, (unfortunately), in this sometimes scary world.

Take care.

14 04 2009
lara21167

Janey glad you are feeling better.

Cloey I know what you mean. And you don’t want to stiffle your kids’ growth by being too over protective. Which I am I know. A few weeks ago. Kristy was staying at a friends. And her friend’s mother, who has 4 children and could be the poster person for “soccor Mom”. I mean she’s involved in everything and all that. And she allowed her daughter to ride her bike to get my daughter. Now she did follow her part of the way, then the girls rode their bikes back to Olivias house. My problem with this is. First my neighborhood is not that safe, I don’t let kristy go outside by herself. And second they have to cross a very busy street. So I did say something to Oliver’s mother, and she appologized and said she should have asked me first. And I told her that I trust her judgement, which I do, but she is a bit snotty about her “uptown” neighborhood, which is not as great a neighborhood itself anymore. A lot of the big Vitorian homes that have been broken down into apartments. And if you look up the pedifile registry there are 2 – 3 on her street. And I know what Olivia’s mom is thinking, giving the girls some more independence and they stick together. But still it;s just not safe and it a shame.
And these women who sexually abuse young girls, do they get some kind of sick thrill from it?? I just don’t get it. I understand Men being sick minded more than I understand women.

14 04 2009
WItchypoo

Lara, so you’re saying that Olivia’s mom is under the impression that her “uptown” neighborhood is perfectly safe? I don’t care where you live…there’s always the possibility for something to happen. Pedophiles/dangerous people come from all walks of Life; you just can’t afford to let kids wander around by themselves. We live in a cushy, ‘Leave It To Beaver’ kind of area, and look what happened to Beau and his friend, Hayden, last September; they were just down the sidewalk a few houses from Hayden’s front yard, and they got jumped. There’s no predicting those kinds of things.

14 04 2009
Clo

some people are just sick. men, women, children…. When I was pregnant my insomnia came back, so I stayed up late and watched 48 hours and dateline and those kinda shows. They came on rerun on one of the many channels we have. They had this story about this kid, he was like 8 or 9, maybe 10 but not older than that at the time. Anyway, this other little kid, 4 or 5 at the time, wanted to walk down to the park which was right down the street for his parks and rec program. His Mom didn’t want him too, said he was too young, but this morning she was having a rough morning with her other baby. So she decided to let him walk – it was literally right down the street, he didn’t have to cross any roads or anything. He never came home. The 8 or 9 year old later told some fake story about how he had seen someone take him, and they found the 5 year olds body in the woods. His head had been bashed in by rocks, and the kool-aid from his lunch and been poured on him, the banana from his lunch had been mashed. Anyway, they later found out (due to the banana of all things) that the 8 or 9 year old killed him. Just because. This kid hadn’t had any signs before or anything like that, just went out and killed this little boy one day.

And I was just reading an article on Columbine, how the previous story? Of Eric and Dylon being bullied? Isn’t really true. They actually weren’t bullied, weren’t part of the trenchcoat mafia…. And they didn’t actually target anyone. They just wanted to kill, and they would have killed a lot more had their bombs worked.

I mean some people just are messed up.

14 04 2009
Clo

Oooh, and Witchy’s right about not being able to predict when and where things will happen. I was just reading a book called Shattered. This woman lived in a total nice neighborhood. She was outside planting roses one day, went inside because she had to get ready for work. Her husband was home, it was broad daylight, neighbors were out… Some crack head was driving around looking for someone he liked. He saw her in the yard, snuck inside her house, killed her husband, then raped her in her basement, then put her in the trunk of his car and kept her at his house for five days. Finally he left for work and she was able to get to a phone and was rescued.

14 04 2009
WItchypoo

Cloey…I saw that same story on the show ‘I Survived’, (I think that’s what it’s called, anyway). The woman told the very same story; fortunately, she got out alive. Who knows what her emotional state might be after all that, though.

14 04 2009
WItchypoo

Oh, yeah, and I’ve read/seen on tv about cases similar to the one you described about the kid killing the younger child. That’s always been at the back of my mind, also, when my kids are playing outside, (especially when they were younger). Even now at their ages, I periodically remind them that they must ALWAYS be aware of details/odd behaviors in people, not wander off to anywhere unplanned, etc. They both carry cell phones when they’re outside or away from home; we know where they are, (even when Chance is just across our culdesac in this little treehouse/fort a few of the boys have been working on; he always has a cell phone so I can check up on him whenever I want to). They’re usually too busy to just be “hanging out” anyway.

14 04 2009
lara21167

I just hate that we have to raise our kids to be fearful. I guess not really fearful. Aware is what we need to teach them. They have to become independant adults someday, so we do have to teach awareness of everything going on around them. And girls just need to stay in groups. It’s natural for girls to hang out like that anyway and guys may tease. But yes girls have to stay with their friends when they are out. I read a Cosmo article once about a college girl that was raped and killed. Her and her b/f got into a fight and left a party without him, and some freak followed her. That’s what the article was saying always be aware.

