The Art of Cover Letters

16 09 2009

Well I mentioned Funemployment is over. So that means I’ve been spending my days at Barnes and Noble, hiding in the corner on the third floor, sitting on the floor in the only spot that has an outlet. My laptop’s battery doesn’t hold power, so essentially I have a portable desktop as it has to be plugged in to use it. But it was nice. I was hidden next to a row of unused cashiers and therefore out of the way of most patrons, save an elderly couple looking for help and the random teen searching for the perfect journal in which to record their angst. 

 

Normally, I would agree when someone says “resumes should not take an entire day to update.” I mean really. Move some things around, take out the irrelevant, adjust the type font and save. Unfortunately I use a unique format for my resume. I use a table system that helps break up each section and helps make each task a bit easier to read. It’s nothing out of this world but it does look different than the everyday resume and helps make mine stand out a bit among the rest. (Note: I also offer all contact numbers directly on my resume. Potential employers love this. Not only do they NOT have to come to me to contact past employers but it shows an air of confidence: “Go ahead, call my old boss, I have nothing to hide.” This doesn’t mean they will hire you, but I’ve been told by multiple interviewers it put me ahead).  Through the years my mac has become ancient and I have had a system crash, losing all saved documents. I generally back up the most important documents on the internet via e-mail so I HAD a version on file, but for some reason the format was not translating to the new Word processor I have. SO, not only did I need to update, but I had to revamp the whole thing.  And had to keep it within a single page (Ugh, seriously?) No big. I was in B&N, I had my corner, I had dust bunnies for company, and really you do feel more accomplished when you leave the confines of your nest to get some work done. 

 

I returned home feeling pretty good. I had applied for some focus groups to make some extra dough, I not only updated my resume, but completely revamped it and found a few jobs I was potentially interested in (although one was taken down as I was looking at it – boo!). I decided to upload my resume to a few places, the first being with a major communications and paper distributor – when I saw the bane of my existence: The Cover Letter. 

My first thought was ugh. My second thought was, really? Not only does this need to be completely generic, but come ON. Just Hire me. Are you really going to get to know me as an individual with a page worth of forced bullshit. I take that back, with less of a page of forced bullshit. You want to get to know me? Talk to me, hire me, what will 2 to 3 paragraphs of exaggerated ambition tell you? And then I chided myself. The written word is my passion. Perhaps my grammar is off at times (ok, a lot of times, must work on that) and my spelling can be atrocious at times, but I love writing. I love reading. I joke that it is my addiction and that I  potentially spend more money on books a week than an addict on his or her drug of choice (an exaggeration of course, bills come first! usually). But really, if I can’t express myself within a page, at least to a certain extent, then what would I be doing trying to emmigrate from marketing into the other realms of communications. So I decided to be  abandon, for the most part, the normal structure of a cover letter. I was honest, blatant almost, with my thoughts regarding the silliness and constrictions of cover letters. I let my humor peak through. I threw in a few of the essentials but decided these poor recruiters read thousands of the same letter week in and week out. I tried to jump a little out of the box. 

 

Will this pay off? Who knows. We’ll find out… Stay Tuned.

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16 09 2009
Witchypoo

Well…you’ve got moxie, Goldie. Yup, you’ve got moxie. I’d hire someone with your personality and creativity over someone with the same, old, routine b.s. Potential employers are just people, after all; your approach HAS to stand out. Keep at it, Tiger.

Take care.

16 09 2009
lara21167

I like your idea of adding contacts. They always say to put “references available on request” but yes it does make it easier for a potential employer to have your references on hand. Let me know how the new and improved coverletter goes over. In about a year I’ll be looking for a better job so…

16 09 2009
lara21167

Cloey just wanted to let you know, I have missed quite a few posts from Diary of J. It’s so exciting that I didn’t even realize it. Actually I think I’m done with it too dumb really. And she’s starting to get a lot of nasty comments saying basicallly how dumb the blog is. Maybe if i’m bored I’ll read the missed posts and comments. I just glanced through them.

So Cloey how are you and Jeremy?

16 09 2009
Clo

Oh Rowdy, I feel for you. Resumes and cover letters and that whole dealio always scared the be-jeebus out of me. I suck at them, the confuse me, and I always feel so flustered when I’m trying to write one. I still don’t think I have one. I know I’ve written one before, and it probably would have been a good idea to keep it and that way I wouldn’t have to start for scratch. Oh well. Good luck babe! I’d hire you, if I had you know, a business.

Laura- I dunno, other blogs are pissing me off. I mean, it’s like, the only one I want to read anymore are this one, bedroom, and that’s pretty much it. And even bedroom is getting boring for me. I liked the Karen Chronicles, but now they’ve got drama over there and I’m starting to feel like the author is kind of a cry baby.

It’s like, why are you wasting so much time on the few negative comments you got that you deprive your readers (many of which left nice, positive comments.) of the bonus post that YOU yourself promised? Someone complains about your schedule? All you really need to say is, sorry you feel that way, but right now this is how the schedule is. Someone complains about your spelling and grammar, say I know! It’s not good, but I do what I can, and I don’t have an editor. Sorry! What do you need to argue for? it doesn’t go anywhere, and it usually just ends up pissing other people off.

And it’s like, it KILLS me when people say they want comments and reviews, and then cry when they get ONE bad one. It’s like, your don’t feel like your blog is good enough to hold up to a couple of people who don’t like it? Yeah, it’s free entertainment, yeah, it’s done for fun, but don’t invite people to say how they feel and then get all hurt and pissed off and rant-y when they do, ya know?

Anyway, Jeremy and I are OK I guess. I’m just mad because he never tries. Even last night when he got off work, he didn’t bother to call me to say “hey can we talk about this” or whatever. It’s like, he runs away, waits for things to blow over, and never talks. And even when we’re arguing, if I don’t yell at him and provoke him I guess the word would be, he will literally sit there and not say a word. He NEVER wants to talk about it, he just wants things to blow over. I dunno what I’m going to do though, it seems like such a little thing but I’m so frustrated by it.

How is everyone else?

16 09 2009
Witchypoo

Cloey, I left my thoughts on your problem with Jeremy on the last post, ‘Funemployment Part II’. I’m not sure why I left it there…probably because that’s where you originally brought it up. And, yeah…Jeremy’s talking-style, (or, lack of it), sounds pretty common in comparison with other husbands I know. They DO tend to want to brush things under the carpet – like they’re worried little issues will turn into huge ordeals if they get talked about and examined. The funny part is, usually it’s when things get ignored that they can take forever to resolve – if ever. I tend to want to brush off a lot of “little” things – I’m kind of like a guy that way. I’ve found that this tendency helps in some ways…but isn’t so great in others. I don’t know – sometimes I’m just like, “WTF?”…time for a soak and a cup of tea.

16 09 2009
lara21167

Damn Cloey I recently started reading the Karen Chronicles. I’m only up to August. But I hate for it to end like Utopia. Like you said if you can’t take the critisim then don’t ask for it. J apparently deleted a nasty comment and is getting crap for that. Like I said I just glanced through a couple of comments. Well I’m glad you and Jeremy are sorta ok. Maybe try a “hunny dew” list, where you write things down you need him to do. Idk, if he’s like my hubby he won’t even look at it. But maybe it’s worth a try.

16 09 2009
Witchypoo

Did she really, Lara? (delete a nasy comment, I mean). That’s so ridiculous…it’s like when little kids plug their ears and shake their heads “no”; do they REALLY think that’s going to make the problem, or person, go away? (Completely understandable with children – not so much with “adult” women). C’mon…why open up the space for comments at all? With X-amount of people reading, did it not occur to these headcases, (or, so it would seem, anyway), that there MIGHT be a few negative responses thrown in…or some containing some form of criticism? That’s just the nature of doing anything creative; everyone has a different opinion…there’s bound to be at least a little bit of disapproval, (deserved or not). I don’t get these big babies and their tempermental-diva attitudes. Don’t write the damn blog if you’re going to fall apart at every little hurdle.

Take care.

16 09 2009
Witchypoo

Oh…and, I always have things pop into my head that I mean to bring up, then get distracted and forget while I’m on here. Anyhoo…Cloey, I think those pictures of your lil’ darlin’, Cayden…just too cute. He’s adorable. Do you have to force yourself NOT to squeeze his chubby little cheeks every 5 minutes? I STILL grab the older spawns’ faces sometimes – can’t help myself, (of course, they act like they think Mumzie has gone off the deep end – permanently this time! hahaha). But, I don’t think they really mind it. My littlest guy – he’s just TOO tempting to keep from gushing all over; the chipmunk-cheeks-thing, you know. Cayden is a doll-baby.

16 09 2009
lara21167

Cloey I have posted your blog link about 3 or 4 times now On Diary of J hehe, Didn’t mean to really. Someone thought I was you and asked for it, then I posted on the wrong post and reposted explaining I wasn’t the author but here it is. J hasn’t mentioned anything, but it is probably annoying her.

16 09 2009
Witchypoo

Snicker-Snicker…Sweetlara is Eeeeeeeevil.

16 09 2009
Clo

Ha ha, I kinda get a sick satisfaction out of annoying her. Which I do realize is totally childish and immature, but hey, it happens.

Witchy, I thought of you today, and funnily enough it was my undies that reminded me of you. I love the panties with words and funny sayings on them, I dunno why. Well, I pulled on an old pair today and they’re halloween panties. On the front they say “I love being” and on the back it says “Witchy” and I was like, WITCHY NEEDS THESE! But, I won’t send you my used panties, lol.

17 09 2009
Witchypoo

Pretty lil’ panties and I go together like…peanut butter & jelly, (I just realized I haven’t eaten enough today, and I now officially have food on the brain – been too busy to remember to eat). What, Cloey?!!! No used panties for moi’? Hell and damnation: this just isn’t Witchy’s day. You know how partial I am to used panties.

17 09 2009
Witchypoo

That sounds kind of sick and twisted, doesn’t it?

17 09 2009
lara21167

Witchy we know you’re just joking. 🙂 Or maybe not????

17 09 2009
lara21167

Oh can you believe bedroom blog updated again.

17 09 2009
Witchypoo

Yeah, I’m joking. Used panties don’t really do much for me. As a matter of fact, I’m joking, or kind of screwing around – tongue-in-cheek, a good 50 -60% of the time I’m commenting on ‘Bedroom Blog’, (other than when I’m obviously making a point about something). I have a hunch that some of the more humor-challenged commenters on there don’t recognize when someone is only half-serious, or, not serious at all. Hence, the “clearly insane” conclusions by the headcases, or the trail of hurt feelings and bitching and moaning, (NY would be a prime example of one of the dumbasses who take themselves FAR too seriously, I think). No imagination. ZZZZZZZZZZ.

