Short Hiatus (sort of)

28 04 2009

Hey guys. Just letting you know posting may be slow right now. I just got the dreaded call from my apartment manager. Apparently people are complaining because of our dogs. We have a month to find a subleaser and a new place (unless we opt into moving into a one bedroom in the current place we are in now, which we dont want to really do since we are unhappy there).

The only reassurance is we had alreayd decided to move in together and were sort of looking and trying to figure out how to get out of my lease. We actually already had a place but it wont be ready for a few months and we no longer have time on our side.

I’ll try and post and keep everyone updated but for now, life may be a bit hectic for me.

At least this will make for some interesting blogging?

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28 04 2009
Witchypoo

Damn! I did it again, (wrote a blurb…then forgot to fill in the required field info., losing what I wrote). Too tired to do it again…

Nightie-night, Girls, and take care.

28 04 2009
lara21167

Rowdy, maybe your landlord will give you an extension? Doesn’t hurt to ask and maybe if you find someone who wants your apartment he’ll let you out of your lease so you don’t have to worry about sub leasing. Is the place your going to a house or apartment. I’m sure you’d love to have a yard for your dogs πŸ™‚

28 04 2009
belle22

Hey chica… that totally sucks. Sorry I didnt answer my phone last night… I was knee deep in frosting cupcakes!!!!
That does suck though. I am with Lara, you dont know if you dont ask. Let the landlord know that you have a place lined up but it wont be available until X date and see if you can stay a bit longer.
ISnt your place a pet friendly place? If it is, then the people complaining should have known that AND the right thing to do would have been for them to come to you first and see if you can do something to quiet them down before they went to the landlord. HOW RUDE!

28 04 2009
Witchypoo

Good morning, Ladies. Yup…I was thinking the same thing: the whiners should have talked to you first, Goldie – before running to the landlord. Tattletales.

Cupcakes? Mmmmmm. It’s 7:06 here…breakfast time. I’m hungry, and cupcakes sound appealing right now, (have to eat them with milk, though; anything sweet has to be eaten with milk).

How’s it going, Cloey & Lara?

Take care.

28 04 2009
lara21167

the cupcakes do sound good. I’m with you Witchy got to have the milk lol. And I agree with Belle about the “whiners” I don’t know why people have to act like that. Just talk to the person first. And having said that my hubby called our landlord yesterday to complain about a neighbor. They left their trash sit outside their apartment I don’t know how long, but Sunday we thought an animal died outside it stunk soooo bad. Then my hubby figured out that it was the trash upstairs. Now he did try to tell the woman who lives up there about it, as she was throwing her b/f’s clothes out the window, and I’m not joking she was throwing clothes, shoes and everything right out the window. But she just wasn’t in the mood to hear about her stinky trash. Side note (they apparently made up as i was on the couch last night and hear her moaning in escasy very loudly and I really think they were in the hallway, the apartment next to them is vacant so maybe they were being adventurous. Anyhoo, when hubby called the landlord. The lady that cleans apartments answered the phone and said she’d already put a note on their door about it because she was in the apartment next to them cleaning and it stunk sooo bad she couldn’t stop gagging. And they did clean it up last night before they christianed it lol. This is the guy and girl that put the puppy out in the cold I told you guys about. He got a year probation for that and community service hours. And the puppy finally got a new home. he had some kind of mange took them forever to cure.

28 04 2009
Clo

Rowdy- I talked to you about it last night. I thought about it, and was like “is there someone who can dog watch till you move out?” but then I realized, I wouldn’t want to be without my dogs for that long.

I was thinking about calling the police on my neighbors last night. I go back and forth about it. They say they’re Italian, and they’re clearly not. Not that it matters, but it makes me mad that they’re lying. The man is a really big asshole, he like freaks out on people for no reason. My other neighbor Eric came home late one night and was super tired, and did a really bad parking job. I guess he parked too close to the mean neighbors car, and the mean neighbor went over to ask him to move it, because he couldn’t get his kids in. Which is fine, but then when Eric went out to move his car, the mean neighbor just started going off on him and telling him he had to move his car NOW and all this stuff, which Eric was doing already. Then another time the mean neighbor knocked on our door, and it was pretty late at night. When Jeremy answered, he started going off about how he stepped in a HUGE pile of dog crap, and how he knew it was our dogs, and yada yada yada. I mean, he got REALLY angry, and in Jeremy’s face. And it’s like, for one: Our dogs crap. But they’re both little dogs. They don’t poop HUGE piles of crap. Seriously. And then two, they’re the only family who lives in our little row of townhouses that don’t own a dog. Eric owns one, the neighbors Dave and Kathi next to him own two, and we own two. And then I see everyone and their Mom walking their dog through our yard. It’s like, poop city out there. Dave goes out once a month a pooper scoops it, but honestly I just don’t walk in the front yard. There’s really no need too. And lastly, when we take our dogs out, it’s always out back. Like I said, a whole bunch of dogs come through our front yard, and I don’t mess with other dogs poop. The dogs eat it, or step in it… And I’m also not playing with Parvo again. I mean if he had come over and been like “Look, we have a poop issue, can you make sure you’re cleaning up after your dogs” no problem. But he was just so in your face and rude and just automatically assumed it was our dogs.

Plus, it’s always so freaking loud over there. I believe they have one older kid that there’s, then they had a baby right before I had Cayden, now his wife is SUPER pregnant again. Then either his wife or his Mom lives with them. That’s 3 adults and soon to be 3 kids living in a 2 bedroom. Then they babysit this other womans kids. And the kids scream, I hear them yelling. It’s just like, ugh. The noise was loud last night and I wanted to call the police. If it were another neighbor and they were being loud, I’d talk to them before hand. But I’m kinda scared of this guy. But I don’t want to call the police cuz then I’m afraid they’ll call the landlord and tell him about our dogs.

I’m feeling super tired today as well. Rowdy told me last night that she thinks she has the swine flu. Rowdizzle I think you gave it to me!

28 04 2009
lara21167

Well you ladies take care of yourselves, I was watching the Today show yesterday and a doctor they interviewed said if you get the Swine flu you’ll know it, you are really really sick. But just catching anything could weaken your defense so rest up πŸ™‚

On to brighter things, my nephew, my hubby’s brother’s son, ‘s girlfriend is in the hospital as we speak having her baby girl. She’s been in since last night so hopefully I’ll hear something soon.

29 04 2009
Clo

Ugh. Jeremy got sent home from work today over some bullshit. He works on computers and last night was having an issue, and his manager told him to do something that got him partially locked out of his computer. If he got fully locked out, he’d be off for an unknown amount of time. Today he went in and they made him do something that locked him completely out. Now they’re telling him he has to stay at home, without pay, until they decide to fix it. We. Are. Screwed.

It really makes me mad because he says they send people home like this because they know some people lock themselves out on purpose to get the day off, so like it’s a way to deter them (if they know they have to wait a week without pay). But he didn’t do it on purpose, he did it two different times because two different floor managers told him too. And like he kept trying to talk to the boss, to figure out if he could do something else, and the guy kept telling him he was “too busy” to talk (but still, wasn’t too busy to take two smoke breaks) and then sent him home. And he wasn’t even the one who sent him home, he sent someone else to tell him to go home.

29 04 2009
lara21167

Cloey I’m sorry to hear that, maybe he should look for something else, sounds like they would be a bitch to work for. It probably only takes a couple minutes to unlock someone’s computer and if employees do that often well they need someone to fix the problem on staff. I don’t understand what some business owners think.

29 04 2009
Witchypoo

Cloey, it sounds like the floor managers/supervisors are pretty lax around there. How do they expect the employees to work independently, with some motivation to do a good job, when the people in charge are too lazy to head off/fix problems. Strange environment. How long does Jeremy think he might be home without pay? Is that other place he was interested in still hiring, or hiring in the foreseeable future? Maybe he can look into that.

Lara, did your hubby’s brother’s son’s girlfriend, (that’s a mouthful), have the baby yet? If so, what does the baby girl weigh and all that? I’m always interested in those details, since my guys were all so big. Do they kick mothers out of the hospital within a day after giving birth in Maryland, like they do in Washington? Insurance companies are such a racket.

Oh, yeah, Cloey, your neighbors sound like a dream, (I mean a nightmare). What a weirdo…getting in Jeremy’s face about dog crap – and late at night, too. If everyone has dogs at your apartment complex, why does it matter if the dumbass tells your landlord about your’s?

Take care, Ladies.

29 04 2009
lara21167

Witchy, the only thing I know is that the baby is born. I haven’t talked to anyone except my hubby who is worthless when it comes to details. I guess I’ll have to call her at the hospital. I just hate to do that because I know she needs all the rest she can get and I’m always afraid of calling at an inappropiate time. But I will pass on the info to you as soon as I get it. πŸ™‚ And yes Maryland throws new moms out after one day too.

I’ve always thought it was being overly cautious to use hand sanitizers before touching a new born, but with this nasty flu, I want to tell Tanya not to let anyone hold her without washing their hands or using handsanitzer and it they are sniffleing or coughing or whatever, send them anyway. So far no cases in Maryland but this whole thing just scares me. Yea, I know I’ve seen too many movies where some crazy “superflu” wipes out most of mankind lol.

29 04 2009
Clo

Ugh, we just had a horrible night here last night. I gave Jeremy his birthday present early, because he was so bummed about the whole getting home thing. I dunno if I told you guys, I know I told Rowdy, but he’s wanted this neon budlight bluejackets sign forever. It’s kinda expensive, and hard to track down, but I found it, and I got a bunch of people to go in on it. He was so happy when he got it.

Well, he was going to hang it up today, so last night when we brought it home, we left it in Cayden’s room. That’s the one room that’s off limits to the dogs and cats, we figured it would be safest there. Well Cayden started crying and I went in to get him (and this was before I fell asleep, so I wasn’t drowsy or tired or anything, I was awake.) we’ve been letting him sleep in just a diaper, because it’s been so hot here, but last night it cooled, so when I picked him up, I thought he felt cold. I saw a romper on his dresser, and I went over to get it. Jeremy had put the sign in front of Cayden’s dresser. I had seen him do it, I knew it was there. I still stepped on it. I broke the freaking thing before he even got a chance to hang it up.

29 04 2009
Clo

Ugh, we just had a horrible night here last night. I gave Jeremy his birthday present early, because he was so bummed about the whole getting home thing. I dunno if I told you guys, I know I told Rowdy, but he’s wanted this neon budlight bluejackets sign forever. It’s kinda expensive, and hard to track down, but I found it, and I got a bunch of people to go in on it. He was so happy when he got it.

Well, he was going to hang it up today, so last night when we brought it home, we left it in Cayden’s room. That’s the one room that’s off limits to the dogs and cats, we figured it would be safest there. Well Cayden started crying and I went in to get him (and this was before I fell asleep, so I wasn’t drowsy or tired or anything, I was awake.) we’ve been letting him sleep in just a diaper, because it’s been so hot here, but last night it cooled, so when I picked him up, I thought he felt cold. I saw a romper on his dresser, and I went over to get it. Jeremy had put the sign in front of Cayden’s dresser. I had seen him do it, I knew it was there. I still stepped on it. I broke the freaking thing before he even got a chance to hang it up.

I cried. For hours. I still feel so horrible. It’s not very often that I get to surprise Jeremy, and he deserved it. And I fucking ruined it. It’s fixable, but i mean it was a stretch to get the money together for the sign, I dunno how much it’s going to cost to fix, or where we’re gonna get the money from. Not to mention, once everyone who put in for it found out that my dumbass broke it, they’re going to be pissed. It was made even worse by the fact that Jeremy was so calm about it. I would have felt better if he yelled at me, or even if I had hurt myself in the process, but nope. My foots fine. I should have cut myself I freakin deserved it for being so careless.

The good news is though, that Jeremy went back to work today. It’s still going to hit us a little hard, though. He called off Saturday, expecting to make up the hours this week. He worked overtime Monday and was planning on overtime last night, but they sent him home. So now he has to finish making up hours for Saturday and add on Tuesday.

I feel doomed.

29 04 2009
lara21167

Oh Cloey accidents happen, you have a baby you were preoccupied with these things just happen. Don’t be so hard on yourself, look at the bright side at least it is fixable and Jeremy’s back to work sooner than I’m sure you expected. Things will get better I promise and you know anytime you need to vent we are here.

Witchy my nephew just called me, poor Tanya spent 29 hours in labor before they decided they needed to do a C-section. Poor girl. And the baby is fine she’s 6lb 1 oz, which is a bit small considering she went full term. She actually had the baby on her due date. That doesn’t happen too often. So she’ll be in the hospital a bit longer, so I’ll go out tonight to see them.

29 04 2009
Witchypoo

Cloey, you poor thing. You have got a MAJOR case of the guilts, and self-blame going on, don’t you? You didn’t intentionally break Jeremy’s sign, Sweetie. Now you’ve got to let the bad feelings of, “How could I be so careless?” go. Easier said than done, I know…but don’t beat up on yourself for an accident. Things just happen sometimes. Good news about Jeremy going back to work so soon, though, hugh?

Sweetlara…that’s good news about the baby being healthy. It always amazes me when I hear of people having babies weighing around the 5-6 pound range; hard to imagine a baby so small. Enjoy your visit.

Take care, Ladies

29 04 2009
Clo

That was the one thing I feared when I was having Cayden. My doctor said they could induce me, or wait for labor, but she was afraid I’d end up needing a c section anyway. Labor and then a c would have to suck. They’re both OK now, right Laura?

Witchy I’m just really angry with myself. I don’t get to surprise Jeremy often, and he NEVER asks for anything really. I could tell he was really disappointed, and it just seriously made me hate myself.

30 04 2009
Witchypoo

I know, Cloey, I know. Just try not to fret too much more. You said it could be fixed, right? I wonder how much that would cost.

Lara…with Beau, I was in back labor ALL weekend – I could barely walk, and only with assistance. My back was so screwed up, I couldn’t do anything. I didn’t know I was officially in labor…just thought I was getting close, with the exhausting discomfort part of late pregnancy. By the time I was admitted into the hospital on Monday, I was dialated at almost a 7, (don’t remember how much effaced – just that it was far along). Anyhoo…then the real fun started. Beau took a long time to make his entrance; being the first, my body had to really prepare to get that big-boy out safely. You guys know how it is, Lara & Cloey.

Smile Cloey.

Take care.

30 04 2009
lara21167

Went to see the baby last night, yes Cloey they are both ok now. I don’t think either my nephew or Tonya (his g/f) realize how serious things were for her. She apparently had Toxemia and didn’t know she had it because she didn’t know what it was (she is a really really sweet girl but not real bright) But my nephew was saying her blood pressure had gone up to “180 over something” and I’m trying not to gasp, and the nurse said about the toxemia and I had to bite my tongue before I said something about why they let her go for so long. Her water had broke the night before. So anyhoo, they had to give Tonya magnesim which went into the baby’s system, so the baby can’t suck she gags and they had her in the nursery with a feeding tube. Hopefully she’ll get out of there today. And poor Toyna as of last night hadn’t even been able to see her baby, and finally as we were leaving they brought a wheel chair in to take her to the nursery. I’m sure they’ll both be fine just a rough start. The baby’s name is Chloey Winter.

30 04 2009
lara21167

The flu has arrived in Maryland 6 cases and 6 possibles. All in the Baltimore area, but it won’t be long before they drag it this way…

30 04 2009
Witchypoo

Good morning, Ladies. Lara, did you stress with Tonya the importance of keeping her baby away from crowds, any large groups of people cloistered together, coughing/sneezing, and having anyone holding her to make sure they have really clean hands? Especially with her rough start, the infant doesn’t need additional risk factors. I’m sure people have already been telling her that…but still, (does she listen to you, Lara?). I can’t believe they let her go that long when she was at risk with that high blood pressure, and the toxemia. She’s lucky it turned out alright. Let us know how the baby and Tonya are doing.

Feeling any better today, Cloey?

Goldie…any luck with temporary housing, subleasing your apartment, etc.?

Today is going to be hectic. Chance and some other students are being recognized at a school assembly for some sort of “contributions”…I don’t know what; they were somewhat vague on the phone, and the emails. It’s going to be a surprise, so Jerry, Heathness, Beau, (I’m getting him out of school 30 minutes early for this), and I will be “hiding out” in the office and coming into the gymnasium through a back entrance or something so that Chance won’t know we’re there right away. Then, Beau, Heath and I have to take off for Puyallup from there for Beau’s lacrosse game, where he has to be warming up by 4:00 – 4:15, (start time is 5:00). So, dinner has to be done and in the refridgerator before I leave around 1:45 today, since Jerry and Chance will be coming home to eat before going to baseball practice.