15 04 2009
Clo

Yeah Cayden’s getting a cell phone, even when he’s really little. I want to get him one of those fireflies, where you can program in the numbers they can call and stuff. But they say to be careful too. A lot of times, women especially think they’re safe when they’re talking on a cell phone, because whoever they’re on with can hear what’s going on, and if they’re attacked, they can alert the police or whatever. But it gives people a false sense of security.

And you’re right Laura, aware is best. When I was younger my Mom worked at a nursing home, and the residents who were wheelchair bound had this alarm system hooked up, so that if they fell or got up, a loud alarm would ring. Well, really they were “hand held” alarms that they rigged to work like this. See when you pulled this cord out, it made the sound. So my mom bought me one for when I was walking at night.

15 04 2009
WItchypoo

Yeah, Lara, and there’s also the issue of daterape – which is not uncommon these days. I remember when I was dating and running around with my friends, there was always one guy or another trying to pour the booze or other drugs down our throats to see who he could prey on. There was daterape back then, also…but you didn’t hear the term a lot like you do now. There’s all these colorless, odorless substances that are really easy to slip into drinks without any detection; I’ve heard stories about females AND males being victimized this way. Weird times we live in, hugh?

15 04 2009
WItchypoo

So, on that happy note…how’s everyone? Janey, I’m glad you’re feeling a little bit better. It’s hard to be sick…I don’t get to rest that much when I feel crappy, since the spawn still have needs and schedules to be met, and so does the “Big Baby”, Jerry, (like regular meals and all that…hahaha). Speaking of being sick, I’m in that undesirable state right now; I have a nasty cold that went down into my chest, headache, can’t breathe, nose hurts, blah-blah-blah. You know the drill.

Take care.

15 04 2009
Clo

Aw Witchy, that sucks.

I haven’t been sick in awhile *knock on wood* I’ve had bouts of not feeling good. Usually sick to my stomach, usually around the same time every night, which makes me once again worry about being pregnant. I always think I’m pregnant though, which is why I was super duper shocked when I was pregnant with Cayden.

15 04 2009
janey

thanks guys. but. scratch the feeling better.
def feelin worse. i got the flu and food poisoning

15 04 2009
lara21167

Janey, you usually tend to feel worse toward evening when you’re sick. Maybe you should go to the doc if you think you have food poisoning. With all the bacteria getting into foods nowadays, you never know.

Well I hope everyone is feeling better soon. Witchy I know date rape is a horrible reality, but I had to laugh at the guys trying to dump booze and drugs in you. Any poor fool that tried that with me wound up taking care of a punking drunken mess, Never could hold my booze lol.

15 04 2009
lara21167

One more thing, I do know that alot of guys nowadays wouldn’t be as considerate with taking care of a drunken mess as the guys I hung out with. But I always had my friends with me and we all looked out for each other. I remember one time at a party where we really didn’t know anyone. I got a bit tipsy and went to the bathroom. This guy, that I didn’t know, followed me into the bathroom, turned the light off (not something you want to do to me when I’m drunk, I get really dizzy in the dark) anyhoo he just stood there and didn’t say anything. I told him to turn the f’n light on or I’d scream “rape” he still didn’t move and I screamed “RAPE” real loud. He turned the light on, apologized and left the bathroom. I have no idea what his thing was. He kept telling me he was sorry, and my friends didn’t leave my side after that.

15 04 2009
WItchypoo

Lara…yes, I had some good friends like that, too. Friends need to look out for each other.

15 04 2009
janey

i lost my voice.
nd my head hurts.
nd i need coffee.

15 04 2009
lara21167

Try a hot cup of tea with lemon instead Janey. Make you feel better and it’ll give you your voice back.

15 04 2009
Clo

Cayden slept in this morning till 10. I about had a heart attack. It was funny though, because last night Jeremy asked me if I would get up in the morning with Cayden, and let him sleep in till 10. I shot him a look like “You’ve got to be kidding me” to which he replied “I’ve been getting up with him every morning lately.” So I said “Yeah well, I got up with him every morning for 5 months, and every night with him. And that’s when he was getting up early, and getting up multiple times a night. You can deal.”

So it was just weird that Cayden did let Jeremy sleep in till 10. Though when Jeremy told me he hadn’t woken up yet, I jumped out of bed, thinking he was dead. Jeremy told me he had just checked on him, and he was sleeping. About 10 minutes later we heard him wake up and start playing with his crib toy, and he didn’t even cry for us. So I went in to get him and he was such a happy smiley guy. We’re all happier when we sleep.

