Cough Syrup and Four-Legged Nurses

18 10 2009

Hey everyone.

I’m sorry so much time has gone by since my last posting. Although I promise a valid reason.

I have been in and out of the hospital for the past month or so. I know right. WTF? That’s what we are all saying.

About 5-6 weeks ago I came down with what I thought was a very bad cold. After the cold decided to get worse we figured I had a flu. The flu stuck with me for a week and by the end of the first week I could barely move the body aches were so intense. I honestly thought I had swine flu or something. Fevers started low but constant and after a week of suffering the fevers started hitting 102 and I couldn’t take it anymore. I do not have a primary over here yet so I begged Alex to take me to the ER.

After a few hours of laying in a room they told me they needed x-rays. What they saw was way beyond what I thought. Turns out I had a severe pneumonia and was only using about 10% of my right lung and there was a possibility I had a pulmonary embolism (aka a P.E. or blood clot in my lung). I wound up spending the night in ER where they ran test after test. By 5:00 a.m they decided I needed a CT scan to officially rule out the clot and I would be staying for another day or two. The CT scan came up clear but beacuse I was so dehydrated and the pneumonia so advanced they kept me in the hospital on heart monitors for a week.

Eventually I was let out. And the next two weeks I struggled to get better. They say it could take months to get over what I had, so I wasn’t surprised at my complete lack of energy. Last week I finally pulled out of it. I was feeling better. More optimistic about everything, started looking for work again.

I felt so good I set my alarm for 6:00 a.m. a few days ago so I could get up and work out. As soon as my alarm went off I knew something was very, very wrong. I felt like crap. My whole body was on fire (all my joints get inflamed when I get bad infections and its ridiculously painful) and my chest was so tight it could squeeze a diamond out of a rock. The cough was worse too. No fever this time but something was up.

I called the internist who oversaw my recovery in the hospital and who is absolutely amazing. He doesn’t have a private practice but has taken all of my calls to his personal number whenever I have a question or concern. He told me he would meet me in ER. Not to wait. Because of my medical history the past month or so, he wanted to get me started on treatment immediately. SO I drove back over to my second home, was greeted my my Nurse Practitioner (who now knows me on a first name basis….erm….) and went back through the tests.

The good news was, after several hours in the ER I was released. I didn’t have pneumonia. The Bad news? I have Bronchitis and am on bed rest again. Fun times.

I will write as soon as my motivation returns. A lot of fun things did happen while in the hospital and there were some very funny moments. But i’ll save those for when I can accurately describe them without drooling on my keyboard.

K guys, I’m on very strong cough syrup – my parents and I joke around and call it white lighting, even though it is purple… But it’ll loop you up and knock you out as fast as lightning.

Laura, I caught a snippet of your last comment. I am so sorry you are going through something as horrible as what it seems. Feel free to email me. I can promise a coherent answer, but really, that may help. Who doesn’t enjoy a giggle after conversing with a friend on cough syrup (well a friend who is prescribed it and taking it for valid reasons… i’m told im very quirky and silly when I’m medicated). And CloRida. I hope the birthday party went well. I’m so sorry I havent been around. And of course Witchy – I hope all is well with the boys and their respective sports are going well.

TO my other followers. Thanks for sticking around. Hopefully this will be the last illness I experience for a while. I’ll be getting a CPC to find out why my immune system is so weakened and why my lungs have been so susceptible to infection.

Best wishes to all. And for a good laugh email me. If you are lucky it will be right after I’ve taken my meds and you’ll be in for some entertainment.

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oh yea, and pictures of my experience to come as well.

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497 responses

19 10 2009
Witchypoo

Goldie…I can’t tell you what a relief it is to hear from you – and that you seem in relatively good spirits. I emailed you a couple of months back, and when I didn’t get a response, I worried some. I always hesitate to keep sending emails/contact attempts when I don’t know for sure if the subject of my attentions WANTS to be reached out to. So, I waited and hoped that you were just attending to a lot of personal business, (I also kind of figured that Cloey would tell us if you’d contacted her through email, and that we could keep updated with your activities that way to an extent). Anyhoo, I’m sorry you’re having such a challenging period in your life; between what you confided to us before – and now this physical hurdle – you’re really being tested, hugh? It really sounds to me like you’re handling everything as well as you possibly can…better than a lot of people would, as a matter-of-fact. Just keep on moving through each day with the most positive, optimistic outlook that you can sustain – things will get better. Blue skies forever, Sweetie. Take care.

19 10 2009
lara21167

I 2nd that Rowdy, I’m so glad to hear from you. Cloey told us you had pneumonia, then in my city a man 45 yrs old had swine flu that turned into pneumonia then into congestive heart failure and he died. That was 11 days after he woke up with a runny nose and sore throat. So I was a bit concerned.

Well I’ve been talking to Joe who is now crying to me threatening suicide and is a total mess. What gets me is he thinks that I just should have left and came back when he sobered up. Well where the hell were we supposed to go in the meantime. I’d be happy if he would just be accountable for he’s actions you know.

19 10 2009
Witchypoo

Lara, I’m trying to check in more regularly because of what happened with you over the weekend. Your statement that you’d be happy if he’d just be accountable for his actions: don’t count on it. Taking real responsibility in any meaningful way is almost impossible for an alcoholic and/or drug abuser. If you think you and Joe have a chance at all to salvage your relationship and marriage, NOW is the time to insist he go into some kind of treatment or start a program to get and stay off booze – or any kind of mind-altering substance, (addictive personalities are vulnerable to anything that alters their brain chemistry; everything comes down to brain chemistry where real addiction is concerned; environmental factors are second). Anyway, since the shit has already hit the fan, why not make the most of an already stressful, ugly, emotionally painful situation and force some change? At least something positive would have the chance to come out of all this. If Joe’s a true alcoholic, (that seems like a ridiculous understatement – and unnecessary…but I’m making assumptions based on what you’ve told us. It’s not fair or accurate to just take all the facts for granted without allowing room for error), then he’s not going to change unless it’s pretty much forced on him. If you let him come back without forcing that issue, (getting help to stay sober), then things are just going to wind up back where they are now…and you’ll still be miserable and trapped. Don’t let that happen; you can’t let his threats of suicide – or whatever else he tries – to manipulate you into staying in this mess. Stand firm with him…this is your chance for real change, SweetLara. There. I said it; I hope you don’t mind the straight talk, but what’s any sort of friendship without honesty in dire circumstances? This is pretty “dire”, I’d say.

Take care, and check in when you can…whether through my email, or whatever, Lara.

P.S…is he physically dangerous to you or Kristy?

19 10 2009
Clo

Rowdy- I, too, am glad you checked in. I hope you hang in there and get well soon, you’ve been through a lot lately, and I REALLY hope it gets better.

Laura- I just don’t think you should take him back. I mean I know it’s harder, because you are married, and you do have a child with him, but I just don’t really think he’s going to get his act together. I mean, even now, all he’s doing is offering excuses. What he did was OK, because YOU should have left (when really, why couldn’t he have left? He was the one who was angry, why should you have left, with your young child, so he could stay at home and possibly tear up your place?) I get being angry, it happens, but HE was the one who was angry, so HE should have left to cool off. And the whole “I’m going to kill myself” deal, is not healthy, he’s trying to guilt you back into the relationship, that’s not fair.

And the whole alcohol thing, I agree with Witchy. It sounds like he COULD be an alcoholic, but again, alcoholism isn’t really about how MUCH you drink. You could binge drink every day for a year and (if you were still alive at the end) not be an alcoholic. But, you could also come home from work every day and just have one beer, and be considered an alcoholic. It’s all about the NEED to drink, not the quantity of how much you drink.

I think if you want to get back together with him, then you should do what Witchy said and try to force some change. I think he shouldn’t be allowed back into your apartment until he shows that he is changing, otherwise he might say “Oh I’ll work on it” and then come back and not do anything. He needs to quit drinking, he needs to get help, he needs to get a job, and start helping you out. You’re an amazing person and you deserve better.

I really honestly think that you should just cut him off. Tell him to stop calling you, USE your restraining order, keep him away from you, and report to the police that he has threatened to kill himself, therefore he can be considered a danger to himself.

Whatever you decide though, we will be here for you, let us know if you need anything, or if you need to vent, or whatever. We’re here, OK?

19 10 2009
lara21167

Really I don’t want him back. I’d like to be on friendly terms with him but I don’t want to be married to him. He needs to get his own place and get himself together, I know I can’t help him. Oh yes he is a true alchoholic. What they call a maintenance alchoholic. He has to have a certain level of alchohol in his system to function. yea he gets the DT’s if he doesn’t drink. I just feel like I’m the only one he has to turn to. I want to ask you ladies something else. Joe has a friend that I went to high school with I never went out with him or anything like that, but I consider him my friend too. Anyhoo I called Tim after all this to see if Joe could stay with him for a couple of days. I’m sure he’d have let him, but he had his daughters Saturday night and didn’t want all that shit around his daughters. So Tim called me later that night and asked if Joe needed a ride or bail money. I told him he was out by then. Tim then invited me over just to talk. I told him no, I didn’t feel like going anywhere. So he said I could come over for a late breakfast the next day, his daughters always made a big breakfast. I didn’t go and didn’t call him or anything. So when Joe was at my place last night Tim called on the house phone and Joe answered and Tim said “why are you there?, you’re not supposed to be there” And Joe accused him of trying to move in on me. And Joe said I’m naive about men that way. What do you guys think? I mean yes Tim has a crush on me, all Joe’s friends do lol. But I don’t think he’d be inappropriate. I mean can you have a friends only relationship with a guy? Now I’m getting all “When Harry met Sally” on you ๐Ÿ™‚

19 10 2009
Witchypoo

Well, if you’re not in love with him anymore and would like to be free, I’m sure he’ll manage. His mom? Brother? Whatever. It’s amazing how resourceful people can be when they have no other choice. I wouldn’t want to have to live with that crap, either. Why should you shackle yourself to a lifetime of cleaning up after your mate’s mess? As far as Joe’s friend, yeah, he most likely does see this as an opportunity to get closer to you. I’d lay bets on it. That doesn’t make him less of a “good” guy, (hypothetically speaking of course – since I don’t know him)…it just makes him a guy. It all depends on what you want from getting closer to him. If you spend time with him though, count on things turning in a more intimate direction. That’s surely what he’s hoping for…regardless of how pure his motives are for helping you out and offering support.

Take care.

19 10 2009
Clo

Laura, you kind of remind me of my Mom. With my step-dad, she knew she didn’t love him, she didn’t want to be with him, and he was doing bad things, but she felt badly for him. He didn’t have anyone to help him, where would he go, how would he take care of himself… But finally she snapped and kicked him out. He’s managed (Witchy’s right, people do rise to the occasion when they have no other choice. I mean, for one, he found a place to stay when you wouldn’t let him come home, right? And for two, ya, maybe no one will take him in if he’s not working. But, he’s a grown man, he should be working, helping out, and taking care of himself.) and my Mom? Is amazing now. I mean she just totally rearranged her life. She lost weight (not trying to say that you need to do that, like you said, you’re not fat, but my mom was overweight.), went back to school, and is now living for her, and doing what she wants to do. She’s happy, and really, I look back on pictures of when she was with my step-dad, and she seriously looks SO much older than she does now. I think she’s happier, I think she’s healthier, and just better. I mean I know it’s hard, because he is your child’s father, but I think in the end, everyone will be loads happier.

As far as your husbands friend. Well, I suppose he could just be concerned for your well being. But I think it’s more likely that he IS trying to move in on you. I mean like Witchy said, it doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy, just… A guy. And like she said, if you DO hang out with him, I would suspect things will end up going in that direction.

19 10 2009
lara21167

Ok, so no hanging or talking with Tim. He’s a drinker, beer gut, and getting bald. Now some guys look good bald, don’t get me wrong. No more heavy drinkers in my life anyway. And Cloey Joe doesn’t have a place to stay, well his brothers but he’s choosing to sleep in his truck. My boss was telling me about this guy that used to work here that is an alcoholic, his wife finally put him out, but found him a place to live first. Now maybe that’s a good idea, then he’s on his own.

19 10 2009
Witchypoo

Now there you go, Lara; helping him find alternate living arrangements would be an ideal solution. Then, you don’t have to beat yourself up feeling guilty for not helping him out. Not that you should waste one minute feeling guilty for the situation Joe created for himself…but aren’t we females programmed for guilt? We’re just built for it, so-to-speak, since we have that nurturing instinct so deeply ingrained both biologically, as well as socially. And, that’s a GOOD thing…a GREAT, valuable quality we ladies who love have. What’s not so great is when we get saddled to someone who takes total advantage of our giving, decent, caring natures – putting it to use for his/her own selfish, destructive purposes. Now that you’ve fully identified and defined exactly how you feel, DON’T LET HIM COME BACK. Who knows when your next chance to get him out of your hair will come along. I know that sounds cold, but the facts are that he’ll stay and suck you dry as long as you let him. Probably the best thing you can do for him right now is to force him to start taking responsibility for himself. How good can he feel about himself when he sits around not working, (or, looking for work?), drinking, bitching at you, and just being a sponge? Anyone with a shred of pride and/or self-respect would feel totally crappy living like that. Maybe this situation is exactly what Joe needs to snap out of whatever self-destructive pattern he’s been in for all this time. You and Kristy would definitely benefit from a major change, for sure. How healthy can it be for Kristy to watch her beloved daddy treat her mother like shit while he’s in a drunken stupor/rage, (regardless of how often or seldom that happens…once is too much)? She doesn’t need to see that situation as “normal” or “acceptable”; she also doesn’t need to think it’s fine for a husband to continually do nothing to work and better himself and improve his family’s circumstances. Family stands for UNITY…TEAMWORK. Do you feel like Joe is on your team, on your side, Lara? Is he a loving, supportive, source of comfort, protection, passion? Is he the partner you deserve and dream of? If he’s not even close to any of those things, do you feel like you want and need more? Maybe Joe has a lot of really great things inside himself – and he just needs the push to force them out. Anyway…change can be SUCH a good thing. You’re going to be fine, Sweetlara – and hopefully you realize that you have some friends who are more-than-willing to listen and encourage you…and do whatever we can to help you over this hurdle in your life.

Take care.