Speaking of the spawn, I got a call from the Dean of Students at Beau’s jr. high yesterday informing me that Beau had been involved in an “altercation” on Tuesday. It was during lunch, in the cafeteria, and some kid, (who Beau says was behaving like “a total douche”), wouldn’t let Beau have a chair; apparently, the boy said he was saving a couple of seats for friends, but it was well into the lunch period, nobody was sitting there, and Beau said he could tell the kid was just being a jerk. So, Beau went to take a chair anyway, one of the boy’s friends started saying things to Beau, after which Beau called him a “Firecrotch”, (red hair), some other expletives, etc. They scuffled, and Beau wound up punching the kid in the face, resulting in a black eye. Our schoold district is VERY strict about physical aggression, any sort of “bullying” – verbal or otherwise, etc. So, Beau, the other boy, and several others were questioned yesterday, the Dean called me, (most of these school Deans are irritating fast-talkers), I questioned him, pointed out what I thought were pertinent parts of the story, (suppressing my laughter when he quoated Beau’s “Firecrotch” insult), told him I felt Beau must have been goaded, argued/debated with him for a few minutes, etc…this was after he told me that Beau was lucky to just be getting a 3 day in-house suspension. That’s an automatic consequence for any kind of physical scuffle at school, but not as serious as actually being suspended from school, since they still go, do their work, are counted as being at school, etc. Still, I didn’t like the way he was presenting this so one-sided, so I called the Principal and talked to him for a while…he called in Beau and talked to him, along with another boy who had been talked to once before already. Are you getting the picture that this was kind of dragged on? Anyway, it wound up that when the Principal called me back, he’d looked over Beau’s record, said that he knew Beau was a good student without a history of getting into trouble, blah-blah-blah…so, Beau still has to sit in a room and do his work alone during school for today and tomorrow, but it won’t go on his “permanent record”; the principal will take it off after a few weeks, as long as Beau doesn’t get into any more hassles. That’s really all I was looking for, anyway. I mean, the other boy did come away with a black eye, so obviously Beau wasn’t without some responsibility. Beau told me he just got so pissed by the other kid’s dumbass attitude, intentionally being a jerk and all that. Anyhoo, it could have turned out a lot worse. I told Beau he needs to control the situation better by controlling his emotions; he’s usually pretty dependable regarding how he reacts to situations, though. Jerry and I talked with him about our expectations for these types of scenerios; he seems to understand our point.

Teenagers.

Take care.

30 04 2009
lara21167

Witchy Tonya plans to keep the baby home for the first 2 weeks, and I told her not to be afraid to send anyone away that’s coughing and sniffling and such.

And Witchy sounds like you handled the situation with Beau very well. And just for the record that kid will think twice about messing with Beau again. Something that always irritates me with schools is they don’t allow for self defense. I mean Beau may have went a little overboard but all and all he was just taking up for himself. And that’s good.

Cloey how are you doing today??

30 04 2009
belle22

Cloey… I know that everyone has already told you that you are being too hard on yourself, it was an accident, yadda yadda yadda… I do agree with them though.
Here is the thing… I get it, you didnt HATE yourself (poor word choice to use up there chica!!!) You were disappointed in yourself. I just cant stand the word hate and I highly doubt that you hate yourself even for a slight moment in time. You gave your hubby the most awesome present EVER!!! That is what he is most proud of. Yeah, so you accidently broke it… shit happens right? It doesnt matter that you knew it was there, something more important was on your mind. Plus even though it was a gift, Jeremy was calm about it, that should give you a HUGE clue that he isnt upset about it. He may be a bit down, but it is fixable. So dont worry about it. yeah, feel bad for a bit, I know I would, but dont ever beat yourself up over something you didnt do on purpose.
You also said that when the people who chipped in find out what happened, that they will be pissed. Girl… you dont know that will happen. I always tell people, Stop worrying about an outcome that you dont know will happen for sure. No offense to those who chipped in, but if they do get pissed, well they arent good friends then. I know if I were in their shoes, I would feel bad about the sign but I wouldnt get pissed at you. Why? because it just isnt worth my energy to get upset about.
SO if you are still beating yourself up about it, you may want to ask yourself why you keep doing that. No one else is upset, so why are you?

oh and here is a disclaimer… at times the written word does not come across the way that it should… so if anyone is to get upset with anything that i might type, before wigging out, just say hey, can you please explain what you meant when you said….
doing it that way is so much more productive…. if only the catty women on the other blog sites would do that instead of going CRAZY!!! but you guys dont do that…. so no worries!

30 04 2009
monkeyspeaks

Witchy – Having graduated and gone through the motions, I now think the term “permanent record” is hilarious. I mean, when I was in high school it was the ultimate threat. Don’t get a detention it will go on your permanent record, don’t get a referral, it will go on your permanent record, don’t get suspended, permanent record, etc. And then the followed threat was “no college will take you if you have bad marks on your….permanent record…. HAHA. What you learn after graduation, is unless your record is peppered with referrals (funny, btw, how after high school referrals become good things, like, oh Can your Landlord give you a referral?), the permanent record really doesn’t mean A THING. I don’t think colleges even GLANCE at it unless there is something major on it (and by major I mean a monthly history of beating the crap out of kids lol). By the time I applied for college it was “referral, what?” I had one after school hr detention for giggling after a test, but that was just something the teacher made me do, she never actually wrote me up and she allowed my friends to hang out with me hahaha. She was pretty cool but I think i touched her last nerve that day. AND I had a Saturday Detention (which was our version of in-school suspension. You sat in an auditorium doing homework for 6 hours on a Saturday) and an after school one for telling a teacher to “Eff off” and that he was a “effing moron and crazy.” I admit, not the best way to tell a teacher they are wrong. Basically he was giving me a detention ANYWAY because he CLAIMED i was late… but I was in the back of the room getting a book for the class!!! He had a personal vendetta against me I think anyway. So we argued back and forth for a bit about whether or not I was late… the WHOLE class told the teacher I had been there LONG before the bell (even my arch nemisis in high school, my then boyfriends twin sister who admitted she hated me for no other reason than to have someone to hate…she even ceran wrapped and shaving creamed my car… got that bitch suspended for that one! WOOT) and finally he was like, you go down to the head securities office now and have him write up a reffaral and thats when I said something along the lines of “Eff you, if you send me out of here then your effing crazy if you think I am coming back. Actually you ARE effing crazy, the whole class said Ive been here! JERK!” and stormed out, kicked a locker, another security guard saw me and saw that i was crying, took me down and then the head security laughed his butt off when i toldh im the whole story. Told me I could go home for the day and relax and just serve the detentions cause I cursed. Then we sat around and BSed for a few minuts before I left (the perk of having your mom as president of PTA and being friends with the administration haha). OH and I got a “referral” cause my French teacher (also hated me) caught me skipping her class.

bottom line? Still got into my top choice for college lol and was 1 of the 8 in my graduating class of 500 to get into that school (state school to, i was lucky, graduating when I did, two years later all school standards changed and it became THAT MUCH harder to getting into college. 2 years later, my safety schools were even hard to get into and i wasn’t a model student grades wise).

As for the house hunt. Its good and bad. The good is we can get out of our sublease and the manager wound up being SUPER cool about the whole situation, even telling me that the chick below me who was complaining was a total psycho and he felt worse for me than he did for her (he could care less about her i think). Even offered to come to a “packing party’ at 2 am and stomp around with me HAHAHAHA. He’s letting the dog thing go cause its such a strange situation and giving us time to find a subletter and a new place. So all is well. We found one guy who will be coming to chevck the place out today. He only wants it through August though and my lease is through December SO i have to figure out if we’ll just sign the lease with this kid and then find another subletter for Aug – Dec or if I can get out of thelease by then or what. The guy is really cool though so i dont want him to lose money.

The bad? We can’t seem to agree on what we want. I want to stay closer to the city and Im not as gung ho about having a big yard… my priorities are “location, clean, space and appliances” since most Cali apartments dont come with a fridge and im gung ho on a washer/dryer. He gets pissed when I let laundry go too long and thats even having units in the basement of our complex. It’ll be wrose if i have to lug everything to a laundromat, which i HATE laundromats since some of my favorite shirts got ruined at the last one I went to. Honestly? If we dont have one? With the money I save and the money it takes to wash my clothes at a pay station anyway? I may just start sending it out. Find a good cheap place where they charge by lb and just get it done hahaha. BUT id rather have an inhouse machine. That way when things need to get done it gets done and I can work on being clean. But basicaly he keeps saying if we find the perfect house and it doesn’t have a W/D or a W/D hookup then he can look past that and I keep saying but my perfect house WILL have at least one of the two hahahaha.

We keep seeming to kind of bicker a lot about what we want and whether or not i need to sit back and just relax or whether or not hes taking my concerns into consideration. He says he is and is asking me to trust him and wants to know why I cant and I guess thats partially my issue and partially because im scared he’ll put his and the dogs needs before mine and Im not really asking for MUCH. Im just saying, well here is what I want and lets just look a little harder to include that into our search. Im sure in the long run we’ll find the right place.

As for the flu? California is in a state of emergency. I feel sick today. That weird, well I think im getting sick but I can’t actually say im congested or anything. Its more like sinus congestion and head fluey feeling. You know what Im talking about? The feeling that your body is startng to shut down and prep for a bigum? Right now if we even so much as sneeze we’re supposed to stay home (thats not a work thing, its more of a Cali thing) and there has been a reported death I believe. OH and then at the DMV today someone coughed near me so im like GREAT, I have the swine flu.

Im not scared for me. If I feel yucky I’ll go straight to the doctor. BUT im nervous about Ape. He hates doctors and hes like screw that, Im not going into one just for a flu and I keep saying but you need to get the vaccine if you feel sick. I mean I agree with him in the whole, everyone is SUPER over reacting over this. Honestly? Its a bad flu. If you’re normally in good health then you’ll fight it off. What is scary about this flu is the intensity in which it is spreading and the fact that the virus itself evolved and passed from swine to human. I mean, how many times have you gotten the flu. They range from horrible to eh. I’ve been laid up in bed with 103 fevers before, haven’t gone to the doctor and was FINE within 48 hours. Honestly? Just wash your hands, if you feel sick stay home, and dont freak out. Cause thats when the swine flu wins. When we all freak out.

ON a humorous note re: swine flu? People are wearing masks all over Cali and its REDUNKULOUS. Please guys, dont be the surgical mask people. 1) you look retarded 2) the virus is small enough to bypass the mask so its completely ineffective anyway. Just do what you normally do during flu season and dont make your kids go to shcool if they even hint they aren’t feeling well. (Like my old coworker who would send her triplets in sick and then come in sick and get me sick and it was all a mess).

30 04 2009
Witchypoo

Goldie, of course…you’re absolutely correct in your assessment of “permanent record” significance, (except for very serious situations). I was mostly campaigning for that concession to appease my own sense of fairness regarding how the situation was handled, (there is a breed of “snots” in communitites like our’s who take unfair advantage of the importance attached to the “no aggression” rule. Individuals like this go around shooting off their smartass mouths, acting like regular dumbasses…relying on the reality that in most cases, there won’t be any repercussions from people they’ve pissed off, since the schools take a very dim view of displays of anger – justified or not. I wanted to make sure that it was acknowledged in some way that Beau isn’t some thug who beat up on some “poor, innocent
boy” . The physical part was instigated by both of them. Some of these kids need to learn to start behaving more responsibly, instead of going around acting like gigantic assholes. Anyhoo, I got the principal to admit that Beau is a nice kid, responsible…all that. And, he won’t be carrying this incident up to the high school with him next year. I played the “permanent record” card with Beau, (I do this with Chance, also), because they don’t realize how much, or little, significance to attach to the label, yet. Kind of a preventative measure, you know? Moms have to be a little devious sometimes.

Take care, (more later about what you ladies said ealier).

30 04 2009
lara21167

Belle I like the advise you gave Cloey and it’s funny about the word “hate” my sister got me involved in this “soulful women” thing some kind of email club or whatever anyway the lady in charge sends “soulful” advise and once a week has a “soulful” challange and one time it was to drop a word from your vocabulary. And I thought long and hard and decided on the word “hate” it is a very strong word and used very carelessly. I still use it occasionaly, but I’m working on it lol.

Rowdy the past few days sitting at work with the airconditioner running at a freezing temparature I kept feeling achy and like I was getting a sore throat, it was what my rational mind thought, the airconditioning, but I completely understand what you mean by that “fluey” feeling. and it makes you wonder.. And I agree they are freaking out too much on this. I mean most the deaths were in Mexico where the healthcare is not as good as ours and it’s just a matter of taking care of yourself. I should call my step mother (haven’t talked to her since Christmas” she;s probably in a state of panic over this, she is one that will be sporting the surgical mask πŸ™‚

30 04 2009
lara21167

Hey ladies I probably won’t get a chance to check in until Monday. Off to VA Beach at 4 am. πŸ™‚ You guys have a great weekend.

1 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Goldie…did it again: wrote things, then lost it because I forgot to fill in the required fields; sometimes it’s required, and sometimes it’s already there…so I forget. Anyway, I think you’re being completely reasonable with your priorities regarding housing. A washer & dryer – or at least a hookup – is practically a necessity. Who wants to go sit in a hot laundromat once a week for a couple of hours? What a drain of your time. Yuck. I don’t think you’re asking for very much; your living arrangements won’t work out very well if you’re inconvenienced all the time.

Belle…yeah, some of the commenters on the other blog sites can get a little weird; people take things the wrong way sometimes – or too personally. It’s kind of weird. The fact that it’s anonymous probably encourages some to be aggressive and/or hostile, also.

Cloey…haven’t heard from you lately. Feel any better about the sign? Did yesterday run a little smoother than the day before?

Today and the last couple of days have been so sunny and beautiful; the rain and drizzle can get old day after day.

Take care, Ladies.

1 05 2009
Clo

I’m here. I’m just in a perpetual bad mood. It’s all little stuff that separately I’d be able to get over quickly, but they all keep happening, right after the other, and I feel like I’m getting snowballed. Then I hear about things, like Kayleigh (the preemie I told you guys about earlier) who’s brain dead now, and they’re about 99% sure she’ll die, and I feel bad about getting bummed out over stupid stuff, which leaves me just feeling worse.

Here’s the thing about the sign, which is frustrating me the worst. I understand what all of you guys are saying, TONS of people have told me the same thing, but I don’t think they really get WHY I’m so upset about it. Yes, it’s just a sign. And it does suck that it’s broken, because it was relatively difficult to find, and considering our budget, REALLY expensive. But, I hate (and yes, I know the meaning of the word, and how serious it is. I’m not using it to say I hate the color red or something. I really HATE) the fact that I disappointed Jeremy. And yeah, I know it was an accident. He understood that. I understand that. But what bugs me the most is the fact that it was so careless. I think I almost would have felt better if I had done it on purpose, just because then it would have had some sort of meaning. If I was pissed off and broke it in retaliation of something. But the fact is, I was just being careless. I wasn’t thinking. And, after working so hard to cheer up my husband, I brought him back to where he was earlier in the day. And the other thing is, I don’t often get to surprise Jeremy. He’s a pretty even guy, he doesn’t usually get worked up, and I’ve honestly NEVER seen him excited about anything. He SAYS he’s excited, he just doesn’t SHOW that he’s excited. And I saw it this time. I saw how excited he was, how happy he was. And then I went and ruined that. Accident or not, it leaves me feeling REALLY crappy.

Then there are other things, little things that are dumb. One being the fact that I’m not getting anything for Mother’s Day. With Jeremy being out of work so much, we just don’t have the money for him to get me a gift, or to get a gift for our moms, so we’ve told them not to get anything for me. It’s stupid, a lot of people are out of work, we’re lucky Jeremy has a job. I have a happy, healthy, BEAUTIFUL baby. And still it makes me REALLY sad that my first real Mother’s day is just going to be a bust. I mean it’d be different if Jeremy’s the kind of guy who would make me something. Cayden’s handprints or something little. But Jeremy has a REALLY hard time creatively showing his appreciation I mean he’s done it before, but he’s needed a LOT of prompting. And I don’t really feel like MAKING him make my mother’s day gift. Again, I know it’s TOTALLY dumb, but it bums me out. And even more stupid, I know my friend Natalie is going to get something big, which makes me jealous, and then angry, because she’s one of those people who complains that they’re always short on money, but then they blow their money on dumb things. Which makess me think either a.) they’re not really short on money or b.) they’re short on money cuz they make dumb decisions. Which, I get everyone slips up now and then. Maybe goes out to dinner when they really shouldn’t or buys a shirt when they know they should save their money. Or even goes a little crazy with their tax refund, whatever, I get that. But buying a brand new laptop and then complaining that formula is SO expensive? Guess how much formula your stupid laptop would have bought. I’d feel better too, I think if I could talk to Jeremy about it, but I feel like I have to hide being upset because it’ll make him more upset. He’s already on this “I can’t provide for my family” kick. I really don’t want to add to it.

Then I’m having issues with a friend who keeps saying she wants to hang out with me, and then blowing me off. She even told me Saturday after she had done it literally 10 times that she felt like she was blowing me off lately and felt badly for it. Made plans for Sunday, never called, never showed. Made plans for last night, again, never called, never showed. And she’s been working crazy hours lately so I let it slide, thinking she was tired. But sunday when I texted her when she didn’t show I found out she was with her sister. I let it slide again, thinking she wanted to spend what time she did have off with family. And then I found out she’s been seeing another friend weekly, not missing their weekly “music night”. The icing on the cake? I found out last night when she was supposed to come over that she went to a party instead. And now I’m pissed, cuz I mean, had she called and canceled, whatever. I get that she’s 23 years old, and being stuck at my house with the baby might be boring. But to not even bothering calling or even texting? It just pisses me off to no end. And I don’t really want to talk to her, because then I’m afraid it’ll guilt her into hanging out with me, and she obviously doesn’t want to do that, or else she’d be keeping our plans like she’s keeping everyone elses. The worst part about it, it’s not like she’s like this. I wasn’t expecting it from her. She even keeps plans with my sister, but the one time I see her in WEEKS, she comes over and falls asleep on my couch. Which, I mean, like I said, crazy work hours, she was tired. But how come she can keep up with everyone else?