17 09 2009
lara21167

I don’t think I’ve told you guys I go this afternoon for my sonogram. Then next week back to the doc. But he said I can call the day after the sonogram for the results. So I’ll let you know tomorrow what if anything they found. And Btw, I HATE having a vaginal sonogram it just makes you feel so violated!!

17 09 2009
Witchypoo

Good luck and good energy to you, Sweetlara; I’m sending some your way. I haven’t had a vaginal sonogram, but it does sound like a chore; even my yearly pelvics make me feel ewwwww. It really is an invasive feeling; it will be nice to have it over with by this afternoon. Take care.

17 09 2009
lara21167

You’ve never had a vaginal sonogram?? Lets see how did my sister put it. I can’t remember her exact words, and if you knew her you’d know how funny this is coming from her. Something like ” A vaginal sonogram is like being fucked by a cold metal object” Something like that she said, that’s exactly right as it needs to be moved around and inside and out and pushed into directions that are not normal for your VJ. Just a lot of fun not.

18 09 2009
Clo

I had a vaginal ultrasound for my first ultrasound with Cayden. It’s not fun, but I’d take it over a pap smear ANY day.

And Witchy so wants my used panties. It’s OK, you don’t have to lie 😉

I’d talk more, but it’s been a long day (if you guys like Kashi items, you should check out Target. Our Target here has them on sale, most of them were 2.88 or less, but we only got cereal, crackers, and granola bars and cereal bars. They had cookies, which were like 2.50, and Jeremy says the frozen meals were on sale too but I didn’t look at the prices. Anyway, if you bhuy five participating items, you get a five dollar gift card.) complete with a looooong annoying visit from the inlaws (we did go to Schmidts though, if you watch man vs food, it was featured on there, and it was tasty.) Anyway, I’m wicked tired.

But I wanted to let Witchy know that I know she wants my panties (ha ha, I’m just kidding too), and now I want to wish Laura good luck and send good thoughts!

18 09 2009
Witchypoo

Weeeeeell…since you’re on to me anyway, Cloey, I may as well come clean that yes – used panties make me completely crazy. It’s one of my few fetishes; btw, ALL my fetishes are sexually-based, and kind of kinky, weird, and gross. How’s THAT for oversharing? (Ok…in the interest of not freaking, or mildly repulsing, anyone out, I’ll just be on the safe side to assure you Girls that I AM just joking. This is the internet after all, and since we all are going on trust that none of us is some kind of twisted pervert or whatever, I’ll reiterate that I’m just screwing around. You’d actually think I’m totally normal if you ever got to know me in person. At least…I’m assuming you would. HAHAHA. NOW look who’s taking herself too seriously?! Hells-bells, Cloey…quite talking about your damn used panties, will ya?!) ***Me giggling***. I’m such an ass. But, I can be one on here, without you Ladies thinking I’m only dealing with half-a-deck, right? I’m just overly-tired, which is when I get really stupid and silly. Ok. I’m done. Did someone mention panties?

Take care.

18 09 2009
Witchypoo

Sweetlara…be sure to tell us about your test results as soon as you hear, please. Nightie-night, Girls.

18 09 2009
Witchypoo

I’m strongly resisting the impulse to correct my typos. See, I can work on overcoming my little “weirdnesses”, (I made that word up, btw).

18 09 2009
Clo

I’m still awake. I keep adding all these cute little ideas I have for Cayden’s birthday party. But they’re like, a lot of work, and I’m killing myself.

Right now we’re getting letters from people who’ve known him in his first year. I’m asking them for stories, advice for when he’s older, favorite quotes, lyrics, words to live by, ect. And he’ll open them later. But then I decided to write to a few famous people to see if I could get them to write letters. I know they probably won’t make it in time, but still, I can put them in later, Cayden will never know. Anyway, I only picked a few celebrities (Cayden’s one, it’s not like he’s a huge fan of anyone) but I wrote to the President, Bob Barker and The Price is Right show (Cayden’s a HUGE fan, I dunno if I’ve mentioned this before. He seriously will watch that show for hours and not blink, and learned to clap because of it.), and Lisa Marie and Priscilla Presley (Because he also loves Elvis, but Elvis can’t write a letter.) I decided hand writing would be best, and of course I want it done now, hence why I’m up at 1:30 in the morning. And now, I’m overly tired like Witchy, and I doubt I’ll be able to sleep.

I decided today that my Mother in law is grating. That’s just the perfect word to describe her. She’s not HORRIBLE, but it’s just a constant annoyance that wears you down. It’s the fact that she repeats the same thing five times, the same question over and over again, she gets in little digs and insults, looks, eye rolls, the know it all attitude… It’s just, so hard to spend the whole day with him. And she can be SUCH a bitch to my father in law.

For example, we had one of those TV trays set up on by the couch for them to put their drinks on. We use these as end tables and Cayden being Cayden loves to pull up on them, and shake the crap out of them, and try to knock them over. Well, he was doing this, and he fell down, and the table was about to fall on top of him (luckily their drinks were done so they didn’t rain down on him.) George (my FIL) stuck his foot out to catch the table. Cayden was fine, he wasn’t even scared, he thought the whole thing was hilarious. But my MIL started yelling at him for not catching the table… With his hands. First of all, why should it matter what he caught the table with? He stopped it from cracking down on my son, so whatever. It’s not like they were expensive and needed to be handled carefully, or else we wouldn’t have let Cayden shake on it (Which, we try to get him not to do, because of the whole knocking the table over and trying to give himself a concussion dealio.) And he was like “I did catch the table” and she just kinda went off saying he didn’t know what he was talking about… I mean, my FIL is BIG, and he’s old. He can’t get off the couch without my husband helping pull him up, there’s no way he would have been able to lean forward fast enough to catch that table. And she was implying that the table hit Cayden. And it didn’t. And it’s like, this is the same women who DROPPED my son TWICE and didn’t even get her fat ass out of her chair to see if he was hurt, just said “Oh, he’s OK” When he WAS crying.

And Jeremy thinks I’m insane because I told him his parents needed to get their present buying in check. They’ve spent SO much freaking money on him. I’m annoyed. I mean for one, I feel like they’re trying to show everyone else up (I shouldn’t say they, it’s mainly my MIL) and two, it’s stupid to spend that much money on stuff that he may not ever play with. I mean my husband says it’s their money, let them spend it, but then there’s also the fact that I don’t want Cayden to become this huge spoiled brat, getting everything he wants and thinking that any time we say no he can go call Grandma and Grandpa, ya know? I mean I KNOW Grandparents are supposed to spoil their grandkids, but at what point does it cross the line?

I mean, so far, what we know of, they’ve gotten him 3 different fisher price toys that are at LEAST 40 bucks, and then this tricycle (it’s one of those with a handle on the back for the parents to push and then when the kid gets older you can take it off and it’s a regular trike?) which ranges from 50-150 dollars depending on the brand and the model. And that’s only the stuff we know about! It’s just like, too much for me. Then, to top it off, she made a point of kinda saying she wants to keep the toys at their house. What’s the point? We’re there like, once a month IF that, he’s NEVER going to get to play with them. I just feel like she’s a little jealous of my Mom, who takes him at LEAST once a weekend, and so she’s trying to fill her house up with baby crap so it looks like he spends a lot of time there, you know?

I dunno. Then sometimes I wonder if I’m over-reacting because I don’t like her, but honestly if my Mom went out and bought those toys? I’d tell her she was nuts and to knock it off. Hell, half that stuff you can find almost new at once upon a child for over half off. We tend to buy most our toys at the thrift store, and we’ve gotten some amazing deals. It’s just too much, you know?

18 09 2009
lara21167

cloey eventually you are just going to have to put these people in your blog, fictional charactors of course but I think your readers will get a big kick out of some of the real life things they do. And the over abundence (sp?) of presents thing, yea not good. A friend of my hubby and I daughter who is a year older than Kristy, the mother of the little girl’s father is well off and always bought her so many Christmas presents they said it was just ridiculas and she’d act like a spoiled brat because she was. So no I don’t blame you for getting upset about them going overboard on him.

Ok so the sonogram thingy is plastic not metal and get this, I looked at it which I guess I never did before and they actually had a rubber on it. I almost started to laugh. Well the tech told me everything looked fine as far as she could tell, she’s really not supposed to even say that since she’s not an MD or even a nurse. But she was very nice. So the doc should have the results today. I’m almost more afraid they won’t find anything, because then why am I having pain you know, Now Kristy is sick, she was coughing a bit last night and this morning running a fever of 101.8. So I kept her home. I went on to work because I’m only like 15 minuets from home. And I’ll go home at lunch to check on her. Anyhoo I called her doc thinking with her symptoms they may want to check her for Swine Flu, it’s really going around the schools in our county. But they just said the same thing they normally tell you for flu/cold symptoms, fluids, tylonol, keep an eye on her. So I think I may call the health department to see if she should be tested. I mean it’s a public safety issue. Then Richie I’m picking up tomorrow. But if she’s sick I don’t known if I should expose him. He probably won’t care.

So it’s been a fun morning so far…

18 09 2009
Clo

Aw Laura, I’m still sending good wishes your way. I hope they find something (so you know you’re not crazy for having pain) but that it’s little and easily treated.

As far as the swine flu, I don’t really think it’s as big of a deal as they’re making it out to be. Yeah, I know it’s dangerous, and people who have it should stay away from other people, and old people and babies should be really careful… But that pretty goes for anyone with any type of flu, ya know? By the time they know you have the swine flu, they can’t really treat it. My cousin had it, and yeah it sucked, and yeah she was sick for a little bit, but… I wouldn’t worry too much about it. If youre worried about Richie though (since he’s coming from another place) you could see if Kristy will wear a mask for the weekend.

18 09 2009
lara21167

Stupid Doctors office. I give up, I’ve called twice and they say don’t have the results yet. The tech said she’d send the results over first thing in the am. Reminds of the time when I had my biopsy on my cervix and I went in to get the results and my doc had been called away for an emergency C section. So I asked the nurse if she could just give me the results. She looks at it and says it’s not signed off on so I can’t. So I had to wait till the next day. Turns out I didn’t have cancer but was one stage from it. Why I had the partial hysterectomy. Anyhoo, guess he’ll call me if he needs to. I go see him next Thursday so I’ll just wait.