Now he’s down for his nap. Tomorrow we have to go to the inlaws (yuck) but we get our new dishwasher (YaY!) And then Friday I’m off to Pittsburgh to go see Rent with two original cast members, Anthony Rapp and Adam Pascal. I’m hoping to be able to go hang out with my Mom on Saturday.

I think that’s all for today.

15 04 2009
Remote Monkey

LoL. Its me, Rowdy. But im visiting another office for work for the minute but im stuck until this guy calls me back. Which is driving me nuts. cause Im gonna miss my own birthday lunch @ the office. YUCK.

Anyway.

Witchy – it’s funny. My mom was sort of like that with the sleepovers. The thing is all my friends in grade school had been my friends since elem. so my parents (read: my mom) pretty much knew MOST of the parents of kids I was friends with, and even if she wasn’t close with them she knew them from school or was friends with one of their friends. Its MIami Beach so the community is relatively tight knit when you have kids at certain ages.

But it was such a hard habit for her to break. By the time I was in last high school early college she was always SHOCKED when she didnt know a friend. Mostly in College. I’d say, oh I’m going out of town with so and so this weekend and her immediate reaction was “you don’t have a friend XXXX, who is this person, why haven’t i met them yet” and my response would be “ERRR, im in college, you haven’t had a chance to meet them yet, i’ve been hanging out with them for half a year… we’ve become clsoe… you’re not ognna know EVERYONE Im with right now.” It took her a while to get used to that idea. lol.

15 04 2009
lara21167

Cloey I had to laugh, that is a scary feeling waking up before your baby does. Immediate panic.

Rowdy, I know the time will come when my daughter will have close friends I don’t know. And I won’t like it either lol.

15 04 2009
janey

its weird for me. my mom has always know my closest friends.
but i guess its because ive always wanted my mom to trust me and
my mom is a really good judge of character so i guess i found some
type of confort in having my moms approval before getting too attached to
a friend. and if it comes to that i only have two best friends and like three close friends. it takes a lot for me to be able to consider a person a friend. like i meet a lot of new pople and even people that ive known for years i still dont consider them friends. my friends know a lot of people and they are always askin me “oh are you friends with so and so” and im like “not really. i know them but i mean, im not friends with them.”

15 04 2009
Clo

Rowdizzle I’ve missed you!

15 04 2009
Clo

Mmm. I have like, ten friends maybe. If that. Most of my friends I’ve known for ever (Courtney since the 1st grade, or possibly the second, Steph since I was born, Jessie since the first grade, my sister since I was born, Michelle since the first grade, she’s actually my Mom’s friend though too, they went to college together, Shayne since freshman year, although I knew OF her in middle school…) Brookie’s probably my most recent friend, and I’ve known her since Freshman or Sophomore year.

My Mom happens to like most my friends, except for Brook (Brook dated my brother, it was kinda a mess) but even if she didn’t? I wouldn’t care.

For one, I tend to be able to read people REALLY well, and when I get a bad vibe from someone? I’ve always been right.

It doesn’t really matter, I’m typical aquarius, it takes a lot to get close to me like that.

15 04 2009
lara21167

I feel bad because I don’t keep in close contact with any of my friends 😦 In fact my 2 BFFs from high school I need to call. Some from school, some from work, and some from Cheerleading (hopefully those friends won’t lose touch) and then you guys. I really need to get out and do more things with friends. I’m just busy all the time.

15 04 2009
Clo

I think all my friends I could call my BFF’s, and that’s what I’d rather have. I’d rather have 10 BFF’s, then a 100 just friends, you know?

My cousin Steph and I are going on a roadtrip tomorrow to Pittsburgh. We’re hitting up Ikea, maybe getting her a tattoo, and then seeing Rent. I’m SO excited because for one, I Love Love LOVE Rent, it’s tied in first for my favorite musical. I love the musical more than I love the movie, so when I heard it’s closing down, I HAD to get tickets, especially since Adam Pascal and Anthony Rapp are coming back (They were in the VERY original cast, the cast that actually worked with Jonathan Larson before he died, AND in the movie) and Steph’s never been either so. She got me tickets for Christmas. I’m also excited cause she’s been super crazy busy lately, always is, actually, so it’ll be nice to spend a whole day together.

15 04 2009
lara21167

I’m sure you’ll have a great time Clo, enjoy.

16 04 2009
Witchypoo

Cloey, it’ll be great to get away with your cousin/close friend, I’m sure. It seems like as time goes on, there’s less of it to spend with our good friends, and even family; just having fun seems a lot more complicated than it used to. Enjoy.

Goldie, yes, I can relate somewhat to how your mom feels about not being a part of ALL of your network. It’s strange at first for a mom to have obvious proof right in front of her that “Baby is growin’ up!” It’s sometimes a bittersweet experience – learning to let go. It’s very much a learning/growing process for the mother, as much as the child. Separation anxiety can affect mommies, too…it’s a strange, unsettling feeling at times, regardless of how natural the process is.