Then my sister’s over. And she’s been over a ton lately, which means her boyfriends been over a ton, and he irritates the hell out of me. And she’s starting to irritate the hell out of me too. For one, she only is really here either when she wants to eat, watch something on TV, or when he goes to work. I’m like, just fucking stay at his house. Buy food, keep it at his house, bring a book since he doesn’t have cable, and stay there. But nope, she won’t do that. She just comes and goes whenever. Then last night, I started throwing up. I have a super bad headache, and I’m sick to my stomach today. I texted her last night to see if she’d watch Cayden today. I mean, I’m not freaking out about the swine flu, but I am taking precautions when it comes to Cayden. Washing our hands more, keeping him away from tons of people. The basics. And while I don’t personally think I’m sick with the swine flu, I’d like to keep him away from me so it doesn’t catch it, just so his already baby weak immune system doesn’t get any weaker. She said she’d watch him. Said she had plans to go out with her boyfriend for lunch. For an hour. She’d come home in the morning to watch him, and then come back after lunch. She didn’t come home in the morning, she came back at 11, watched him for an hour and a half, part of that time he was sleeping anyway, and then left, saying she’d be back in an hour. She left at 12:30, it’s 3:30. She’s not home, her phone is convienantly on the table. I get it, it’s not her responsibility to watch my son. I made him, he’s my son, sick or not I have to suck it up and take care of him. But again, WHY, WHY WHY WHY did she say she’d do it? It just PISSES me off. What if I said she could come over, and then locked up the house and left for the whole day so she couldn’t come in? She wouldn’t like that. And then it irritates me too, because a lot of times she questions my parenting. Like “Well, I wouldn’t do that if I was his mom.” And I just want to SCREAM A.) You have NO idea what you would do if you were his Mom. There’s PLENTY of things I would have said I would NEVER do, and guess what? Now I’m doing them. Because things don’t work out perfectly like you have them planned in your head. Sometimes the things you plan on doing just don’t work. and B.) If you can’t hold up on a commitment to babysit for ONE afternoon, obviously you wouldn’t be able to do the million a one other things you have to put before youself when you’re a mom. Such as taking care of your child when you feel like all you want to do is crawl under a rock and die. Getting out of bed and up with him, even if you’ve only had an hour of sleep. Not being able to go out and drink and party, because you’ve got a child at home. Or maybe something as simple as having to be home by 9 O’clock because that’s when he goes to bed.

And then today a bunch of little things: I don’t feel good, my head is pounding, Cayden has discovered a new whine. It’s highpitched, it makes me feel like an icepick is rubbing my temples. I finally lost it and yelled at him. Which is dumb, he’s a baby, it’s not his fault. Then felt horrible (as I should) when he cried. I called my Mom to vent. She told me basically I was being dumb and needed to talk to my sister. I would do that, if my sister was a normal person and didn’t randomly snap and go off at the littlest things. My Mom knows that, and yet still thinks I should talk to her. Of course, when I do, if my sister does snap and go off, it’ll somehow be all my fault with my mom.

Like I said, bunch of dumb stuff. I’ll get over it, it’s not a huge deal, just a bad week, you know?

1 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Hi Cloey. Yes, Sweetie…I get exactly why you’re so upset over the sign. I’m sure you realize that the only reason people keep offering you advice and reassurance about it is because that’s the only way we have of trying to help you. Regardless of the fact that it’s probably just going to take you some time to get over the negative feelings about it, (especially the guilt), people just grasp for any grain of helpful truth to try to make you feel better. Meanwhile, you’re going to feel as crappy about it as you would anyway, with or without well-meaning friends. NOW do you feel 100 times better, Cloey? Hugh-hugh-hugh?!!! Just kidding. Really, I know how bad it feels to feel bad for someone you love. I’d so much rather be the person who’s going without…any day. It’s the worst.

Your sister sounds a little preoccupied with her life. You’re right: she shouldn’t say she’ll help you out unless she’s prepared to follow through. Would it cause a big uproar for you to tactfully suggest a little time apart? Maybe you two are getting on each other’s nerves from overexposure. It seems like she kind of uses your home as a convenient crashing place. I don’t know…but being taken for granted by someone close to you is unpleasant at best.

Yeah, having a bunch of things building up at once to make your circumstances complicated is tricky. You feel like you’re overreacting to any one individual thing…but put together, it can be hard to stay in a positive frame of mind.

Take care, Sweetie

1 05 2009
Clo

I don’t want to talk to my sister, because I don’t want to hurt her feelings. Even worse, I feel like she’d blow up at me, which she tends to do. She has a short fuse and I never really know what will want won’t set her off. Yeah, there’s a chance she’d understand, but there’s also a chance that she’d explode. I don’t feel like fighting, especially today.

And the sign, I know everyone is just trying to make me feel better, or to put it in perspective for me. But in the end, it almost leaves me feeling worse. I’ll get over it, I know. But right now I do just feel horrible. It also doesn’t help that Jeremy’s not really getting any other gifts for his birthday. His parents are paying for him to get his license plates renewed, which I mean is a present, but not really a big one you know? Not something fun, he only asked for it cause he needs it done and we don’t have the money to do it. And then everyone else who would get him a present went in on the sign, so it’s like. His one birthday present. I broke it. I don’t want to keep harping on it. I feel better about it than I did yesterday, but I still feel bad. It’s just adding to this huge ball of crappiness.

Plus Witchy, you hit the nail pretty much on the head when you said if one thing happened, I’d probably be able to put it into perspective and ignore it. But it’s all these little crappy things, and it’s making me feel like my life right now sucks. Which I KNOW isn’t true. And then I think about people who have it worse, and I feel guilty for even thinking I have it badly. And then something else happens, and it spirals again. I’m OK, I’ll get over it. It’s just like I said, a bad week. And the weather isn’t helping. It’s storming, which just kinda adds the perfect setting to gloom in, lol.

2 05 2009
Clo

OK, so two things: One, a question: Today Jeremy had a move job. He’s decided to sell the truck because he’s not getting a lot of moves, and his hours don’t really allow a lot of time to move, and with needing new plates, plus the insurance, we’re pretty much just wasting money on it. But he takes moves from friends now and then. Anyway, he had a move today. He knew the people he was moving (an old co-worker) so he let them write him a check. He had helpers, so he went to take money out of the ATM to pay them. He didn’t go to our bank’s ATM, but another “sister” bank I guess you would say, an ATM we get to use for free. Anyway, he went to take out the money – 180 dollars – to pay them. He heard the machine do the shuffling noise like it was counting the money and about to give it to him. Then it told him the transaction could not be completed. He took his card out and tried again, and it told him he couldn’t take out that much (we have a 300 dollar a day ATM limit) So, he checked his balance. It had taken off the 180 dollars, but didn’t give it to him. The bank people were NOT helpful, and told him he needed to go to our bank. He did, and filed paperwork. He was told that what usually happens when this happens is that when the brinks people check the ATM it would be over 180 dollars, and they’d credit his account. They, of course, didn’t tell us WHEN we could be expecting the money, so that’s nice. Here’s my question: What happens if let’s say the next person comes up to use the machine and takes out 20 bucks. And gets 200 instead. And doesn’t report the error. Jeremy seems to think that means that we’re out 180 bucks, because there’s no way to prove that he didn’t get the money. Anyone have experience with this? My week is not going so well. He still had to pay the guys, which means our account right now is down 360 dollars – the 180 the ATM took, and the 180 he had to pay the guys who helped him. Which, you can imagine is not really great for us considering.

My second question: did anyone else get an email from Janey?

2 05 2009
Witchypoo36

No, Cloey, I haven’t had that particular banking-error happen to me. That must be really frustrating. So, your bank didn’t give you any kind of timeline about when you can expect the money to be available to you? I can’t believe the inconvenience they expect you to put up with. So, just say…if that 180.00 made the difference between you bouncing checks or not, would the bank take care of the resulting insufficient funds fees? That’s such bullshit.

No, I haven’t received anything from Janey. What was your’s about?

Take care.

2 05 2009
janey

Hey witchy.
i know im probably the last person you want to hear from but i just wanted to apologize for what happened in the blog. i never meant to lie to you guys at all but i knew that if i told you my real age, you probably wouldnt have talked to me. i also never thought that i would get attached to you guys the way i did. but like i told Clo in the email i sent her, i read you guys’ comments on the cosmo blogs, and you and Lara were always talking about you kids and Clo was excited about Cayden and you all sounded like such great moms. my mom never has time for me, and when i try to show her my poems or a story i wrote i feel like im wasting her time. she only brags about me when she’s with other people who are talking about their kids so she wont look bad. i bring home good grades and she focuses on the bad one. i just wanted someone to listen, really. and you guys did. my mom is never home, my brother is in florida, my dad in Puerto rico, my friends think i act too old, my school was going crazy because of all the suicides that happened. i had a lot to say and i felt like no one was listening. my mom took me to a psychiatrist and i really was diagnosed with depression. but i dont think im depressed. i just needed someone to listen. i hope you can accept my apology if any of the things i said/did upset you in anyway. i really didnt mean to.

2 05 2009
janey

Lara-
you also deserve an apology. basically what i told witchy applies to all of you. but im sorry if i upset you with what i did. the thing is, you all came to mean so much to me and i miss talking to you guys. cause, unlike my friends, or my mom, or my stupid shrink, you guys listened. you actually sounded like you gave a shit. and that felt nice. i hope you and the other ladies have a nice life and i hope you are all happy in whatever it is that you get out of life.

2 05 2009
Witchypoo

Well Janey, of course I accept your apology, hunny. Btw, I would have talked with you anyway, regardless of your age; like Cloey, I just would have tempered what I said. Speaking from a mom’s point of view, I wouldn’t want other adults – especially people I’m unfamiliar with – talking in certain ways to my children. It’s just not right. So, let’s just start over…and from here on out, you be honest with us; just be yourself, ok?

I answered you earlier today…but neglected to fill in the “required fields” on here again – so everything I wrote got “erased” when I didn’t notice it needed to be done. I keep doing that; sometimes it’s already filled in, and sometimes the information needs to be reentered. I just got back again after leaving to get Beau some new cleats for lacrosse; he ripped right through his other ones, and needed some before tonight’s game.

More later…take care.

4 05 2009
lara21167

Oh Janey I forgive you too, that’s all I wanted was an apology. I will unblock you from my myspace, if one of you nice ladies (Cloey maybe) will explain how lol. I’m going to smoke and be back to tell you about my trip!!

4 05 2009
lara21167

Ok, I’m back. First we had a great time. The girls all performed awesomely!! Unfortunately most of the teams there and there was 630 teams alltogether, were highly sponsered. One mother was telling us her team had 27 sponsers. That means they have money for professional corriagraphy (I have no idea how to spell that, but I think you’ll know what I meant) and professional dance instructors and professional tumbling instructors. So we really didn’t stand a chance, but we did look like we belonged. The poor little tinies got stage fright, the stages had flashing lights and smoke when they came on!! They got last place. Kristy’s dance team also got last place. Cheer took 22nd out of 25, at least it wasn’t last!! And I still haven’t heard how the 2 senoir levels did. Kristy’s Cheer team had a 12 point deduction for an illegal stunt in the pyramid. The girl in the middle kind of leaned over on the girl to her left and the girl on her right held her foot. This was legal in the organizations we have competed for, but with the finals there are many organizations coming to one and the rules are different and our coach missed that “no hand to foot contact in the pyramid.” But they did their best and all had a great time. And we had alot of time to play. We hit the beach on Friday and the wind was blowing hard the sand whipping and I got sunburned, then Saturday was the competition then we took the girls to a small amusement park for a couple hours and Sunday back to the beach to get burned some more lol. We stayed at a Super 8 motel and had the most riccady (sp?) elevator ever. It was rather scary πŸ™‚ And of course we went shopping and spent lots of money I didn’t have but oh well I planned to anyway. But I’ll tell you VA Beach is a crazy city. They have bars on the shopping area every couple stores and drunks wondering around raising hell. This one guy came running by us and you could smell the alchohol a mile away and he was yelling and ran out into the street. Then coming back through there was throwup on the sidewalk every couple feet. the next night there was 3 guys walking down the street in their underware (most have been a dare) and yelling “I better not see myself on google”. Very entertaining!!

So yesterday we left at 4:00 pm and hit heavy traffic then took a wrong turn at Washington DC. We were driving along and the lady I was riding with Julie said “what’s that” and I looked over and said the Washington Monument and I don’t remember seeing it on the way down. We were driving behind the Capitol Building. So we keep going (and cloey I finally have the answer on what part of DC you want to avoid when you go visit) it is the Southeast part of town where the new Arcondia stadium is. We went right by there and the sorroundings were not looking good. First Julie texted a friend that works in DC and explained where we were at and got a reply “Holy Crap” (DC is the most confusing city to drive in ever, and people that have lived there all there lives can’t explain how to get around) so Julie’s friend was no help. so I use her phone and call my sister. When I explained to my sister where we were she said “oh shit” and I said I know it’s an “oh shit” how do we get to 495. And she gave me about 3 street names to look for and we finally found one and turned on it and found a sign for 495 North. My sister wouldn’t let me off the phone until we were safely on 495 and she knew we were heading the right direction. So we didn’t get home until 10:30 and poor Ginger must have really missed us, my hubby said she was bad and was chewing everything she could up. The she wouldn’t let me sleep last night, kept wanting to play. Finally I slept on the couch with her and she just layed her head on me and went to sleep. Poor puppy.

So I get into work this morning and our office was broken into!! They broke a window in one of the garage doors in the shop. That wouldn’t trigger the alarm, but we have cameras all through this place and have him on tape. Anyhoo he was in my office, went through my drawers, the reception desk, and my bosses desk. Looking for money, but we don’t keep money in here, not even petty cash. Then when he left he opened the garage door and the alarm then went off. The only thing we’ve found that he did take was a lap top computer, and it’s an old one and only has pictures stored on it. Not going to get much money from that.

And Cloey when you do decide to go to DC, try looking for a hotel in Beltsville, Silver Spring, Greenbelt, they are all suburbs of DC. and in Maryland. Or you could Stay in Columbia, Maryland area, Rockville, Gaithersburg or as far as Frederick.

4 05 2009
lara21167

Lot’s of typos and I was really rambling. Sorry. Rowdy I see you experienced your first earthquake, can’t wait to hear all about it!!

4 05 2009
Witchypoo

Lara…sounds like you had a really busy, (fun!) weekend; be careful with the sunburns, though.

Take care.

4 05 2009
Clo

Laura, I’m glad you had a fun weekend. I had kinda a lost in the ghetto experience this weekend too.

My mom lives in a decent neighborhood. The houses are nice, people are clean and quiet, and all that jazz. But it’s in a weird location. Literally one block to the left you’re in the hood, and I mean straight hood. However, one block to the right, you’re in German Village, which is a super old, super expensive rich type neighborhood. The ghetto neighborhood is where I used to work, so I know it pretty well. Anyway, Saturday my sister wanted to buy Jeremy a nice bottle of liquor for his birthday (we were going to party that night, which, is a WHOLE other story.) so we went around the corner to the bad neighborhood to the liquor store. My sister went in, and I didn’t have my ID on me, so I sat in the car. My sister came out, and as she was coming to the car, this homeless guy asked if she had any change. She gave him some, and he said some stuff. My sister got back into the car and he blew her a kiss. She was driving (and she’s learning how to drive, she only has her temps.) so she was taking her time getting in, putting the bottle of liquor in the backseat. As she’s doing this he pulled up his shirt and like started showing us his stomach and like licking his lips. THe next thing I know his pants are down and he’s showing us his dick. It was HORRIBLE, but kinda funny cuz he just had the BIGGEST bush I’ve ever seen. It was made worse because my sister’s not good at backing up and still needs a lot of help driving, and I’m screaming at her to go, and the guy flashed us again! It took us forever to get outta there, cuz she kept asking me which way to turn the wheel and which way to go. It was super funny/horrible.

5 05 2009
Witchypoo

Oh, Cloey…I don’t know whether to laugh, (ok…I admit it: I’m laughing my ass off already), or console you. The guy “had the biggest bush” you’ve ever seen?! Now THAT’S funny! Of course, this had to take place while your sister is driving, instead of you. Did you roll on the ground laughing when you got home and told Jeremy? What did HE say? One time – many years ago – I was in the seedier part of downtown Renton…getting some ice cream at a Baskins & Robbins, of all places. It was the middle of the afternoon; as I walked up to my car, the guy in the car parked next to me was smiling this sicko kind of grin at me…he had the weirdest-looking dark circles under his glazed eyes I’ve ever seen. Anyway, after noting the unsettling grin, my gaze traveled downward to his lap…in which he was very busy; no pants on or anything, either. I ran back into the ice cream place to tell them to call the police, (they’re usually all over that area, anyway)…but he drove off right away. I remember thinking he was the creepiest-looking person I’d ever seen in “real life”. I think your story is much more amusing; plus, you had someone with you, so it seems not-quite-so-creepy…you know? Wow. Hey…maybe you shouldn’t be visiting that part of the neighborhood at night anymore; what do you think? Damn.

Take care.

5 05 2009
lara21167

Omg, I really don’t know how I’d react to either of those situations. I think I agree with you Witchy, if you have someone with you it’s not as creepy but more funny than if you’re by yourself. A girl I used to work had a similiar experience to you Witchy, she went to the grocery store at lunch and a guy sitting in a vehicle next to her was staring at her and when she looked he had his pants pulled down. I’ve always said if I was in a situation like that, I’d laugh so hard I’d give the guy a complex and he’d never do it again lol. Now why on earth would a guy get a thrill exposing himself like that??

And cloey tell your sister that that is why I always hesitate giving money to beggers on the street. It’s bad because if I can help someone I like to but you never know what kind of freak they may be.

5 05 2009
Witchypoo

Yeah…ironic that someone you’re trying to HELP – show kindness to – would show his appreciation by flashing you the goods; idiots. Btw Ladies…good morning.