I’m not real worried if she has the swine flu, she’s a healthy child so I wouldn’t think she’d have any problems. I think the flu is no where near as bad as they originally thought it was. But people are still in a panic over it.

So how is everyone elses day going?

19 09 2009
Witchypoo

Hi, Ladies. Well Lara, it sounds like things look good, even though you don’t get to hear the official results until this week…that’s very good news. I know what you mean about almost wanting SOME kind of tangible reason why you feel pain, or just kind of not yourself. I always put off going to the doctor, because I don’t want to be some kind of hypochondriac, (sp?) who makes big things out of nothing. Sometimes I wait too long and wind up with pneumonia or something, when things could have been contained had I acted sooner. Still, you must feel relieved, hugh? I haven’t worried too much about the Swine flu thing; any kind of flu can be hard on our family, since we all have asthma, and various allergies that cause a predisposition for complications regarding getting sick. I have flu vaccination appointments scheduled for next week for hubby and all 3 boys; I need to get myself in to get mine, also, (my doctor denied my request for more inhalers for myself last week; his nurse said I have to go in to see him for a check-up and all that. I’m just thrilled with that news; I guess I better just make the damn appointment).

Sweetlara…enjoy your time with Richie this weekend; I know you miss him.

Take care

19 09 2009
Clo

I need to see if my Mom is getting our flu vaccinations again. Last year she got some from work and gave one to me, my sister, and my brother. I also need to make a mental note to ask the doctor when we go in for Cayden’s one year if he needs to get one. i think they do get one after a year, I can’t remember if it’s a year or two years. I’m not looking forward to that appointment, he’s going to be so upset, the poor guy. I am so excited for next week though. Jeremy’s working today so he could get Friday off, and then he switched his days off from Thursday to Tuesday for Cayden’s actual birthday, so he’s going to have thursday (his normal day off), friday, saturday, sunday (both also his normal days off) monday and tuesday off. He works 4-tens which is really nice.

We decided to hire a photographer for the party, which everyone thinks I’m nuts for, but I think it’s a super good idea. For one, I’m going to be so busy doing other things, that I don’t want to worry about getting pictures. Then, we’re also using the pictures for Cayden’s one year pics (although, I may go and get one of those 7.99 packages that Target and Walmart and Jc Pennys runs all the time, and he’s going to be in someone elses portfolio, so we’ll do it then as well.) Plus the guy says he’ll do group shots as well, so it’s also going to be kind of a family portrait deal. He doesn’t charge a sitting fee per person, and he’s really cheap because he’s just starting out, and I think he may even agree to shoot Cayden again for free if we let him be in his portfolio, so… Anyway, all in all it’s 50 bucks, which, we spent 80 taking him to JC Pennys for his 6 month pictures, so I’m happy with it. I’m just going to be so glad when this party is over.

Today I’m just cleaning house, posting things on craigslist (old toys and clothes of Caydens, clearing out for his birthday presents. I wish we had storage space, because some of these things I’d like to keep for the next baby, but oh well), and waiting for Jeremy to get off work. I should go do laundry, but I probably won’t.

19 09 2009
lara21167

Hey ladies, Richie is here yay!! We are watching some stupid movie and dinner is cooking. I need to do some school work so I thought I’d check in. Kristy is still running a fever. If it doesn’t go away by Monday, I’ll have to call the doctor again. Cloey remember how you suggested she wear a mask? I was doing something last night and picked up a white jacket and Kristy says “you’re not going to make me wear a mask are you? Made me laugh. No I don’t think the swine flu is any worse than any other flu, if it was the doc would have wanted Kristy to be tested.

So how is everyone’s weekend so far. I’m tired but still have alot to do.

20 09 2009
Clo

Yay for Richie! I hope you guys are having fun!

Is Kristy any better today?

I done pissed some people off on the blog. Which is, OK. I mean, not really OK, I’d rather not have pissed people off, but, you state an opinion, you’re going to get some people who disagree, which is fine, but like. What I’m confused about is I don’t understand how I’m attacking anyone. Attacking to me is like if I came out of the blue and was like “Witchy I fucking hate you, you’re such a bitch.” I didn’t attack J at all, I stated an opinion about her writing. And while I’m fine with people saying “Well, I think you’re wrong, I really like her blog and her writing.” I just don’t get how they see it as attacking, and not just me stating my opinion. I mean I guess it’s there opinion that I’m attacking her, which is fine, too. I dunno, I don’t think I care anymore.

It does creep me out a little, that someone reads this blog and doesn’t comment. It makes me feel like I’m being watched, and now I can’t be honest with how I feel because then it’s going to go over to the other blog and taint that one.

But thanks Witchy, for saying what you did. You summed it up better than I could, I kept repeating the same thing and not feeling like I was getting anywhere.

20 09 2009
Witchypoo

Hey, Ladies. Sounds like you’re having fun with your kids, Lara. Sometimes “stupid” movies are the best, because then you wind up talking with each other more than watching it…which is usually better, anyway.

Cloey, yeah – I’m fine with people having their own opinions that differ with mine- or our’s – or whatever. What I think is inappropriate is for said opinions to stretch over to what others have to say…passing judgements and making sweeping generalizations that aren’t even accurate, such as saying we’re bullies because we don’t happen to care for someone’s blog or comments, or whatever. It’s called the “Politically Correct” wasteland, (in MY thinking), where individuals use current, “pop” or “tag” terminology to call behavior or communication styles, or others’ personal opinions things they aren’t. Just because you don’t agree with someone’s statements, it’s a waste of time – and just plain wrong – to assign false labels to them just so that you can quiet them, silence their input in a sense…for the purpose of YOUR thoughts overriding theirs’ . That’s a mouthful, I know. I just refuse to be manipulated into silence just because certain commenters want to resort to falsehoods and rhetoric to override anything I might think. Also, I agree with you, Cloey…”attacking” someone is very different than anything we’ve said to ANYONE. Like I said, some people will exaggerate and falsify facts to suit their ends. And, yeah, I’m not really caring anymore how certain people choose to view others’ statements. It gets old debating all this crap after a while. As far as what I said…you betcha, Cloey. You have as much right to say what you feel is true as anyone, for sure.

Take care, Ladies.

20 09 2009
Witchypoo

Hey…now that I think about it, that specific comment, “I don’t care for bullies” is spot-on identical to one on ‘Bedroom Blog’ from that Peyton-character. You know…the same person who has a fetish for bats…calling us all “bat-shit crazy”…or however she put it? What I find humorous is that some of these commenters who say things like, “I don’t care for bullies”, don’t seem to realize how ridiculous they come off saying such things. WHO DOES “care for bullies”, I’d like to know?!!! I’m thinking it’s pretty unnecessary to make such – ahem – deep, relevant statements. How cutting-edge this person is for having such noble views, you know? I really believe that some people just spew things to be able to hear his/her own voice. Yup…I think that’s it.

20 09 2009
Witchypoo

Hugh. Well, I guess the comment I thought was “spot-on identical” to the one on ‘Bedroom’ ISN’T identical…but it’s close. Anyhoo, like you, Cloey, I think it’s creepy that someone hangs out here and reads, without letting their presence be known. Weird.

21 09 2009
Clo

We need to send Rowdy good thoughts, she’s in the hospital with pnemonia, she just emailed, so I thought I’d let you guys know.

I dunno, I just think there’s a difference between attacking and being rude and just stating your opinion. That’s what pisses me off about some of the blogs I’ve read. it’s like, if you say ANYTHING that’s not 100% “OMG I LOVE It!” Then suddenly you’re attacking or whatever. it’s not the case. It’s OK not to like something. I mean that one chick said she wasn’t going to read anymore because she didn’t think my writing was that great, and it’s like, OK then. I mean, I want readers, I’m not going to say I don’t, but I’m not naive enough to think that everyones going to love my blog. People won’t like it. You just CAN’T please people all the time, and people are welcome to say what they think about it, as long as they can do it respectfully. (meaning they’re not just going to call me a dumbass and say I suck.)

And I mean, the people are kinda bullying us by saying we’re bullies. It’s like, grow a backbone, stand up for what you believe in, and we can agree to disagree. Don’t cry like a baby just because I have a different opinion than yours.

I haven’t deleted anyones comments, I haven’t told anyone to leave, I haven’t spoke rudely to anyone or even about anyone.

So it’s whatever. And yeah, I do think it’s really creepy that someone lurks and doesn’t say anything. It’s like, you can chime in any time. But that’s the thing, they’d chime in and say something that differs from our opinion, and then when we disagree, they’d run away crying that we were being mean. Disagreeing with someone is NOT mean. I mean you and I disagreed on the whole K-Brandon situation, and I didn’t say you were attacking me or my opinion. You just had a different one then me. And if people like J’s blog, then they can like it. If they don’t, well then they don’t. I didn’t want to turn it into a huge thing, where one side has to bash me and the other has to bash J. I just wanted to say there’s this blog, but I’m not personally recommending it, because I don’t like it.

And, I didn’t recommend this blog, even though I obviously read it (and love it!) because I don’t want people to come here, see my opinions, and thinkt hey have to kiss ass or stop reading, you know? I dunno. I’m just over it.

i haven’t been sleeping well again and I’m just wicked tired, and then all this party stuff is wearing me down, and Cayden’s not been sleeping well, so it’s just a mess. I don’t want to snap on anyone, because it’s not fair, but I don’t want to deal with.

21 09 2009
Witchypoo

Take a breather, put your feet up, have a cup of tea and a soak…or however you feel best relaxing, Cloey. You know, people just tend to want other people to think like them; there’s individuals who overreact to differences in viewpoints and outlooks, so they resort to manipulation – however subtle or well-cloaked in “friendly” terms to achieve their ends. It’s just a matter of staying separate from all that crap, and not feeling like you owe anybody the rights to your own mind. Yes, you make an excellent point when you observe that trying to force the issue of how others’ think and how friends communicate with each other is in itself a form of bullying. It’s incredibly presumptuous at the very least.

I know that the big party deal is really tiring and draining sometimes. Try to remember Cloey that years from now, you’re only really going to think back and remember the emotions surrounding all the festivities. I mean, you’ll have pictures and items of note for your memory book and all that…but all the little details that you’re sweating over right now won’t mean a thing. Enjoy all this, because it will race by so fast – you just won’t believe it. It’s like the old saying, “Ashes-to-ashes, and dust-to-dust…” we don’t take THINGS with us as we move on to our next destination…only the spirit – the heart of a person – remains. It’s about your love and joy at having Cayden this past year…a celebration of his “specialness”, you know? The party is going to be great however things wind up going, and you’re a great mommie for planning such a special event for him. Take it easy on yourself, Sweetie.