Take care.

16 04 2009
janey

Clo-i hope you have fun with your cousin

16 04 2009
Clo

i got my dishwasher! I AM SO EXCITED!!!!

16 04 2009
lara21167

So Janey, Witchy how are you both feeling today?

16 04 2009
lara21167

Cloey, thought you were going to Pittsburgh today?? Congrats on the dishwasher, wish I had one 😦 I grew up with a dishwash and garbage disposal, but most places i’ve lived as an adult had neither. I have a garbage disposal at my apartment now, (don’t know how I ever lived without one lol) but no dishwasher.

Rowdy, got a dietary question for you. Now you don’t eat meat right? I’m sure you did as a child and made that choice later in life. My question is did you notice you felt better giving up meat. I’ve been feeling pretty crappy lately, I know it’s mostly stress but I have headaches and digestion problems, and my mother was sickly from about my age till she died. And I don’t want to be sickly like that. My sister is a complete vegin, (and I think she’s sending me some kind of sublimial message or something, this idea just popped into my head ) I don’t think she even does eggs or diary (sorry can’t give those up) but she used to get migraines and had acid reflux really bad until she changed her dietary habits. Now I don’t want to tell her I’m thinking about giving up meat, get her too excited, she’s always wanted me to be a clone of her I think. Anyhoo from a healthy standpoint, do you think it’s beneficial?

16 04 2009
monkeyspeaks

I think its different for everyone. I have friends who tried giving up meat and had iron problems because they weren’t getting it. On the other hand, I’ve always been someone who ate a lot of dark leafy greens (I love spinach, Kale, Collards, etc) so I get a ton of iron from that and Im pretty observant of what i need.

I stopped eating red meat when I was doing Yoga. My instructor pointed out that it may help my sessions and it did. Mostly because I cut out a lot of fatty foods. After a while I decided I wanted to take the next step and cut out white meat as well. I don’t know why but I know part of it was because I wanted to continue improving yoga and I knew many of my yogi buddies and instructor ate like that.

In the end, I wasn’t feeling as bloated after meals. I didn’t have any physical issues that made me stop eating meat beside a urge to eat healthier. I also still eat fish which helps me with protein intake and i LOVE tofu based products. If you don’t think you can eat stuff like Tempeh and Tofu and Fish and Veggies all day everyday then i’d be wary about starting. If you can’t see yourself eating tofu and veggies as an actual MEAL, then Id say watch out, because you’ll turn to carbs to fill you up and thats how you gain weight. Believei t or not, I dont eat a lot of pasta, even if it seems like an easy vegetarian meal. We cook every night and try to keep it changing.

Now, having said that, I don’t want to give off the impression that eating red or white meat is unhealthy. It isn’t at all. Although too much of anything can and iwll be unhealthy. You have red meat everyday then thats gonna be bad for your heart. You eat too many eggs you’re cholesterol goes up (which I eat eggs and SOME dairy but stick to soy milk which is a taste preference… and real milk can be too heavy for my body… thanks dad… lactose intolerant bastard ;-p and i prefer the egg beaters or whatever they are because I love eggs and they have no cholesterol). And white meat really isn’t THAT bad for you at all. Lots of protein and good stuff in it. I’ll admit I even toy with the idea of reincluding it into my diet. Just for the protein benefits!

Here is what I would suggest. Just start slowly cutting back. Cut your red meat intake down to once a week, or if its already that low, twice a month. Cut back a LITTLE on your white meat. Change your meals up. One night do all veggie, one night do a soy protein like tofu or tempeh, one night do white meat and then roatate those until its “red meat” night. Try and stay away from heavy carbs late at night. Make sure you eat a good breakfast everyday with good protein. I prefer protein shakes, eggs or cereal. If you still want to cut out meat from there start by cutting red meat and then move into cutting out your white meat.

I will warn you though, as you reduce your intake, your body no longer needs certain bacterias or enzymes or something it creates to break down meat and you will have trouble digesting it if/when you decide to eat meat again. Its a slow process out and in. You don’t want to shock your body either way.

I enjoy how i eat. Part of why I havent started up wtih meat again is because right now i don’t see a point. But dont worry i’ll NEVER be someone whos ays one way is better than the other. Cause that just isn’t true. There are benefits to both and its just about finding out what combination is right for YOUR body.

16 04 2009
monkeyspeaks

OH and another rule: If it hinders your enjoyment with food – and if you find my eating style too difficult to maintain (like not being able to find something to eat ANYWHERE You are, or feeling frustrated when you DO go out to eat beacuse you feel like nothingi s available to you) then don’t do it to that extent. Find your healthy medium. If it means only eating chicken when you go out because it makes that experience enjoyable then that is what you should do. Food should always be a combination of necessity, health and pleasure. And if ONE of those three aren’t working then you readjust your “diet” (and by that i mean your everyday eating habits, not a crash diet) till it falls into all three categories.