20 10 2009
lara21167

Welllll, I didn’t extend the restraining order. I can’t help it, yesterday he was a crying sniveling mess. I’m not dropping the assault charge though, I don’t want him to go to jail, but I would like to see him get probation with a suspended sentence. Something hanging over his head and make him realize he can’t do what he did. Don’t worry I did discuss with him that things were not going back to the way they were, and the first time he calls me a name, that’s it. I’ll let you know how things go, Thank you all for your support and advise. Oh and I guess I didn’t mention that he did find a job, it’s part time at a butcher shop. Doesn’t pay much but he likes it. Still doesn’t help out much though. Well we’ll see…

21 10 2009
lara21167

well Joe has agreed to Drug and Alchohol counseling and also domestic violence counseling. This is a big step for him. He does want me to see about dropping the assault charge against him. But I don’t want to and I’m not going to. I don’t want him to go to jail but I do want him held accountable for what he did.

So how is everyone else doing? The school board sent out a general letter stating that the recent outbreak of the flu does seem to be 98% swine flu. But the Health Department is not forcing doctors to have their patients tested so they don;’t have confirmation. They said the swine flu is nowhere near as bad as originally thought.

21 10 2009
Witchypoo

Lara, the counseling sounds good. If you’re happy, I’m happy.

Take care.

22 10 2009
lara21167

You know, I have got to be the stupidist person on earth!! 2 days and we are right back where we were. Being cussed at and put down. And god forbid I get on the computer to do my seminar for Finance (BTW, last actual week on my first semester!! YAY, I’ll soon be done with Finance!! That has been a hard, hard class. I was striving for an A to start, then if I pulled a B that’d be great. Now I’ll be very happy with a C lol. The Humanities class is easy, I’m pretty sure I’ll get an A, unless I really screw up my final project) I just really feel stupid for being so trusting.

23 10 2009
Clo

Laura, I think you just need to tell him to get out. I mean, he’s not going to take you seriously if every time he cries you let him back in, ya know? You’ve got to hold him accountable for his actions. He said he’d change, and he’s not even trying, he’s got to go, and that’s on him.

I mean, I hope I don’t sound super mean, I’m not trying to be. But, my best friend (and cousin) and I had a long conversation last night about people, and how long you should help them. She’s in kind of a situation with her Mom (my Aunt). I won’t get into the full story, but her Mom is really struggling, money problems, ect. And her Mom’s an alcohol. Stephanie (my bf) told me she didn’t blame her Mom for drinking, with the way her life is. But, Steph just put a ton of money down to get her mom a lawyer to try to file for bankruptcy (well, she actually did file, it got dismissed. It’s just a long story, we won’t go into it) Anyway, Steph did mention that while she didn’t blame her Mom for drinking with the way her life is now, if she continues drinking AFTER Steph helps her out, she’s done with her.

I mean, my Aunt drinks because her life sucks. But how much of her drinking is MAKING her life suck? It’s like a cycle, ya know? It’s the same thing with my brother. Yes, he keeps getting hit with some hard shit, but then on the other hand, how much of that is his fault? He doesn’t always make the best decisions. I love him to death, but how many times is he going to cry foul and expect us to bail him out, when he makes a bad choice, ya know?

I don’t think you’re stupid for taking him back. Everyone wants to give second chances, and everyone wants to think that people are going to change. But I will have to say, if you continue to let him do this to you, you are not being smart (I don’t want to say stupid, because I don’t think you are stupid), and you aren’t demanding to get what you deserve, which is to be treated right.

I know it’s hard not to feel bad for him. He’s the father of your child, he may have no place to go. But, at this point, that’s on him. You told him what he had to do in order to stay, he’s NOT doing it, he needs to go. And if he wants to come back, and you WANT him to come back, then I think he needs to show change AND effort BEFORE he gets back in.

You deserve better, and you also have an obligation to Kristy to show her that it’s NOT OK for a man to act like that. Please, stand up for yourself and kick him out.

23 10 2009
Clo

Again, I hope I don’t sound super harsh, I wasn’t trying to be!

23 10 2009
lara21167

You’re fine Cloey and I know 100% right. We did talk some last night. It started off he demanding whether I wanted to try or just split. And I told him just split, he didn’t seem to want to try and the hell with it. So of course he whole attitude changed again. Now he’s willing to do anything I want him to to make it work. I don’t know how to make him understand it’s not what I want him to do (he has a friend whose wife forced him into rehab and going to church and monitors his phone calls and all, I don’t want that Joe has to make his own desicions I can’t make them for him) Anyhoo he wants to try marriage couseling. I want to go through a program though CASA, a domestic violence agency where they not only help victoms but have a program for the abusers. He won’t like this idea, but I think it’ s the only chance. Again I’m not forcing him into anything it has to be his choice. And I still have assault charges on him so that would help him there. I really wish one of us had family we could stay with, because I’d like some time to myself and decide what I really want.

24 10 2009
Clo

I think maybe you should write down a list of “demands”, like a set of rules that he needs to follow. I mean I know you want him to make his own choices, and I think that’s good, because I don’t think you can force someone to change. However, I DO think you have a right to say, OK, this is how I want to be treated, and if you can’t do it, then I want you out. That way he knows, and there’s really no crying or arguing or anything like that. He knows he has no place to go, so if he chooses to violate these “rules” and get kicked out, that’s his fault, and you have no reason to feel guilty.

At camp, we had a rule. It was called, freedom with responsibility. Everyone was free to do whatever they wanted, but they had to understand, with every choice they made, came a consequence. It could be a good consequence, or a bad one. And I mean, that’s what Joe’s got to understand too. If he wants something, he’s going to have to work for it. You shouldn’t have to stand over him and make his choices for him, but he needs to know, YOU don’t want to live like this anymore. So he can decide to drink too much and become abusive. But that also means that you’re done, and he’s gone. He can decide not to go to counseling of your choice. But that means you’re done and he’s gone. And remind him, he’s got no place to go. So maybe he should think long and hard about that before he makes his choices. And then I think the most important thing is, stick to your guns. Because if you keep giving him chances, all that says to him is that you’re not serious, and all he has to do is cry about how he has no place to go, and you’ll take him back. He knows he has no place to go, so then he needs to act like he cares about that.

25 10 2009
lara21167

That’s pretty much what I’m doing. I mean he has no more chances and that’s that.

25 10 2009
Clo

I just realized our husbands names are Joe, Jerry, and Jeremy. Huh.

25 10 2009
Witchypoo

The JJJ? Snicker. That’s funny. I hadn’t ever thought of that – all this time.

26 10 2009
lara21167

That is funny, I didn’t think of it either.

28 10 2009
lara21167

Remind me not to look at the comments on Utopia!! I get curious and since she hasn’t posted yet I decided to check the comments. OMG a commentor dared to say that she was “dying” and couldn’t wait for the next post!! The BFF who is screening the comments posted it but chewed her out for complaining. A couple other commentors stated that it was a compliment not a complaint. God now it’ll probably be another month before we get an update. I wouldnt read the blog, but it’s just too good!! Maybe that’s one we should review lol.

So update on the Hubby, we went to his lawyer yesterday. His lawyer thinks he can get him probation maybe a suspended sentence. It;s really up to me. He said that the states attorney will be interviewing me sometime before the trial and really depends on what I tell him i want. Well I don’t want him to go to jail. Just get help. He did go for an evaluation at an alcholol treatment place yesterday. It went well he said. He’ll have to go for 6 months and they;ll have random drug tests. Keep him off the pain meds lol. And the classes are once a week. I think he’s getting on easy and he seems to think he’s getting a raw deal. he doesn;t like that I basically have him by the balls. I hope that some good will come out of the classes. I don’t think he;ll stop drinking. I kind of plan to see him through this then decide what to do. I don’t have any high hopes.

31 10 2009
Clo

I stopped reading the comments, but I just went back and looked. She deleted whatever you’re talking about, but her new post just pisses me off.

“I had a lot of time to write pressure free” or whatever. Like, get off your fucking high horse lady. Sorry people like your shit, maybe it would be better if everyone hated it?

She just REALLY rubs me the wrong way. “I told my friend about the posting rules and asked her not to be so snippy, maybe you could do the same.”

Granted, i didn’t read the comments, I don’t know what was said in the back and forth, but cut me a freaking break. If your friend posted a comment, only so she could write something snippy? How fucking sad. I thought her job was to post the comments she felt appropriate. But, once again, I feel like we’re being treated like children, and someone had to be made an example of.

I mean, again, I know it’s not so serious, but a.) I’m already in a bad mood, and b.) it’s just such bull crap to me. It really just makes me want to quit reading, seriously. I mean it’s good, but it’s like dealing with a diva blog writer, and I’m just not sure anymore that it’s worth the trouble. “I’m not ready to bump up the postings” Seriously, if you’re mind is that fragile, and this is SO much stress, quit. Just freaking quit.

2 11 2009
lara21167

Yea Cloey it does make you feel like a child. Like I said I wouldn’t read it if I didn’t like it so much. But it has lost a lot of appeal for me, just because of the diva attitude of the author.

So how was your Halloween?
Witchy?

2 11 2009
lara21167

Rowdy how was your Halloween? How are you feeling?

2 11 2009
Clo

It’s also an annoyance for me when people turn molehills into mountains. I mean, we all have our days and moments when a little task just seems so daunting. So occasionally, I get it. But obviously it’s not an occasional thing with this author. And I just don’t get it. If it’s so much work and stress, and you’ve already got 50 million other things going on in your life, why are you still doing it?

I have a friend right now who’s annoying me. She just found out she’s loosing her job. Which, sucks. I’m not denying that part. It’s shitty timing with the Holiday season coming around, and her last day is actually her birthday, so that’s a great birthday present. But it’s like, all her facebook status’ are about how she’s loosing her job and how horrible it is, and it’s just getting so old. Like yes, it sucks, but you have a month to find another job, which is more than a lot of people have gotten. What’s the point in panicking until that date is here?

I’ll admit, I’m just in a crappy mood again. I dunno why. I was in a really shitty mood Friday, and then I had a fantastic weekend, and now I’m just back to being all GRRRR

2 11 2009
Clo

I’m frustrated and need some advice.

Cayden isn’t sleeping great again. He’s better than what he was but he consistantly wakes up at least once a night screaming.

I called and spoke to a phone nurse about it, she seems to think it’s an attention/behavioral thing, and told me to try crying it out. The thing is, I don’t think it is. Before when it WAS an attention thing, Cayden would stop crying the second we picked him up. He just wanted to be around us. He would fall back asleep on us, and once we laid him down, he’d wake back up and freak. This time, it doesn’t matter if we go in and pick him up, he still screams, and it takes him forever (sometimes up to an hour or longer) to calm down. Once he is calm, however, it’s OK. I can lay him back down, even if he’s still awake, and he’ll go back to sleep on his own. Most of the time he’ll sleep the rest of the night. Sometimes he’ll wake up once to eat and go right back to sleep.

When I told her, too, how worked up Cayden got, she said something along the lines of not letting him get to the point of being too worked up, because if he got too worked up, then he wouldn’t be able to calm down. But even if I get up right when he starts crying and get him up, he’s still that upset, even if he’s only been crying five minutes.

I just don’t know what to do.

3 11 2009
lara21167

I think it sounds like he’s having nightmares. In which case he does need comforting. Sometimes nurses and doctors can be so dumb. Always an attention thing. I don’t know what you can do other than pick him right away and cradle him and sing to him until he calms down. Doesn’t help you to get your sleep I know. You’ll probably have to go back to taking naps when he does until he gets through this. I think it’s like a stage they can go through. Try looking up on the internet toddler nightmares or something. Maybe you can find some advise there. When my son was 2 he went through a stage of waking up in the middle of the night demanding to watch his stupid Ninja Turtles tape. I lost alot of sleep during that time, and I had to work so it really sucked. Trying to play with this stupid dog to wear her out. I swear she is Marley Jr. lol. Anyhoo, look that up and see if you can find some advise. The only thing I know is to deal with it until he’s past this.

3 11 2009
Clo

I dunno, I’m just trying to decide if I want to switch pediatricians or not. I love our actual pedi, I think she’s fantastic, but the office staff leaves a lot to be desired. For one, they keep messing up our insurance paperwork. The way our insurance is, we don’t pay anything if it’s considered preventative, so all his well baby checks are free for us. We go in the other day to get his second flu shot, and they tell us we have a balance of over 700 dollars! Jeremy flipped his lid. And, to put the icing on the cake, we hadn’t heard ANYTHING about it, nothing from the insurance company telling us they were denying the claim, no bill from the doctors office. And it had been a month since this appointment.

Well, it turns out, it was partially our insurance companies fault, and part our pediatrician’s office fault. The pediatrician’s office didn’t bill it right, which is like the 3rd time they’ve done something like that, and the insurance company… Well, we’ve had some issues with them and paperwork (they sent Jeremy this verification paperwork for Cayden and I. He filled it out, and sent it in, but forgot to sign it. So they sent it back to him, saying he had to sign it and return it in two weeks, or else coverage for me would be denied. Well, he signed it and sent it in right away, but seriously the next day we got a letter saying I was denied. They sent the denial letter before the time frame was even up!) Anyway, the pediatrician’s office tried to say it was our fault they billed it wrong, because we never gave them our group number, only I want to know if that’s the case, how come they managed to bill the insurance company correctly for his 9 month appointment? Not to mention, we give them our insurance card EVERY time we go in there.

I dunno, it’s just hit or miss with the staff. Sometimes they’re super nice, sometimes not so much. And I’m just wondering if that’s enough to make me look for another pediatrician.

3 11 2009
lara21167

I think if you like the doc so much then stay. Sometimes doc office staff can be a pain. I had a ped that was a bit sketchy. I liked him and stayed with him even though he wasn’t allowed at the local hospital. But when he was fined for dispensing expired meds. I started looking. In the meantime, I was making payments for an amount for Richie that the insurance didn’t pay and there was a small amount like $30 for Kristy that I was working with the insurance company to get them to pay, which they finally did. The office was aware of these and was fine with the payments I was making for Richie. First the doc sent me a nasty letter about Richie’s account. I called the office and they told me to disregard his letter. Then he sent me another nasty letter saying he couldn’t keep my kids as his patients because of that $30 for Kristy’s account. Needless to say I left him and never looked back. The jerk actually does commercials to get patients which I think is pathetic and he was also sited for upping the dose of riddilin for a child without parents permission because a teacher called him and complained of the child’s behaviour in school. So yes if you love the doc, stay. A stupid staff is easier to put up with.

did you look up nightmares for toddlers? I did earlier and found a question/answer site that talked about nightterrors and nightmares. Apparently the nightterrors are different and should be handled differently. With nightterrors it says not to pick the child up. Just stay close until the child settles down. Nightmares on the other hand, you should pick up the child and calm him/her down. Then another lady wrote about her 1 1/2 yr old getting charliehorses in the middle of the night. She discovered her baby’s leg was super hard and if she massaged it, the charliehorse goes away and the baby would go back to sleep. We all know how bad those damn things hurt.