Ok…there’s the conclusion of this evening’s ‘Witchy’s Philosophy Of Fun 101’; I promise to not offer anymore unsolicited advice, (tonight, anyway…hahaha). Take care, and nightie-night, Cloey.

P.S…hope your visit with Richie turned out great, Sweetlara. How’s Kristy feeling?

21 09 2009
Witchypoo

Oh!!! Goldie…I’m sorry you’re so sick and laid up in the hospital. Heal fast and get lots of rest. All the best to you, and take care.

21 09 2009
Witchypoo

(Alright…I know you’re probably rolling your eyes and thinking, “Yeah, I’ll bet she plans on taking those fancy-ass Victoria’s Secret panties and bras we’ve heard too much about when her spirit moves on to wherever, hugh?!!!” And, you’d have a very good point, Cloey. I’m not going to lie…I like my pretty lil’ things. BUT, I do know they’re not really important in the grand scheme of things, and all that’s really important is love-love-love. At least, that’s what I always tell myself when I’m planning a party and feeling like banging my head against the nearest wall). Why I felt compelled to relate all that to you, I have NO idea. Oh yeah! We were talking about how stressful planning a big party can be. Hmmm…I’m STILL at a loss – lost my train of thought. I guess that means I’m too tired for any real brain activity, (it’s 9:55 here in my part of the universe…Witchy’s bedtime. You can heave a sigh of relief, Cloey.

21 09 2009
Witchypoo

Those little gems of “wisdom” I was spewing up there are EXACTLY why I should stay the hell off here when I’m this tired. It’s now 10:15, and I really am going to bed now. I promise. (Here’s where I include a “Disclaimer” to all the former nonsense that you see above).

21 09 2009
lara21167

I hate this computer!! Don’t know if it is the computer or internet service but I just went to post a long comment and it came up, this page cannot be displayed. And then I lost the comment.

Anyhoo short and sweet Rowdy best wishes, I hop you feel better soon.

Richie is still here until Wed or Thurs and Kristy is still sick, I’m taking her to the doc this afternoon. Fever is down but now her throat is sore. We did go to the Antietam Battlefield yesterday (A civil war site close to us) we thought the fresh air might do kristy good.

Also I mentioned how I love being a bully and a mean girl lol. That is just so cool. (yes I’m being sarcastic)

21 09 2009
Clo

Laura, I hate it when that happens, I usually copy my long comment before I post to make sure I don’t lose it.

Witchy, I’m not really that stressed about the party anymore, but there’s just so much running around with it, getting things like chips from one place and running across town to get decorations with another. And I’m just feeling really worn down as of lately. It doesn’t help that Cayden’s into everything today and is really driving me nuts. I may go take another nap when he does. I was hoping to keep him up till one, he woke up from his first nap at 11 and it’s only an hour later, but he looks and is acting tired again.

Sometimes I worry that he takes like, 3 2 hour naps a day. I hear they’re only supposed to take 2 one hour naps. But, then I also heard that if they sleep all night and wake happy, then they’re getting the right amount of sleep. So, I dunno. He has been getting up at night, but I think it’s because his teeth are coming in.

It’s funny because I cleaned up the living room yesterday and now since Cayden’s been awake, it looks like a tornado struck. He doesn’t like to play with anything, he just likes to pull things out and throw them about.

21 09 2009
Witchypoo

Hi Ladies. I finally get to sit down for a minute and take a breather while I eat my lunch, (cereal…I eat A LOT of cereal; it’s one of my favorite meals, and requires 0 preparation). Now THERE’S a riveting little ditty of personal info. about moi’, hugh? I just got back a few minutes ago from dropping baby-spawn off at preschool. He’s loving it, btw, and I’m SO relieved that he’s not clinging to me, begging me to stay. Actually, I would have been really surprised had my little man done that, since he’s so outgoing and really secure. I still managed to torture myself periodically this whole summer, though, that my fella would feel abandoned by me when I dropped him off. I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders now that I actually FEEL happy and cheerful about taking him there, rather than having to fake feeling that way for his benefit, (everytime we went to storytime there this summer with the 2 older spawn, we were careful to be really upbeat and positive about everything to set the tone for him). Oldest spawn wasn’t thrilled with some of the religious songs and stories that the preschool utilized during the summer story sessions, since he thought it was weird for anyone outside our family to be influencing baby’s beliefs and faith. I explained to him that with a rambunctious little firecracker like our little man, a little extra guidance in the right direction will only be a good thing. This preschool is so absolutely positive and “sunny” in their outlook and teachings, anyway; it’s not like they’re all dogmatic and guilt-mongers. The little ones have a lot of fun, and everyone is nice. When I was little, my parents put me in a Catholic Sunday school class that turned out to be REALLY heavy-duty in their teachings and philosohpy. The teacher talked at length about purgatory, and stressed how most everyone will go there before moving on to heaven, since we’re all such blatant sinners…and that’s assuming you weren’t sent to hell. So, here I am as a little girl, thinking I’m never going to measure up as a good person, worthy of all the good, happy things in Life, since I was so busy trying to be perfect so that I’d at least get my shot at Purgatory, (rather than hell). I finally started exhibiting signs of distress that even my mother noticed, and she started asking questions, and was really upset to find out what they were teaching us. She thankfully pulled me out of there right away, and I was immediately happier and very relieved. Eventually, I quit monitoring every little move I made, and was able to feel more like a normal, somewhat lighthearted child…like kids are supposed to feel. Anyhoo…I really got off the track there. I’ve very closely observed the people and general atmosphere of this place, and I’ve only seen and felt positive vibes. It came very highly-recommended by lots of parents I know, (most of which aren’t even members of the church that the preschool is affiliated with). As it turns out, most of the families with kids that go to this preschool aren’t even churchgoers. They’ve just heard so many good things about the place, and wanted a great first experience for their child/children in an organized, school setting…the same objectives I had for my little guy. His first day was last Monday, and I stayed the whole length of the class, (only 2 1/2 hours), in the family room right next to his class. This way I was able to observe as much as I wanted, and Baby knew I was there…just in case. The next day, he asked me to stay again, but I explained that he’s a big-boy, and I’d stay for part of class in the family room, but not the whole time. I also stressed to him that my cell phone is always with me, and that I’d just be shopping down the road, 5 minutes away. I also told the teacher this, in front of Binks, (another nickname…oldest spawn gave him that one when he was just a baby) – so that he could have the idea reinforced that I’m always nearby. He did great…so the next class day, (Thursday), I only stuck around for about 15 minutes, and the same with today. There are a few very friendly, talkative parents who I’m already getting to know pretty well…so we gab for a while before taking off, (would it surprise you to know that I’m sort of a chatterbox myself?). Hahaha…you probably aren’t too surprised. Anyway, it turns out that I got my requested “job”, (every family is requested to take on some kind of official duty to help the class and teacher run things efficiently). I’m the teacher’s assistant, which mostly entails emails/notices/reminders to parents about the theme-of-the-week, special upcoming events, collecting money and/or materials for special projects and fieldtrips, etc. I think I’m also going to be handling the book orders and library updates, (like you, I love books…so that will be fun).

Ok, I think I’ve written a mini-book, so I’ll sign off. One thing, though, Cloey: all kids have different sleep requirements. My guys only took one nap a day, even as toddlers…but they were on the longer side – like 2 1/2 hours, generally speaking. I wouldn’t think 2 naps at 1 hour each would be enough for the average child…unless he/she sleeps 10 – 11 hours per night. Most little ones sleep long hours at night, (it doesn’t sound like your guy sleeps as long at night as a lot of babies, if I’m reading your comments correctly)…so maybe that’s the reason he sleeps more during the day. Also, teething DOES make the mini-spawn need more rest; all that internal activity and sometime-discomfort takes a lot out of them, you know?

Sweetlara…good luck with Kristy’s doctor appointment. Hopefully it’s just a bug going around the schools that will go away quickly. Enjoy your time with Richie.

Take care, Ladies.

21 09 2009
Witchypoo

Hugh. I swear sometimes that I’m mildly dyslexic while I’m typing, since I often find my letters exactly backward from how I meant to type them. Do you Girls ever do this? Also, Cloey…I meant to say that the naps my guys would take at the toddler stage were between 2 1/2 and 3 hours long…closer to 3 hours if they didn’t sleep as long the night before. Plus, your fella is big…like mine. Big boys often need a little more sleep, I’ve found when comparing with my friends’ children.

21 09 2009
Clo

He sleeps a little less than 12 hours at night. He tends to go to bed around 8:00-8:30, and wake up around 8. Occasionally it’s 7:30, and if he’s gone to bed late or had a rough night he’ll sometimes sleep till nine. We’ve been feeding him dinner pretty late (I wanted us to eat as a family, but Jeremy doesn’t get home till 7:30, and then by the time dinner is done it’s closer to 8) but then he pretty much stopped taking a bottle before bed, causing him to wake up either a couple hours after he’s gone to bed, or early in the morning (but just to take a bottle and he goes right back to sleep, if he even really wakes up at all.) So we’re starting to try to feed him earlier, and then give him a snack while we’re eating dinner. His schedule usually goes like this:

Wake up between 8-8:30, eat breakfast, play
9:30-10 go back down to sleep
11:30-12 wake up, eat lunch, play
1:30-2 go back down to sleep
3:30-4 wake up
5- eat dinner
5:30 last nap
7:30 wake up, eat snack
8:30 bath and bed.

It just seems like I’m either constantly feeding him or putting him down for a nap, lol. Which, I guess I am, I just, dunno. When I was a nanny for a little girl, she was only taking two naps. I’ll just have to ask the doctor when we go in for his one year.

I’m glad Baby likes his preschool. I hope I can find a good one. I worked in childcare and all it did was make me nervous about leaving someone else in charge of my child. I mean I know there are good childworkers out there, I was one of them. But i’ve seen the bad, and I’ve seen the things they do, and I’m just like, how can I leave my child with someone I don’t even know? Especially when I think about how I got hired off of craigslist to be a nanny. It’s just like, I could be any Tom, Dick, or Harry coming in off the street. It really skeeves me out when I think about it.