Just because someone eats healthy and it LOOKS like they eat like a rabbit doesn’t actually mean its not 100% enjoyable. And part of it is you start giving your body what it needs (necessity) and so it craves things that are good for it and you eat less (health) and you will actually start to CRAVE light airey meals like salads and garden fresh meals and you’ll even start to turn your nose up to a lot of things you USED to love (like heavily fried foods, oily foods, etc) and that is where the pleasure steps in… plus it forces you to be REALLY creative iwth your food and you learn new and exciting ways to prep and are forced to branch out your cultural horizons.

Ex: Did you know Indian food is mostly vegetarian! And super spicey. Thai food also has a lot of great pescatarian and vegetarian options. Persian culture incorporates a lot of veggie dishes, like CouCou (not cous cous lol but a veggie/spinach patty that is amazingly good) and are big on fish. Apes mom makes a delicious homemade smoked salmon that we got to try at persian new year. SO good!

AND don’t worry, I thikn Vegan is a bit too extreme and many of them often dont take in big necessities without supplimenting them. and if you think Vegan is bad, omg, look into the “Raw Diet” that one makes me sick to tihnk about. How miserable are those people!

16 04 2009
monkeyspeaks

Witchy – I can totally comprehend that. Ape wants to know what I am gonna do when I have a kid cause I’m already neurotic with the dogs. LoL!!!!!

I understood my moms anxiety. She and I were very close by the time I left for school albeit the everday “mother/daughter hate” that goes along with two females living in close quarters (really, i just don’t understand lesbians for that one reason…. how do they not KILL each other 😉 just kidding). It was funny though, her way of distancing was to push me away a bit. It got to the point where I felt disposed of. AWWW right? But thats how my mom and I work. When we are hurt we close up but always come running back. Now we talk every two ro three days… if not everyday. Life jsut gets busy.

But in college it took her time to adjust and even though I always though, CMON mom… really you’re not gonna know EVERY NEW PERSON i meet… i always gave her the story behind the friend and if they were a good enough friend my mom knew she’d meet them eventually. She’s gotten used to me keeping people im kind of “eh’ about on the side and bringing home those friends that will really be close to me or talking about them regularly. The thing is, friend or family, when we are close in my family clan, you are basically inducted into the family. Take, for example, my five best female friends from back home. Holly, Kristy, Elicia, Jessica, Kacie. Kristy has become my mothers second daughter, Holly hasn’t had the pleasure of meeting her but mom always knew I was visiting her in college when Id go back up and she knows im close with her, Elicia and my mom adore each other (but its tough cause tthey live far away), Jessica is my mothers OTHER OTHER daughter (both Kristy and Jessica have lived with me and even moved in with my parents for short periods of time) and my moms always asking where Kacie is since they used to book all their hotels through her and moved in with me for a year, even though i only had a one bedroom…. but then again Kristy lived with me in my studio lol. My friends here, aside from Ape, she hasn’t gotten the chance to bond with yet but she knows all about them and will even yell a hello over the phone if im near one.

It is strange because as we grow apart we just get closer and closer.

Jane – you mentioned something about only getting close to someone after your moms approval? OK moms on the board, don’t hate me for this lol… but that will go away with time and age. You’re still in your teens and so your immediate family is who you’re bonded with. BUT as you move away you learn to depend on other people. You won’t need your moms approval before getting close to someone when you’re more college range, especially because they aren’t there to give it. And i will tell you when you start getting into more adult relationships (lol sorry, this is just MHO, i just think there is a MASSIVE difference between a teen relatonship, a college relationsihp and a relationship between two people who have to completelys upport themselves in the real world) you’ll have a hard time figuring things out. It is what I struggle with now. Im so used to my mom knowing EVERYTIHNG and being who I went to for advice and approval that it was tough for me to rework Ape into that mix and make HIM my family. And it’ll be hard for your mom at frist but she’ll laern that she can still trust you even when you aren’t looking to her for approval for everything. ALTHOUGH its also a different culture. I know Spanish cultures are much more attached to their core family than in White culture.

16 04 2009
lara21167

Thanks Rowdy for the advise. I grew up eating healthy and have gone out of it mostly because my hubby loves everything fried. He’s a meat and potatoes and 1 veggie kind of guy. But I am feeling a strong pull to eat healthier, and for some reason and this is like all of a sudden I’m thinking of eating meat as eating flesh and it’s grossing me out lol. And btw my sis went through a “raw food” stage. I think she finally realized it’s just not convienent. Although she does try to do a couple days a week nothing but raw foods. That I could not do, imagine not having any hot meals?? No hot soup on a cold rainy day. That’d suck. My Sister I am referring to, was a true blue hippy in the 60’s – 70’s.