3 11 2009
lara21167

Oh Thank the lord, I just submitted my final for Finance. I’ve been working on the damn thing all week. You’d think a 50 question test that is open book/open notes and you can take a whole week to complete would be easy wouldn’t you? But nooooo, that was a hair pulling out test lol. I am so glad to be finished that course, I used to like that kind of stuff, finance, accounting, economics. Think I outgrew it. Harder to think analytically the older you get!! Anyway I’ll let you all know how I did overall. Humanities was an easy A. I’m not worried about it.

10 11 2009
lara21167

One of my husbands friends died last Tuesday. Just all of a sudden. He had gotten up with his wife. She went to work and he laid back down until it was time to take the kids to school. The youngest who is probably is Kindergarden, tried to wake him, then the middle boy who is Kristy’s age tried. He got his older brother who is a junior or senior. He tried to get a pulse and couldn’t so he called 911 and they tried to revive him and no luck. He was only in his early 40’s. I feel so bad for the kids having to deal with that.

So how is everyone else??

12 11 2009
Clo

After what happened on the bedroom blog, I’m not going to be commenting here anymore. I think what Witchy said was a personal attack, which was uncalled for, and frankly immature. Witchy, you can disagree with me ALL you want, but I NEVER made a comment directed towards YOU and how YOU handle things in the blog. Your comment was directed towards my personal life, and how I handle things, which you honestly know very little about, and had no right to say.

The whole “you get pretty hot under the collar when people disagree with you” is not true. I don’t have a problem with people disagreeing with me. If I did, I would have told you that you were stupid and wrong for thinking the way you did. And, I don’t think you’re stupid. I don’t even know if I think you’re flat out wrong. I get what you were saying about K, but again, for the MILLIONTH time, all I was saying were the SAME points you were bringing up about K could be applied to Brandon. That maybe NO ONE was really to blame with how it went down. And, all I did was bring up points to disagree with YOUR points, which was THE SAME THING you did to me. Yet you don’t consider yourself to be oozing venom and hostility, do you? You don’t consider yourself to be getting pretty hot under the collar. If you ask me, you’re being pretty hypocritical and judgmental. I honestly want to call you a few more names, because I AM pretty hot right now, but it’s not worth it. The dig you made was personal, and if you can point on ONE place on that stupid blog where I made a personal dig about you, your husband, or your relationships, I’d like to see it. Because I honestly don’t think I did.

Rowdy, I’ll still be around reading, but I’m not going to leave or read comments. If you or Laura want to talk to me, you know my email.

Witchy you can say this is me storming off, or maybe even that I’m pouting because you disagreed with me. That’s not it, we’ve disagreed before and I was cool. It’s because you took it to a personal place where it didn’t need to go. And I’m sorry, I’m not comfortable being friends with someone who does that, ESPECIALLY over a stupid fictional blog.

12 11 2009
Witchypoo

Well, I don’t comment on here much anymore, and haven’t for a little while, because I really do find you explosive and unpredictable, Cloey. I also think you have a penchant for trying to drag others into your personal disputes, like when you were rallying everyone against Janey, (you actually did that several times), and the way you’re always blasting other blog authors – over and over – going into tiresome detail about why you’re justified in feeling the way you do, and why the person you’re currently complaining about is so annoying, wrong, etc…etc…etc…There’s been a couple of instances where I’ve been annoyed and felt hassled, (yeah, briefly pissed, too), by a couple of commenters before, and I mentioned it here. Sometimes one of you brought it up, and I’m sure I did at least once – maybe a couple of times, also. But, in general, no – Cloey – I don’t consider myself a hostile, angry person at all. I just know how I feel about myself and the people I have interactions with, and I’m pretty happy the great majority of the time. Everyone gets angry at times – it’s part of the human condition; I wouldn’t be “normal” if I didn’t EVER take issue with someone or something. But, that just seems to be overwhelmingly your basic personality; you’re ALWAYS pissed about someone or something. And, I’ve always known that it would only be a matter of time before you turned on me, also…I figured it was inevitable, given that I’m not inclined to be intimidated by your anger, or cowed into telling you what I think you want to hear to keep the peace. Usually, I just don’t say anything at all when I think you might take issue, but sometimes that just doesn’t work.

You get angry and aggressive and say things that everyone is just supposed to swallow with a grain of salt. Like, you outright telling me that I’m lying when I answered your question of how I’d feel if my husband did some of the same things that Brandon did, (staying friends with Starr, letting her stay with him, etc.). When I answered you honestly, you told me I was lying. You then said that the only way I could be telling the truth was if I was happy letting my husband get away with something that I wasn’t allowed to. So, what about that – Cloey – do you NOT find personal? What about those statements do you NOT find hostile, aggressive, strangely confrontational? I guess you just expect to say whatever you like with no consequences. Just because you claim to not be saying anything inflammatory, does not make it the case. I think you flip out, say things you shouldn’t say, then try to justify your verbal abuse with all the assertions you use to try and cover your tracks. I don’t deal that way. If you want to lash out at me, I’ll let you know what’s REALLY on my mind. That was also the case when all that crap went down with Janey; I thought people were getting involved who didn’t need to be – just to create a “mob-mentality” to verbally push her around. And, I said so.

Btw…I DO think you’re a very talented writer. I always have, (since you started your blog); didn’t I tell you quite a few times? I HAVE been periodically checking in on your blog to quickly read through and catch up. What I meant by “distancing myself” from you was that I find it more trouble than it’s worth to risk your wrath by directly interacting with you personally. I didn’t mean – or even imply – that I didn’t ever read your blog. Good writing is good writing. Isn’t that what you’ve repeatedly said about the ’15 Miles’ blog? You’re always ranting about the author, yet you still read it. But, I haven’t decided if I’ll continue to read your’s after this or not, since you make everything inappropriately personal, (just my opinion) – and I see that you’re trying to start a discussion about me, now. Big surprise there, I must say. As if any of those commenters who are a regular part of the comment section are going to EVER risk your wrath by saying something that you might not like. You can say you want the truth until you’re blue in the face…but they’re going to tell you what you want to hear – even if they don’t see your point. I think it’s really weak of you to require so much outside validation and unconditional support/approval from others who really don’t have anything to do with this situation. And, that’s the problem with openly aggressive, angry personalities: they’re so adept at intimidating people, they never really know if they’re getting the truth or not. I was basing my opinion of your personality on LOTS of interactions with you – both on here, and on other sites…as well as your reactions/outbursts to so many different people/situations.

The unfortunate part of this whole situation is that I really do think you’re an intelligent, interesting, dynamic person…with so many relevant, worthy things to contribute/talk about, etc. I mean, I’ve empathized and agreed with so many things you’ve said in the past, too. I just can’t/won’t deal with your unpredictable and highly-volatile nature.

Take care, Cloey.

Anyway,

12 11 2009
Witchypoo

(Don’t know where the extra word at the end came from. Weird).

12 11 2009
lara21167

Well I only skimmed through some of the comments on BB and could see tension building between you 2. I’m sad that this happened, but I still love you both and want to keep in touch. So I will by email.

12 11 2009
Witchypoo

My sentiments toward you also, Sweetlara. I’ll probably also visit with you on Delor’s blog, too.

I hope things are going better for you and your husband, also. How’s Kristy? You mentioned a health problem to me about Joe in email a few days back. How’s that?

Take care.

13 11 2009
lara21167

Well Witchy Idk, Actually Joe is learning alot from his classes. and all his health problems could be from drinking heavily. Now he hasn’t stopped drinking, just cut back alot. But i’ve made it clear the only way we are going to make it is for him to quit completely. He can not control his drinking. This may be an excuse but he is afraid to quit all at once because it is dangerous. You can have a heart attack, stroke, convulsions, all kinds of things and he doesn’t want to go to Detox. So that’s where we are right now.

13 11 2009
Witchypoo

Uh-huh; heavy drinking catches up to alcoholics sooner or later. My mom went into rehab/detox years ago, and she did have a grand-mol, (sp?) seizure while in treatment; she was heavily addicted to strong tranquilizers as well as alcohol, though – so that probably contributed to her seizures and other physical problems. By the time she was admitted, her skin and nails had taken on a yellowish cast, and she was just a mess. Then again, she was only 31 when this all went on, and Joe is older. It’s good that he’s aware that quiting completely is the goal you’re looking at. With his physical concerns – and the fact that he’s in his 40’s…it would be a lot safer, and probably easier on him, (not to mention you and Kristy), if he would just bite the bullet and enter rehab. They’re really good about getting people in AA and NA in those facilities, also. Those support groups are crucial for the alcoholic/addict to stay on track after treatment; they also help with attitude/educational aspects of “growing” mentally and emotionally, since lots of people with substance abuse problems get “stunted” in their development in those areas. I had to go to so many meetings/seminars from that time-period – all the way through my teenage years…I picked up a lot of information from it. Very interesting subject. I considered at one time being a substance abuse counselor, but figured it might be a little too much on the depressing/gritty side for me. I don’t know – there’s a lot of good to be done in that line of work. (Note: you can just email me about this subject and anything else you might find too personal if you feel funny talking about it on here, Sweetlara).

Take care.

13 11 2009
lara21167

Thanks Witchy, my brother is a substance abuse counselor. He is pretty hard nosed about addicts. But he’s a really good counselor. My sister also was counseling. She’s working on a degree in socialogy. She has so much she wants to do, I’m glad she is finally focusing on something.

13 11 2009
Witchypoo

Is this the sister who you’ve said you think is a little…flaky? (Not sure how else to put it). What, does she jump from one interest/project to another? Now I remember you telling me about your brother being a substance abuse counselor, and how you think he is somewhat…removed? (emotionally speaking). I think it was you who told me that, anyway). If it WAS you, that’s what I mean about that field…I think you’d need to disconnect some of your emotional responses just to be able to function in that environment. I spent my childhood and teens doing that to get by in my parents’ house…so I don’t think that would be the healthiest choice for me. It’s too hard to “switch” on and off from detached, clinical mode, to intimate, feeling mode, (for me, anyway).

Talk to you later.

13 11 2009
lara21167

Yes it would be, and you can only help a handful of people the ones who seriously want help. And yes that’s my somewhat flaky sister. She is a very caring person and wants to do something that will make an impact. But at least she seems to be settling on one thing and something she can actually make money doing.

13 11 2009
janey

witchy, i miss youuuu.!
i had lara give yo the link to my blog
and my emailhope to hear from you soon.!

ps. thanks Lara.! :]

14 11 2009
Witchypoo

Janey???!!! I can’t believe it! It’s so good to “see” you again, you sweet girl, (I know – I know…YOUNG WOMAN). How are things for you? I’ve wondered and worried about you so often. What about your little nephew, Derrick? How’s that situation? I’ll see if I can find your blog.

Take care, Sweetie.

14 11 2009
janey

im good.! im staying focused in school and just hanging out.
trying to take it easy this year.
Derek isgood. we are trying to put him in school, but everythings full right now.
i try to teach when he’s here. colors and numbers and shapes. but he
just says im bored and he walks away lol
my mom is actually taking us to get our pictures done today
how are you.? and your boys.? i’ve missed you and Lara soooooo much.!

15 11 2009
Witchypoo

I’m so glad you’re doing well, Sweetie. You sound great – that makes me really happy. I’ve been very busy with the boys. This am we went to Heath’s preschool program which is based out of a local church. It’s a GREAT preschool progam, and I volunteer there a lot. Heath loves it there, and I couldn’t be happier with the program, teachers, other personnel…the whole environment. My littlest man was SO adorable singing his songs up in front of the congregation with the rest of his classmates today. The did all the hand movements with the words; I had to really focus on not blubbering like an idiot – because I’m a sentimental fool. I don’t like to show extreme emotion in public, but there was a lot that was so touching about the program, and the service. Anyhoo…we had Beau’s football banquet last night; it lasted 3 1/2 hours, (lots of food, though). Beau was brought up in front with the older running backs and talked about by his running back coach as an up-and-coming running back for the school; the coach talked about how talented of a football player/athlete Beau is, and I almost cried when the coach went on to say how he respected Beau not only as a great football player – but also as an overall great person, with lots of character. It was very touching. Chance is training as usual with his baseball team, and he’s in a special/advanced program for intensive pitching/conditioning, also. The facility he trains out of is one of the best in the country for this type of specialized training. The best of the best of the young men that come out of this facility at the end of high school get offered some amazing scholarship opportunities at college programs all over the country…plus, they’re regularly looked at by scouts from the best pro teams from all over the country. Anyway, Chance trains 5 days per week – it’s pretty involved. The baby also still has his martial arts class 2 times per week, and his instructor is prepping him to move up to the next class, (he’s over a year younger than any other kids in that class; it won’t be tomorrow, but not too long from now). So, he’s moving along in that really well.

Yesterday afternoon, before the football banquet, my brother had his little daughter’s 5th birthday party that we went to. She’s 3 weeks younger than mini-spawn, and they’re really cute together…they’re both such sweet children, and they get along really well…very loving. Anyhoo, my parents were there; I don’t remember if I’ve specifically mentioned that I haven’t even seen my parents in over 5 years, so this was an event everyone – both extended family members, and family friends – were very interested in. Things went very well, and my parents eventually settled down, (my mother especially was really shaky at first), and relaxed…enjoying the visit. I’ll tell you more about it when I have the opportunity. We have to go out and get Baby a new winter coat right now; it’s starting to get really cold all of a sudden, and his hoodies and fleeces aren’t going to be enough.

So, there’s a brief rundown on my most recent activities; I’ll talk to you more later, Sweet-Janey.

Take care.

16 11 2009
janey

so. its 11: 13 and im on my way to bed.
but. thst sooo cool about your boys.
they loveee sports.
we will have to talk more on this
subject. haha.
wish me luck.
trying out for the play tomorrow after school.!

16 11 2009
Witchypoo

GOOD LUCK, Janey! I’ll bet you do great. It’s 9:18 where my broomstick is resting, and I’m getting sleepy already. Are you a nightowl, sweetie? You need your rest to move at full-steam during the school day, and for your body to restore itself. Rest easy, SweetJaney, and dream happy dreams. Nightie-night, and take care.