Do you guys use overstock.com? I think you might really like it, especially you Witchy. And Laura if you’re still looking for a digital camera, I would check that sight out around Christmas. I know last year they did some promo like the 10 days of Christmas or whatever, and they sold a nice camera for really cheap, but you’ve gotta be quick, the stuff sells out fast.

22 09 2009
Witchypoo

Well, it looks like you have a good lil’ sleeper on your hands, Cloey. Out of the three, #3 spawn has been the lightest sleeper, especially as a young baby, with
#1 spawn a close second. They were pretty bad for a looooooong time with napping, and sleeping through the night also. I mean with mini-man, I’d be up 3 times/night for well past a year, close to 1/1/2 years. Then, it was still a couple of times a night nursing, even though he ate really well throughout the day, solids as well as nursing. I was just perpetually exhausted for a long time.

I haven’t ever ordered off Overstock.com, though I’ve wondered about it. Why do you think I’d especially like it, Cloey? Do they have lots of purrrrrrrty panties, (new, not used…unless their your’s, that is. Snicker-snicker), and bras and all that? Heeheehee. I also love blouses/tops with lace and crochet accents…which is harder to find than you’d think. I wear a lot of that kind of thing. Little crocheted sweaters and all that – I love them. I’m also a perfume collector, and I also like the sets that have perfume/body lotion/cream. Do they have fragrances? Dior, Donna Karan, Este’ Lauder, Ralph Lauren, Calvin Klein, Michael Coors…they all make several fragrances I love. I’m always looking for good deals on that type of thing. What about books? I’ve always meant to check that site out, but always forget about it.

What you said about being cautious with caregivers for your little guy…I absolutely agree with and relate to what you’re saying about being skeptical and highly critical of any situations where my child is out of my direct supervision. Mini-spawn has ONLY been babysat by his two older brothers – no exceptions. My husbands’ parents I trust, but they are older, and started developing rather limiting health problems shortly before I got pregnant with Baby…getting worse over the last several years. Anyway, we wouldn’t feel right leaving an extremely active little guy with them; he’s into everything, and climbs everything, and he’d wear them out. Though, being really intelligent and sweet, Binks would probably understand that he needs to take it easy on them; he’s a doll-baby when I’m not feeling well, bringing me things to drink, doing his best to rub my shoulders…he even gives me his arm to “help” me off the couch, because he’s just really courtly and old-fashioned gentlemanly. It’s not like I’ve tried to train him like that, or that he sees me sick very often, (I’m hardly ever out-of-commission…no matter how bad I might feel); he’s just always been that way. So, in a pinch, I’d probably leave him for a short period of time with them at his age now…if I had to. It just hasn’t come up. They have very strict, set policies and procedures at Binks’ preschool, also. I made sure to find out exactly how potty-time is handled, exactly WHO is with the children at all times, etc. They don’t allow the teacher or the parent helper to go into the bathroom with the child; the child has to be fully self-sufficient to register there, so that he/she is able to undo clothing, use the potty, wipe, redo clothing, wash hands, etc. They go in groups to the womens’ restroom, the door is left wide open, and the adult waits at the entrance to the bathroom while the child enters the stall and all that. I had all this and more explained in detail to me, by a parent who’s children have attended over the years, as well as by the teacher and school director. Also, I talk at length with Baby about the privacy of his private parts…he’s well-aware that only his family are allowed to see or help him when he’s not fully clothed, or even touch him at all. I’ve always talked very openly with all my guys about these matters, (age-appropriately, of course), so that they feel very natural and comfortable talking to me about anything. The oldest 2 spawn and I discuss sexual matters as they come up, they tell me about things they’ve heard about kids at their schools – just anything really. Anyway, I’m the Queen Of Paranoia about anything related to my kids – I always have been. I really don’t think you can be too careful, (as long as you’re not instilling all kinds of anxiety and making the little ones downright fearful and nervous, of course). I think the best weapon against some of the dangers out there is making sure your children understand that they are supposed to use their own minds…they can say “NO!” to an adult or anyone who is making them feel uncomfortable. Talk-talk-talk…that’s what I always try to do with them. But, I still worry sometimes. I always will, I’m sure.

Take care.

22 09 2009
Witchypoo

Btw…I’ve been forcing myself to let minor typos/grammar snaffoos slide, (I’m trying to work on that little weirdo-trait about myself). So, if you notice some mistakes, consider it part of Witchy’s spiritual growth process. (I know…that sounds pretty ridiculous). ***Sigh***

Nightie-night, and take care Girls.

22 09 2009
lara21167

Witchy you sound like a fantastic mother 🙂 And Cloey I agree with Witchy, babies sleep patterns are different Cayden is fine. So long as he is healthy and happy.

Kristy just has a cold. Darn girl got the giggles when the doc was listening to her chest telling her to take deep breaths, it was funny. So she went to school today. And I know you guys have seen pics of Kristy on Myspace, guess how much she weighs?? 132 lbs!! She’s 5’5″ (I measured her while waiting for the doc) and skinny as a rail, I looked at her and said “where’s it at” meaning the 132 lbs lol. She’s got gound muscle tone from Cheerleading so I supposed that’s it and her height. I wound up taking Richie back to his grandmothers after Kristy’s dr appt. His grandmother wanted him to cut down a tree. I swear that woman interfers just about any time he is with me. Saturday night he got into my hubby’s beer after we went to bed. Now he is 18 and I do think if one is old enough to go to war at 18 they should be old enough to drink, on the other hand I’m not about to buy it for him you know? So anyhoo I got up at 3 am and found him sitting on the couch with the drunken blues. He is harboring hurt feelings caused by his neglectful father. His father wants him to come stay with him until he goes back to school in January, but Richie doesn’t want to. I tried to encourage him to make amends with his father, it’s for his own good. Oh and apparently he is much like me when I drink (one of the reasons I dont drink lol).

Witchy did we mention perfume with matching lotions and powders and such ?? I don’t want to push my Avon site on you guys, but they have come out with some great new fragrances. Reese Witherspoon’s In Bloom is a really nice floral and Bond Girl 007 is a great woodsy fragrance. Let me know if you want to check it out, while I’m at it Avon has fantastic skin care products a lot cheaper and proablably better than department store skin care.

Ok enough of the sales pitch. “talk” to ya’ll later…

22 09 2009
Clo

I meant to say too, I think both of you are fantastic mothers, and kind of my role models to how I hope to be with Cayden. You both show such love and dedication to your children.

Laura, if I were you, I’d really put my foot down with Richie’s Grandma. “Oh, you need him to cut down a tree? Well I’m sure he’d be happy to do it when he gets home on Thursday.” She does sound like she’s always messing up your time with Richie, and that’s just not fair.

And flat rate shipping for overstock is 2.95, no matter what/how much you order. And they always run free shipping, or dollar shipping and stuff like that,

22 09 2009
Witchypoo

Hi Ladies. How’s it going? Thanks to both of you for your kind words regarding the motherhood deal; I couldn’t get a more welcome compliment than that. And, just let me return the observation – wholeheartedly – to both of you, also. I think you’re both insightful, caring, sensitive, protective mommies. It’s one major reason I have such a high opinion of each of you, (not to overlook the obvious strenghts/admirable traits you both obviously have. I like so much about both of you).

Yeah, like I was telling you while we were all emailing, Lara…I think your son’s grandmother is incredibly selfish and manipulative. He’s YOUR son, regardless of where he’s living. That woman should be put in her place when she tries to interfere with your bond. I’d love to tell her a thing or two; I always find it hard to NOT defend my family and friends against people I see as a threat/impediment to their happiness. Yup…very hard to stay objective and cool in those types of circumstances.

More later…time to go pick up Binks from preschool.

Take care.

22 09 2009
Clo

OK, I don’t think I’m posting to the site. I just posted something else and it didn’t show, so IDK what’s going on.

22 09 2009
Clo

Anyway, I said something that made more sense, about overstock and how good it is, but now I’m tired of posting the same thing over and over. They have perfumes, clothes, dvds, books, bedding, jewelry… It’s pretty much like an online department store.

Laura, if you have a link to your avon website, send it my way, and feel free to post it on my blog.

Also, Fisherprice is giving away a free DVD, I thought you guys might want to check it out. It may be good for the little one Witchy, and Laura I know both your kids are too old, but maybe your nephew? You could always keep it and give it as a birthday/Christmas present, no one would know it was free, lol.

here’s the linke, you have to click the tiny box that says “pick your country to get started”

22 09 2009
Clo

ha, didn’t post the link, here it is: https://store.mattel.com/transition.aspx?TransitionID=155

23 09 2009
Witchypoo

Girls…I’m going to check out the Overstock thingy-ma-jig, as well as the Fisherprice deal. Sweetlara, bring on the Avon website, Mi-Lady. What do you have to say about LIPSTICKS? THAT’S the word-of-the-day for Witchy, and I’ll also be in the market for some purrrrrrty nail polish…and…well, we’ll just see what strikes my fancy, yes? Ummmm…the deal about the Swagbucks? What’s that again, Cloey?

I’m very tired – 10:35 pm and I’m about to turn into a pumpkin. Nightie-night, and take care, Ladies.

23 09 2009
Clo

OK, I dunno what’s going on. I posted a long thing about swagbucks, and it’s not showing up, like my other postings yesterday didn’t show up. I really don’t want to repost it, but I posted something about it today on my blog Witchy, and if you have any other questions, just ask me and I can answer.

23 09 2009
lara21167

Ok Cloey Now i’m have problems posting

23 09 2009
Clo

Mmm, anyone with kids should check out toys r us, they’re doing a buy 2 get the 3rd free on a bunch of items, including video games.

24 09 2009
lara21167

Hmmm, good idea to start Christmas shopping, Kristy wants some x box thingy. I’ve never been much on getting the kids video games, besides the expense I just don’t want her playing video games all the time. But the used ones we’ve had she was never too interested like some people get. So I’ll see what i can get her.

24 09 2009
Clo

Yeah, I wish we had more money, I wonder how long the sales going on. I could probably knock out most of Caydens big items with that sale.

Although, I think with him getting so many toys for his birthday, we’re not going to get him very many toys. I think his big thing is a wagon, and then we’re getting him stuff to redo his room in Ohio sports team stuff. There’s this chair at Big Lots that I have my eye on.

25 09 2009
lara21167

I think I’m going to put the X box thingy. I ordered her an ipod from no other than Avon lol. They had I pods as a special with an order of certain products a while back. And as a rep they have certain “deals of the day” and they had the ipod and she’s been wanting one so I went ahead and ordered it. $50 so I don’t think thats bad. At this rate, I’ll have her done way before Christmas, that’ll be great. Richie I always give money, I hate that, but that’s what he wants.