You know even as an adult, I always turned to my Father for advise, I didn’t have my mother so he was mother and father to me. So I’d just call him for anything. I think you go through a stage of pulling away from the parents then kind of migrate back so to speak idk.

Now I’m going to do the one thing I really need to give up for health, smoke a cig haha

17 04 2009
Clo

Laura- I had dishwasher and in laws today, Pittsburgh tomorrow.

I’ve also heard a lot of people feel better not when they give up all meats, but red meats, especially pork.

I? Could NEVER do that. Jim Gaffigan has a whole comedy routine around bacon, and it’s all so true. My favorite line that he has? “You know how come you know bacon is the ultimate food? Because when they want to make other food better, they wrap it in BACON”

17 04 2009
Witchypoo

Pork is actually a white meat – like chicken. The better cuts are actually as lean and full of protein as chicken. Of course, bacon isn’t healthy…just fried fat, basically; it just tastes SO GOOD, though, (the fact that it’s so full of sodium has something to do with the great flavor, I’m sure). I eat everything in moderation. Though, like you Lara, I often tend to see meat as “flesh”…which can make me queazy – then I don’t want to eat it. I don’t like anything with rare spots, or blood or anything like that. I do think that humans will evolve at some point in time to not eating flesh at all; we’ll find our protein and iron needs from other sources. It’s just a “hunch” I have.

Cloey, how did the visit with the inlaws go?

Lara, I feel pretty crappy still; my chest is congested, ears hurt, etc…I’ll give it another couple of days, then assume that maybe I need antibiotics. Asthma and allergies can trigger secondary infections, (like chest congestion, sinus infections, and ear infections). We’ll see; I’m not used to feeling THIS tired, though…hard to function effectively.

Heathness had a check-up today; poor little man had FOUR shots, plus a finger prick, (for a blood test). He was really good about it though. He’s in the 97th percentile for height and weight…always has been. His pediatrician also asked him a lot of questions like what certain letters were that she showed him, what his phone # is, could he count to 20, what letter his name starts with, shapes, colors, etc. He answered them all, and she didn’t really expect him to know all of these things. He picks up information really fast. She also said his balence and coordination is really good…especially considering he’s so tall and muscular for his age. Little guys who are big for their age sometimes develop at a little slower rate where certain physical skills are concerned, (especially fine motor development, such as writing, coloring, etc.). Anyway, he’s proficient at all that…and really flexible, too. All good. I got him a McDonald’s Mighty Kids’ Meal to make up for the shots; little kids don’t care that McDonald’s isn’t the healthiest, or that their food all kind of tastes alike, (the last part is just MY opinion; I don’t know what other people think about the taste). Most of the appeal is the toy in the kids’ meal, of course.

Almost time to drive Beau to lacrosse practice, though I feel like going to sleep instead. Jerry is at baseball practice with Chance; this weekend Chance’s baseball team has a tournament in Oregon. Beau is coaching the 3rd & 4th grade boys’ lacrosse team; they practice right after school on Tuesdays and Thursdays, with games that he has to be at on Saturday mornings, also. Whew!…I’m feeling tired just thinking about it, (just my mood right now…when I’m sick I’m continually tired). Should I complain a little more about being tired? Hahaha.

Take care, Ladies.

17 04 2009
Clo

mmm tasty tasty meat. I eat my stuff medium rare. Actually at the in laws I had a steak, medium rare tastiness.

The in laws went OK. My MIL was behaved this time around, but I was irritated none the less. I dunno. Jeremy and I got into it before we left kinda. I made a mention that we needed to baby proof before we left and he told me to look up what we needed to do, and it just kinda made me mad, cuz I’m like… You have just as easy internet access as I do, why don’t you look it up? It spurred into an argument about how I feel like I have everything to do with Cayden, but then don’t get the credit for working… And then it turned into how he doesn’t say anything to his Mom when she does things and yada yada yada.

Then I get more upset while we were there, because Cayden doesn’t really know their house and pretty much refused to go to sleep there, which just threw him off for the rest of the day.

Now I want more steak.

17 04 2009
lara21167

Cloey I think men just think women know more about babies then they do or they don’t feel as confident or something. Women have been expected to “do it all” since the beginning of time. AND not get any credit for it. Happy to hear your MIL behaved. At Easter we went to my MIL and my hubby’s youngest brother is teaching his oldest baby to call women bitches. Pissed me off especailly when little Brian walked up to Kristy and called her a bitch. I hate to see him teach that little boy stuff like that. He is such a cute little boy. Everybody tells him not to do it, but what do you do??

Witchy the tumbling and karate probably help Heath with his coorination and flexibility. Kristy has really long legs and she’s just now getting them under control. She’d do a dance move in cheer and her legs would be all over the place. I’ve noticed they do what she wants them to now lol.