16 11 2009
janey

witchy – yeah i am kind of a night owl. I LOVE to sleep but i just hate going to bed at a certain time. like. i dnt like to sleep at night. right now i am in my advanced u.s history and government class looking at videos on line and answering questions on y review sheet thing. so annoying lol
i get enough rest plus coffee in the morning so im all chirpy – ish. haha

about the play. yea. its called the fantsticks.
i told my best friend that if he tried out i would try out.
i did it think he would never. and now. i HAVE to. lol
Ms. Gaine is going to be there.
she is the voice seminar teacher
we have to bring 16 bars of music to try out. so i have to sing.
singing ability:7
singing in front of people ability: zero
choking on stage possibility:20.

im gonna need some luck.

16 11 2009
Witchypoo

Well, Janey…you’ll probably read this AFTER trying out, but I think it’s great you’re putting yourself out there and giving it a try. Regardless of how it turns out, the experience of going for it will be really beneficial to you in the bigger scheme of things. What’s the worst that could happen? You might not get the part, but you’ll get over that quickly enough and move on to something else. But, the experience of just trying something to the best of your ability will help you to grow, no matter what. The more you take a chance, the easier it’ll get for you. Now, positive thoughts, Janey.

Take care.

16 11 2009
Clo

Witchy- I haven’t read any of your comments on here, and I don’t plan too. I know you don’t feel comfortable sharing yourself with people you don’t like or trust, so don’t worry about that, I haven’t read anything you’ve said. I decided to come here, as well, and ask you to leave me alone on bedroom blog.

I have a lot going on right now. I didn’t want to get into it on the bedroom blog, and I’m not telling you this for you to feel sorry for me, bad for me, whatever. Jeremy’s dad went in for his heart cath and they found out he’s completely blocked. There’s not a whole lot they can do but put stents in his one artery that is open (and only halfway open at that) and recommend weight loss, and hope that he’s around long enough to actually lose the weight. They also don’t think he can lose the weight on his own, so they’re recommending he have gastric bypass done. I’m sure you know, gastric bypass tends to go badly for young people. Let alone an older man with a bad heart. It’s been a stressful last week, and there’s nothing any of us can do except wait and hope that it all goes OK.

Again, I know you probably think I’m saying this as some sort of boo hoo sob story to get you to feel bad for me. I’m not. I’ll be fine, we’ll get over it, and whatever’s going to happen is going to happen. It’s just stressful enough right now. I just really like going to the bedroom blog, I like reading it, I like hearing what others have to say, I like commenting on it. I’ve been around since the beginning, and honestly that and my blog are really the only breaks from reality I have right now. What I don’t like is worrying that anything I say might be commented on by you. So please, all I’m asking from you is that you stop commenting on what I have to say. You don’t have to agree with it, you don’t have to like it, you don’t even have to read it. Just pretend I’m not there, and I will do the same to you.

16 11 2009
Witchypoo

Cloey, I checked here because I had a feeling you might come on to say something about Bedroom. I’m honestly sorry for the tough time you and your husband and family are going through right now, with his father’s serious health concerns. I wouldn’t wish that on anybody, and I truly hope things go well for him, you, and your family in general.

All I can do is reassure you that I’m definitely NOT trying to seek you out and “get something started” on Bedroom, or anywhere else. I don’t feel any particular hostility toward you, and I certainly wouldn’t go out of my way to make you feel like I am. I really wasn’t thinking along those lines when I was commenting on the drama that goes on in K’s life; I get the impression that you honestly believe that I’m trying to stick it to you, or whatever – and that’s the furthest thing from the truth. I can say with complete honesty and conviction that I don’t know WHY you feel like I’m focusing on you – other than I think you are reading a lot of significance into something that’s not there; I genuinely feel like YOU got all that rolling, and I’m baffled why you seem to feel like…I don’t know…a victim? Paranoid? Whatever the reason, I’ve been trying to discuss other things on there, and you seem to keep wanting to come back to it. For the record, if you see ANYTHING on there that I’ve posted that you wonder about, try to take for granted that it’s not pointed at you – or has anything to do with you. I mean, there are going to be times when LOTS of comments will be surrounding some of the same issues, there will be repetitions made, inferences made, etc…but I’m certainly not honing in on you – and I won’t be. I also won’t assume that you’re pointedly trying to drag me into something I don’t want to be in…or that you’re getting pissed about something I’ve said that you don’t like/agree with, and are actively being hositle and confrontational toward me. I’ve been giving you the benefit of the doubt…(until it became evident that I wouldn’t be able to do that). I’m very good at moving on and not looking back – or, at least – letting go…that would be a better way of putting it, I think.

Anyhoo, you’ll have no anxiety that can be traced to me, I can assure you of that. Good luck, and I hope things look up quickly for you.

Take care.

16 11 2009
janey

witchy. im back from auditions.
not anything at all like i pictured it to be.
and not even half as painful.
i thought everyone was gonna watch me audition.
but it was the people auditioning [we did it in pairs]
an the people “on deck” who were next and the two
voice seminar teachers.

chris asked me to sing first. i was a little nervous.
i asked the teacher if i could sing in spanish.
she said okay. so i jus tooka deep breath and let it out.
when i was done Ms. Gundrum said “beautiful”
i dnt know if it was the spanish part or the singing part but that was good iguess.
then chris sung and he was REALLY good. they had to do the do-re-mi-fa-sol-la-ti-do test to see wht his highest note would be but they already knew i was an alto.

and when he was don singing we read our lines. and tht was it.
they said cast list would b up tomorrow on the bulletin board
by the dance studio. but im o an all day trip tomorrow so ill have to wait til
after school or wednesday to find out.

cooperstown, baseball hall of fame, thts where my class is going tomorrow.!
im sooooo excited. okay. getting off the computer. time to do some homework. and heres the run down on tht one.

-geometry: truth value table
-english: The Crucible sociogram and explanation paragraph
– u.s. history and government: constitution and power distribution DBQ essay
-creative writing: 5 one page character sketches, drawing with words
-earth science: study rock and mineral characteristics [test on thurs]

17 11 2009
Witchypoo

Wow, Janey…your classes sound REALLY interesting, and also challenging. Are you in some kind of honors/gifted program? I don’t remember if you told me that before or not.

Your audition sounds like it went great. “Beautiful”, huh?! Yeah, that sounds promising, Mi-Lady…definitely. If for some unforeseeable reason you didn’t get picked, doesn’t it STILL feel great to have just gone for it, anyway? Every experience you have like that which stretches your abilities and self-confidence will just make you that much more self-assured, capable, and strong in the future. I’m proud of you, Sweetie. I really am. Get some rest tonight after your eventful day, and take care, Brainy-Janey.

17 11 2009
Witchypoo

P.S…can’t you have a friend look at the posted audition results while you’re on the field trip tomorrow and call or text you? Let me know as soon as you get a chance after finding out, yes?

17 11 2009
Witchypoo

Also: Lara forwarded your Facebook url, (is that how it’s referred to with Facebook? Url?). Anyhoo, it’s just a bunch of weird #’s that I’m not sure what to make of. I’ll give it another shot, Brainy-Janey.

17 11 2009
janey

thats what i was goin to do. but my friends
theyre are funny a holes.
they would tell me i ddnt make it and make me look
myself. lol ahhhh how i love them.

so today i filled out an application after i got back to work at this dollar store after school. cause im 16 and i hate askin my parents for money. earning my own money = buying wha i want wen i want no questions asked.
and. its really funny cause i want th money to buy books.
james patterson just got a new one called “i, Alex cross” i HAVE to read it. ive rea almost every james patterson book ever written. almost.

anyways. so i turned it in and i toldmy cousin to stop at Goodwill so that i could pik up an application there. and we walked in and th manager came out and i told her im good at stocking things very neatly nd tht i could learn to work cashier. so she gave me an application. made me fill it out right then and there. and sh was telling me how it takes 5 days for the background check and that when she called me in 5 days i could come in with my id, and social security card and she could tell me when i could start.

but. im kinda confused. cause it sounded by the way she was speaking like i got hired on the spot. but. i dnt wanna get my hopes up and then NOT get the job. so. whatever. i’ll call in 5 days.

witchy about my classes.
all my classes are whats called “advanced regents”
regents is a NYU state test required for every subject.
so that basically means all my classes are advanced and
the test is twice as long. >[

17 11 2009
janey

cool. it probably is a bunch of numbers. to see my profile you ave to add me.
facebook isnt like myspace at all. if you cant see it i can gie you my
sign in info nd yu can see it that way

17 11 2009
Witchypoo

Ahhh…gotcha. Ok. I don’t have a Facebook account, though – or Myspace. We’ll figure it out, Janey. About the job at Goodwill, it does sound like you got it. I doubt she’d have you doing all that if you weren’t probably going to get hired. It sounds like you’re moving your life right along, Janey; that’s very good.

Talk to you later, Sweetie.

17 11 2009
janey

i ddnt get in the play, but it was worth geting over my fear lol
the trip went great.! about to start uploading pictures on facebook.
im running my to do list.
i called sccc [its the community college]
im tryin to take writing corses for college credit
i have o email NYU about their summer program.
and i called Goodwill.
and i have to go to the mall with aedan.
he wants to get sweatpants.
i have to finish some homework

18 11 2009
Witchypoo

Well then, Janey…the experience was a profitable one for you. Next time something challenging and maybe even scary comes along for you to try, it’ll be that much easier for you. As with anything else repetitive, it’s kind of like muscle memory: the more you do it, the more automatic and less stressful it becomes on a conscious level. That’s how champions in anything cope and perform at a higher level – if it was ridiculously hard for them all the time, not getting more automatic and manageable, nobody would train or compete at those levels. It gets easier and easier to reach for goals the more you do it. Just keep reminding yourself of that everytime you’re feeling discouraged, nervous, scared, unsure…whatever. It sounds like you’ve really got the school thing going on already; build on that, Janey. I know an intelligent, friendly, pretty girl like you can succeed at some amazing things…anytime you put your mind to it. Also, winners fail also…it’s how you respond to failure that determines the likelihood of eventual and future success. This principal can be applied to any situation…competitive or not.

Ok…that concludes Witchy’s pep-talk for the evening. Heehee. You have fun at the mall, (you’re probably back by now)…and get some sleep, Brainy-Janey.

18 11 2009
janey

lol thanks witchy.
didnt go to the mall. aedan bailed on me.
grr.

my trip was great but im a little annoyed.
Aedan is my BEST friend. and we dnt really hang tht much ish.
but lately we have been. and he was supposed to sit with me on the bus on the way to cooperstown. but maria comes and whines and all of the sudden he promises to spend the day w her while on the trip.
everyone knows maria likes him but its NOT mutual.
but then we get there and i sit with them and aedans talking to me and shetarts being rude.
so rude for no reason.
so i left him with her and i went with kim and karina and i told them
that i was staying with them. then aedans wa like whts wrong and i was like. u neeeda get your friend cause shes pissin me off. she needs to stop bein rude.
and he was like. i kno. shes pissing everyone off.
so he leaves her and spends the day with me. we ent to see all the things in the museum togther. and she like wasfollowing us and rolling her eyes and then she was on the phone arguing with her mom about party invitaions and her party is in like two months.
and then she SITS in the middle of the floor and starts acting like shes crying and says “ohhhh, i want my daddy.!”
and im like. she needs to stop. so we left her there and we wet somewhere else.
so he was supposed to sit with me on the way back. and she CLUNG to him and made him sit with her. so whatever. and then jedai aedans guy best friend comes up to m on the bus and whispers in my ear “maria thinks aedan is all hers and he needs to burst that bubble”
and i agreed. and i tol him so.
but yesterday. maria was bein SUPER nice to me.
an she invited me to her party like four times. im like.
this is ridiculous. i dnt hang out like that with her
but some of my friends do an i guess the rule is if maria has a bad day, we ALL hve a bad day. i wasnt planning on having a bad day so i burt her buble REAL quick. let it be known i dnt need anyone t have fun and i had a GREAT day. she likes him and he’s my best friend an lately i just feel like evryone is trying to tak im away from me.

18 11 2009
janey

madd typo’s

18 11 2009
Witchypoo

Ohhhh….Janey. You know, Sweetie, even in high school, (probably jr. high, also), I didn’t have the patience or tolerance for the kind of drama and shenanigans that you’re describing. Yes, I’ve had the displeasure of knowing, (in certain circumstances, all-to-well), females like Maria. They seem to believe that the world revolves around them, and that everything in their immediate vicinity is only relevant in how it relates to THEM. It’s impossible to make these kinds of people understand how OTHERS feel and think about things, because they share a basic trait: self-centeredness, (if that’s even a real word, anyway). I really think it’s very difficult for self-centered personalities to comprehend that THEIR feelings/wishes/experiences aren’t any more, (or less), important or significant than anyone else’s. Do you understand what I mean? That’s why when you mention that if this Maria doesn’t have a good day, then none of you will…it’s so true. I avoid people like that as soon as I sniff that trait out; there’s no point in wasting time with someone who’s so narrow in outlook and general viewpoints. If she bothers you significantly, Janey…just do your best to stay completely out of her “reach”. You have better things to do than worry about someone who’s not all that relevant in your life. As far as your friend, Aedan…I guess all you can do is be honest with him about how you feel regarding this Maria. Then, try really hard to let it go. I know it’s exasperating the way this girl hangs all over Aedan, being so demanding and needy. But, what are you going to do besides just tell him what you think, and then separate yourself from all that. He’ll get tired of catering to her bullshit eventually; most people get worn-out and impatient with that kind of suffocaing, overbearing crap. Relax, and…smile, SweetJaney. Have a grrrrrrrrrreat day, Brainy-Janey.

Take care.

18 11 2009
janey

just got back from school.
ugh. so tired and really not amused.
i have a headache.
grr.
aedan knows how i feel. im not one to hide my feelings very well.
if it bothers me, he knows. he’s my best friend.
and i told him yesterday and this morning.
she doesnt amuse me in the least.
and this morning at breakfast.
she hands me an invitation to her martigra themed sweet sixteen party.
i was like. im not pulling my shirt up.
and she just kinda looked at me and aedan just started laughing his ass off
cause he knows me and my dumb as sense of humor.
anyways. me and him went out to lunch today together then we went to his house to watch some funny movie cause we had lunch then studyhall.
then we went back to school at 12.40 and i went to earth science and he went to physics.
the thing with me and aedan. he was like. if people keep seeing us leave like this. they are gonna start talking shit. and i said how one of our mutual friends prolly thinks we are having sex and he said he agreed. he was like.
“Helen. if they start talking shit im going to spazz”
hes my BEST friend in the WHOLE world. and its really not like that between me and him. we are JUST friends. theres nothing there. at ALL.
guys are SUCH pigs. specially in my school. and aedan is really the only one i trust without any hesitation at all. and. maybe Jedai too. but like. idk.
i dnt want ppl talking about us like that cause its really not like tht.