Cloey, did you have sweet dreams of the hairy Romeo? Sorry, Sweetie…I just couldn’t help myself.

Take care

P.S. I can STILL picture that weirdo’s face who exposed himself to me – all these years later. Yuck.

5 05 2009
Clo

Jeremy laughed. I was like, way to be my protector, lol. I think it’s hilarious now. Then i was like, ew, ew, ew get away.

I’ve never been flashed before, at least, not by someone I don’t know. But once, when I was in high school, or maybe middle school, I can’t remember, my friend got advance screening tickets to see this movie, I don’t know if you guys have ever heard of it, it was called On The Line, but everyone I know called it the N’sync movie, because Lance Bass and Joey Fatone from N’sync were in it, and Chris Kirkpatrick and Justin Timberlake made appearences at the end. Anyway, we get there, and we sit down. There was four of us, and one seat empty on the end. This older guy asks if he can sit next to us. It was empty seat, my friend Shannon, me, and my other two friends. We were like, uh ok. I mean I thought it was weird that this older guy was at a movie with all these teenybopper girls, but I figured, hey, maybe he was with his daughter and her friends and they wouldn’t let him sit with them. Anyway, throughout the movie my friend Shannon keeps leaning closer and closer to me, and towards the end she’s practically IN my seat with me. The guy left with like, 10 minutes left in the movie. As soon as the movie was over my friend Shannon BUSTED out. When we got outside she was laughing and kinda freaking out. We were like “What’s up?” Turns out, the guy next to us was jacking off the whole time.

5 05 2009
lara21167

Omg, what is wrong with some men. I know some people get a thrill out of having sex in public places, but that’s just sick, a pervert in the making. Sunday when Julie and I were at the beach, the girls wanted to eat some cheese its and didn’t want to get sand in them so we let them go up to the board walk and sit on a bench and eat. Julie’s daughter is younger than Kristy only 8 or 9 but they get along real good. Anyhoo we could see them from where we were sitting. Julie looks up at them and their was a guy standing in front of where they were sitting. So she said to me “is that some strange man talking to our girls?” and I looked and he was obviously talking gesturing and everything. So we decided we better go and see what was going on. It was funny we left all our stuff sit and went plowing through the sand as fast as we could go, which wasn’t real fast. When we finally got up on the boardwalk we realized the man they were talking to was the father of 2 girls on our Cheer team and we just started to laugh. We told him we didn’t recognize him from behind. But these days you never can tell and Paton, Julie’s daughter is so friendly she’ll talk to anyone.

6 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Damn. Did it again, (got my comments erased). Anyhoo…yeah, Lara – I would have been flying up to that boardwalk too; just can’t be too careful these days. When I was a kid, I was really friendly also…not the least bit shy or reserved. I must have just gotten lucky. I still gab with anyone who happens to look nice, friendly, or interesting to me…especially if I’m waiting around somewhere, in the store, or whatever.

Cloey, your poor friend. Why didn’t Shannon say something sooner? I’m pretty sure I would have raised hell with him…called attention to what he was doing – something. She was probably pretty stunned, hugh? Pervert asshole.

What else is going on, Ladies? Have to run Beau to lacrosse practice. Take care.

6 05 2009
Clo

I’m with you and Witchy, Laura. I would have been on the boardwalk in a flash. You just never know anymore. Did you guys read about that 3 year old who’s missing? Some guys broke into his house with guns and like tied up the family and took the little boy at gun point. I don’t walk away from the cart at the store if Cayden’s in it, not even a foot away. If the aisle is too crowded or whatever, I take Cayden out and carry him with me. I have to yell at Jeremy all the time, because he’ll walk away, and I’m like, dude, it happens in an INSTANT.

I dunno why Shannon didn’t say anything. She’s always been a little weird, and I think maybe she liked it a little. I mean, not liked it, but I think she thought of the attention it would bring later, and decided she’d have a better story if she kept her mouth shut. She was kinda a pathological liar. We had been friends since first grade, and she was fine for awhile, and then just… Lost it. I think maybe her mom and Dad’s split did something to her. I mean maybe I’m wrong, and she just was stunned, but she was always an odd duck.

So I have a question, and it’s total TMI, but you guys are the only ones I know to ask. I still haven’t gotten my period. I took a test with my first morning urine like a week ago, and it was STILL negative, although at that point, I was over a month late (I get it at the start of each month, so I’ve just skipped my second period.) I have a lot of signs of being pregnant: I’m tired, I have headaches, I’m peeing more, there’s more discharge (TMI again, I know) I’m tired, my insomnia’s back (it was WICKED bad when I was pregnant with Cayden.) And then today I was talking to a friend online and she asked me if my nipples were sore (they were super bad with Cayden in the first month), I went to kinda press on them to see, and (this is the TMI part, sorry) I had nipple discharge! I mean I know I breastfed Cayden, but that was for a month, and this is like, 6 months later. I haven’t noticed any other discharge. What is going on with me????

6 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Cloey, I’d take a second home test…or just see the doctor at this point, (I don’t remember what you said about your insurance coverage for you). Would a visit cost you a lot? If it turns out that you’re not pregnant, maybe they’ll want to test your hormone levels; sometimes they’re off-balence for a long time after giving birth…or just for no apparent reason. Also, after breastfeeding with my babies, I still had some nipple discharge for months, (after weaning). It does sound like you have a lot of pregnancy symptoms, though…that’s why I’d go to the doctor to find out one way or another if I were you.

6 05 2009
lara21167

I agree with Witchy, If you don’t have insurance yet, just go to a clinic. And if your not pregnant then as witchy said you can have your hormone levels checked. Are you on birthcontrol? Some birth controls can do weird things to you, especially if it’s too strong. But you should get checked. I still don’t totally trust those home pregnancy tests.

6 05 2009
Clo

We don’t have insurance. Jeremy is still supposed to do the WIC stuff, since he would have to fill out the paperwork, so we can at least get Cayden covered. I can look into a clinic, but like I told Rowdy when she was talking about it, I know the last time I checked at planned parenthood (at least here), they don’t do a blood test, they just do a pee test. And if I’m going some place to find out, I’m not having them do the same thing I did at home, you know?

No birth control. I mean, none of the oral birth control. I was on it for a second, but that was months ago, again, when Cayden was first born. I just could never remember to take it, so we felt safer with alternative methods.

I feel really gross this morning. Cayden slept super crappy last night, which meant both Jeremy and I slept super crappy. He’s been peeing through his diapers at night again, which I don’t understand because he usually does it shortly after we change him (we try to only change him once at night, usually around 2 AM, because the books I’ve read said the less changing, the better they are at sleeping, because changing them wakes them up.) So when he feeds at 2, we usually change him. A couple nights ago, and then last night he woke us up at 4. Which, we’re like he can’t be hungry, he just ate. So we go in, and he’s soaked, and his sheet is soaked. And I’m like, how did you do that? You JUST got your diaper changed 2 hours ago. And then we have to change him and the sheet, which wakes him up, and then he wants to play. It’s all in all a huge hassle.

6 05 2009
lara21167

I agree about the pee test, blood tests are more acurate. Maybe you can call your doc and explain the situation and they’ll just have you go straight to a lab for a blood test and bypass the office visist first. That shouldn’t cost quite so much. Not sure what to tell you about the peeing through the diaper. On those nights did he drink more than normal? Are you giving him juice or water? Those could be a factor. Idk.

6 05 2009
monkeyspeaks

Hey guys,

Im not really sure what to do right now (belle, i know you’re not gonna be thrilled).

I’ve been on meds for the past two years for anxiety and depression. As time, therapy, and self work wore on I stopped being dependent on them (or at least have been able to control my emotions for the most part) and when I moved, life became hectic and I forgot to take them. Well my mood swings were better, but I gained weight (side affect from going off the meds without “lowering” the dose gradually) and while mentally there have been no severe side effects, I know I screwed up.

I did call the doctor in charge of my meds right before my move to get a refill but she never returned my call.

My therapist thinks I am on them, but now four months into my move, I haven’t taken any medication since late december.

I have left overs. I screwed up enough in the past (meaning forgot to take) that when I packed I accumulated at least a months worth.

Now the problem is I know I need to go back on them. Maybe not for mental health but because Im supposed to be on them and if I went off them I needed to do it correctly.

I have to tell my therapists but i REALLY don’t want to. The only problem is I can’t keep telling them Im taking them. Eventually they’ll converse with each other, especially when the one I speak to once monthly decides its time to ween me off. He’ll want to discuss with the other doctor and she’ll admit that we haven’t spoken in what could be almost half a year.

Im scared to tell the doctor because i know i’ll get “in trouble” for being untruthful and for screwing around with my meds. I just don’t know what to do. I dont want to just start taking them again without regulation but Im scared of the reprecution that I know I am going to face with both doctors.

I was thinking of calling the one who prescribes and talking to her. I dont have an “appointment’ to talk to my monthly doctor till next week. And shes (the med doc) is a bit more lenient and relatively flighty so I know I can just discuss the situation with her… but it’ll get back to my other doctor.

This is causing me anxiety which at this point I DONT need.

Im unhappy because I’ve gained a ton of weight (MINIMUM 20 lbs, if not more… probably 30 at this point) and I feel like Im starting to lose a bit of control.

What should I do guys….

6 05 2009
monkeyspeaks

I just tried calling her but the line keeps ringing busy.

6 05 2009
monkeyspeaks

I paged her… so hopefully she’ll call me back.

Im nervous and I know I was in the wrong and I know im going to hear it, but id rather take responsibility for this. I know I’ve been feeling off and I dont want to go into a downward spiral.

I guess right now I’m just scared and I want to talk to the “med” doctor and see what it is I need to do.

I think she’ll just restart me on everything and slowly work abck up. I just am not looking forward to telling the other doctor.

6 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Goldie…I feel like I’m missing something here, Sweetie. You seem almost panic-stricken over a medicatin issue; is this because your anxiety has been slowly building up, (sneaking up on you?). I mean, the therapist you’re seeing to help you is being paid to HELP you, not scare the crap out of you. I get that you feel like maybe you’ve been somewhat irresponsible for just going off the medication, but does you therapist use a lot of reprimanding/intimidation when dealing with you? Or, is it because you “lied” that you think you’ll “get into trouble”? I know I’m asking a lot of questions, but I’m trying to understand why you seem SO worried about this. What if you just come clean with him and promise not to do it again – how do you think he’ll react? You could just ask the med doctor not to say anything to the other therapist while you’re reestablishing you medication routine, until you’ve had time to tell him yourself. Then, you’ll already be safely back on track, and you can reassure him that you understand the seriousness of going off suddenly, not telling them, etc…all that. I was thinking, too, (I hope I’m not overstepping, Goldie…but this just occured to me, and I don’t want you doing anything that could be potentially dangerous to your mental/emotional health) – what a mouthful. Anyhoo, do you typically mix the eating Doritos thingy with your anxiety/depression medication? Like alcohol, that can be VERY dangerous to your mental/emotional health. Now, I’m not speaking at all of right/wrong, making judgements…whatever. I couldn’t care less about that; I’m speaking from a biochemical/mental health standpoint. Have you told either of your doctors about that, just to see about possible side effects? I have to ask, because it seems important regarding your overall well-being, Goldie.

6 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Lots of typos in that…you know how I love making those. I don’t know why such insignificant details bother me, (about my own comments, only).

6 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Oh, and Cloey…the fact that Cayden peed right through to his sheets sounds like the diaper was positioned on his little pee-pee, (I feel like an idiot referring to that area like that…but the usual term sounds weird for a baby, for some reason), in such a way as to point it up, or in some other weird position, so that the pee gets around the edge of the diaper. Even if the diaper seemed pretty soaked, he was probably still pointed funny. That happened sometimes with all three of my boys, even when it didn’t seem like they’d peed enough to soak the diaper. I’d be like…how did he pee through to his clothes/sheets when the diaper isn’t even that bad? This happened mostly when they were reaching the upper end of the weight guidelines for diaper fit…even when there was supposedly 5-7, or more, pounds left, I’d have to jump them up to the next size…then they’d stop peeing through for a while again. Any little gap in the top of the diaper can create a space for pee to shoot through. I’m assuming it’s a boy issue…not so much with girls.

6 05 2009
lara21167

Rowdy, don’t think I can add much to what Witchy said. I think you are having a panic attack over telling you docs and you shouldn’t feel intimidated by your doctors as witchy said they are being paid to help you not yell at you. I know I would feel kind of the same way about disappointing my doctor but they are there to help you. keep calling until you get an answer and you may need something for immediate anxiety relief because yes it sounds like you are having a panic attack. I went off of xannex like all at once and had the worst anixiety attack I ever had. Any of those things you have to go off of slowly. Let us know how you’re doing!!

6 05 2009
Clo

Rowdizzle- I know where you’re coming from in the sense that I REALLY don’t like being yelled at or reprimanded. I tend to cry, and I cry worse when it’s people I don’t know so well, which makes it totally embarassing.

First, talk to your med doctor. Get back on your meds. Then, ‘fess up to your other doctor. Take the blame before he can place it on you:

“I know I shouldn’t have done this, and I have several reasons for stopping, the move was hectic and I was busy, I felt fine anyway, ect. However, I know none of those are valid, I should never be too busy for my health and well being, and if I felt fine I should have come and talked to my doctors about going off the right way. However, I realize my mistake now, I’m starting to feel not good, and I’m trying to correct it. I was really scared to tell you about this because I didn’t want you to be angry, upset, or disappointed with me, but I know my health should come first.”

Keep your head up chica. Like you keep telling me, it’ll all work out in the end.

Laura- I don’t even HAVE a doctor right now. I was supposed to go in for a pap smear in the beginning of March and because we lost insurance had to skip it. So I lost my OBGYN that way, and I haven’t had a family doctor in years. I’m kinda scared to go to the health department, my Uncle works there and is kinda a big wig there, and while I don’t think any of the people working there would tell him I was there (confidentiality stuff) I ALWAYS seem to run into him when I’m there. I was planning on seeing if I got it back by the the third month (third times a charm, right?) and if not then, going somewhere.

Witchy- I was thinking that. Right now we have to bend his diapers down on top. Cayden has a herniated belly button and underneath is kinda infected right now. My mom and his pedi think it’s because it’s getting hotter, so he’s sweating more, and because he’s sitting up, which lets less air get to it. So we’ve bent the diapers down on top so they don’t touch/rub up against it and more air can get to it. If that’s the reason he’s peeing through himself, though, we’re sunk.

6 05 2009
monkeyspeaks

SO I talked to everyone. My psychiatrist wanted me to find someone here to go back on the meds. My therapist, however, is one who believes if you can work through it off meds, then why introduce medication. He wasn’t upset at all, no lecture, said wed talk about it during my “appointment” on Friday, but the long and short of it…. he said If i am doing fine overall without them, and have been for as long as I have been, then he thinks my anxiety is based off my distaste for not being 100% honest… he said the motivation issue is something to watch but for now, we’ll treat it without meds. He said if your tired because your lifestyle is so active then thats normal, that the fact that I can push through my lack of motivation and still get done what needs to get done then I can probably work through it without medication (so like I dont stay regular with the gym, but I go when I make myself go and he thinks my anxiety over my motivation is what is causing me to shy away… its a tendency I do have, if i get anxious, i hide rather than work with it… which it hink it what i tried to explain to you witchy in the email)

I feel really releived. Part of me is sad because the meds help me lose weight, but maybe its time to stop using the crutch. I just feel so much better with him knowing, without having to have anxiety over the fact that im not taking something I thought I should be taking, etc.

Im sure you guys are like, but the other doctor told you to stay on it. The thing is, Im her patient through my regular therapist… and hes consistent with me, talkst o me regularly, speakst o family to keep up with my day to day, i call him whenever i need him, etc. He calls me out when he thinks something is up. Hes very, blunt i guess you can say. Its why I get scared to tell him when I screw up, but its also why i love going to him. So I think i trust his opinion more than the other doctor who will never followup with me if i don’t remember to page her. (ex. it took a phone message and two pages to finally get her to call me… i left my therapist ONE message and he called back as soon as he was out of his current appointment to make sure I was ok).

I honestly feel like crying because, now instead of anxiety, i feel silly and loved and i need to start remembering, i dont havet o hide things, especially from my doc.

So i guess in the end its good news. No more meds. I’ll probably have to work harder now, to lose wieght again, in therapy, etc, because I dont have this crutch for me, but perhaps because i’ve gone so long without them it’ll be a good entry into it.

thanks for letting me vent guys. I mean i know its my blog, but at the same time, and i explained this to witchy, i prefer keeping my bigger issues underwraps because i odnt like saddling others with them.

6 05 2009
lara21167

Sometimes I hate doctors, yea I know shouldn’t use the word hate lol. But one missed appointment and they won’t see you. That’s why I hung on to the family doctor I had for so long. He knew me and really cared. Problem was he was just losing it. Everyone kept telling me to switch so i did and now have this pompous jackass for a doctor who has an “I’m better than you” air about him. I love my gyo though, I’ve been going to him for 18 years and don’t know what I’ll do if he decides to retire. I think he’s stopped delivering babies, that’s what someone told me anyway.

6 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Goldie…no, don’t ever feel like you’re “saddling” us with anything you need to get off your shoulders; I know that’s easier said than done. I wrote you back…just making sure you got my email.

I’m glad that you’re feeling so relieved; it really does help to let others help you a little, hugh?

Cloey, yeah, it’s probably the positioning of the diaper; I don’t know much about the herniated bellybutton thing…does it resolve itself eventually?

6 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Also, Cloey…would a little bit of antibiotic cream help with the infection? Has your pediatrician said anything about treating that?