I don’t think I can totally give up meat. But I’m with you Witchy I think as a whole people are moving in that direction. ANd yes all Mcdonalds food taste the same.

18 04 2009
Clo

I can’t talk now, it’s super late, and I’m super tired, but I met Anthony Rapp!

18 04 2009
janey

so today Stephon and MaeAnna and Jameka and i are goin go cart racin and mini golfin today. its going to be funnnnn. i cant wait.

and on that lovely note, guess who just called my phone and hung up when i picked up???

18 04 2009
Clo

Hey Janey, is your number one on myspace Stephon? Why does it say he’s 16? I thought you told me he was a year older than you?

18 04 2009
janey

he says he is stil a kid at heart therefore refuses to admit his age.
i know. inmature. but wht can i do?

18 04 2009
janey

oh and i forgot to ask you, clo.
who is Anthoy Rapp?

18 04 2009
Clo

But on his comments it says you both got suspended. A couple people commented on how he got suspended, and I didn’t think you got suspended in college, and you said you got suspended and missed him in school, but I thought you weren’t in school?

18 04 2009
Clo

He’s an actor, he’s been in a lot of things, but was best known as for “creating” Mark, who is one of the main people in Rent. He was hand picked by Jonathan Larson (the guy who wrote rent. Jonathan died before Rent even made it’s debut, which is really sad considering he struggled hardcore and this was his baby. A lot of people assume he died from AIDs, since that’s one of the main themes in Rent, which isn’t true. He actually died of that thing, I can NEVER remember what it’s called, but John Ritter died from it too. It was quite sudden and out of the blue, no warning signs. One second he’s here, the next he’s gone.) Anyway, Anthony was in the first workshop version of Rent (off Broadway) and then was part of the original cast. Then everyone on the original cast did the movie, with the exception of the girl who played Mimi, and the one who played Joanne. There were 3 original castmembers preforming last night, but Anthony was the only one who came out and signed autographs and took pictures.

19 04 2009
janey

are you tryinq to call me a liar?

19 04 2009
janey

and thats cool. i didnt kno tht. but im not teally into musicals so i wouldnt kno it anyway

19 04 2009
Clo

Liar’s a pretty ugly word, but maybe I am calling you one. I’m not really sure yet, but what I’m saying is a lot of things you’re saying don’t add up. And the more I look at it, the more stuff I find that doesn’t add up.

Let’s just take your boyfriends profile: It says he’s 16. You told me he was a year older than you which would make him 19. I don’t know ANYONE who puts that they’re younger on their profile, except pedo’s trolling for kids. I especially don’t know why he’d put 16 because he’s “young at heart and immature.” 19? is YOUNG, it is Immature. And I don’t know any 19 year olds who’d put their age younger than they are.

Then the comments I saw on his page from YOU said he got suspended from school the same day as you. Which doesn’t add up either. You said he was in college. You don’t get suspended from college. Then, why did you get suspended? You told us you weren’t even in school, so how’d you get suspended from anywhere? Then like two comments later you said you “went back to school yesterday but didn’t go today because you didn’t feel like it” again with the school deal. You say you’re not in school.

The thing that makes me wonder the most? RIGHT after I said this to you last night, his profile goes private. If there’s nothing to hide and you’re not lying, why all the covering up?

19 04 2009
Witchypoo

Damn. I was amost done writing a long blurb about various things…looking at your kids’ cute pictures on myspace, (Cloey and Lara), what we’re up to this weekend, etc. Then I got up to check something on the stove, and Heathness decided to play with the computer I was using…deleting everything I’d written before I got to post it. Sheez.

How’s the weekend going for you Ladies?

Take care.

19 04 2009
Clo

The weekend is so so. Friday was super fun. We hit up Ikea before the show and I found an uber cute light fixture for Cayden’s room that was on sale, so score there. Then Saturday was kinda stressful. Right now we’re headed to the library and then to Jeni’s (super good gormet ice cream shop here. They have really awesome flavors. Mine favorite pear riesling) and then to my Moms

19 04 2009
janey

okay. first off im not coverinq anything up and why are you goin thru my bfs comments and shit?
and just cause YOU dnt kno anyone who acts like us doesnt mean that WE dnt have the right to act as we please.
second. i didnt see him yesturday. we canceled our plans because Skylynne wanted to go to the movies with me. so if he put his profile on private thats on him.
and as far as the age thing, again out perceptions of how things should be and how things are are different from yours and we have every right to that. just cause YOU think that a 19 year old is childish and inmature doesnt mean that thats how HE thinks a 19 year old should act. which is why he doesnt like to admit his age. besides, he may be taller than me but he’s not really THAT tall him self so he likes to joke around and some ppl do believe he’s 16.
and last i dont really think i should have to explain any of these things to you and if you think im such a liar why do you keep indulging me?