19 11 2009
MonkeySpeaks

I can see I’ve missed a lot. I’ve written back and forth a bit with a few of you. I guess here is the bottom line. There will always be disagreements. Both sides will be able to see their own justification more clearly than the other persons. Shit, I’m going through that personally. Alex and I are at heads with each other constantly and the reality is it’s a bit of miscommunication, but its also a bit of the fact that we are just different people. We have different views on many things and different opinions. Now that wont matter as much if we can learn to respect those differences and communicate and bring more affection and togetherness into it, but it kind of relates here.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion. We aren’t in each other’s day to day lives. We get recounts here and there and all that but realistically we don’t know how anyone handles anything one way or another. We are here to give each other advice and to vent if needed. We also come here to seek advice. There is a group of women on here so amazingly different, and yet that was what made this great. THat everyone brought something to the table. We all have our extremes and we all have our own mellows.

I hope that whatever is going on between everyone works itself out. Im not saying I hope everyone becomes best friends. But I do hope everyone can at least take a step back and appreciate each other for what we do bring to this comment section, that everyone be respectful and communicate. I want Clo to come back, I want witchy to stay and comment, sweet laura just wants everyone to be happy and I see Janey is back and is welcome to comment.

I can’t moderate these, and to be quiet honest I don’t want to. This is a space for you all to speak your minds. It’s called “comment” section not “everyone must agree with the blogger and other commenters” section. But thats why I like it. Anyway,

The blog will stay open, even if I have had a lot of trouble posting. I’m just trying to get my life back on track right now (work, relationship, personal confidence, value, all that fun stuff) and am at least grateful that at this point in life I can afford to go through a lil crisis. Not even a crisis so much as a cross roads of life and I need to decide which fork I’m taking… and stop walking down one only to turn back around and sit at the intersection again wondering if I made the right decision the first time.

Sorry for the poor grammar… well lack of it, really. LoL. I just wanted to get on here and say Hi to everyone and say I appreciate all of you, I enjoy what friendship I have with you all individually and together and I hope our personal differences can be worked through. And if not, you’re welcome to use this space as you need. But just be respectful of each other.

19 11 2009
lara21167

As always well said Rowdy. I really do like this space to chitchat with the “girls” Even if we lag sometimes. Janey sorry you didn’t make the play but at least you tried. At your age I’d have been way to shy to do something like that.

19 11 2009
janey

its fine. lara.!
I GOT THE JOB.!!!
about to have dinner.
will come back after hw is done.

19 11 2009
janey

ohk. im back. had to finish my character sketches for creative writing.
such a good assignment. so annoying.
anyways. yea. if i got the part it woulda been a problem if i got the job.
so. it was better this way.
im so excited.
and report cards are in. ugh.
mines goes something like this.
Drumming: A
U.S History and Gov.: C-
Earth Science: B-
Gym: B-
Plato: A
AIS: A
English: D
Creative Writing: A
Geometry: F

im somad at this math grade.
aedan is such a dork lol
he missed the bus this morning. :]

19 11 2009
Witchypoo

Janey…is that just the 1st quarter grades? Around where we live, semester grades don’t come out until mid-late January. Not sure how it is in your part of the universe, (New York). Congrats on the JOB, Miss-Janey! That’s great. You’re right…getting a part in the play – with all the rehearsals and performances…it would have been pretty hard to manage with a job. Things have a way of working out for the best, huh? Good job, Sweetie! You’re very first job…cool.

Great to see you back, Goldie. I’m hoping you find things getting easier and easier for you…or, at least more manageable.

Take care.

20 11 2009
janey

yea. its first quarter. its all cool. just hate the math gradeee. ugh.

20 11 2009
lara21167

Ok, Janey I have to laugh, a D in English but an A in creative writing. Sounds like someone could bring that English grade up a bit!! And I like Math hate Geometry, Kristy loves Geomentry. Maybe study with a friend that tends to help. With Kristy’s school here in good ‘ol Maryland, We’ve already had one Marking Period done. And the second one will probably be done soon. They give report cards like 6 times in the school year. Her teachers are good about emailing progress reports too. I do have an issue with her English teacher. she emailed a progress report and Kristy was getting an F. And the teach mentioned that she had a lot of missed assignments and needed to stay after school to complete them. I sent back and asked how she had these missed assignments when she has only missed a couple days of school and that was last marking period. She said something about only doing one side of the paper of some assignments. Still didn’t make sense. Kristy swore she did all the assignments and turned them in. A friend of Kristy’s had to stay after too. And Leanne’s mother said Leanne swore she had finished the assignments and turned them in. Then when they stayed after most of the missing work had turned up and they only had a couple things to do. Just didn’t make any sense to me.

20 11 2009
Witchypoo

I know…I was giggling about the same irony: D in English, A in Creative Writing. Just shows yet again that people naturally do well at things they love, (any way you can learn to LOVE English, Janey-Darlin’?). Oh well…just work on it, Sweeheart. I know you’ll bring it up if you set your mind to it.

Take care.

20 11 2009
Witchypoo

Huh. Sheez. Should read, “SweeTheart”…as I’m sure you probably already deduced.

21 11 2009
janey

THATS NOT FUNNY >[
lol i was out for two weeks.
i had the flu then i had bronchitis.
when iwas making up my work for english
i forgot about the journals. we do them everyday
and the are worth 10 pts. i missed 6

21 11 2009
janey

btw. english IS my fave subject.
its always been. since like 4th grade.
ive always passed it. except first quarter
last year when we had to read “childhood’s end”
a science fiction book published in 1954.
1954.!!!
it was SOOOOO boring
after ten pages i just. refused to read any further

21 11 2009
Witchypoo

Ahhhh. Ok. Gotcha. Yeah, Beau got REALLY sick with the flu a couple of weeks back, and missed a whole week of school. He wasn’t really ready to go back when he did…but they move so fast through the material, he didn’t really have a choice. He’s been working like crazy to get caught up and not slip in his grades; I got him a tutor for some math units he’s trying to get a better handle on before a big test this Wednesday. He met with him for an hour after school today…he’s this really sweet, older retired teacher who taught at Beau’s school some year’s ago. He was a doll on the phone, and Beau says he’s really funny and nice in person. Bonus! Anyhoo, the guy knows his math, (he also still subs every-now-and-then at the school, too)…so Beau is feeling more confident about the test.

Speaking of make-up work, do you think your teacher would still allow you to get in some past work, if you explained how sick you were, (batting your long eyelashes while looking all sad and pathetic?…hahaha). Lots of teachers are really understanding and cooperative with students who show initiative, enthusiasm, are respectful, and just convey an overall wish to succeed through honest work. At least, that’s what I always found, and what I tell my guys.

You must LOVE having me snoop into your business, huh, Brainy-Janey? I can’t help it…it’s the mother/mentor in me. Now get your beauty rest and dream happy dreams, Sweetie.

Take care, and nightie-night.

21 11 2009
janey

i mean. report cards are already out. otherwise she would..
but i cant believe i forgot. the journals are like one of my FAVE parts of her class and i forgot about them. grr. anyways she was really happy yesterday.
her test results came in an now she a National Board Certified teacher and she can teach anywhere she wants and she gets a huge raise. i love my teacher. she’s awesome and hilarious.

ive got my nephew with me today.
im goin to make him breakfast and ten
do some laundry. maybe ill take him
to my best friends house for a playdate with her little sister b4
i have to go to work

21 11 2009
Witchypoo

Hi there, Janey. I meant that maybe she could let you add the extra work to the semester grade, which is more important and inclusive than quarter grades. It’s the teacher’s discretion about how they get to distribute work/grades throughout the semester, (here, anyway). The 2 quarters add up to average into the semester grades…so maybe she could bend it that way. It depends on her grading policies, but it doesn’t hurt to ask. There’s been times where I was in a similar position, (viable reason for being absent and missing work), and I was surprised by how much leeway the teacher has with grading/work policies regarding semester grading. Anyhoo, it doesn’t sound like you’re dwelling on it or upset, so that’s all that really matters, right?

You sound like you have a full day planned, Sweetie. Go have some fun with your cute little nephew; he’s so lucky to have you to spend time with him. Will this be your first day on the job? Have a great day, and maybe we’ll talk later. I want to hear all about your new job, and how your nephew is doing.
My hubby is at baseball with middle spawn right now, (7:00 am until 10:00 am), and then we have martial arts with baby spawn at 12:15…after which the little guy wants us to take him to the mall to buy a gingerbread house-making kit. He’s all excited about that.

Take care.

21 11 2009
janey

witchy. the grading system is totally different here.
they just have the four quarters and the regents and finals
and they ALL average out for a final grade at the end of the year.

derek is good. he’s soo cute.
last weekend my mom took us to get our pictures done and his came out so cute. hes a camera whore lol i ddnt get to take him to Jaz’s house cause they went out

and last night was my first day of work.
today is my second day.
its kinda fun kinda boring.
the people i work with are nice
and i guess i just have to get used to it then it will be fun all the time.
since im just starting im sorta just following the girls around while she tells me how to do things lol

22 11 2009
janey

got home from work.
tired. trying to put derek to bed.
im going to bite him if he doesnt fall asleep soon :]
he was up until 3 am yesterday.
grrrr.

22 11 2009
Witchypoo

Hi Janey. Wow, lil’ Derek up ’till 3 am? That reminds me of my nursing days, (years, actually), when I was up every couple of hours, all night long…feeding hungry babies. What does he do until that hour? Watch tv, movies, play video games, bug you? Just curious. Lots of energy those munchkins have, huh?

How did work go? Are you liking it?

Gotta go get oldest spawn from a friend’s house now.

Take care, Sweetie.

22 11 2009
lara21167

Janey I think little ones can tend to go through stages where they just don’t want to go to sleep. Try to keep him on a regular schedule, the other grandparents have to stick to it to, and make a bedtime routine. Like a snack, bath, and read to him. May not work at first but keep trying. I’m a good one to give advise, I had trouble with bedtime with both my kids as soon as they were out of their cribs lol. Kristy I had to lay down with until she fell asleep. I still have trouble with bedtime with her ๐Ÿ™‚

22 11 2009
janey

he was up watching tv. i guess my mom went to work and he was in my room watching tv. she left him with my step dad cause i was at work. and he let him fall asleep at 6. i got home from work at 9.15 and at 9.30 guess who wakes up??
yea. no luck telling him to go sleep lol
so i just layed him down andput cartoons o and he was watching them and bugging me.
“why are you tired”
“stay with me”
“i want cookies”
“dnt sleep”
“i want grandma”
GRRR.

lol

his other grandma i think just lets sleep when he falls asleep.
but when he comes here he usually is on our schedule.

work is goin good.
its fun. im on today 4-8
the register is fun.

more on that later. have to wake derek up and get him ready for church.

23 11 2009
Witchypoo

You’re a very patient, tolerant, nice auntie, Janey. Derek is lucky to have you. Take care.

23 11 2009
janey

aw thank you witchy.!
i just love him so much.
thats my little man right there. he’s my world.
an he knows it. when he’s here i tell him i love him like 100 times.
and today i said “derek, you know Titi loves you right.? cause i love you baby”
and he looks at me and sighs and says “Titi, i already know.!”
in other words. leave me alone.

hes gone and i wont see hi next weekend cause im working 12 to 8 all weekend.

watching diary of a mad black woman right now then goin to bed.
school tomorrow.

this movie is makin me mad as hell. let a man talk to me and treat me that way. i will cut his dick off.
i wil make castration legal.

23 11 2009
lara21167

I love that movie Janey, she got her revenge lol. Madiea (sp) is hilarious. “you get half of everything” and proceedes to chainsaw the furniture. too funny.

23 11 2009
Witchypoo

Good morning, Ladies. I haven’t seen that movie – it sounds entertaining. Did her husband/boyfriend treat her pretty bady, (I’m assuming, from what you said, Janey). What a waste of good furniture, though, (it would probably feel great during the moment, but then it would be like…”NOW what am I going to sit my tired ass on?!).

We got the baby’s ginerbread kit; it’s really cool. Bed, Bath, And Beyond, (do you guys have those on the East coast?), had both gingerbread houses, and gingerbread train kits. Heath picked the train; both he and Chance made it yesterday evening. It took quite a while, and it tuned out really cute. Hubby took pictures if it afterward, and some with all 3 boys, and also of the boys and I posing with it, with Baby holding it on his lap. So cute. We also picked up the pictures the boys posed in last month. We got so many, including a huge one of full-body poses with all 3 that I had framed with the order, other-sized group and individual poses, and varied poses of all 3 that are put all in one matt, in cute lay-outs. They came out so nice, and then I bought some frames for the ones I’m giving away to family, and some frames for my favorites that are going on the walls at home here. Hubby also made this really cool dvd-slide show of pictures of our family going all the way back to when I was pregnant with oldest spawn, right through to the present. He set it to music, and there’s all these fade-outs and ins, with various designs and all that. It’s really nice, set to 6 or 7 long songs, (some of our favorites…love songs and harder rock, also…some when we were newly together); it takes over 30 minutes to see the whole show, and I get all teary and emotional every time I watch it. We’re going give it to my parents, and also my brother and sister-in-law, along with the pictures of the boys. We’re also going to make another dvd that includes our wedding, early dating days, honeymoon…all that, as well as some more from the present. It’s fun putting those types of collections together.

Anyhoo, the mall on Saturday…it was insanely busy and crowded. I can only imagine what it’ll be like as Christmas gets even closer. We buy as much as possible online, (especially for the boys); they just give us lists, and we try to find the best sites to purchase from. It’s so much easier and more convenient to get the majority of gifts that way; then, braving the malls isn’t so bad when we know it’ll just be limited #’s of things we have to actually find in person. We buy from online stores that let you order over the phone; it’s safer and more convenient that way, (dealing with an actual person is better for answering questions, also). Do you shop a lot for the holidays, Janey?

Well, I better get some things done. Talk to you later, and have a great day, Sweetie.

Take care.

Tomorrow is the Thanksgiving Feast/party at Baby’s preschool. Each child brings a piece of fruit for an adult to help cut up and put in the fruit salad. There will be lots of food, stories & poems the children are involved in…lots of things like that. It’ll be fun.

23 11 2009
Witchypoo

should read, “treat her pretty badLy”, etc….

23 11 2009
Witchypoo

Ok…just assume I’m going to make tons of typos when I visit in the am while I”m still kind of tired and groggy…

23 11 2009
Witchypoo

Sheez…how did I get my closing in BEFORE I told you about Baby’s preschool Thanksgiving celebration? I wrote them in chronological order…but somehow managed to switch the order? Wow…I really AM groggy this am. I don’t know.