So I had my follow up Dr appointment yesterday. Everything is good, no cancer, no cysts, kidney’s good. So he said then my overies are adhered where they shouldn’t be. Then he showed me pics, colored pics, of a woman who had the same problem. Think he removed her overies. Lovely pics btw. Anyhoo he said I can either live with it or have my overies removed. I decided to live with it for now. Actually the pain is gone right now. It seems to come at certain times of the month or somthing. So unless it gets unbearable I’ll deal with it. I don’t want to get my overies removed. Of course I do think I’m in menopause. Cant’ really tell since I don’t have periods but I’ve been getting hot flashes. That doesn’t seem too bad either, so I’ll just deal for now. Both my sisters went through it in their early 40’s. My oldest sister said she was completely done by the time she was 50. And she said it was easy for her. So that’s my medical update for the day lol.

25 09 2009
lara21167

Supposed to say “put the x box thingy on hold, maybe next Christmas.

25 09 2009
Clo

Glad to hear everything’s OK Laura.

As far as Christmas shopping, we kinda started ours. Yesterday on craigslist someone put a really nice Harley Davidson Motorcycle Power Wheel out for free, and we got it, so that’ll be the start of his Christmas present. I’m kinda mad because we found two things at the thrift store that were new in box and both things were over 70 dollars in store, and like 30 bucks there, but we’re tapped out for the party, so I figure we’ll check back next week on 1/2 price day and see if it’s still there. If I get both those things, I’ll be done with Christmas except for the little things. I figured I should get everything I can used while he doesn’t notice the difference. Plus, I hate spending so much on stuff that he’s going to stop playing with in a couple weeks, ya know? But, we do have to get him a Christmas movie and a set of PJs, our Christmas tradition. We give them to him on Christmas Eve, and he can wear his new PJ’s and watch his movie.

25 09 2009
Clo

I wanted to post two posts because I’m half afraid that if one gets too long, it won’t post. But, I wanted to tell you guys that the MIL and I are most likely going to box this weekend.

When Jeremy went to go pick up the stuff we’re borrowing from them for the party (a table, some chairs, a cooler, their highchair, which is nicer than ours.) She said she was starting to feel sick. Which, does and doesn’t shock me. I mean she was “sick” for our wedding, “sick” for my baby shower, “sick” the day he was born. She’s always trying to steal my thunder, which is kinda whatever to me. It’s annoying but I’ve gotten over it. I just can’t believe she’d try to take attention away from her own grandson.

I was going to tell her just not to come. I’m not begging her, I’m not pleading with her, and I’m not playing this “are you coming or are you not” game. It’s all about attention, and I’m not giving it. If she wants to sit at home, by herself, that’s fine. However, Jeremy went over there by himself to pick up the stuff, and I guess he told her it would be really nice if she came to her Grandson’s birthday party, to which she answered “Well, things happen” and he answered with “Well things happen a lot, like at my wedding, and it’s getting old.”

I wish he had just told her not to come, but I’m at least glad he told her what he did. However, she called today, and he hasn’t called her back, but I’m fully expecting her to be like “I’m really sick, blah blah blah.” And I’m just done. Either Jeremy tells her, or I will: I’m done with the “I never see you” guilt trips, I’m done with her not making plans till the last minute, I’m done with her never calling us to make plans, I’m done with her canceling at the last second for no reason, I’m done with the attention seeking stunts, I’m done with her asking me for pictures and buying Cayden expensive things to keep at her house so she SEEMS like a good Grandma without putting in any effort to actually be one, I am DONE. And if she doesn’t come to this birthday party, she won’t be seeing us at hers. Cayden and I will suddenly become sick, and if Jeremy wants to go, that’s his number.

I know it sounds childish and immature, and maybe it is. But I’m at the end of my rope, I’ve been there for awhile, and I’m just done. You can take away MY moment, whatever. But a child? Not to mention your own Grandson? Maybe she just needs a taste of her own medicine. I dunno. At this point I don’t know if I should be so angry or if I’m just fed up.

25 09 2009
lara21167

Well I’m glad Jeremy finally said something. Yes that’s pathetic to try to steel attention from your grandson like that. Just tell her if she comes she comes if not it’s her loss. It’s Cayden’s first birthday, there won’t be another first birthday. I mean if he was older, not such a big deal, but the first birthday is special. Again it’s her loss, hopefully your FIL will go and not give in to her crap.

The party is tomorrow right? Are they calling for good weather, I think there is a chance of rain here. But the temparature will be in the 70’s which is about perfect for an outdoor party. Can’t wait to see all the pics from the party. Wish Witchy, Rowdy and I could come 🙂

26 09 2009
Clo

They’re calling for rain, but hopefully it’s supposed to hit at 3, which is an hour after the party is over, so hopefully that rings true. I mean we have a shelter house, and it’s enclosed, but I really wanted the kids to be able to play at the park.

I mean with Jeremy’s Mom, it’s one thing if I thought she was really sick. She’s not. And, the reason she called? Jeremy’s Uncle’s now coming. Which means she’ll be there, so she can play the amazing Grandma role. I just want to kick her in the face.

And you guys are welcome to come 🙂

26 09 2009
lara21167

Wish we could come, but I’m sure you’ll give a play by play, so it’ll be like we’re there. Hope things go well and just ignore the MIL, it’s Cayden’s day. And hopefully the rain will hold off. We are supposed to get a couple inches of rain, starting later today. It’s ugly out now. Have a great day, can’t wait to hear all about it.

26 09 2009
Witchypoo

Enjoy your baby’s special day, Cloey; hopefully, you’ll be able to pretend and ignore away your mother-in-law’s insidious presence, (at least, in your own mind, anyway). Party-party-party! Happy celebration, Cayden! (I’ll be there in spirit, me-dear).

27 09 2009
Clo

My mother in law didn’t really talk to me, lol. I was too busy doing other things, so I stayed away from her and her me. It went really well, we did get hit with some rain, but it wasn’t too bad. Our photographer is AMAZING. He’s bringing a CD with our pictures tomorrow, and he was just… Super nice (He’s re-shooting our family shots for free because of the crappy weather! How nice is that????) And I saw a few of the shots and I’m just so excited because they were soooo cute (and I only saw like, 3 pictures!) It was just a lot of fun.

27 09 2009
lara21167

I’m glad everything went well. And sounds like you have a great photographer. Glad the MIL she show her ass. Kristy has school pics next week. They are so ridiculasly expensive anymore. I mean for a small package you can’t get one for under $40. I don’t know what people do with more than one child. I’m getting a special thing with only a couple pics and I’ll illegally copy them at work. Its only $17 you only get like a 5 X 7 and a couple wallets.

27 09 2009
Witchypoo

Yes, Sweetlara…pictures are expensive. Chance has his this coming week, also, (Monday or Tuesday – depending on which day his Engilsh class falls on; I need to check). He went through a fun stage a couple of years back that I coined as the “Mugshot Files”, where he’d refuse to smile in pictures, even if I was there, (like at sporting events), prodding him and dancing around like a fool trying to make him laugh. If it was something I couldn’t be at – like school pictures – he’d come home with the packet of photos a few weeks after picture day, and I’d want to smack him on the head because his expression in the photos we’d paid good money for was…unappealing at best. I’d tell him, “You know, Young-Man-Of-My-Heart…mommies LOVE to see their precious spawn at least PRETENDING to be happy and well adjusted in these pictures that we’ll be gazing absently and sentimentally at a few decades down the road from our rocking chairs. Can you throw me a bone, you ungrateful, sour-looking little sweetheart, hmmm?!” He FINALLY got over his lil’ habit of looking deliberately nasty in posed pictures. Before that time, he always looked SO sweet, happy, and radiant; I always used to sing, ‘You Are My Sunshine’ to him, and we had a routine of him asking me a few times a day to, “Sing me the ‘Sunshine’ song, Mommie! Sing me the ‘Sunshine’ song!” I just LOVED hearing that. Ahhhh…the sweet memories of our spawns’ younger childhood.

Sounds like the party went great, Cloey. Are you more relaxed now that everything went off without a hitch? Things have a way of working out. Did Cayden seem to realize that the day was about him? My boys always seemed to sense when it was their special day…even as young as a year. Lil’ devils.

Take care.

27 09 2009
Witchypoo

I’m not making corrections…I’m not making corrections…I’m not making corrections. Old habits are hard to break.

27 09 2009
Witchypoo

Oh, yeah…I forgot to include the point I was making by sharing the ‘Sunshine-Song’ story in relation to pictures: when he was little, I’d always tell spawn #2 to “Think of the ‘Sunshine Song’ when it’s time to smile for your picture, hunny.” He’d come home and tell me that he did – and his photo would reflect that…he’d always have this huge, endearing grin on his chubby-cheeked face. I loved it. Then came the Mugshot File period, (frustrating) – and now he’s back to looking sweet in his pictures again.

27 09 2009
Clo

I’m going to have to put this pictures up on FlickR or something so you guys can see them. I have them on facebook but I know you guys don’t have one. Some of them are just SO gorgeous, and were taking more next weekend. I’m just in love with this guy, I swear! He printed some “test” pictures off for us, will print more, AND he edited and removed the scratches from Cayden’s face. Pictures are expensive, we got ALL the pictures on CD, him shooting at the party for like an hour and a half, a couple of prints, and then him shooting next weekend, all for 50 bucks. We spent 80 at JCPenny’s and that’s without any editing. I’m just so insanely impressed and happy, it’s nuts.

28 09 2009
Clo

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO CAYDEN! YAY!

28 09 2009
lara21167

Cloey you probably get a ton for $50, plus including the touch ups. That’s my complaint with school photos. They are crappy unless you put out extra money for the touch ups, special backgrounds and all. Then your talking $60-$70. And it is ridiculas. They used to use a perfectly good photographer that was reasonably priced and for some reason they switched. Like I said, I’ll get a couple and do my own. Btw, I do have a facebook I don’t use it much but if you want to friend me I’m lara21167, shocking huh??

HAPPY, HAPPY BIRTHDAY CAYDEN!!!!!!!!

28 09 2009
lara21167

Witchy, Boys will be boys, they go through a thing where smiling is uncool. Glad he got over it lol.