6 05 2009
lara21167

Rowdy you sound like me sometimes. I get like that, feeling anxious and panicky over something that works out just fine and then feel foolish for being so overwrought about the whole damn thing. Glad you are feeling better. And vent all you want. We all sure do lol.

6 05 2009
Clo

Rowdy- I know what you mean about trusting one doctors opinion and not the others. Personally when I had my pych. I didn’t like him at all, and would have listened to my therapist any day over him. He tried to put me on a medicine that could have caused me to have an allergic reaction to my SKIN. He said there was a “small chance” that it would happen, and my Mom said “Well, is there something ELSE you could put her on, that’s safer?” and he said Yeah. I thought my Mom was going to hit him. And I agree with Laura, vent all you want, lol nobody else (me especially) has a problem venting.

Witchy- Herniated bellybuttons are not totally uncommon, and the doctor isn’t really worried about it at all. It happens when the hole that the umbillical cord attached too doesn’t close all the way. Like I said before, we have to keep an eye on it to make sure it doesn’t get hard or purple/blue, but other than that, we pretty much leave it alone. Our doctor said it usually does go away on it’s own, however she’s not sure if Cayden’s will or not. It’s been almost 8 months and there’s been no change, no shrinkage or anything. So if it’s still there when he’s like 2, he’ll have to have surgery to fix it.

She also said we could put some sort of neosporin or something on it. However, my Mom (who has her masters in nursing) says it’s not really that bad right now, and she suggests treating it with just air for now. It’s gotten a little better, and since my Mom’s seen it and the doctor hasn’t (we called her, she didn’t request that he come in) I trust my doctor. And like I said, it’s gotten better, we’re just trying to keep the diaper away from it and such.

6 05 2009
Clo

Haha, you all need to come to Columbus. I guess we just got a bunch of number one rankings (the library here is number one, the zoo is, COSI is, our soccer team is number one…)

Anyway, I just saw that because of this, they’re offering a deal. A family four pack to the zoo, zoombezi bay (the zoo’s waterpark), and COSI (a really cool hands on childrens museum) and two nights at a hotel for 299, which isn’t bad. So… When are ya’ll comin? πŸ˜‰

7 05 2009
lara21167

That does sound like a great deal. πŸ™‚

A guy I work with wife was pregant with twins and she lost them yesterday. He was sooo excited about them, it’s sad. It’s always nice to see a guy excited about his woman being pregnant. Seems like most men are more scared than excited.

7 05 2009
lara21167

I almost forgot to tell you guys Kristy has a chorus concert tonight and got she calls it a solo but it is her and 2 others singing the “solo”. It is the beginning of the Lion King song, that no one really understands because it’s songs in African. She actually knows the words!! They do quite a few African songs.

7 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Oh, wow, Lara…can you film it and put it on your myspace? I’d love to see it. Whenever Beau & Chance had a choir concert, I’d film it and take pictures, of course. Sometimes they looked pretty put-upon in their pictures. Both Beau’s and Chance’s 4th grade choir classes put on African-themed concerts; they all had to wear “Kufi” hats…these very colorful, round, crown-like headpieces that they made in class; I remember volunteering in Beau’s class when they made their’s…neither of my sons was overly-enthused about wearing those hats in public…standing up in front of all the parents/families singing and all that. Heeheehee…I’d even say they look a little pissed off in some of the pictures. So cute, though.

Take care

P.S…Gee, Cloey, that entertainment package sounds like a lot of fun; I know we’d enjoy it. Though, we’re usually occupying our free-time with sports-related travel. While it’s definitely a positive overall…sometimes it can feel a bit overwhelming. We’re trying to “balence” this aspect of Chance’s life right now; the traveling tournament baseball team he’s been on for the last 3 years is wearing thin. A lot of these people are our friends, Jerry is a coach, (the parents love him), and Chance has so much natural talent. It’s just that…we’re beginning to think he’s feeling “stale” on this team; his motivation has dropped, and there’s other aspects of the team atmosphere that are on the negative side. I’ll go into it a little more later, when I have a chance. Select baseball is so political and…cutthroat is the only way I can think to describe it.

7 05 2009
lara21167

I don’t have a video camera. Still have to invest in a digital camera that can record video. Couple things I need first though, like a new pair of glasses. Have to be able to see first lol. I think all sports have their politcal/cutthroat thing going on. I just ignore that crap as much as I can. Oh and speaking of things I need, I need some bras TMI, I know but Witchy I remember you saying how you can get great deals on Victoria Secret online, so I checked it out and hell you can get a Victoria Secret bra on sale for the price of one at Walmart if not cheaper. Walmart just isn’t inexpensive anymore, I’ve noticed alot of things you can get cheaper at a more (what do I want to call it?) a more prestiegious (sp) store. People around here still love their Walmart though.

7 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Yeah, Lara…Victoria’s Secret also has overall sales where you get a percentage of your entire order, or, like one that just ended – 30% off any one item, (whether or not it’s on sale already)…free shipping deals, clearance items, etc. I get all my bras from them, and some jeans/slacks…also blouses/tops. I know my sizes in their merchandise, so trying on isn’t an issue. I don’t like spending endless hours trying things on in stuffy old dressing rooms…especially if Jerry and/or the boys are with me; I always feel rushed. Now and then I have to, (try things on I mean – like bathing suits), but I try to avoid it when I can. The other night, I was going to order some things off the Victoria Secret’s website, when a specific sale was about to end at midnight, (something about ordering late at night, right before a sale ends gives me a “thrill”…hahaha – I AM easily amused)…anyway, all the items I had picked out were on “backorder”, some until the end of June. I was like, “damn!”…I didn’t really want to look for any backups, so I didn’t order anything. I’m still trying to decide what I want.

Anyhoo…yeah, I agree that all sports have some aspects of politics and/or backstabbing/fierce competitiveness and pressure. We’ve been at this for so many years, it’s like an old nursery rhyme for me; we definitely know how to play the game. It’s just that, this particular team plays out of one of the biggest, most well-known facilities in the Pacific Northwest. It’s owned and managed by an a guy who played for 7 seasons on the White Sox…or was it the Red Sox?…I THINK it was the White Sox. Anyway, he was a leftie-pitcher during his career, and in 2004 he screwed up his arm, requiring surgery. He took his downtime to recuperate and used it to open this facility, (I don’t remember exactly why he ended up in western Washington…Chance and Jerry know the whole story). It was around then that select team coaches started contacting us to “recruit” Chance…they’d seen him playing in the Pony league. So, we started taking him to this place to train, mostly in correct pitching technique, but also in batting, and other aspects of the game. The place grew fast…and soon, teams from 9 years through high school started training out of it…and some teams were originated out of it…like the one Chance is on right now. These are very high-level teams, and performance is everything. The owner of this place kind of took a special interest in Chance; he’s told Jerry and the other coach of our team, along with others that Chance has a shot at going as far as he’d like in baseball, (tall, muscular, strong “lefty” – very coveted in baseball to be a left-handed pitcher – but mostly the fact that Chance has incredible speed and power in his pitching, and impeccable technique from all the training he’s had the last four years or so. When Chance is “on”, there’s really nobody around who can out-pitch him…and he’s a power hitter, also. But, for a while now, Chance has been showing signs of burnout/disinterest…which of course affects his performance. Jerry has managed to keep him relatively on-track in the past, but it’s getting harder & harder. You really have to give everything to keep advancing at this level. Chance says he loves it still, and I believe that…but Jerry and I have discussed this at length, many times – we’re just not sure he’s got what it takes emotionally/mentally to stay consistently competitive and in top form at this level of play. At least…not at this point in time. It’s a very emotional subject…and we really just want to do what’s right for our son, taking out all the other factors, (such as, OUR perception of what’s going to make him happy). We try to get Chance to open up to us…discuss his real feelings/concerns; we try a lot. He’s not the kind of personality that easily communicates these things; he’s a sweetie, but it’s not easy to really get at the center of things with him. So, we’re at a crossroads right now; actually, we went into this training season like that. We’ve decided that whether or not Chance wants to continue with baseball, this team has reached it’s end of productivity for Chance. There’s just too much other crap involved in what should be an activity centered on the boys: parents trying to brown-nose the head-coach and Jerry, hurt feelings, misunderstandings, anger and resentment among some of the parents, etc. It doesn’t help that Jerry feels like he has to be the steadying influence on the team, (lots of the parents look to him for that, also)…Jerry doesn’t play favorites, doesn’t shake the boys up during a tense game situation by alternately yelling and humiliating them in front of everybody, and acting goofy and silly in kind of an idiotic way. He’s consistent and reassuring to the boys and their parents, even when he has to make adjustments/corrections. Unfortunately, the other coach is easily influenced by public/parental opinion, easily manipulated by people seeking their own agenda; he’s a nice guy who gets too carried away with all the hype, expectations put on this team to win-win-win…etc. I guess “changeable” would be the word to describe him; these kids need more consistency in their leadership rolemodels. Chance doesn’t respond to that kind of bullshit; like I mentioned, he’s been up & down in his effort level/enthusiasm lately, anyway. We’re, (Jerry and I, along with Chance when he’ll communicate with us), are currently trying to decide what we’re going to be doing about this situation in the near future. After our latest talk with him, Chance seemed to pick up the old enthusiasm/effort he used to regularly demonstrate…but that could change at any time, so I don’t know. He might just need a break, regardless of how “talented” everyone seems to think he is. He’s just a boy. Fortunately, Jerry and I are on the same page regarding what’s in his best interests for the big picture. It would just be so much easier if Chance would be more definitive regarding his wishes. Sigh.
Ok, Girls…is THAT “venting” or what?

Take care.

7 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Note: What I meant by saying that Chance doesn’t respond to “that kind of bullshit” was the changeable atmosphere of extreme negativity, mixed with goofy nonsense; he needs consistency.

8 05 2009
lara21167

Witchy yes sometimes kids just need a break from things. They are just kids and it sounds like Chance has the ability to make it big time, if he wants to. He may just be feeling too pressured, not by you and Jerry, but everyone else. It’s hard when they won’t open up, and I think that’s a teenage thing. I know Kristy doesn’t tell me everything like she used to. And Richie always needs prodding to open up.

Concert, was fantastic. I could really see how the kids have improved since their December concert and they all have really beautiful voices. The teacher reallly works with them on training their voices and such. The principal was saying that 3 years ago the schools Chorus program was rated poorly, now with this teacher it is rated excellant. the parents there kind of piss me off. They were video taping and the teacher asked very nicely for parents not to hoot and holler because of the taping. And they hoot and holler anyway. I mean how can you expect your child to listen and respect their teachers when their parents don’t?

8 05 2009
lara21167

If anyone wants to check out the pics for US Finals you can go to http://www.theusfinals.com then click on virginia beach then photo/video then universal event photography then it asks for the first letter of the team you want to view which is H for Hagerstown Outlaws. Kristy is on the Hagerstown Outlaws Dynamite (her dance team) and Hagerstown Outlaws Lil Shooters (her cheer team) They do some great shots. They kids all in movement and it’s funny to look at the pics, facial expressions and such. Of course they have to make certain “facials” for Cheerleading which really looks funny in the pictures.

8 05 2009
Witchypoo

Oh, yeah…Cloey, Jerry found a program that you can download on Google for making slideshows: Picasa 3. He says it’s good, easy to use, and free. Maybe you can check it out.

Take care.

9 05 2009
Clo

Can I burn it onto a DVD? I’ll have to check it out. I’m a little frustrated with mothers day right now, lol.

We found out we had some extra money, and while we should spend it on bills, we decided to spend it on Mother’s day gifts for out mom. Sorta. For my mom we’re regifting a gift certificate (It’s a really nice place, and Jeremy and I will never use it, we’d like too, the food is good, but we’ve had it this long and haven’t had the money to do it. Yeah, dinner would be paid for, but I don’t fit any of my nice clothes anymore, so I’d need a new outfit, and then we’d have to get a sitter on one of the days Jeremy’s off, which are only Thursdays and Sundays, and it’d most likely be my Mom since she’s the one person we don’t have to pay, and that would mean dropping him off and picking him up, which is a lot of driving, unless my sister watches him, which still means we have to pick HER up and drop her off and probably deal with her annoying boyfriend.) Anyway, for Jeremy’s mom we dropped some money (it’s not a ton, but probably more than we should have.) I don’t really like the lady, but I feel bad, because all the chances we have to give her gifts we’re ALWAYS strapped for cash (Christmas and Mother’s day she shares with other people, her birthday is in Novemeber, so that’s right around the holidays.) So we got her a digital picture frame. It’s super nice (I’m a big fan of digital picture frames, so convienant) it’s a 9 inch with a remote (what you need a remote for, I don’t know.) and it was only 50 bucks. Which, is cheap (it was on sale, 80 dollars off, we got my mom a 7 inch for Christmas and that one was 40 bucks.) So, if you like digital picture frames, I’d check out a radio shack near you.

Anyway, I ran around all day yesterday looking for a damn digital picture frame, and nobody had one nice enough that was cheap enough (except when I finally caved and went to radio shack. I always think they’re going to be super expensive, and some things they are but they do run good deals. Plus I hate going to the radio shack by us, because it’s so small that the sales people are like right on top of you, and I feel guilty if I leave without buying anything.) We’ve been trying everything with Cayden’s diapers and he’s still leaking, so I went on a hunt for overnight diapers. Which, are totally not cheap (20 freaking dollars for 60 of them. I get 92 diapers for less than 15 bucks. And these people want 20 freaking dollars for only 60!!!) I went to Target, they didn’t have any good deals on the picture frames, and they had the 60 diapers for 20 dollars. I didn’t want to spend that much until I was sure the diapers would work. They had a smaller package for cheaper, but of course, were out of Cayden’s size. They were also out of everything else I needed (Cayden’s formula.) So on we went to Kohl’s. They had a decent deal on a nice picture frame, only you have to wait for the rebate, so I was like no (and at the time I couldn’t even find the stupid digital picture frames.) Then we went off to wal-mart where I got everything I needed (except the digital picture frame, I got that at the radio shack next door.) And overnight diapers. Walmart only had the large packages. So, we went to babies r us. Which only sells the large packages. And I was seriously going nuts in the aisle (I think I scared away several parents to be, who were browsing or registering) I always feel bad cussing in baby stores so I always use like freaking fracking or son of a biscuit or such. Which, makes me look even crazier I assure you.

But alas, as I was scanning the aisle no joke for the 50th time, I found something amazing. Liners you put in your diapers. a bag of 30 was less than four dollars, so I figured it was worth a shot. I mean, yes, while I’m already killing mother earth by using disposable diapers (it takes like 500 years or something crazy for one of those bad boys to break down. Tell me, if it takes that long for them to break down, why can’t they hold my sons pee for more than an hour?) it’s not great that I’m adding more disposable parts. However, I figure what I waste in water washing my sons bedding on a daily basis will make up for the damage I’m doing to the poor earth.

And they work. At least, last night they did. So. Whoot whoot to that.

Today we decided to make Cayden’s present to his grandma’s. It was a super cute idea, and of course, because my Mother’s day weekend is going this way, it was doomed before it started. For one, there’s this warning lable on the plaster of paris that it can cause serious burns. Like so serious you need surgeries. Apparently, plaster of paris heats as it dries. Why then, did ALL the how to’s online say to use plaster of paris? So we gave it a shot, and I made Jeremy stick his hand in. It wasn’t hot. So we pour the two molds and wait for them to get hard enough to do Cayden’s hands and foot prints (we got a huge mold, we got shiny rocks, we were planning on decorating them so the grandma’s could use them as garden stones.)

The plaster? Dries super fast. Cayden? Likes to squish his toes, meaning he leaves a big hole instead of a footprint. He also likes to squish it up in his fingers. Leaving another hole.

Jeremy had to go to work, and we didn’t have time to make another. Project failed. So plan B requires more store stops for me today (I already had the library and microcenter on my list) We’re printing pictures and putting them in regular frames. So far today I’ve been to the dollar store to get wrapping paper and cards, Kohl’s to pick out picture frames (where, I dumbly thought I’d be in and out and wouldn’t need a cart, instead choosing to lug Cayden around. Of course it took longer than I thought to pick out the frames, the one of the frames had to price so I had to find the barcode price scanner, then I stood in a crazy long line, then as I was next in line, the person in front of me needed a price check that took For.Ev.Er.) So now we’re home, Cayden’s napping till 3:30, where we’ll get in the car, take him to Mom’s, go to microcenter, hit up walmart, and then go to the library. I will come home, upload pictures, attempt a slideshow, frame pictures, wrap gifts, and then get drunk and play guitar hero.

Witchy and Laura, how to you guys run all over the place with kids? I mean Laura I know your daughter doesn’t need to be constantly in and out of a car seat (which SUCKS) and your kids all walk, but still. I’m so freaking tired.

Happy mother’s day. And Laura, I looked at the pics. They’re SO cute, I love their little pink converses and their socks!

9 05 2009
Clo

So. I’m going to kill myself apparently. I’m not very good art wise, but crafts? I do crafts. I do a lot of crafts, it’s really what made me such a good camp counselor (and now I’m the art teacher, which I suck at, by the way, because the boys groups never listen, and by the time I get to the girls groups I just don’t care anymore. Plus I’m kinda horrible at giving step by step instructions.) Anyway, so I’m hell bent on MAKING something from Cayden for mother’s day (I figure it’s a good lesson to teach, make your own gifts. For Christmas we (I use the term we lightly, it was me really) made reindeer ornamets using felt and Cayden’s handprint for antlers and footprint for face. Add red felt for a nose and googly eyes and you’ve got a hit! (I’m a regular martha fucking stewart) That was easy. When Cayden slept (and he was young enought where that was all the time, and he slept SOUNDLY) I traced his hand and foot and used that as a pattern and cut out the felt pieces. Easy peasy. For Mother’s day, we tried plaster, which failed. At the dollar store, they had these wooden heart signs, and some paint. BRILLANT! I’ll wait till he’s asleep, put paint on his hands and feet, and stamp them. INSTANT ART!