23 11 2009
lara21167

Witchy you are funny lol. Sounds like you have everything under control for Christmas already. I pretty much do too. Just really trying to figure out if I can afford that darn x box thingy Kristy wants. I’ve already got her a digital camera and I pod, both from avon at $50 each. I was going to get her this Steelers Jersey she wanted from JC Penney it was running $60 Maybe I can catch it on sale. The X box I can probably catch on sale too, my problem is the games. Course she can rent them. We shall see. So how did the “thanksgiving Feast” go. Sounds like fun.

Diary of a Mad Black woman (Have you ever seen any Media Movies? they are really good there is like a serious plot with Media a rather large woman who plays by her own rules racking havic on anyone who does her or her family wrong, then there is always a spiritual value at the end) Anyway the one that Janey is talking about starts with this woman and her husband who’s a rich lawyer having an anniversy dinner and he declares he wants a divorce, wants her out of their home and has a new woman. Turns out he beat her and kept her from her family and friends so she really had no where to turn, luckily for her Media took her in. Anyway the husband winds up getting shot by a disgruntled client and becomes paralyzed. Since they are still legally married, the “mad black womam” can’t remember her name takes control of his care when his new woman wants to pull the plug on him. The “mad black woman” takes him home when he’s ready and he still tries to bully her and acts like an ass. So she begins to torture him like throwing into the bathtub and leaving him there for a long time. Finally she realizes what she is doing. And they actually become friends, she’s dating someone else by then. Very good movie.

23 11 2009
janey

witchy. the things with your boys sound awesome.

and yea the chicks hubby cheated on her, had two kids on her, then on their 19th anniversary brings home the other woman and puts his wife out of their mansion.
more like beat the shit out of her during their marriage and that night
DRAGGED her by the hair out of the mansion.

i was spazzing last night when i was watching.
you guys dont even kno lol

and lara i LOVE madea.
the girl was like “if i call the cops, they will be here in ten minutes”
and madea goes “good. that leaves me ten to whip your ass” and proceeds to take out her gun.
then goes downsatir cause she heard charles tryin to hit her granddaughter
and slams in the roon gun in hand. “please hit her. touch her. i dare you. put your nails on her. cmon.”

and the chicks like. dnt hurt him
and madea goes “hurt him.? child ima KiLL him, putting his hands on my granddaughter, he crazy as hell”

23 11 2009
lara21167

That’s what I love about Medea movies, there is a seriousness to them and laugh your ass off comedy. Have you seen Medea goes to jail, that’s a good one too.

23 11 2009
janey

ive seen MOST of the movies AND th playss.
they are sooooo funny.!

24 11 2009
Witchypoo

So, I’m thoroughly confused now, (btw…hi there, Girls)…are we talking comedies, dramas, funny-dramas, dramatic comedies…DRAMADIES?! Exactly what ARE these fascinatin’ moving pictures all about? Hmmm? Wait, I know: black comedies? (referring to sub-genre of movie, not racial orientation – which you both probably already understand is my meaning). They sound…funny in an insane, sad, hilarious, brave kind of way. I HAVE to see at least the ‘Diary Of A Mad Black Woman’ installment; if I love it, I’ll watch some of the others. We have Netflix…I can probably order it off of there. I LOVE any movie that makes me laugh my ass off. I have a feeling I’ll like this Medea-character.

Sweetlara, the Thanksgiving Feast/celebration at the preschool is tomorrow, (Tuesday). The boys and I went grocery shopping after school today, (early release all this week), where we picked up some strawberries that Baby will bring as his contribution to the fruit salad. He was very specific and definite about wanting STRAWBERRIES for his fruit. Not too hard of a request to fulfill, so strawberries it is. The older spawn will be coming with me to Baby’s party tomorrow; I’m sure they’ll be seriously scoping out the food reserves when we get there to gauge how well-fed they’ll wind up being by party’s end. That’s the major issue to take into consideration when contemplating any social possibility for these 2 clowns, I’m telling you. Hahaha…normal for their ages and sizes, I guess.

Here’s an example of some of the silly crap my guys get into when we’re out and about: today, while shopping in Fred Meyer, (Kroeger-owned…do you have them on your side of the universe?), I wanted to take a quick look at some cute heels I saw in the shoe department. So, not only did I try on the cute heels, the two oldest spawn thought it would be a good use of their time to ALSO try on some pert womens’ heels, as well. They each stuffed their GIGANTIC, sweatsocked-clad hoofers into some dainty-looking mary-jane-style pumps, clomping around like really stupid-looking bulls-in-a-china-shop. You know…the whole hands on hips thing going on…with an exaggerated “woman’s voice” clucking about how absolutely GORRRRRRGEOUS their choices looked on their GIGANTIC hoofers?! Yeah…just like that. And, while all this mayhem and ridiculousness was going on, a good friend I haven’t seen in a few months happened to be strolling by just as I was laughingly berating my 2 clowns during their lil’ fashion show. She, (Laurie), stopped, gawked, and started laughing her ass off. My boys have played football and been on the same wrestling teams as her son for years…since they were all little boys. Laurie came to see Baby and I in the hospital after his birth, and she’s made baby blankets, hats, etc. for him…scarves for me…she’s just a sweetheart – and she’s HILARIOUS. I LOVE funny women. Laurie totally “got” my 2 stooges prancing around in the shoe deparment putting on female airs, (or, what THEY THINK are female airs, I should say. I don’t know any women who actually act like my guys THINK women buying shoes act like. Know what I mean? That’s a mouthful). Anyhoo, we all had a good laugh. Baby would have been right there in the middle with his older “role models”, but we hadn’t yet picked him up from preschool. We wound up having to DASH to his class to make it in time. Then, we had to turn right back around and return to the store for several items I forgot, (distracted by the fashion show, I guess). Yup…just another crazy day in our household. What’s everyone else up to?

Take care, Girls.

24 11 2009
janey

witchy your boys sound hilarious.
i was cracking upp.
and yes. watch the madea movies
they are sooooo funny.

goin to sleep.
school and work tomorrow.

will check in later

24 11 2009
janey

witchy when and if you watch them watch out for your littlest son.
they curse a lot but isnt bad cursing just like hell and shit and bitch and hoe and slut and bastard. lol

and madeas brother joe is constantly smoking pot but its hilarious.

24 11 2009
lara21167

Witchy that does sound hilarious. It is really funny how perseve how women act. I finally convinced my doc to give me a diretic. I was swelling so bad, and Dr. Arrogant said I only had about a pound of fluid. Maybe in my legs but when I retain water it’s all over. Remember Witchy how I said I weighed 145 lbs or somewhere there abouts, That was 2 months ago when I was weighed at my Gyno. This doc office I weighed 156 lbs. There is no way I gained 10 lbs or more in 2 months when the past month I’ve been exercising regularly and eating right. Anyway I took one of the diretics this morning and feel so much better. I feel like I can move!! so I know it was worse than the Doc thought. Ha, finally got one up on Dr. Arrogant. Actually I do like him, he seems to be a good doctor just a bit arrogant.

24 11 2009
Witchypoo

Happy am, Girls. Yes, Sweetlara – I do remember you mentioning your weight a while back being somewhere in the 140’s. Jumping up to 156 from there is pretty significant, considering you haven’t been sitting around “eating bon-bons” in front of the television all day, (remember that stereotype of the “typical” housewife? I think it’s pretty outdated now). Anyhoo, Ok: here’s where I hope I’m not irritating you with questions you may or may not think are self-explanatory, or that I should know that you’ve already considered, or whatever). In other words…I’m not implying in any way that you’re somehow ignorant, or negligent about various health/body issues. But, since you’ve been eating right and exercising and STILL gaining weight, (gaining muscle-mass from strength-training can also add weight, even though the body appears leaner and slimmer…wearing smaller sizes in clothing even)…but it sounds like you’re saying you can pinpoint the gain to water-weight, specifically, (swollen legs/ankles for instance). Putting on THAT much water-weight, (except, like during pregnancy sometimes)…then you have to ask yourself WHY…what’s causing it? Could there be an underlying condition? How about your circulation, Sweetlara? Do you – or other family members – have a history of poor circulation? There’s got to be a reason why your body tissues aren’t flushing out the excess fluid. Are you drinking LOTS of water? Maybe your physical needs are changing, and you should start drinking notably MORE water. You probably already know that without adaquate water intake, the body hangs onto water as much as possible, (chalk it up to evolution when during times of famine and short water supply, human bodies went into “starvation mode” , slowing down the metabolism, and hanging onto any fluid in tissues as a “reserve”). Also, if you take in enough caffine, (any source…not just coffee), your body can react by hanging onto as much fluid as possible, since caffine “leeches” your tissues of water, also. It’s kind of a catch-22, (you drink, say – SOME coffee or tea – and it helps “drain” your tissues of excess fluid; but, you drink too much, and your body will begin to hang onto the fluid in response). What a looooooong, drawn-out explanation. Anyway, when/if you drink sources of caffine, just make sure you’re drinking that much more water to make up for it. Also, carbonated drinks – like diet or regular pop – will leech your body of water supplies, so if you drink enough…your body will react by hanging onto as much water as possible in your tissues, (even if it seems like you’re peeing it all out…you’re not. Some of it is being stored in, say, your legs and ankles). Once-in-a-while, if I drink a diet pop, I’ll always follow it up with lots of water…to flush all that crap out of my body, and to keep my system operating efficiently. I DO drink coffee in the am…so, as you can imagine, I’m always peeing a lot, since I’m a big water-drinker, also. TMI, I’m sure. Have you been eating or drinking anything different recently, Lara? Also, one more thing: water pills can drain your body of potassium if you’re not careful, which can be dangerous…or, at the very least, make you feel crappy – tired, sluggish, etc. DRINK LOTS OF WATER. Ok…finished now. Don’t be annoyed.

Take care, Girls.

24 11 2009
Witchypoo

Note: regarding the potassium, I meant to say to make sure you take in extra sources of it…in foods especially.

24 11 2009
Witchypoo

Another note: when I was a teenager, my mom went overboard on her water pills, always unhappy with her ankles/legs retaining water. Well, she didn’t follow the doctor’s directions and took too many. She wound up in the ER with severe heart-palpitations, thinking she was having a heart attack or something. It turned out that her potassium levels were dangerously low, so her body was reacting badly, and her heartbeat got all crazy as a result. Just something to watch out for, (though, you’ll probably do the sensible thing and follow the directions on the bottle, huh?)

Take care.

24 11 2009
Witchypoo

Hey…here’s a stupid-funny story, (and, a very typical one for me), about what happens to me when I’m out – drinking water as usual – and don’t take the time to slow down and go to the restroom while I’m out for hours at a time, (not a fan of public restrooms). Here’s where I tell you that this is TMI. SO: this is TMI. Anyhoo, yesterday, after the boys and I FINALLY arrived back home following our shoe/grocery shopping adventures, I had to pee really bad. I didn’t really think too much about it while sitting in the car in traffic, but once we got home and I started walking around again…yeah, I had to go bad. So, I jump out and trot on up to the porch, digging around in my purse for my housekeys…nope, of course I can’t find them. So, about this time, I have to start dancing around like a lunatic, since I really had to go. Just the mere thought that I’d have to wait until hubby got home from work to let us in sent me into jumping-bean-mode…dancing around while barking orders at the boys to “SEARCH!” the car better for the keys. We have so many different sets of keys…some have the house key…a couple of rings don’t, (yeah, smart huh?)…anyway, the car keys I’d grabbed didn’t happen to have the housekey, but I brought another set with the house key on it…only you have to actually keep the housekeys from sliding under the car seat while you’re driving and your spawn are getting into your purse, looking for gum and whatever else they’re pawing around for. Yeah, so my purse gets set down wherever it lands on the car floor, turning over, and somehow my keys worked their way under the seat. So, when I frantically told middle-spawn to “SEARCH!!!” the car, for, like, the 3rd or 4th time, the missing keys mysteriously presented themselves again. Amazing, huh, considering the 2 older spawn had already ASSURED me they had looked thoroughly “over and over, Mom”. By the time the damn keys were located, I’d already put on quite a dumbass show for my amused neighbors, jumping around like a loon, holding my crotch, and bellowing at the boys. Yup. Just more fun in a typical day at our house. Your water-pill story got me started on that one, Sweetlara. So, it’s your fault I overshared, right?

25 11 2009
lara21167

Ok, Witchy since I’ve been exercising and eating better, I have upped my water intake to 60 – 80 ounces per day that works out to 8 – 10 glasses right, well in the am I pee normally (ok you started this lol) by afternoon I bloat. And I do drink coffee only 3 -4 cups a day, can’t cut back headaches. So I can’t seem to get my doctors to understand there is a problem, this is not normal but they just push on my legs and say it’s not that much. Idk, I’ll have to see what the water pills do. He said to take them as needed but not more than once a day. I’ll be careful and eat lots of banannas :). Anyhoo your “I got to pee” story is really funny because this am I took Kristy to school and came back home before going to work, it’s about a 10 minute drive but the school parking lot is always a mess. Hard to get out of when there is no cop directing traffic. Anyhoo I went to the bathroom before we left, and remember I took the water pill. I had to go while stuck in the parking lot at the school. By the time I got back home I was about to burst. And of course Ginger had to jump on me and hit my bladder with her paw! dumb dog.

25 11 2009
Witchypoo

Hi, Ladies. Sweetlara, yeah…the school parking lots can be complete mayhem in the am. Once you’re in it – you’re trapped for a while.

Your doctor(s) sound frustrating. You have to wonder, do they not realize that YOU know your own body better than anyone? To just start retaining significant amounts of water weight within a short span of time doesn’t sound right. What, do you have to blow up like a complete marshmallow for someone to check out possible sources? Sheez. I hope you’re feeling better soon.

Ginger sounds like a devoted doggie. Is she better about not tearing apart your apartment while everyone is gone? Those little beagles really can get into mischief while they’re alone; our little guy couldn’t stand to be left at home before we got the little girl to keep him company, (she’s his half-sister – same dad, different mom). He would get up in the livingroom window sill to watch us pull out, stick his nose straight up in the air, and just start howwwwwwwling. He sounded so sad. Beagles are pack dogs; they need company as much as possible. Our little guy would rip up whatever he could get his paws on…but, he was still a puppy then, so I guess that’s to be expected. Beagles are such sweet-natured dogs – but they can be stubborn, too.

Good job on the eating right, exercising regularly, and water intake. It’s hard to make time for yourself sometimes, but you can get more done when you’re feeling your best, huh?