28 09 2009
Witchypoo

# 1, Yeah-Baby! Happy Birthday, Lil’ Cayden!!! Enjoy your special day…and all the years to come.

29 09 2009
Clo

See Laura, we thought 50 for all we got was a total steal. We spent 80 when we took him to JCPenny, and that was with a 3.99 a sheet coupon and NO touch ups. The guy shot at our party for 2 hours, didn’t include a sitting fee for each person, so we turned it into a family portrait shoot, and edited for free, and like I said, is re-shooting some of our family pics next weekend since it was raining (i’d love for my Mom and brother to go, because my brother wasn’t able to come to the party, but I doubt he will. I will have to ask though.)

Thank you guys for all his birthday wishes. Witchy, at the party he didn’t really act like he knew what was up, but then all day yesterday he was full of smiles and giggles and anytime anyone said “who’s the birthday boy” or anything about birthday he’d smile and clap.

I’m pretty happy it’s over though. I didn’t realize how much work the party was, I’d been working on it for awhile, and it was just… A lot. I’m REALLY glad we decided to hire the photographer, because there’s no way I would have had time to take pics.

Yesterday I ended up being highly annoyed all day. It’s carrying on into today, coupled with the fact that I am SO freaking tired, and it’s not over yet, the house is a wreck. I cleaned the living room yesterday because we had George and Mary Anne over, but the kitchen is horrible, the laundry’s piling up, and Tater’s feeling neglected (she peed on my spot in the bed last night, which she only does when she’s… Well, pissed at one of us.)

It didn’t help that yesterday was just the biggest waiting game ever. His doctors appointment took an hour and a half, and we’ve NEVER had to wait there before. We try to snag either the first appointment of the day, or close to it, and it didn’t help that it was a monday in cough and cold season, so it just took forever. And then he just got shot all to hell. He had blood drawn from his foot, which wasn’t bad at ALL, he actually watched her while she did it, and didn’t cry at all, or even flinch. So I’m thinking, maybe this won’t be so bad. But he got five other shots besides that, 2 in one leg, one in the other, one in each arm (he had to get his flu shot as well.) So by the end he just had the most pathetic cry like “is it over YET?” and of course, I was crying then. Then we came home and put him down for his nap, and Mary Anne called, George had to go to the doctor (he really was sick) so she wanted to push back lunch, and that annoyed me because my Mom had actually wanted it to be earlier and we were getting ready to leave for lunch. But, we pushed it back. They were still late, because Mary Anne didn’t go with him (like she should have to save time. But of course, that would have put HER out, so she’d rather put everyone ELSE out.) And then on top of them already being late, she stopped to get him a stupid balloon, which we TOLD her we already had.

Then she and I almost fought twice. Once because I told my Mom not to pick him up (we were eating, he was fussing, but he was fine. I don’t want people to pick him up when we’re eating because then he thinks he needs to be held in order to eat, when he’s fine in his highchair.) well Mary Anne told me he needed babied because he got more shots than a normal child today. And she said it like I was at fault, like I had been like, sure, load him up with whatever extra shots you have there buddy! Which, isn’t true. And he didn’t get more shots than anyone else does at 12 months. I mean he did get the flu shot, but any child who was born in the fall will most likely get their flu shot added on. So I told her that, and she didn’t like it and started yelling at me about how Jeremy didn’t get those shots, to which I replied that she had JUST stated she didn’t remember how many shots he got, and besides, that was 30 years ago, in case she hadn’t noticed, things had changed a little.

She didn’t like that, but my Mom changed the subject.

Then we somehow got onto spoiling, and I told my mom that I didn’t want him to be spoiled. Mary Anne said (and I quote) “I don’t see ANYTHING wrong with spoiling a child. I was spoiled and look how I turned out.” To which I laughed out loud and she didn’t like that either.

Needless to say she wasn’t happy when I told the Grandparents there WOULD be a spending limit on Christmas and I WOULD take any toys or items that were over that spending limit and donating them to charity.

He just got a LOT of stuff for his birthday. And right now he’s an only child and only Grandchild, and so all this attention is focused on him. And that was fine for awhile, but now he’s starting to get more aware, and he doesn’t need to get used to it, if that makes any sense. He doesn’t need to be spoiled, he doesn’t need to get everything he wants. I mean we got him two big gifts, a few small gifts (one was less that 10 bucks, the other two were less than 5) and his party (which we did spend a lot of money on, but won’t be doing that every year!) I dunno, Jeremy’s like “Oh it’s the holidays, it’s his birthday, it’s fine for him to get a lot of stuff then.” But I don’t think it is. I mean his birthday and Christmas ARE special, and they need to be MADE special, but to just get everything he wants on that day? It’s setting the bar a little high, and when he gets older I want him to realize that he’s a very lucky little boy to get what he’s got.

I hope that makes sense, I feel like I’m rambling. I mean I’m not against getting him a huge gift for his birthday, or whatever, but I just don’t want him to expect it. Because then it’s a let down for everyone, plus it’ll be harder to surprise him. I dunno.

She came back here and asked me why I didn’t want them to go crazy for Christmas, she was like “is it the space issue?” And I’m like, well, yeah, it’s partly that, it’s partly the fact that he doesn’t need it, it’s the fact that I don’t want him to get spoiled, it’s a lot of factors.

Then she went on to say “well, I won’t buy anymore toys” and then she staged whispered “till Christmas.”

But I’m not playing, I’m going to set a gift limit and then the rest ARE going to charity, and I’m going to tell them that before they buy and if they decide to do so, well, they have no right to get angry.

29 09 2009
lara21167

Good for you Cloey. If he gets tons and tons from everyone he won’t appreciate anything and completely lose sight of what makes birthdays and Christmas special. I understand grandparents want to buy and buy, but they need to realise just what that does to their grandchild. I’m glad you put your foot down. And oh I always hated waiting in the doctors office with a toddler. They just want to get into everything that they can’t and trying to keep them entertained is stressful. The poor little guy will probably be feeling off from the shots today. The flu shot doesn’t really hurt when you get it but the next day it feels like someone punched you in the arm. I know you sadistic mother asking for any and every shot imaginable to give him (kidding of course) that woman has serious issues. And good for you to tell the grandmas to leave him in his highchair. My MIL made that mistake with my little nephew, the boy still won’t sit still to eat. They just put food on the table and he grabs something and walks away to eat. They can’t really tell that way how much he’s actually eaten. He likes to give his food to the dog.

1 10 2009
lara21167

Cloey, Cloey, Cloey, just read your latest post, awesome!! I’m going to start coming on here begging for spoilers lol. Don’t give in to me!! How is everyone doing. Has anyone heard from Rowdy? I hope she is feeling better…

1 10 2009
Clo

Ha, I can’t give you any spoilers, I wrote so far ahead to prepare for being busy for Cayden’s party, and like, I just reached the end of it. I’m kinda stuck, and I have no idea what I’m going to do! I’m glad tomorrow’s Friday so I have the weekend to kinda play catch up, lol. I’m trying to bang out this flashback posts, but I’m afraid both of them are kinda going to cliffhangers, I think.

I was just thinking I needed to email Rowdy and see how she was doing. I’m so horrible at that, plus I hardly ever check my other email anymore. My new one is Lerwin1324@yahoo.com, if you guys want to get in touch with me faster. I’ve had the Complicated one since I was like 14, so I want to keep it, but I am kinda embarassed to tell people it when they ask for my email, lol, so I got a “grown up” one that I’m on a LOT more.

2 10 2009
lara21167

Send me an email from it so I’ll have it easier. Ok so I’m lazy lol. Let us know if you find out how Rowdy is feeling, she sure didn’t need to get sick like this after finally starting to feel better.

My bosses are going out of town next week and they are soooo paranoid. I mean they are getting locks on the outer office door another door that leads to a hallway is to be locked and they are putting a lock on the sliding window that opens into the lobby. I’m to be in charge and the only one with all the office keys. And their son works for them, he’s the one I think they want to keep out!! Pretty pathetic I think.

2 10 2009
Witchypoo

Yup – me, too, Cloey, (the email, I mean. Or, maybe I’ll manage to get it in my contacts list all on my own).

I’ve been thinking and wondering about Goldie a lot, also. I somehow feel like I’m intruding by emailing her while she’s out of contact; I don’t want her to feel imposed on. We ARE thinking about you, though, Sweetie. I hope you know that.

It’s way past my bedtime. Nightie-night, and take care, Ladies.

5 10 2009
lara21167

How is everyone this morning? How was your weekends? Mine was good. Kristy had 2 friends stay the night Saturday night. I took them to a haunted hayride thing. They had fun. I had to laugh they were talking about some boy always grabbing himself, then the one girl said she thinks all guys do that. I started laughing and told them it was a subconscience thing men do to make sure that “its” still there.:) Kids are funny.

cloey I wonder what is up with the Karen blog. She posted that she was sick and hasn’t posted anything since. Hope it’s nothing too serious. We’ve had 2 8th graders in Maryland die from the swine flu, one had double pneumonia and I don’t know about the other. Which makes me think of Rowdy. check in when you can Rowdy and let us know how your doing.

6 10 2009
Clo

Our weekend was good. Saturday Cayden was supposed to model for another photographers portfolio, but we had such a crazy busy week, and he doesn’t seem like he felt very good (and still doesn’t.) So we canceled. However, we had a re-shoot from the photographer from his party on Sunday at a gorgeous park, and I’m SO excited to see the pictures. I think they had to have turned out really well.

We’re going to be so busy these next couple of weekends, we need to reschedule the photo shoot we canceled, then there’s a car show at the zoo, and we’re taking Cayden to the pumpkin patch. I think there’s some other things, but I can’t remember.

I’m not really freaking out about the swine flu. I don’t think it’s that bad as long as you get it treated. We had a girl die here, but she never went to get treated until it was too late. However, I am a tad worried because someone at Jeremy’s work just got confirmed, with another possible person who might have it (her daughter is confirmed, and she went home today not feeling well.) I’m just worried that he’s going to pass it to Cayden, and any flu isn’t going to be good for him right now. Cayden’s only had one of his flu shots (he goes back at the end of the month for the other.) So. I’m just hoping Jeremy (who hasn’t shown any signs of it) won’t catch it.

Rowdy I do wonder how you’re doing. I miss you.

6 10 2009
lara21167

So 15 miles is coming back tomorrow. I don’t even remember where it left off, I may have to go back and check.