Ha. Ha. Ha. Here’s what the scene looked like: I’m pissed because I can’t figure out how to work walmarts picture uploader (I can get into my albums but always forget how to upload new pics.) So while I’m waiting for the pictures to load (after another temper tantrum when I realize the picture frame we got for my mother in law was landscape [side to side] and the picture I wanted to use is portrait [up and down] a few cuss words and some cropping later, problem solved.) Anyway, SO I sneak into Cayden’s room, and decide to start with his feet.
First mistake. Lesson learned. Next time, go with the hands. Why? Well, in the long run they’re harder to stamp anyway, as he likes to curl his fingers. And his foot? Really ticklish. I barely got the second one done when he woke up. And he was PISSED.

I didn’t bring a towel in with me. I figured hey, I’ll just use the baby wipes. So, he’s screaming and wriggling around, I’m holding his foot trying (unsuccesfully) to not get paint on the bed, his clothes, himself or me. When I noticed my husband has moved the FUCKING baby wipes into our room. Across the hall. So I reach for a new pack and try (again unsuccesfully) to hold wiggly screaming painty child while opening the new pack. FINALLY get it open (the crib sheet didn’t make it, it’s funny cuz I used red paint too.) and get the paint off. Next come his hands. I got more paint on me then the sign, but it’s done.

Funniest part? I just got him back to sleep, and now I get a text from my mom saying she’s ready for me to drop him off.

Ha. Ha. Ha.

9 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Cloey…I’m giggling my ASS off at – I mean, WITH – you. Oh hell, who am I trying to bullshit? I’m giggling my ASS off AT you, girl! (And WITH you, also). I love a good giggle, and you came through big on this one, Sweetie. The scene of chaos sounds much like many of my own…performing strikingly similar activities. I’ve had so many good-intentioned gift-projects go to shit, I can’t even tell you. I mean, they work out one way or another in the end – with a great gift as the result. In the midst of the insanity though? I WANT TO KNOCK MYSELF OUT WITH A HARD BLOW TO THE HEAD. It’s almost always a harrowing experience to take on the highly ambitious, (translation: crazy-stupid), endeavor of making crafty-gifts with/from your spawn when they’re little. I have to commend you, though, Sweetie; the moms will love it. Hail the GREAT SPORT, CLOEY!!!

More later…Beau has a haircut appointment.

Take care.

P.S…I know there’s a lot of swearing in this…what can I say?

9 05 2009
Clo

Ha ha ha, I’ve been cussing up a storm today. I decided todays word of the day is dick sucker, or some form of dick sucker (I’ve been dropping a lot of dick lickers.)

It doesn’t help I have to go to forty million stores. Which, the lady checking me out at Mircocenter was a B.I.T.C.H. She was acting like it was SUCH an incovienance to ring up my ONE item. Like, oh? It’s that hard? That much pain in the ass for you? Here’s an idea: Don’t become a CASHIER!!!

LoL. Then I merged in front of someone, and they were seriously like 2 car lengths behind me. I didn’t cut them off. Yet they honked at me anyway. So I blew them a kiss, with my middle finger.

Then there’s been 80 billion other idiots driving today.

I’m with you though, I think of craft ideas and I’m like OOOOH that’ll be SO cute and SO easy (How hard is it to stick your kids hand in a pile of goo?) and then I’m like Never. Again. Why the FUCK did I think this was a good idea?

The good news is, I’m done. I dunno, all in all it was fun, but I’m glad it’s over, lol. I’m going to go download that program now and see what I can do. However, since I didn’t know we’d be able to make a gift from Cayden, we did buy the picture frames, so I’m not going to stress if we don’t get a slideshow done.

9 05 2009
Clo

Witchy- Thank Jerry for telling me about that program, it’s working great so far.

I made the mistake of calling my mother in law. My brother and sister I guess decided to join us for our mothers day lunch tomorrow, and I know my Mother in law planned on making reservations. She’s talking forever.

We somehow got on the topic of zoo’s, and then she told me how she liked our zoo and wanted to go, but couldn’t walk (she’s fat and has bad knees) and I mentioned that I think they rented those scooter cart thingys that you ride on. She told me that we had to check the weight limit because she was in kroger (a grocery store) the other night and hopped on one. George (my FIL) said he smelled something burning. She said she got to the frozen food aisle with a cart full of stuff when the scooter started squealing and wouldn’t go anymore.

This made me laugh.

My pay back? She got off the phone with me by saying “George is walking around naked, I’m not sure if he’s flashing me or ready for bed. Either way I better go.”

Ew.

10 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Cloey…I’m glad the program is working well for you; Jerry said it’s also been getting good reviews in the photo/computer magazines that rate the different programs available.

That’s hilarious about your MIL…how humiliating to bottom out the damn scooter-cart; it sounds like she burned out the motor. I wonder how your FIL handles situations like that. “Uh, gee, hunny, you don’t LOOK gargantuan enough to trash this here sturdy-looking scooter-thingy. DAMN! Don’t cry now, Pumpkin; nobody else knows that scorched smell is the tangible evidence of your lard-ass being SO unbelievably huge. Wait: don’t look at me like that…what did I say?”

Kind of strange that she would share the naked-hubby info. with you. Do you think they’re going to go —- each other silly? Ok, I know: the visual on that is a little too much, hugh? Hey, SHE brought it up; I can’t help but wonder. You know…sick minds and all that.

Take care.

10 05 2009
Witchypoo36

P.S….I like your pet names for assholes/objects resembling assholes, dicksucker & dicklicker, respectively. They remind me of my mother’s favorite insulting descriptive, COCKsucker, (forceful emphasis on the first syllable). She’d just practically spit it out – with such passionate feeling – I’d roll on the ground every single time she spewed it, (at my dad, other family members who pissed her off, the mailman, the guy at the grocery store who “looked at her funny”, one of my teachers she found objectionable…the list goes on & on). Yup…I guess there WERE some good times with that woman, after all.

10 05 2009
janey

Happy Mother’s Day you guys.
Hope you all have a wonderful day
with your husbands and children <33

11 05 2009
lara21167

Thank you Janey, how are things with you?

Cloey, I’m laughing too. I can just see you in the store “THIS FREAKING SON OF A BISCUIT STORE DOESN’T HAVE THE FRACKING DIAPERS I WANT”!! I love it.
Hauling children around is never easy. Kristy was a runner. We’d get into a store and she’d want down, as soon as I set her down off she’d go. “Richie go get your sister” and off he’d run to get her. Never a dull moment with kids. And I love those pink converses too. If I can squeeze my big feet into them I am sooo stealing them from Kristy, she hates them. Just not a pink girl.

So Kristy made me a huge card for Mothers Day. I love her homemade gifts. The other spawn called on Saturday (I know he totally forgot about Mother’s Day) He informed me that he will not be graduating this year. He is failing Civics and Algebra ll. So he’ll have to make them up next year. But that’s all he’ll have to take. I’m just kicking myself for allowing him to go with his dad. I should have put my foot down and said no. But hell he was on the honor roll through 10th grade (and he left me at age 10), it was 11th grade he started having problems. The other bad thing is his electrician course he’s taking at the Tech school, he’s missed too many days and won’t get his certificate. So I’m not sure what to do to guide him in the right direction. He needs to decide what it is he wants to do and I can help him from there. I don’t want to push him into something he really doesn’t want to do . But he has to be realistic too. I was like that, didn’t know what I wanted to do right after High School, so I took a year off before I started college. I just feel bad he want’s a car and I don’t have the money to help him get one, and I don’t know if his dad will help him or not and he needs one to get a decent job. I just feel like I do so much more for kristy than for him.

11 05 2009
Clo

Laura- Is there any way he could make it up in summer school, or over the summer in a correspondence course? I mean it seems kinda dumb to me to make him go the whole year for two classes.

I know it’s hard not to feel bad, but I wouldn’t. I think you’re a super Mom, and I don’t think any child should realistically expect their Mom’s to buy them a car. Or hell, in this economy even help them get a car. My Mom gave me her old car, but it was just luck that she had paid that one off and was ready to take on her own car payment. Then she also helped me get a loan, but that was a few years back, and nobody can get loans right now.

11 05 2009
lara21167

Thank you Cloey, you make me feel better πŸ™‚ I was rather spoiled growing up. My dad bought me a brand new car when I turned 18 and made the payments on it for 2 years before I took over. But you know he really didn’t do me any favors. It’s taken me years to really become independant and feel that I can really make it on my own. So really I guess Richie will be ready for the real world easier than I was. I asked him about summer school and he doesn’t want to do that and said he can’t get his diploma until next year even if he does go to summer school. So i guess he can do it his way so long as he does finish!! For 2 lousy classes he better not quit!! He has an interview today at a subway and is supposed to call me to let me know how it went. He wants a job real bad and he needs to move quick before school lets out and all the summer jobs are taken.

11 05 2009
Clo

Well, if he does have only 2 classes maybe he can work during the school year next year. Our school had a class junior and senior year where you could get school credit for working, and you got out of school early to do it. I just hope his school doesn’t make him take other bullshit classes in order to fill in his schedule.

And yeah, while it’s nice for parents to buy their kids stuff, but sometimes it just makes it harder for them. I mean I wish rather than getting a car from my Mom she would have taught me how to save my Money from my job in order to get my own.

But yeah, I think you’re a great Mom. Bad mom’s don’t worry that they’re being unfair, or doing more from one child than the other. You’re thinking of him, and if he were home, living with you, I know you’d do the same things you do for Kristy.

11 05 2009
lara21167

He said he’d only have to go for 2 periods so I think he can handle that. Just in August he turns 18 and if he decides to quit I won’t have a say. I just hope he can decide on a direction for his life. took me forever to decide what I wanted to do. And never quite go there. But yes when Richie lived at home he played baseball, took karate lessons, and was in boyscouts. His father and grandmother never encouraged any activities and I think activities are very important for children. They learn all kinds of things that help them in life. He just seems to be making the same misstakes I made and that’s one thing I think all parents would like to pass on to their kids is for them to learn from our misstakes. But in reality they have to find their own paths.

Talking about learning to save money, that’s something I have to work on with Kristy, she just loves to spend money. And her father is sooo bad about spending money, I tell him he hates money. Anytime he has it he has to get rid of it lol.

13 05 2009
Clo

Hey guys- That preemie I told you about? Kayleigh? She died yesterday. I’m really more upset than I thought I would be. My sister said “You knew it was coming” and I know. Kayleigh’s blog got me through a rough time when I was getting depressed about my ordeals, and she helped me put things in perspective. Yes, I was tired, sick, and sore, but she was the smallest baby ever to undergo open heart surgery. Surely I could suck it up and deal with my three minor, routine surgeries being a full grown adult. And when I got tired at night, and didn’t want to get up with Cayden, I would think about her parents. They had to go to a hospital just to SEE their baby. And some days, they couldn’t even touch her, because just a single touch would send her spiraling out of control (her oxygen stats would get crazy low among some other issues.) It made it really a joy to get up with Cayden at night. Sometimes you have to lose something in order to appreciate what you have, and reading Kayleighs story made me appreciate what I had when I had it.

Her parents seem to be handling it well, as well as can be expected. They seem to have a positive attitude, and while you can tell they are sad that they lost their baby, they also seem glad that she’s no longer in pain.

Please, pray for them, and Kayleigh’s older brother and sister. I honestly can’t imagine what they’re going through, and I don’t even want to try.

13 05 2009
lara21167

I sure will Cloey, I’m sooo sorry for them. I just can’t imagine what that would be like and don’t even want to.

13 05 2009
Witchypoo36

We’ll say prayers, and keep them in our thoughts.

Take care, Sweetie.

13 05 2009
lara21167

Just wanted to share this with you guys, kristy gets home from school at 2:30 everyday. Ginger expects her there everyday at 2:30. Well yesterday she went to a friends house after school and I picked her up after work. We got home and I swear that poor dog must have been worrying all afternoon about where Kristy was. She hardly greeted me at all just jumped all over Kristy like she was so glad she was home and ok. It was really funny. She’s really got our routine figured out and doesn’t like it to change.

13 05 2009
Witchypoo36

That’s sweet, Lara. Are Ginger and Kristy especially close? Dogs are so loyal.

Take care.

13 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Oh, I forgot: Thanks, Janey for your Mother’s Day wish. That was really nice. How’s it going for you lately, anyway?

Take care.

13 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Sweetlara…I was reading your concerns about Richie and thinking how hard it is to raise a child, hoping things turn out well for them – but still feeling that uncertainty about Life that everyone experiences. You so much want to make everything right and good for them…forever – not just during childhood – knowing that at some point, their happiness and success is completely out of your hands. I think even without any financial support from my parents for college, it would have gone a long way for me just to have a kind ear to listen to me, maybe some wise, well-meaning advice to guide me. You seem like a warm, loving mom who shows your children how much you love them. As long as you keep reaching out to Richie, I’m sure he’ll feel your support, and he’ll find his way eventually.

Take care.

13 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Cloey…how are you doing? Are you still upset about the little baby? Check in when you get a chance, Sweetie.

Goldie…I know you’re on a “Short Hiatus – Sort Of”; I was just wondering how things are going with the move preparations. Everything a-ok?

Take care, Girls.

13 05 2009
lara21167

Thank you Witchy, You know, I wonder what ever happened to Gabber, we haven’t heard from her in ages.

13 05 2009
janey

ive been in pain. and stressed cause its the last couple of weeks of school.
i was fooling around in the living room and i did a split and apparantly when i forced it cause my jeans wouldnt let me go down, i sprained my hp.
and school work. thats pretty much it.

14 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Ouch, Janey…a sprained hip sounds very painful. Is it hard for you to get around?
I throw my back out every now and then; I know how exhausting it is to have a core body part temporarily screwed up. Take it easy and I hope you feel better soon.

Lara, yeah – I was wondering about Gabber a couple of weeks ago; I hope she and her girls are ok. I wonder if the guy who she got pregnant with is being good about the news; I think it would be lonely to not have someone to share the experience with. I know that’s not always possible; sometimes the father doesn’t want to be involved. But she said they’d been close, (professional partners, until recently). Remember? I’m curious, too. Hey, Gabber…if you’re reading this, check in and let us know how you and your children are doing.

I’m watching ‘Sunset Boulevard’ right now, with Gloria Swanson & William Holden, among others…circa 1950. I love old movies; Jerry gets me lots of movies and miniseries. Does anyone watch ‘The Tudors’ on Showtime? It’s about the Henry the Eighth reign of 16th century England. It’s really good; I have seasons 1 & 2…the show is in it’s 3rd season.

Anyhoo, back to the movie. Nightie-night, Ladies, and take care.

14 05 2009
lara21167

I have seen the Tudors, but I don’t watch much TV. and the Hubby usually controls the remote lol.

Janey, you’ll need to rest that hip, be careful doing splits. Do you do Cheerleading or something like that?

14 05 2009
Clo

Guess who got his first tooth????

14 05 2009
lara21167

Ahhhh did he?? They’ll start popping in pretty quick now.

14 05 2009
janey

Lara- no i dont do cheerleading. but i was bored and i do them all the time so i figured. y not? im in physical therapy now. nd witchy yes walking on crutches if crazy. it hurts my back cause im kinda leaned over when i walk on them and i have to have my bag on in school so i hurt it yesturday cause my bag is heavy

15 05 2009
Clo

It’s his bottom right tooth, I can’t wait till it comes all the way through. You can see it peeking out of his gums. We had dinner with my in laws tonight for my father in law’s birthday, and he says he can see the one next to it starting to push up. I won’t say whether it is or not, because I’ve been saying I’ve seen teeth for months now, so I’m not making that speculation again, lol. But I was so excited cause this one is clearly coming through. He’s going to look so cute with teeth. Though, I am worried, cuz he’s still munching on his hands quite a bit, so that’ll be interesting, lol

15 05 2009
lara21167

Cloey, they one next to it may be coming in, the fist few do seem to pop in quickly once one makes it through. Can’t wait for pics πŸ™‚

Poor Janey, you have to do crutches? I don’t think I could walk with them, I’d probably swing too far and fall on my butt lol.

15 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Hi Ladies. Hey, Cloey, don’t worry…Cayden won’t chew on his own hands; babies pick up on the fact that it’s so much better to chomp on anything BUT themselves. What can get a little dicey sometimes is when they’re still nursing, and the novelty of biting down on things is so new and fun…you get the picture. We used to call Chance “Snaggle-Tooth” because he reminded us of a little tiger or something with the way his new teeth were coming in for a while; he was so cute. The pictures of Cayden with new teeth will be adorable.

Janey, crutches aren’t fun. I spent a lot of time on them for various foot operations, and then a broken foot after that. Sometimes it seemed like I’d be on them forever; your arms get really strong, though.

Lara, yeah, I don’t watch much tv either; I usually watch my favorite movies and certain shows like ‘The Tudors’ on dvd.

Take care.

16 05 2009
janey

Witchy – a broken foot sounds painful and yes yur arms do get strong
Lara- youre not really supposed to swing on them ur kinda supposed to put your bad foot first lightly and then push forward with your good foot

16 05 2009
lara21167

Trust me Janey I’d swing and fall on my butt lol.

16 05 2009
janey

lol. that would hurt.