Janey? Are you pretty busy lately? I’m assuming so, since you go to school, have a job, and spend time with your little Derek. Get enough rest, Sweetie, and take care of yourself.

Have a great day, Girls, and take care.

25 11 2009
lara21167

Witchy yes my family doc is frustrating and my gyno who seems to pay more attention still doesn’t think it’s major. Funny thing is this started because I had a bladder infection and went to the PCP and convinced him to try me with the water pill. But the damn antibiotic he gave me for the UTI well as per usual with antibiotics I’m having a bad reaction. I only had 3 days worth and I still have 2 doses which I don’t think I’m going to take, this morning I really feeling bad and I called my doc. He said the thing to watch for is swelling in the face and throat Idk, I’m not taking anymore the infection is pretty well gone and I have cranberry pills I can take to make sure.

And that’s funny with your beagle, Ginger will run into my daughters bedroom and look out the window when someone leaves. If we all leave she cries and howls. Luckily we only have one neighbor right now and he said it doesn’t bother him. I’d love to get another dog to keep her company (oh and crating her, you’d think someone was killing her) but we are only allowed one pet.

25 11 2009
lara21167

Oh and I probably won’t get a chance to check back before tomorrow, if I do tomorrow so HAPPY THANKSGIVING everyone!!

26 11 2009
janey

im here witchyyyy.!
and lara.!

so. guess who just got her first paycheck.?!
extremely excited. it was all official looking.
hahaha. working on black friday fro 9.30 am to 6 pm
and then saturday and sunday from 12 pm to 8 pm.

yea im busy. heres what my day looked like today.
quick run down.
woke up at 6.30 am. went downstairs, brushed my teeth [ i like to shower a night so i dnt have to wake up at 5.45 evry mornin]
went back up stairs got dressed, did my hair.
aedan txtd me and said he was comin to get me for school.
so i figured. i have time for breakfast today. im about to make my oatmeal
and i get a txt and hes like im here. i look at the clock. 7.08.
we go to Jedai’s house and pick him and Amanieyh up and drive to school. we get to school at 7.26. so we park and get out of the car and im like great i have time to get my coffee.
and aedans like. OMG.! and i was like what.?
and he was all. my ipod.!
and i said. aedan NO.
hes like. we have to.
and i was like. its 7.27.
and he said. we can make it.
and i said. fine. you owe me a cup of coffee.
so we get in the car and drive ALL the way back to his house, pick up his ipod, drive back to school and then look at the time. 7.46. the bell ahd JUST rung to go to class. and that when we remembered. we had homeroom today. we only have hr like 5 times a year. they were handing out papers about h1n1. whatever. so he walks w me to the caf. need a pass. no coffee. then we walk o my class get a pass and g back to the caf. COFFEE.!
so then im like. aederrs. you an go to class.
and hes like. idk what i have. lol
we make plans to meet up for lunch and part ways. then i went to lab, then drumming then gym. then i had lunch. aedan and i meet up. we are in the car about to leave. kenya calls and shes all wait for me. its 11. 08. the bell for class rings at 11.35. taco bell.? no where near the school. so we wait and after like 6 minutes she calls and goes never mind you guys can just leave. and aedan looks at me and goes. we can make this. so we go to taco bell and order for me him and jedai. two soft tacos, 89 cent nacho kit, no sour cream, volcano burrito, a cheesy gordita crunch and a medium mountain dew no ice. we get our food. 11.26. we drive back school walk in the door at 11.37. we get 5 minutes to switch classes. so then i had science, math and english. test in english. aced it. so aedan and i go pick up his brother. im like. have to b at work at 4. his brother got out at 3.30. he dropped me off at home in the process killed a spider and said “skinny black man who is oddly large” and made plans for movies on saturday after work. got home changed, went to taco bell and made it to work at 3.59.
got out of work at 9.15. going bed now at 11.20. lol

and btw. dereks mom is back. thats news to me. no one told me.
she better b being nice to him or me and her are gonna have a few words and someones teeth are gonna be missing. despite the fact that hes my brothers son he feels like MY son and tht little boy means everything to me and i will fuck her world UP if she messes up again.

i will be back tomorrow.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING.!

26 11 2009
Witchypoo

Ladies…it’s 10:56 pm in my lil’ part of the world- getting tired. My mom and I had a loooooooong talk tonight, (right before I went out shoe-shopping, and then shopping for Thanksgiving dinner supplies). Anyhoo, we got a lot of things cleared away, (not really old things…like from my upbringing – but the aftermath of it, and the last 5 years). It’s good enough, and we both feel a lot better. I have missed her – she’s one of those people that you don’t know whether to you want to hug her, or shake her, (sometimes both emotions take place within a very short time period). I’m also relieved that my boys will be able to have more contact with my parents; Baby talked to my mom on the phone for a while tonight – it made her really happy. So, we’ll be spending the holidays together again, just like it used to be.

Brainy-Janey…you have a hectic life. It sounds a lot like mine around that time period – all the running back & forth, racing against the clock with friends in tow and all that. As a matter of fact, I STILL find myself racing around like that quite often. Oh well…better than not having enough to do and being bored, huh? You sound very protective of your little Derek – that’s a very nice quality, Sweetie. You have a loving heart, and I’m sure that warm affection benefits your little nephew greatly. Have a WONDERFUL Thanksgiving, Janey-Dear, and enjoy your time with family and friends. Happy Thanksgiving, (early), to you also, Sweetlara, and Goldie – if you’re reading.

Take care, Girls.

26 11 2009
janey

happy thanksgivingg.!
i just had dinner w my family.
going over my god sisters housee
to finish stuffing my face lol

27 11 2009
lara21167

Hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving. My was hectic but fun. I made a huge dinner. Spend a $100 on dinner, I still can’t believe that and that was with $20 off!! Anyhoo my MIL just had a hip replacement, so i made dinner here and took the whole damn thing to my MIL’s. She really, really appreciated it so it made it worthwhile. And we had a really good time. Also I finally got to meet my Great nephew, my brother’s grandson. My niece, his mother called me in the morning and was stuck outside her so called friends house who was mad at her and wouldn’t let them in, so I picked them up. My nephew is soooooo adorable. He looks like my oldest sister and his grandfather. Actually my dad had this old picture of a baby that was framed and I’m not sure who it was but Jaiden looks just like that pic. And he took right to me. Such a happy easily adjusted baby. His first birthday is Saturday. so how did everyone elses Thanksgiving go?

27 11 2009
lara21167

Oh Witchy I am glad to hear you and your mom are working things out. I’m sure it was hard on you not talking. I hope all goes well.

28 11 2009
Witchypoo33

Thanks, Sweetlara. Yeah, we wound up spending a lot of Thanksgiving with my parents, along with my brother, and his wife and little daughter, (she’s so adorable…3 weeks younger than Heath). The little ones played for hours, running all over and having so much fun together. Then, today, my Mom called me, and we talked on the phone for another couple of hours about everything and nothing…just like we used to do. My Dad sent an email telling me how happy they are about the reconnection, and how much it adds to their lives. They really do love the boys so much. Anyway, I’ll talk more about it when it’s not so late, (it’s 10:23 pm here…getting sleepy).

Take care, Girls…and nightie-night.

28 11 2009
janey

just woke up. about o get ready for work.
but. i just wanna say that if she thinks shes taking my nephew out of new york shes gott another thing headed her way. derek isnt going ANYWHERE specially with her. not again. so she can go to arizona by herself. or she can stay here and take care of her son. let her try and pack him up. she’ll have to kill me to take him anywhere outside of schenectady

29 11 2009
lara21167

Such a sad situation Janey. I agree with you, the only security that little boy has had is with your family and the other grandparents.

29 11 2009
Witchypoo33

Hi Girls. How’s it going? Why does Derek’s mom keep wanting to run off to all these other places with him? Does she have family/friends spread out all over or something? Uprooting him all the time isn’t good for him. Play it smart and calm though, Janey. Derek needs you to keep your head in order to be effective. I know it’s hard when your emotions are involved, but just remember to stay steady for him. That’s what he needs from you, Sweetie.

More later, and take care.

30 11 2009
janey

sorry about the outburst. i was just mad. i’d just heard my mom sayin that dereks mom has a friend in arizona and she wants to go down there cause her friends were telling her things were “good” down there. i know you said calm but i just hate her. and i MEAN it. she wants derek.? she WILL have to KILL me to get to him if i dnt kill her first. shes so immature and stupid. she leaves him here when hes barely two years old to go to puerto rico to chase some woman beater. and before that. she just fucked up my brothers world and mine and my whole family’s. had she been HERE doing her job and taking care of my nephew and my two month old niece, instead of leaving them with god knows who cause her mom had to work, so she could go to disney world with her dad to play “i wanna b a princess”, MAYBE. no. no maybes. if she HAD been here being a mother and not a fucking child my niece would still be alive. she took her away from me. its her fault she died and she WONT take Derek away from me, i wont let her. i am by nature i guess really good with little kids, but derek and yandeliz [derek’s sister] they were my brothers WORLD. and mine. and they still are. except i miss yandeliz soooo much and last nite, my brother emailed me a picture that his friend drew of a picture he had of him holding his kids. but he sent it like clipped. it was the actual picture of my brother and the kids and the drawn part was just of my niece. i miss her.
and derek.? he was so overprotective of her and now no one talks about her and he doesnt even remember her.

2 12 2009
janey

there was a fight in shool today.
someonee got stabbed.
just got home from work.
boss is a bitch.
gonna do hw.
shower.
bed.

2 12 2009
lara21167

Someone got stabbed?? Are they Ok? Why can’t anyone fight fair anymore. I mean if you have to get in a fight, just fight, no weapons. Bosses are almost always Bitches Janey Men and Women lol.

2 12 2009
janey

yea. two guys were fighting after the second bell in the morning as soon as classes started. and i guess the one dude got really mad and pulled out a knife. he was going to for upper body but the other blocked with his leg and that one dude ended up stabbing him in the leg. they rushed the injured guy to Ellis Hospital which is right behind the school. he is stable they told us today over the P.A system and he got 4 stitches. and the other guy was arrested and charged with attempted and premeditated. he’s 18. and then one of the bus drivers was arrested yesterday also for getting into a “physical altercation” with one of the students on the bus.
my schools nuts.

wheres witchy.?

3 12 2009
lara21167

I think Witchy is busy with the holidays. She hasn’t been on BB much either. The is a guy in a neighboring town that shot and killed his younger brother for making too much noise in the house. They were grown men living with their mom. The whole world is nuts.

3 12 2009
Witchypoo33

Yup, Sweetlara, I’d have to agree with you on that one, (the whole world being nuts…or, at least appearing so).

I’m sorry, Brainy-Janey…I HAVE been insanely busy lately, (like so many people this time of year). A lot’s been going on, and I’m kind of scattered. DON’T get even minimally involved in any of the violent crap that is exploding all around you, Sweetie. Just keep moving forward with a smile, and being a great aunt/friend/caretaker for little Derek. I’m not implying that you involve yourself in any of that kind of negative shenanigans…I’m just doing the preemptive busybody action that I can’t help myself from doing where you’re involved, Janey-Me-Dear. Try not to get too annoyed with it, (that’s what I tell my spawn, anyway). I just can’t help it.

More tomorrow…take care, and nightie-night, Girls.

3 12 2009
janey

i wont. but she makes me sooo mad. i hate her. just the thought of not having derek. makes me really angry. i want him here. he’s MINE.

anyways. tired. i finished reading my book. about to start reading the assignment for school and then read another book.!

3 12 2009
janey

so munchkin is here.
so is his imaginary friend, michael.
hmm. i dnt like seeing him talk to himself like that.
creeps me out.

3 12 2009
lara21167

Janey you’ve probably seen too many movies like me lol. Imaginery friend turn out to be real ghost or something.

4 12 2009
janey

lara, haha. no it REALLY creeps me out. like he’s really sitting there having full blown conversations with himself. he asks and waits for the answer. its crazy. i was like derek stop talkin to urself. he was like “i not and michael dnt like you”

4 12 2009
Witchypoo33

Yeah, Janey…that would probably give me the heebie-jeebies, also. Does Derek have regular access to other children to play with? I mean, an imaginary friend isn’t necessarily a BAD thing…he has imagination, if nothing else, right? Is Derek pretty intelligent, Janey? (Great idea for me to be asking YOU about Derek’s merits, huh, considering YOU’RE probably his biggest fan, right?!) Lots of kids have the imaginary-pal-deal going on at one point or another in their lives; at least that sort of friend can’t ever let you down, yes? Derek probably just gets a real sense of security and comfort from the “association”. Try asking about his buddy – that’ll give you a sense of how entrenched the image/idea is in Derek’s mind.

Take care, Girls.

4 12 2009
lara21167

Ok Janey now your freaking me out, too Amityville horror for me!! Remember Jodi, who in the remake was the ghost of one of the murdered girls. But in the original movie and the book was more like a demon or something. Ok don’t me to scare you.

4 12 2009
janey

lol witchy hs really smart AND smart mouthed.
crap. dinners here. ill be bak later

6 12 2009
janey

omg. so yea derek is really smart. in certain ways. idk. an yea he’s around lil kids a lot cause his grandma babysits a lot. so idk. its prolly just a phase but its creepy lol
1:00am just got home from Maria’s party. i wasnt gonna go but i felt bad.
and. it was dead. it was over by nine and then the after party was dead ER.!
more later. im hungry :]

7 12 2009
janey

where IS everybody.??? i feel like im the only one that has no life now lol

7 12 2009
Witchypoo33

Hey Brainy-Janey…how’s it going? Did you ever get something to eat? What happens to me all the time is I get busy, start running around all over – errands here and there – and I forget to eat. Finally, I’ll start to wonder why I’m getting a headache, maybe feeling a little shaky, with an upset stomach and all that…and I’ll remember: TIME TO EAT! A lot of times I don’t even know I’m hungry until I smell something good to eat, and that’s when my stomach will start letting me know to fill it up. I just had lunch while sitting here at the computer, (convenient to accomplish 2 tasks at once)…sushi. I LOVE sushi, and lots of other Japanese foods. As a matter-of-fact, I can’t really think of too many foods I absolutely don’t like at all. I’m not too picky, (as far as my tastebuds are concerned, I mean. I DO try to limit sugars and simple starches, since they don’t provide any real nutritional function). I don’t know why I got onto this subject.