20 04 2009
Clo

I think it’s also awfully funny that all I did was ask a question and you automatically get SUPER defensive. I mean, I didn’t even call you a liar, I just asked why you said something a certain way. You didn’t even bother to answer the question. You just jumped to “Are you calling me a liar”. Well, I don’t know, can you explain what you said? Because really that’s all I’m asking you to do. And I have every right too. What you’re saying doesn’t add up. And as I said before, the more I look, the more things DON’T add up. And we can get into that if you like.

As for looking at your boyfriends profile? I TOLD you the other day that I was going through all my friends friends profiles. Remember? I said I did it when I got bored on myspace. I was BORED that’s why I did it. I do it to A LOT of people. That’s why I was going through your boyfriends comments. It’s what I do. And really, why do you care? Unless you have something to hide. You talked about him a lot, I wanted to see what he was like. So I went to his myspace. I looked at his comments. And then I was wondering why someone who said they graduated from school not only said they got suspended FROM school, but also that they went to school yesterday but didn’t go today cuz they didn’t feel like it.

And you STILL haven’t answered that question to why YOU said you BOTH got suspended from school. Again, you told us you weren’t in school. So how did you get suspended? And AGAIN, you told me he was in college, you don’t get suspended from college.

If you feel like you don’t need to explain things, than why are you? I mean you don’t have too. But I think you should. Because shit just isn’t adding up, and I’m curious to what’s going on.

And what do you mean? Keep indulging you? I thought you were lying about something, and I asked you about it. How was that at all indulging you?

And I don’t really buy the whole “he just randomly decided to make his profile private” I mean just cuz you didn’t see him (which there’s no way for me to know whether you really did or not), doesn’t mean you didn’t call, text, email him or whatever. It’s just a HUGE coincidence, don’t you think?

20 04 2009
janey

i dont feel like i SHOULD explain anything to you.
so i wont. maybe if i change my mind.
i’ll hit you up on myspace. or i’ll email you.

20 04 2009
janey

nd just forgot to trow out there.
what i do only has to add up ME.

20 04 2009
Clo

You don’t need to hit me up on myspace. You don’t really need to talk to me anymore. If you don’t “feel the need” to explain yourself, then I don’t want to talk to you. I feel like you are lying, and if you’re not I don’t understand why you won’t explain yourself. If there’s a logical explanation to why you said you were in school on his comments, but tell us you’re not, then why not clear the air? I feel like I share an awful lot with you guys on here, and I’m sure everyone else feels the same. And I don’t feel like sharing with you if I don’t feel like I can trust you. I don’t trust you. You’ve said shady things, get angry over nothing, and then refuse to explain them. What the hell else am I supposed to think?

Not to mention that if you ARE younger than what you claim, it can be ILLEGAL to discuss some of the things we discuss with you. It could be considered corruption of a minor. I plan to work with children, and if I got something like that on my record, I couldn’t do that anymore, EVER? I mean as of right now, it’s not my fault, because I was told you were 18. But now that I have an inkling that you’re not? Then legally I can’t discuss that shit with you anymore.

Maybe I’m wrong. But I highly doubt that. I mean after I don’t see why if there is a logical explanation you just don’t explain yourself. Because you don’t explain yourself, the conclusion that I come to is that you can’t explain yourself. Which does, in the end, make you a liar.

And I mean, now that I think about it, there are MANY other instances where I believe you lied. I mean you have a MILLION pictures on your myspace, but NONE of you and Ezi. You didn’t even have ANY pics of him for the longest. And, when we first started talking? Your myspace said you were single. But yet you claim to have dated Ezi for four years. Why’d it say that? And when you changed your page to all “I love him” and all that jazz, someone commented on your page about who you were with. It seems to me if you were with someone for four years, all your friends would know.

I mean all in all, I’m wondering about other shit you said. Like your miscarriage. I remember thinking it was weird that you went to your own private doctor, on a SUNDAY. Cayden’s pedi has the most flexible hours I’ve ever seen, and still: not open on Sunday. I don’t know any doctor who is. Except an ER or urgent care, but you didn’t say you went there, you said you went to your own private doctor.

And again, maybe I’m wrong, but do you see how because you refuse to answer one freaking question how EVERYTHING you say comes in to questioning?

And point blank, if there’s not a way to block my comments from you on this blog, if you don’t leave than I guess I’ll have too. Because I don’t feel like sharing my thoughts with a liar.

20 04 2009
Clo

You’re a god damned sophomore. You know how I know? Your friend put your last name on your status. I googled it. Look what I found:
http://www.classmates.com/directory/public/memberprofile/list.htm?regId=8686890015

That’s YOUR picture. You were class of ’07 alright. FROM MIDDLE SCHOOL. Which makes you a freaking SOPHOMORE.

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