18 05 2009
lara21167

Why are men a pain and their g/f’s have to call into their work all the time?? First this one poor guy I work with who lives about a 45 minute drive from work and uses his g/f’s car to go to work. His g/f calls in this morning wondering if her car was here. Well he didn’t even come to work, he called later and said she wouldn’t let him use her car so he had no ride. I told him she called in here and he said he had no clue where her car was and on and on about the drama in his life. Then all the guys left early except one guy in the shop. Another g/f called to see when she could pick up her man. The guy in the back said he left with a couple co workers heading to a bar. So how am I supposed to tell this poor woman that?? So I just told her he left with some co workers and left it at that. He could at least let his g/f know what he’s doing.

18 05 2009
lara21167

Oh that was my gripe for the day lol.

18 05 2009
Clo

Yeah, maybe you should have a memo sent out about personal business at work. I never call Jeremy at work, except for once, when his cell phone was off and I was starting to get worried (He always turns it on first thing.) And even then I just asked if he was there and if I could talk to him. He was there, had just forgotten to turn his phone on.

When I was younger though I made a mistake of dating someone I worked with. I cringe when I think back to the fights we had in front of everyone.

19 05 2009
janey

so i have great news.
i went to see my doctor today cause i had physical therapy today.
and to day was also the start of the warm up season for volleyball.
so i went in and said “if you tell me i cant go to practice i’ll kill you”
and then he was like i have to make sure ur hip is fine. so he put me on the bike full speed for 8 minutes and the he put me on the treadmill to walk for a minute then run for eight. my hip is fine. it was a bit uncomfortable at first but i got over it. practice was tiring. we ran 5 laps, practices setting, passing, triples, serving and targeting. and for passing you have to get real low and it really works out your quads so my butt hurts. we did two sets of 25 for that.

anyways i have to go back to the doctor on wednesday so he can tell me if i can officially be 100 percent good for when the season starts. and now i have to get new knee pads, knee highs, pre warp and a new gym bag. grr.

19 05 2009
lara21167

Cloey these guys have been told time and time again personal calls are not accepted, but it still happens. And the guys work on job sites most the time so they’re usually not even here.

Janey, glad your hip is healing. Keep us updated on your volleyball.

19 05 2009
Clo

I’d start docking them or something every time they get a call. Or just say something like “I’m sorry, he’s not here right now. I’ll have him call you when he gets back.” I mean it’s not your job to say where he is, you’re not these guy’s mom or babysitter. Punch them in the face, lol.

I’ve been in a really weird mood lately, complete with weird dreams and everything. The night before last I had a dream that I was this gorgeous girl, and this prince came and I thought he wanted to marry me, but he just wanted me as his sex slave to him and a bunch of guys. And I kept getting pregnant and he kept taking away my kids, and then finally we were walking on the river and he saw me and realized how much he hurt me and how much he once loved me and let me and my kids go. It was just strange.

Cayden pulled himself to stand the other day (well, he’s been doing it on our hands, but this time he did it on the laundry hamper) , and has started clapping his hands. We’re working on waving bye bye. I think crawling is a lost cause, we’re also kinda working on mama and dada. He used to say Mama all the time, but I don’t think he had any idea what it meant. He’s getting so big.

Still no period. I dunno what to do. I REALLY don’t want to spend the money to go to the doctor, we really don’t have it, but I dunno. Some days I’m convinced I’m pregnant, some days I’m like not so much.

Other than that, I got nothing, lol. I took some new pics of Cayden, some I really love. I kinda want to take a photography class and get a really nice camera. It’d be fun. How’s everyone else?

19 05 2009
lara21167

That is a weird dream. My hubby had a weird dream a few weeks ago, he was having sex with 2 beautiful women and they turned into demons. I looked that up on the dream dictionary and it said demons represent overindulgence and/or too much lust, something like that. I teased him pretty good on that one. Don’t worry just when you think Cayden will skip crawling and go straight to walking, he’ll start to crawl. And yes it’s time to go to the doctor, even if your not pregnant you need to find out why your not getting your period.

I don’t know if this is good news or not, but Kristy said she will be in Algebra 1 next year. I think that’s a bit much for a 7th grader, but we’ll see..

19 05 2009
lara21167

Oh and you should check into taking a photography course. Even if you only do your own pics, that’d be fun.

19 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Hi Cloey…it’s good to hear from you. I’m not used to divulging too much personal info., (like my moods), to anyone…but I don’t know – what the hell? I’ve been kind of up & down lately; not like really weird where anyone would notice, (not even my husband and kids)…just kind of blah & unmotivated, overall. Also kind of sad in a vague way, about certain things…like my kids growing up before my eyes so quickly. I mean, I know that’s a good thing…the natural progression and all that; it’s not really a rational thing – it’s just there. Anyhoo, I’ve always been pretty good at kicking my ass out of certain mind-sets where I don’t want to be…I’ll just have to get to work on it now.

More later…and take care.

19 05 2009
Witchypoo36

P.S…you know, it’s always interesting to me hearing about other’s dreams. I just don’t dream much, (that I remember, anyway). I dream some memorable ones while pregnant, but only infrequently. I’ve always wondered why I don’t remember my dreams much. Do you have any ideas why you’d dream about being with the prince who hurt you, then felt bad, and all that? When you say you’ve been in a “weird” mood, Cloey, what specifically do you mean, (if you don’t mind being asked)?

19 05 2009
lara21167

Witchy it’s funny I was dusting Sun. and picked up a picture of my son and my infant daughter that I’d had done, it’s one of my favorite pics of them. And I almost started to cry, and just wanted to turn back time. Cloey enjoy every second you have with Cayden, they grow soooo fast. And my husband thinks I spoil Krisiy because I still read to her at night, I mean whole novels, we are reading the second Harry Potter for the second time. But my hubby thinks she’s too old to be read to and I want to enjoy it while I can. Won’t be long before she decides she’s too old to be read to lol.

20 05 2009
janey

okay. i took like madd iboprofane [sp?]
and my butt/legs still hurt. maybe i forced it too much at practice.
i have to go back to the doctor tomorrow to see if can continue to go to practice. if he says yes im goin to have to start hitting the track and weightroom 3 times a week to get in shape for when the season starts.
kinda gained a few pounds during the winter.

and lara- kristy is not to old to be read to. i still make my mom read to me when im sick. sometimes she’s like you read like 100 pages a minute read yourself. sometimes she’ll feel bad and read to me. lol but then i yell at her cause she reads slower than me and i end up taking the book away from her. lol

you guys. we have a problem. i was doing my hair. guess what i found. two grey hairs. eww. i pulled them out. is that bad?

20 05 2009
Clo

Yeah, I was just talking to my friend the other day, and being a mom is really like getting ripped in two. On the one hand, I can’t wait to see Cayden do things (his new trick? Clapping. You say Yay! And start clapping and he claps. Then he’ll clap and he gets pissed if you don’t say Yay and clap too.) I want to see him walk and talk and all that. But I was looking at his feet last night, and it’s just, they’ve grown so much. He’s grown so much. And it kills me to think that if I do my job right, he’ll be gone and off on his own.

I’ve had lots of weird dreams lately. Lately centering around sex. I dunno why. Sometimes I go a really long time without remembering my dreams, and then I’ll have like 2 weeks of dreams. I remember when I read twilight, I had weird dreams about being a vampire. And after I watched Forrest Gump for the first time (way back when it first came out) I went home and had a dream that was basically the whole movie. But I haven’t seen or read anything like that lately. Maybe I should look it up.

I’ve just been weird lately. Restless I guess. Feeling like I should be doing something and not knowing how to do it. I feel like I never see Jeremy anymore, but like I should go get a job to help out, which would mean seeing him less, probably never, because I’d have to work when he was off. I really just want to do something, and I dunno what. I feel kinda stuck, I guess.

I guess I’m tired of being poor too, lol. I really want a bigger place, and I feel like we’ll never get there. And everyone gives me this advice that just doesn’t work. I mean before, yeah, we did spend money on stupid shit, shit we could have done without and gotten something better, like a better car, or saving for our house or whatever. But now we really kinda are living paycheck to paycheck. I mean, most people are right now, but it’s frustrating. And I feel irresponsible doing a lot of things I want to do, such as trying for another kid, when we’re not in the position to afford one. I dunno, I just feel stuck

20 05 2009
Clo

So, I just looked up the meaning of parts of my dreams, like being a slave, and the prince…
To see a prince in your dream, signifies honor and recognition will be bestowed upon you. Alternatively, it indicates your wishes for romance and meeting that Prince Charming.

To dream that you are a slave, suggests that you are not taking charge of your own life. You may be a slave to your job, to your family, to some habit, or to some obsession.

To dream about slavery, indicates that you re not utilizing your power. You are putting power in another’s hand and allowing them to make choices and decide for you. Alternatively, you are experiencing a lack of autonomy and independence.

Kinda fits.

20 05 2009
Witchypoo36

Well, all I’ve got to say, Girls is…I’m SO relieved you all seem to be as —-ed up as I feel at times. Yeah…that’s a comfort. Heeheeehee…you know I’m just kidding; we’re all as perfectly screwed up as we should be: no more, no less. Talk to you some more tomorrow…

Take care, and nightie-night, Ladies.

20 05 2009
lara21167

Yes Cloey the dreams really seem to fit how you described how you are feeling. And I know the money crunch frustration only too well. My only advise is budget, plan and save for what you want and the biggest and most important is to learn to be happy and satisfied with what you have, no matter how little. Knowing there are so many people with so much less, always helps me. So many people are sooo desperate around my area you hear about sooo many robberies lately. In fact my works sheet metal shop was attempted robbery last night. some guys loaded up some scrap metal, they were caught. Still don’t have an ID on the guy that broke into our office though.

Janey, I wouldn’t worry about a couple gray hairs just yet. Maybe just something from coloring your hair Idk. I’m 42 and get the occasional gray (yes I’m being funny, I know I am very lucky to only have a few grays. Hopefully I’ll take after my Dad, he didn’t start showing gray until he was in his 70’s.) Everytime I get my hair cut I always ask if I should start coloring. Last time which was just a couple of weeks ago, my hairdresser said she only saw 1, I think she’s blind lol, and said don’t worry about coloring yet.

Witchy, I think we as women just go through weird mood things now and again. Probably hormones or something. And Cloey you are used to working outside the home, so you are probably just feeling funny because of being home so much. I get like that, just having a long weekend or something. So used to working. I know money is tight, but you should check into a photography class, it would help you to feel better about yourself.

20 05 2009
Clo

I just really feel like going back to school, but I feel almost guilty about doing that when Jeremy’s talking about getting a second job. I mean, I know in the end it would help us out in the long run, but I dunno. I feel like maybe I should put off school and then get a job, but then I’m afraid we’ll get dependent on my job as well, and it’ll be super hard to quit.

Then my friend just had her baby (she was scheduled for a c-section tomorrow, baby had other plans and she started having contractions early this morning.) He was born at 4:45 her time (she’s out in Cali right now) and was 7 lbs 8 oz. and 20 inches long. I’m so happy for her, and it’s super exciting, and he’s gorgeous, but I’m jealous too! LoL, I almost hate when my friends have babies because I feel such a strong pull to have another NOW. And part of me gets so disappointed when I see a negative test or it feels like my period is finally coming. Don’t get me wrong, part of me is relieved too, but part of me is like damn.

I also was really worried for awhile that I’d never have a girl, and it really bummed me out. I still really want a girl, but I’m starting to think a house full of boys wouldn’t be so horrible, either. I was reading Chicken soup for the mother and son soul (sappy, I know, but those books get to me.) and there was this story about a mom with a house full of boys and how she basically appointed herself queen of the house. Which sounds nice. I like the idea of having my boys. I think Mom’s and son’s have a special bond. I mean I think Mother’s and daughters have a special bond too, it’s just… I don’t think I’m going to be so crushed if I don’t get a girl.

Ugh, see, friends having babies gets me on these planning more babies rant, and for the next couple weeks my head will be redecorating the nursery and deciding which new baby products we need and which ones we can just reuse. It’s a dangerous dangerous thing.

20 05 2009
lara21167

Don’t worry Cloey, you’ll have plenty of babies. Boys and/or girls. I personally think boys are easier, and yes there is a special bond. Girls want to fight with their mom’s all the time. Yea I know this first hand. Then you have all the coming into womanhood stuff to deal with. Wish mine would soon start her period, I think it’s worse waiting for that first time. And she has been shaving her legs, but at the beach I noticed hair under her arms. So I had to explain how to shave under the arms. For whatever reason she gets embarrased about stuff like that. So I’m deminstrating how to shave under the arms and she won’t even look at me, but I could tell she was paying attention. Next will be the shaving the bikini area, that should be fun…

20 05 2009
Clo

Yeah, I know I’ll have more kids. It’s just tricky, because on the one hand, I want them NOW. But then I think about later on in life, when all my friends are having babies, and it’s like, am I going to regret it and wished I had waited so my kids had kids their age? Am i going to get baby fever all over again? I can’t have too many kids, not just because money’s tight, but because of the c-section, and because I had to have an old school up and down one, my body just can’t handle too many more. And that makes me really kinda sad. I always wanted to be a surrogate, I really did, and now I kinda can’t be anymore, because it’s too risky for me and whoever’s baby I carry. I did tell my friend Joe though that I might seriously consider carrying his, because I love his fiance, and she’s an amazing girl who I think would make an amazing Mom, and she can’t have kids of her own (she’s on dialysis right now, something’s wrong with jer kidneys, she’ll need a kidney replacement.) So. Yeah. It’s all in the future.

I remember when I got my period I hid the evidence that I had gotten it. I’d bury my pad wrappers down deep in the trash and didn’t say a word to my Mom I was so embarassed. And with my sister got hair down there? She made ME tell my Mom. I never told her when I got mine and I pretty much taught myself how to shave and all that. I dunno why it’s so crazy awkward but it was.

20 05 2009
lara21167

My dad made my oldest sister have a “talk” with me. I had a bunch of pads and stuff that were sent to me in the mail. Remember my mom died when I was 11. So when I did start I was good for a while. But when I finally did need pads, I sure wasn’t going to tell my dad. So I went to the store with him and picked some up and put them in the cart and never said a word. When he noticed them, he didn’t say anything either just pretended he was looking at something while I’m sure he was contemplating if he should say anything or not. To my relief he never said a word, and I’d just put them in the cart anytime I needed them. I learned to shave on my own too. I started reading Cosmo as a teen, and really learned a lot from the mag, a little of everything lol.

I don’t think I could every be a surrogate, I just don’t think I could carry a baby 9 months and hand it over to someone else. But I think that’s great that you’d like to do that. That truly is a great thing to do for someone.

20 05 2009
Clo

see, i think it’d be hard to give up the baby but i’d spend my pregnancy knowing it wasn’t mine, you know? idk, i’m having the best mommy moment right now. when cayden was first born, i’d play michael buble’s home on and sing to him, and he’d just conk out on my chest. today we were listening to music and i put this song on. he laid his head down on my chest and is passed out. he hasn’tslept on me in months. i know i should move him to his crib, but i’m not. it’s not going to be too much longer that he’s too big to sleep on me at all. so i’m holding him (hence the no caps because i’m typing one handed) anyway, when i think there are women out there who won’t get to experience this, and want too so badly, it makes me hella sad. he’s sweaty and hot, but i can feel his heart beat.

21 05 2009
Witchypoo

Uh-hugh…I know that feeling you’re describing, Cloey; it’s just really peaceful and…thankful – kind of a quiet joy. There’s really nothing like it, is there? I used to love to sit up late with each of the boys when they were nursing, or just sleeping in my arms, or on my chest. Yes, every woman should be able to experience that. Like you, Sweetlara, I don’t think I could be a surrogate; I don’t know how I’d part with the baby at the end of my pregnancy.

Yes, I agree that many moms and their sons can have a really special bond. Depending on the females involved, sometimes there’s almost too many feminine “hormones” floating around the household with mothers and daughters, especially after puberty hits. Let the meoooooooooows begin! My mom is only 17 3/4 years older than me; she almost treated me like a rival at times living under her roof, especially the older I got. It was a strange dynamic at times, because her maturity level wasn’t what it needed to be for her to be a good mother figure for me. My little brother is 8 1/2 years younger than me…she was always a little better with him. Though, the REAL child in the house was always my mother; we all had to cater to her – especially my dad. So, I think that whatever gender combination you wind up with in the spawn department, you can either be really, truly happy to be a mom, enjoying most aspects…or, you can find ways to be unsatisfied. Just like any other part of Life, I guess. I love the fact that my boys don’t hold onto a grudge, and they’re basically easy to talk with…as long as I’m honest and forthright with them. We communicate well, (for the most part), because I’m not generally overly-emotional, or dramatic. They know when they’ve pissed me off, though; there’s no mistaking that. Anyhoo, they still make me really sweet cards – especially Beau, (even considering that he’s 15), and the two older ones help Heath with his. They do little odds and ends to please me, and impress me, (Beau loves to show me how buffed he’s getting working out – it’s pretty sweet)…and Chance talks to me about all his more obscure interests, (like his interest in mythology, for instance). Heath is still so little, he loves to sit on my lap when he’s tired at night, he sleeps with my robe over him, and he likes to use the back massager on my shoulders, (he sees Jerry and I use it on each other). He’s very solicitous most of the time, (and I don’t even mind very much when he brings me bottled water he’s poured for me on his own, and I can detect odd flavors that turn out to be things like vinegar, or the candy he’d been eating, or various other creative additives). Boys are really protective of their moms, also. Sometimes when we’re in the store, I’ll catch Beau glaring at some guy, and when I tell him to knock it off, he tells me furiously, “That douche better quit staring at you, or I’m going to have to pop him in the face!”….or something similar to that. It’s hilarious, because he gets really PISSED, and Beau is usually pretty laid back, making a joke about most things. Ah…teenage boys. Also, my guys LOVE to tease me about…EVERYTHING. So, just wait, Cloey…you’re going to have a blast with Cayden – you’ll see.