3 more weeks until my 1st semester is done yay!! I used to like Finance, now my brain is fried lol. It’s not so hard just alot in a 10 week semester and you really have to think. The Humanities is my easy course. So at least I have 1 hard 1 easy and I do think the finance will be the worst. Everything else is managment oriented except the science so no more math problems yay. (hey I used to like math)

6 10 2009
Clo

I have mixed feelings about 15 miles coming back. I mean I love the story, it goes without saying that it’s really good, but, the Author’s attitude STILL rubs me the wrong way. And I think it kinda caught me off guard that she didn’t apologize to any of her readers for losing it. I mean I get it, she had a lot of her plate, someone may or may not have said something mean in emails. I still don’t think the comments were that mean… I just feel like even in her new note she blamed other people, taking none of it on herself. And I just wish I knew what we were allowed to say. Are we not allowed to say we can’t wait for a new post? Is that critiquing her?

I don’t know. I will read, I can’t lie about that, but I don’t love the author like I used too.

7 10 2009
lara21167

I know what you mean Cloey, I will read it too, but I don’t think I’ll even read the comments or comment myself. I feel once again like we’ll be walking on eggshells with commenting. I mean I don’t mind her monitoring the comments but like you said, if you say “I can’t wait for the next post” will that be allowed? And yes I really thought she’d apologize, but guess she doesn’t think she did anything wrong. Your blog is way better anyhow 🙂

9 10 2009
lara21167

Hello ladies, how is your week? I’m sad this week is ending. My bosses have been out of town all week and it has been soooooo nice. lol. I have busy weekends the rest of the month. Tomorrow is the Hagerstow Hoe Down. It’s a community event with free things for kids. Pumpkins and apples and they can build a scarecrow, pony rides, hay rides, barrel rides. Anyhoo, Kristy’s Cheerleading team does a food stand and I’ll be working it all day, from 11 – 5 we are the only food stand so it gets pretty busy. We sell hotdogs and steamers (steamers are Sloppy Joes, I think this is the only area in the country that calls them steamers.) and chips and drinks. I do the money with another lady. Then the girls do a little performance 2 times during the day. It’s fun and the weather is supposed to be good. Then next weekend I have to work Bingo and Halloween night is the big Hagerstown Parade called the “Mummers Parade” Schools from all over the state participate in it. And of course Kristy’s cheerleading team. They won;t be judged for competition this year though, because last year we won and the other cheerleading teams got mad and the Club that puts on the parade can’t handle cheer drama lol. But it’ll still be fun.

9 10 2009
lara21167

Cloey hope you feel better. I can only think of one time I was sooo sick I couldn’t take care of Kristy. Richie was old enough that he took care of me. But my hubby couldn’t get off work and I called my MIL to get her. Which thank the lord she did, because all I could do was lay on the couch with a cold wash cloth on my face. I really think I had pnemonia that time. It was def bronchistis at the least, but my doc was off and the on call doc wouldn’t see me. It really took me months before i really felt myself after that. I probably should have went to the hospital. Anyhoo it’s no fun chasing a baby around when you are sick so I hope you can find someone to help out. Get better…

14 10 2009
lara21167

Good morning ladies, I miss you guys over here. hint hint.

15 10 2009
Clo

Hiiiiiiiiii Laura. We have been kinda MIA over here, haven’t we? What’s everyone been up too?

16 10 2009
lara21167

I think I’ve been through everything I’ve been doing. Still sort of job hunting, but I’m looking for a management position and well everyone wants 2 – 3 years experience soooo I’m thinking of biting the bullet and talking to my bosses about a promotion to project manager. They don’t have one right now but now and again they put an ad in the paper, but no one ever suites them. Well I know how they like things done and lord knows they are putting more and more on me. Can’t keep up with everything I have to do, yea I know I shouldn’t be on here then lol. Anyhoo, If I’m pretty much going to do the work I may as well have the title and the pay. Witchy how are things, How are the boys? How is the little one taking to preschool?

We had our first Swine Flu death in the City. I don’t know what to think of the Swine Flu, I mean on minute it is this big deal then it’s not yet people are dying. This guy that died here was 45 years old, a husband, father, and truck driver. They said he had unlying health problems. I saw his pic on the news, looked perfectly healthy to me. He wound up getting pneumonia then congestive heart failure which is what killed him, but whats scary is his wife was saying on the news that he woke up one morning with a runny nose and sore throat and 11 days later he was dead. I guess if you get it, you just have to really watch how you feel and stuff and get to the doc asap. One school in our area closed because of a general flu outbreak. I think I’ve watched too many movies lol.

Kristy went to the doc the other day for her check up, poor thing got 5 shots!! the normal tetnus, hepititis, something else and then the flu shot (regular flu) and gardisil. She’ll have 2 more gardisil shots. This should be like her last round of vaccinations I believe.

16 10 2009
lara21167

Either of you reading the “Macyn” blog stephi on Cloey’s blog and on BB has sent the URL. I really like the story line and the writings not bad, I just think it’s too predictable. Maybe because she’s just getting started. I know she asked for honest opinions but I’m half afraid to say that. I’ll wait a bit see where she takes it. I think she said it’s a school project so yes honest opinions will help her out, but so many other bloggers get so offended you get to be afraid to citisize (sp) my spelling is so off lately. And Cloey I know I can give you honest opinions without you getting pissed. Besides I love your blog so much I can’t even think of any critisims!!

16 10 2009
Clo

I’ve read Macyn, and I’ll keep reading it, but I don’t love it. I think you’re right and it’s a little predictable, plus it’s a little pet peeve of mine when people don’t use contractions, lol. I get really annoyed when people are supposed to be talking and they’re like… “It is good. It could not be better. It is really tasty.” I dunno if that makes sense, I just think the majority of the time, people say it’s and couldn’t and they’re and that kind of stuff. I know occasionally for emphasis people will be like “No, it IS really good” but, I dunno, I feel like in Macyn the author doesn’t use contractions a lot, and then it ends up reading really dry and robotic in my head. But, I haven’t said anything because I don’t know if that’s an actual criticism or just my own little pet peeve, ya know?

And thanks Laura. Lately I’ve been feeling off about it, like it’s just not good, lol. And I know people say they like it, but sometimes I’m like, maybe it’s just because I post often and people like that I post often. However, it’s REALLY hard for me not to post the next entry like, right now. I’m so excited to see what people will say about it, I think it might piss a lot of people off, and I like that. I mean, not make them angry at me, but at Ella. If that makes any sense.

Anyway, the swine flu dealio. We did have our first pediatric death here, actually not too far from where I live, the kid was at Nationwide’s children hospital. It made me a tad bit more paranoid than I was, but not much. I mean, they say it’s not good if you do have underlying health problems, especially breathing problems like asthma (which, your guy who died could have had asthma, I know plenty of people who look super healthy but have really bad asthma.) Luckily all of us are pretty healthy. Of course though, when I started to get sick I was like, the swine flu! It got me! Get Cayden away from me! But, I’m like 99.9% sure it’s just a cold. I mean my sore throat is already gone, and I never really had too much of a fever, so. Paranoia. But, we’re just being a little more selective on who we let touch Cayden (for awhile we had strangers coming up and touching his arm or a leg, now we keep him at a little more of a distance so they can’t.) And we’re wiping down the carts before we put him in the and trying to remember our cart cover. Basic stuff we should be doing anyway during cold and flu season. All in all, I’m not too too worried.

16 10 2009
lara21167

I’m not too worried either, just sometimes I wonder how bad it really is. Of course I guess most people just get a mild case and are fine. And I was thinking asthma too. And they wouldn’t want to anounce that on the news and scare everyone with asthma. So anyhoo, can’t wait for you next post. Wonder what Ella does that’s going to piss people off??? I’m not going to pressure you honestly.

I haven’t noticed the conjuntion thing in Macyn, gee thanks now I probably will lol. WE get to go home early YAY!! So i “talk” to you later.

17 10 2009
lara21167

Hey ladies, there is something i’ve never told you guys. My husband is abusive. Mostly verbal, but somewhat physical too. I guess I”m ashamed for allowing this to go on. Last night he went overboard and I called the police. I should have let them arrest him but no I felt sorry for him and with Kristy crying that she didn’t want her Daddy going to jail I told them I”d be fine. Fine I wasn’t he totally trashed my apartment and broke my phones so I couldn’t call again. He’s gone now, but I know he’ll be back worse than ever. I guess I”ll have to get an order to have him thrown out. I feel bad for Kristy though. I guess that’s why I”ve put up with it for so long. Now he’s calling me fat because I”ve been concerned that i”ve gained weight. I”m all of 145 lbs and a size 8. YEa I Know real fat hugh. Anyway I don’t know why I”m telling you this now, Just needed to talk to someone. I may not be on anymore today but i”ll update you soon…

18 10 2009
lara21167

Guess noone’s checked on here yet. I had my husband arrested, he came back and went off again. I went to the courthouse, in my pajamas and slippers because I had to leave in a hurry. I had a restraining order put out and am charging him for assault. They weren’t going to arrest him, but after riding around for about an hour I ventured home, I had a number to call and they said the police were at my apartment at that time. Anyway they were just throwing him out and wouldn;t let him drive because he was drunk so he was starting to walk. But of course had to say something to me. The cop gave him a warning and he said something else and they placed him under arrest. BUt with our wonderful system he’s already out. He’s at his brothers and his niece and her b/f got his truck. HE”s already called me several times, which i Could have him arrested again for, but as long as he stays away i Won;t, First he left several threatening messages then he called and he was using his brothers phone so I answered and he had the nerve to try to make me feel guilty and tell me he loves me. This is so hard……

18 10 2009
Clo

Oh God Laura, I’m so sorry. I’ve been gone all day and came over here as soon as I saw your message on Cosmo.

You really should call the police every time he calls. They may not arrest him for it but trust me, you NEED to have it documented. CALL THEM, and write down the time he called. IF anything more serious should happen, it could help you in any potential case.

And DON’T feel bad for Kristy. I know it’s hard because he is her Daddy, but you need to show her how a man should treat a woman. If she sees how strong her Mom is, standing up for herself and not taking that crap from anyone, then if she should ever be in the same situation (God forbid) She’ll know how to act, and know that she can be strong too.

Also, do NOT feel ashamed. It’s not your fault, and you’re doing something about it now, which is all that matters. If there is ANYTHING I can do, or if you need to vent, talk, whatever, email me. I’ll try to check on here more often, but tomorrow I’m going to be gone most of the day, but I can check my emails on my phone. So either email at the ComplicatedLo address or Lerwin1324@yahoo.com, I’ll check both.

Hang in there hon, and don’t hesitate to let us know if there’s anything we can do, or vent.

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