Take care.

21 05 2009
Witchypoo

Did I say “female hormones”? I forgot about testosterone – the hormone that turns every male dumb, dumber, and dumbest. Right now, Jerry and Beau are locked in an arm wrestling match, with Jerry cackling merrily and Beau whining, “But I just used my Iron Gym and my arm is tired!” Heh-heh-heh…just the usual evening’s festivities in our household.

21 05 2009
janey

im soooo pissed. i kno i told clo about it, but i dont think mentioned it to you guys. im writing a reserch paper for my english class. its wroth my whole quarter grade. complete with citations and sources and 20 notecards. i was working on it yesturday afternoon cause it has to be 5 pages long. if we even cite ONE thing wrong [even by mistake] we get a zero on the paper. i had 2 1/2 pages done and saved on my computer. my mom upgraded the internet on the house computer to fios today. i went to work on my paper some more. it was gone. it took me a month to find all the right information for my paper and i had side notes on it and everything.

its 11:24pm and i am writing the whole thing over off the top of my head. all 5 pages. a whole month of work crammed into tonight and tomorrow afternoon. the paper is due friday morning. no excuses. no late papers accepted. i’d freaking take a hammer to this damn computer if i didnt have to finish writing this paper. no sleep for me tonight.

21 05 2009
janey

and clo. they say that a mom is her son’s first love.
so you will always have that bond. its a speacial bond. if you have a daughter you will also have a strong bod because you would have a lot of things in common and you’d be better able to guide her through certain thing in her life. it is also a speacial bond. they are both eqauly strong unles one or both people diminish it

21 05 2009
Clo

I call ’em “little moments” Brad Paisley has a song called Little Moments, and while it’s not about children, he explains little moments with his wife and says “Yeah I live for little moments like that.” I always knew I wanted kids, and I knew I’d love holding them. But nobody ever told me just how much I’d want to hold a sweaty little boy laying on my chest, and smell his breath and listen to his little noises and just watch him. Or how I could watch him for hours and be heartbroken when he did wake up.

I dunno if I told you guys yet about Cayden’s new trick? You say yay! And he claps and then he claps some more, and you better say Yay! Or he gets mad, lol. My Mom also gave him an ice cream cone today, and I have video and it’s SO funny to watch him eat it.

I’m kinda worried about my friend and her baby. They’re fine physically, but I dunno. I just get the weird feeling that she had a baby to keep her boyfriend. And I dunno if they’ll stay together after this. From what I heard, he didn’t want the baby. And then she texted me with the info (how much he weighed ect.) and I asked her what his personality is like. She said “I dunno, I’m waiting to see him.”

I dunno. It just kinda rubbed me the wrong way. I know every mom is different, and I feel bad for judging, but honestly, how can you wait to see your baby? In as much pain as I was, and as out of it as I was, the first thing I asked is when Cayden would be out of the NICU and when I could hold him. And when they brought him to me? I cried when they had to take him back. I just can’t see wanting to wait to see your baby. I mean maybe if you had actual labor and you wanted to sleep and rest… Maybe I could see that. I dunno, I’ve never been through labor and while they say pancreatitus is like giving birth naturally, I can’t compare. But she had a c-section and I dunno. All I wanted to do was hold my baby. I cried when we sent him to the nursery at night, and the only reason I did that was because Jeremy was already sleeping crappy on the couch, and was going to work in the morning, and I physically couldn’t take care of Cayden, Jeremy had too.

21 05 2009
janey

third line- *bond
fifth line – *equally

21 05 2009
Witchypoo

Cloey…I love that song; I had it on my Ipod until our computer crashed about months ago, taking our old itunes library with it; we had to rebuild the song list, and I still haven’t restored all the songs I had before. I’m glad you reminded me of that one, though. Brad Paisley sings about a lot of sweet subjects, hugh?

Janey…SUCKS about your computer; I’ve pulled my share of all-nighters…not fun. You better get your rest after the paper is finished, Sweetie.

Cloey, yeah, it does sound a little strange about your friend waiting to see her baby. Could she have possibly meant that the medical personnel were making her wait…like there was something being done for the time being with the baby that prevented your friend from seeing her? (The baby is a girl, right?). When I had my guys all three times, while the labor and birth were exhausting, it was also exhilarating at the same time…know what I mean? You’re fully charged after the baby is born; excitement and happiness take over any tiredness that naturally occurs. Much later, after holding and taking care of the baby and all that…then I was tired, (still couldn’t sleep though). Also, I had our babies in my room with me all night and day, so I was awake most of the time from that. I hope your friend and her little baby are doing fine, Cloey.

Take care, and nightie-night

21 05 2009
Witchypoo

supposed to read: until our computer crashed about 6 months ago.

21 05 2009
Clo

Witchy- Love Brad Paisley. Jeremy and I shared our first slow dance to that one that’s like “She’s everything I’ve ever wanted, everything I need, I talk about her I go on and on and on…” Jeremy says it reminds him of me… “She’s I want a piece of chocolate, take me to a movie, she’s I can’t find a thing to wear, now and then she’s moody…” πŸ™‚ His new song is super sweet, and he wrote one for his sons, I’m gonna type out the lyrics for you, because I think you’d really relate to it (It made Jeremy cry) I can send you the link to listen to it, I’ve tried to find it EVERYWHERE and I can’t, because the album’s not out yet, but there’s one site where he preformed it live on. There’s so many songs I love from Brad Paisley, like letter to me. He’s just very relatable.

Janey I had a crazy english teacher who used to LOVE to give what she called all or nothing tests and quizzes. Seriously, if we didn’t fill it out word for word like she wanted us too, we’d fail. I still pride myself on being the essay queen because I got a B on an essay in her class that I wrote about a play I didn’t even read (Sometimes I love the fact that English teachers made me read books I’d never try on my own. I mean I love to read, just some books I’d look at and think “not my deal.” But if I starting reading and just couldn’t get into it? I’d quit. Most of the time I could BS pretty good, but she was tricky. All nighters suck, but they were also some of the best memories I have too.

Anyway, Witchy, here’s the link to the song- It’s live, during a show, you’ll have to fast fwd it to around like the 82 minute mark. You’ll hear Brad talking about his new CD and his new son. He wrote this song for his songs. It’s kinda a pain to find, but worth a listen. Here’s the lyrics to the song:
I remember saying
I don’t care either way
Just as long as he or she is healthy
I’m OK
Then the doctor pointed to the corner of the screen
And said ‘You see that thing right there?
Well, you know what that means’
I started wondering who he was gonna be
I thought heaven help us if he’s anything like me
Probably climb a tree too tall
And ride his bike too fast
End up every summer with something in a cast
He’s gonna throw a ball
And break some glass
The window down the street
He’s gonna get in trouble
He’s gonna get in some fights
I’m gonna lose my temper
And some sleep
It’s safe to say that
I’m gonna get my payback
If he’s anything like me
I can see him right now
Knee’s all skinned up
A magnifying glass
Trying to melt a tonka truck
Won’t he be a sight
With his football helmet on
And that’ll be his first love
Till his first love comes alone
He’ll get his heart broke
By the time he’s in his teens
Heaven help him if he’s anything like me
Probably stay out too late
And drive his car too fast
Get a speeding ticket
That he’ll pay for mowing grass
He’s gonna get caught skippin class
We’ll ground him for a week
He’s gonna get in trouble
We’re gonna get in fights
I’m gonna lose my temper
And some sleep
It’s safe to say that
I’m gonna get my payback
If he’s anything like me
But he’s gonna love me
And hate me
Along the way
And years are gonna fly by
I already dread the day
He’s gonna hug his mama
Gonna shake my hand
He’s gonna act like he can’t wait to leave
As he drives out
He’ll cry his eyes out
If he’s anything like me
There’s worse folks to be like
Oh he’ll be alright
If he’s anything like me

21 05 2009
Clo

Oh, and I also meant to say my friend had a baby boy. But she didn’t say she had to wait to see him. She said “I’m waiting to see him.” And she didn’t say he was in for tests or whatever. I mean, I guess it’s possible. It was just weird way to word it. You’d think if they hadn”t let her see him yet she would have said “No, they’re making me wait to see him.”

21 05 2009
Witchypoo

Cloey…those song lyrics made me cry, also. Btw, Jeremy sounds pretty sweet if he cried over the song; lots of men wouldn’t think much about what the lyrics are saying. I love the words…I’ll look for it, and thanks for typing them out for me. Btw…I think the name of the song you mentioned first is ‘She’s Everything To Me’; I had that one, also. I used to listen to it a lot…I’ll have to get it back on my Ipod. I’m wishing your friend and her baby good things.

Take care.

21 05 2009
lara21167

Janey did you get your paper rewrote? I would be soooo upset!! I was what I thought was lucky in High School. Somehow I managed to get into English classes that didn’t have to write many papers. I suffered for that in College. One of my first English classes in college I had to do a term paper on the book “Madame Bovery”, I hate that book to this day lol. It was about this french lady who got married cheated on her hubby, had babies and shipped them off with a wet nurse and hardly ever saw them. But I worked hard on that paper, even had another english teacher help me and i got a big fat “F” on it. That teacher I had was a bit strange and the paper didn’t live up to whatever he thought it should. I still passed the class anyway.

Those are beautiful lyrics, I love Brad Paisley too. Does he sing the song “You’re gonna miss This?” They played that at Kristy’s Elementry Graduation and everyone cried.

And I do miss those days of holding my babies while they slept. People used to say “you’re going to spoil him/her” but you know so what it one of the most special times a mother has. I used to enjoy sitting outside on the porch and just watching my kids play. I could sit there for hours just watching them.

Idk what your friend meant by that Cloey. I know when I had Richie (remember I had both kids by C section) I couldn’t wait to get out of Recovery to see him. They wouldn’t let me out until I wriggled my toes. And I kept trying and trying until I could, then I didn’t want him to go to the nursery. I think it’s standard proceedure with a C section for the baby to spend the first night in the nursery. Then with Kristy, I had a bit of pain in th e recovery, and a crazy nurse kept shooting me up with Demeral (sp?) So when I got out and they brought Kristy in, I was so out of it I could barely hold her, so instinctively I knew she was better off in the nursery the first night. Of course I was nursing both so they’d bring the babies in every couple hours.

My niece must be out of rehab, she has updated pics of my great nephew on her myspace. I’ll steel them and put them on mine. So you guys can check them out.

21 05 2009
janey

lare- you dnt even know. i cried.
i was up till 1:3o and i only got about half done.
im still wroking on it. i stayed home so i could fish it and when im done
ill see about emailing it to him or having my mom drive to school before the last bell. i left 11 post it notes for myself glued on my computer reminding of what i had to do when i got up. ugh. im tired.

21 05 2009
Witchypoo

The song is just, ‘She’s Everything’.

21 05 2009
Clo

Trace Adkins sings You’re gonna miss this. It was my theme song for my pregnancy, lol. I kept telling myself just hang on, it’ll all be over in a flash, and when it’s over you’re gonna miss it, and I never thought I would, but sure enough I do.

Darrius Rucker also has a great song called It won’t be like this for long. Makes me SOB. If you guys haven’t heard it, I’ll have to post the lyrics.

Witchy- The song is supposed to be on his new CD which isn’t coming out till the end of June I think, or maybe it was July. But if you go to the Prairie Home Companion Website (google it) and then it’s the may 2nd show, you’ll have to search for it, I think it’s on the second or third “segment” around the 82 minute mark. I can’t figure out how to steal it though, lol.

Jeremy can be quite sensitive sometimes. But it was cute when he cried, because I ALWAYS cry at songs like that, and he makes fun of me.

21 05 2009
Witchypoo

Lara, I think the song ‘You’re Gonna Miss This’ is sung by Trace Adkins; the video is good, also.

21 05 2009
Witchypoo

I was trying to post that the song was by Trace Adkins, (‘You’re Gonna Miss This’)…but the site wouldn’t take my comment – and then – sure enough, Little-Miss-Me-So-Smart posted right before me! Giggle-giggle…you know I’m just teasing, Cloey. You do seem to have all the info., though. I know exactly who to go to for most details – handy.

Take care.

21 05 2009
Witchypoo

I can’t get this site to post for me; I’ve tried like 5 times…we’ll see.

21 05 2009
lara21167

It’s posting Witchy, prob just slow. You guys will prob laugh, but I cry hearing the live version of “Free Bird” because I love Lynyrd Skynyrd and I close my eyes and imagine being at that concert and I cry for all the tragidy the band has gone through.

Janey, from now on save your info on a disk (one of those memory stick thingys are great) as well as the computer that way you have a back up in case this ever happens again.

21 05 2009
janey

its that most of my school work i do on my laptop
but my printer wnt register on it i decided to do it
on the desktop. shoulda done it on my
laptop

21 05 2009
janey

im done with my paper.!

21 05 2009
lara21167

Yay!! Make sure you let us know what you get on it.

21 05 2009
Witchypoo

Good job, Janey. Now, get some zzzzzzzzzzz’s.

22 05 2009
Clo

Good Job Janey

Witchy- Ha ha, I am the know it all… Of totally useless information. I really like researching, it was one of my favorite parts of when I was an after school group worker and camp counselor. I loved researching things and explaining how Valentines Day got started and all that. I’d be a teacher only I suck HARD at planning. And I’m not great when it comes to helping kids with homework. I get frustrated and want to tell them the answers.

We did something bad today. Jeremy’s been dying for a new car (and I have too, our car looks like a total hoopty and I hate it. We traded our nicer car for it, because our nicer car was smaller and also needed the vent fixed, so it had no heat. Jeremy said he could fix the heat when we bought that car, but of course once we got it he discovered some reason he couldn’t. Which is another pet peeve, but whatever.) Obviously we can’t afford a new-new car, so he’s been looking at new-used. He has this HUGE truck used for moving, but the moving biz hasn’t been booming and we’re paying more to keep it (in insurance and Jeremy’s birthday came so we needed new tags) plus he doesn’t have any time to move (Sundays are his only day off besides Thursday, and who moves on a Thursday?) so he’s been trying to sell it or trade it for a van or SUV (he’s dying for third row seats) and we drove around used car lots tonight because I have no idea what any car looks like (Our car convos go like this: Jeremy: Ooh, look at the lambo zclsje45 Me: Is that the pretty red car or the pretty blue one?) and he asked me if I thought I could drive something as big as a suburban (answer: no.) Anyway, we weren’t car shopping, more like car education. And we found the perfect car. And I highly doubt we’ll be able to get it ( Me = No credit, and No Credit married Bad Credit. How are you supposed to get credit, anyway? Any time I apply for anything to build my credit, I get turned down. Why? Because I have no credit.) Anyway, I digress… It’s a smaller SUV (perfect for me) with optional 3rd row seating (the 3rd row is a little cramped, but we don’t always drive with people in our car. We just want it as an option for when we have two car seats, which will take up a whole seat by themselves, that way people will still be able to drive with us.) It’s a pretty blue/gray/green color (sounds ugly, but idk exactly how to describe it, I love the color) It’s only 8,000, which isn’t horrible. And, the place takes commercial vehicles as trades. And Jeremy says we may also trade in our hoopty on it to bring down the price (we may keep it as a second car, which Jeremy would drive) So Jeremy and I are going tomorrow to test drive and get his monster truck appraised. But, I still highly doubt we’ll get it, and I may cry. Good thoughts/prayers our way?

22 05 2009
Witchypoo

No cryin’ now, Sweetie – if for some reason you don’t get it. IT’S only a thing…very replaceable. That being said…I hope you get it. HELL-YEAH!!! (Is that good enough?)…Heeheehee. Anyhoo…you have all the important things already; everything else is just icing on the cake.

Nightie-night, and take care.

22 05 2009
lara21167

Good luck Cloey, just remember if you don’t get it there’s probably a good reason. A few years ago, I was going to buy a new/used car at a small dealership. We had a deal in the works the loan approved and all of a sudden for no reason they renigged on their deal. I was upset but knew it was for the best. Not long after my hubby lost his job. I wouldn’t have been able to keep up the payments so it turned out to be a good thing. But I will send positive wishes your way. Sounds like you should get a good deal on the trade so that will help. And despite what they say about getting credit right now, car dealers are desperate, they’ll do what it takes to get a deal. So good luck and let us know…

22 05 2009
Clo

Yeah, I’m banking on the desperation deal, lol. The guy seemed like he really wanted to be able to work with us, so I dunno. I know if we don’t get it, it’ll be OK, and I won’t really cry. I’m already banking on us NOT getting it, but I will be disappointed. It would be one thing if the car was WAY out of reach, but this one is just barely in reach, and I want to have it, lol. Anyway we’re headed out there, so I’ll let you guys know.

22 05 2009
lara21167

Good luck again, Think Positive, it does help!!

22 05 2009
Clo

We’re waiting to hear back from some banks, but I kinda highly doubt it. I think if there was a real possibility, they wouldn’t let us go home. 😦 Bummer. We test drove it, and it was sooo nice, and I love, love, LOVE the color. Even Cayden loved it, the whole time we were in there, he was giggling up a storm.

And I finally got my period. So. I would assume I’m not pregnant. A few months off made me forget how freaking uncomfortable it is. Geesh.

22 05 2009
janey

i handed in my paper and got an extra ten points for it bein on time.!
12 motre days of school left.!
then take the regents and my english final and im officially done.!

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