My mom asked me what I wanted for Christmas from her and my dad. She already got me something to unwrap, and I could tell she was hoping I’d want some sort of gift card…since she worries over what to get me. Gift cards are perfect, since you wind up getting exactly what you wanted. I’ll bet you can guess what I picked, huh? Yup…Victoria’s Secret. I’m kind of predictable about certain things. We’ve been ordering gifts online from various companies/retailers that provide what we want; part of my present is some clothes from Vicky’s…they have a great winter sale going on right now. I’m getting a couple of coats, some dress slacks, a skirt, a couple of sweaters, and a couple of other tops. I already gave hubby my perfume list for him to choose from, (he’ll most likely just go with #1 on the list…makes sense, huh?), and I might pick out some earrings, also. Yup…typically “female” things. I love all the girlie-goodies – I really do. The boys are getting a mixture of computer components to put together their own unit, (they each already have laptops, and #1 spawn also has a desktop we gave him for his birthday)…but hubby thinks it would be educational and rewarding for them to “build” a computer, also. Oldest spawn wants a new Ipod, and the ever-popular gift option of specific shoes he’s picked out online, along with some gaming things for his computer…like a special keyboard, a couple of games, (like ‘Call Of Duty’…have you heard of that?), while #2 spawn is getting a new tv for his room, in addition to the computer components, and whatever else we come up with, (he’s not very effusive about what kinds of gift-items he wants…we practically have to be mind-readers with him). Baby spawn has been asking for a new bike, so we bought him one at a local bikeshop; they’ll even hold it there for us so that he can’t stumble upon it before Christmas. Hubby also has some more ideas for Binks…racecar tracks and things like that. Little ones are so fun to buy for…they love EVERYTHING. What about you, Janey? What are you asking for, (this is where I say that I’m assuming you celebrate Christmas, and apologize for being presumptuous if you don’t. Sorry if I’m being insensitive or whatever…I just can’t remember from last year if you celebrate Christmas or not. Oh…I forgot about hubby: he’s getting components for a new computer he’ll put together; that’s his major hobby – besides the time he spends with the boys and me. He actually made a wall-to-wall computer desk/storage area for him, Baby and I to all sit at when we’re on our respective computers; that way, we can all sit together and not be isolated in different parts of the house. The 2 older clown-spawn either sit in here with us with their laptops while watching tv, or they hang out in their rooms at their own desks doing computer-things.

What about you, Sweetlara? You sound like you’ve gotten just about all your shopping done already. Are you all set for the holidays?

Take care, Girls.

8 12 2009
janey

i want a waist peacoat and either a camera or a 32 gig ipod tough w voice control. not having a good day right now. at all. and i cant vent on here lol sorry. my violence knows know bounds when im this riled up/ fired up and only one thing is on my mind. ATTACK. so ill b back tomorrow after school if ive calmed down and have found something new to talk about

8 12 2009
janey

ipod TOUCH. lol

8 12 2009
Witchypoo33

Janey-dear…yup, one of the coats I’m getting is a heather-grey, wool waistcoat with buttoned side-tabs on the waist and sleeves, and a removable hood – so cute. The other one is a classic 3/4 length wool “trenchcoat” style in winter-white…also with buttoned side-tabs at the waist for more definition. Don’t get me going on clothes…I’ll go on indefinitely. I LOVE them, (not exactly an unusual trait among the female crowd, huh?). But, if you ever want to chat “clothes”…I’m all ears, (eyes). I also love perfume, and continually collect new ones I love. Do you wear fragrance, Janey? If so, are you partial to florals, woodsy/green, citrus/fresh, or spicy/Oriental? Then there’s the sub-categories, also. Anyhoo, Ipods…yeah, #1 spawn wants the 16-gig touch. I use my ipod A LOT, everyday, and at night when I go to sleep, also. Mine is a basic 2nd generation 2gb nano…I’ll probably get another one, (upgrade), sooner or later.

Hmmm…violence. Not liking the sound of THAT, Brainy-Janey. Don’t get into any trouble, Sweetie – or mess up your pretty face. How shallow does THAT sound? But really…don’t mess up your face. And, no hurting anyone else…regardless of how big of a douche she/he is; you’ll regret it later. Spawn #1 seems to think he wants to get into competitive boxing. I’m saying “NOT!!!” to that bright idea. There’s NO WAY I’m letting my baby get his head hit repeatedly, or his handsome little face get all screwed up from meeting someone’s damn boxing glove. He can whine and bitch all he wants; the child is lucky I let him play football since the age of 7. I STILL worry about that. A mother’s lot in Life…to worry. *Sigh*! (Melodramatic enough for you? Hahaha).

Nightie-night, and take care, (that means to be sensible, also, and stay on the positve, productive road, Sweetie).

8 12 2009
janey

i LOVE clothes. aeropastel, american eagle, p.c.x, L.L bean, weather vein, urban behavior, wet seal, n.y & co. all my favorite stores to shop at.! nd dnt even get me started on shoes and purses. lol

violence. not messing my face up. about to kill my step dad i hate him. id wish he’d choke and die. when i get beyond pissed, u can be 6 foot 8 nd weigh over 200 lbs nd i garantee u, if ur the one tht got me THT pissed. one hit. thats all i need. one hit and ur ass is getting knocked the hell out. i dnt know my own strength when im mad and he knows tht. ive beat his ass b4. guess he cant get enough.

8 12 2009
Witchypoo33

Janey-Dear…what has you so worked up? Is your step-dad harming you in any way? There has to be a reason you’d feel so passionate about this subject. Does he treat your mother right? Is he just an all-around horse’s ass? Are you ok, Sweetie, or in some kind of distress?

8 12 2009
janey

hes jus an asshole. and i hate how he talks to my mother.
i do. i really do.

9 12 2009
Witchypoo33

That must be hard to hear him talk poorly to your mom, Janey. I’m sorry you have to live in such a stressful environment. I wish I could say something to make you feel better, Sweetie. Try to be happy and enjoy the holiday season; I hope that doesn’t sound totally lame. I guess all I can tell you is that you can always get out your frustrations here…and, I’m sure you have some close friends to talk with about it, right? Check in again soon, and take care.

Nightie-night.

9 12 2009
janey

SNOW DAY.! ugh. u gotta love SCSD.!!!!
ill go to my cousins later and built a snow man w the kids.
im okay. i just get really pissed off really quickly nd very possessive/ overprotective where my mother is concerned.

9 12 2009
Witchypoo33

Good morning, Janey. Ok…I see. Well, I’m relieved, (for your sake), that it’s not as bad as I was picturing. With everything that goes on, (you hear it on the news, read about it, see it all around)…you know, domestic violence and all that. I didn’t know what to think when you were saying how angry and upset you were.

Have fun on your snow day, and take care.

9 12 2009
janey

thanks witchy.
i mean we’ve gotten into it a lot me and him.
two days after i turned 15 i beat his ass cause he
pushed me. i told him i was gonna cut his hand off if he ever
put his hands on me. so he hasnt cause i beat his ass pretty good.
but when he yells at my mom.?
HELL NO. that shit does NOT fly wit me at all.

on other news.
Dereks mom is preggo.
she is still talking about arizona. a
but i doubt it. what she doesnt know.
is that all the paperwork went thru and
my brother is comin at the end of january and
he is coming to get his son.
im going to be really sad. really sad. but derek will b w his father and
i will feel much more calmer than when hes with that stupid bitch.

9 12 2009
janey

i wonder where lara is. we havent heard from her in a while.
are you there.?
ur prolly busy w work and kristy.
check in when u get a chance.

10 12 2009
janey

got a college brochure and invitation for houghton christian college in NY. im interested but. im def waiting for january to come around and im checkin my mail every day until the one im waiting for finally get here. NYU. i wanna go there. i do. they just emailed me about the informational papers they are sending in january and their summer program.

11 12 2009
lara21167

I’m here. Yes I’ve been busy. Janey it’s got to be hard to hear your step father talk badly to your mom. But it’s up to her to do something about it. All you can do is try and talk to her. Good luck with your college choice.

Witchy, I just need to get Kristy that X box thing and the babies presents. There are 3 on hubby’s side (maybe 4 if he comes before Christmas) and 1 on my side. And whatever I get hubby which won’t be much, we don’t get each other much. Oh and Richie who always wants money. But I already got him an I pod and I’m thinking of getting a cell phone for him. An ATT Go phone, me and Kristy have one and I really like it. You can purchase a plan for a month or just buy minutes. Makes it convient. He has a track phone but never has minutes, so I thought the gophone may be better and track phones if you use 1 second they charge a full minute they just suck. But otherwise I am ready.

One of my besties from high school is getting married tomorrow. 2nd time around. I’m looking forward to it. I haven’t been to a wedding, well since her 1st one lol.

11 12 2009
Witchypoo33

Janey…that sounds exciting about your college prospects! Keep your goals clearly in mind, and don’t get off-track in your pursuit. When others are distracting you with b.s…just remember to keep your eye on the prize, and it won’t be so hard to stay removed from the negative crap that’s going on around you. You don’t have to get all caught up in other peoples’ messed-up lives…just focus on your own aspirations, and stay close to the people you love. It’s really as straight-forward as that. STAY POSITIVE, (I probably sound like Tony Robbins – if you’re familiar with THAT particular motivational speaker. Hahaha). Keep me updated about your college prospects, Sweetie.

Sweetlara…have a ton of fun at your friends’ wedding; if anything, it’ll be cool to get all prettied up in a nice dress and heels, (or, nice dress-pants, or whatever). Do you know/like the groom-to-be? It’s always nice when your friends marry people you can genuinely say you’re fond of. I don’t like faking enthusiasm – but I’ll put on a good “game-face” if I have to.

Shopping…we’ve got most of it done, but not all. Baby “needs” a few more gifts to open, (he doesn’t really “need” them, but you know how little ones love to open presants under the tree). Speaking of that, like most towns, there are various gift-drives going on right now where I live for different ages/groups of people in need at Christmastime. I always get several for children around our area, and this year I picked two tickets from the “Giving Tree” in our local drugstore, while at the pharmacy waiting for a prescription to be filled, (yeah…another spawn is sick…this time it’s middle-spawn who’s lungs are inflamed and in need of extra medication; he has a high fever, too…viruses are going all around the schools). Anyhoo, one ticket is for a 7 year-old little girl who’d like an art-supply kit, so I’ll pick that up tonight when hubby and I go shopping; the other is for a little 5 year-old boy who wants a toy relating to G.I. Joe, (so many little guys are into that because of the release of the movie a while back of ‘G.I. Joe – The Rise Of Cobra’. I know this from Baby’s preschool class, among other sources). When I read that ticket, it really tugged at my heartstrings, (even more than usual), because it reminded me so much of Binks, (age-wise, and the wish for G.I. Joe Cobra-related toys). I can’t stand the thought of little ones going without at any time of the year…but the holidays are especially hard for children who have to do without. I hope all the tiny people out there get at least one thing they want for the holidays.

Take care.

11 12 2009
lara21167

That’s great Witchy that you do that. I’m always “I’d like to do this or that” and not have time or money to. One thing I’ve always wanted to do is sponser a child, you know the Christian Childrens network thing. With the way my finances are right now I’d sign up and not be able to send. That wouldn’t be good.

So I’ve only met my friends B/f once. Seems nice. But she’s told me hes a drinker and starting stupid fights. No name calling or pushing or shoving but red flags rang out to me. And I told her to be careful, but I guess she is pretty sure of him to be marrying him.

11 12 2009
lara21167

Oh Witchy since you were “talking” about Aquarian traits on BB I do have to share my Aquarian daughter’s continueing torment of her English teacher. This poor teacher is a total dip from what Kristy tells me. She used to be a 1st grad teacher and treats her 7th graders as if they were in 1st grade. Well this is so not the way to handle Kristy, she’ll eat you alive lol. This poor teacher keeps giving her lunch detentions for talking in class ect. But she talks to her like a 1st grader. The teacher sends me emails asking for suggestions and I don’t know how to politely tell her that she needs to treat Kristy like the intellegent child she is or she’ll never get any respect from her. Then Kristy does dumb things like purposely tripping and falling in front of the teacher. ANd she had a rubber band on her wrist and showed the teacher a red mark on her wrist. The teacher asked how she got the red mark and kristy pulls the rubber band and gets ready to let go and the teacher grabs it and says “don’t do that you’ll hurt yourself” SHe’s just doing that stuff to torment the teacher. She doesn’t have any problems with any other teacher. So I told Kristy next lunch detention she gets will be $5 off of her report card money she gets. That may help.

11 12 2009
Witchypoo33

Yeah…it does sound like Kristy is playing with the poor woman. Maybe it would help to appeal to Kristy’s sense of compassion…how it’s a matter of personal integrity to treat “weaker” people more gently, rather than to make their lives more difficult. Intelligent children tend to respond very well to acts of faith…confidence in their ability to do the “right” thing – and nods to their ingrained intelligence. My kids generally live up to our expectations of the honest, hard-working, decent people we know they can be, (notice I said GENERALLY; everyone screws up sometimes). Anyhoo, treating Kristy like a trusted “ear” in this matter might convince her of the merit of being more compassionate toward her teacher…and others like her. I try to get my kids to imagine themselves in the other person’s shoes. Sometimes it works…and sometimes they just look at me like I’m daft. It’s always worth a try, though.

12 12 2009
janey

lol i just have to say.
Lara. Kristy sounds like my type of girl.
hahaha. im rude when ppl treat me like that.
im naturally rude ish but idk get me pissed off and you better run fast and far.
my freshman year my global history teacher. total bitch. she was a general in the army or some shit like that. Ms. Holcomb.
God, to this day i see her and its like “oh god its her”
so she was real condescending. and she like the fact that she had authority.
until she met me. sounds cocky. but its true. i burts her bubble real quick.
she came at me one day like i was one of the ppl under her command in the army.
and i git up and in her face and was like
“i dnt know what division in the army you come from, but this is NOt the army. this is a classroom, and im a child and you WILL treat me as such or your ass is getting cursed the hell out everyday. now, my mom doesnt talk to me like that and if she did, i wouldnt answer. so i damn sure aint gonna answer to you”
i remember that speech cause she wrote me up and quoted me word for word.
and got my mom on the phone for a conference with the principal and her.
my moms answer.?
“why are you calling me for.? she told you i dont speak to her that way. she isnt gonna listen to you so just do what she tells you and save yourself a headache” hahaa i love my mom.

anyways. people and their stupid shit. it gets me mad. i dnt like seeing people i care about taken advantage of. dont play games with people who know how to play them better.
and trust me. i KNOW how to play.

that great that you do that witchy. its awesome.
we have a toy drive at our school every year and we have a food drive as well.
we had one for the soldiers i think it was not too long ago.
and we had one for the homeless shelter for thanksgiving.

12 12 2009
lara21167

Janey your funny. Yea just because you were in the army or whatever doesn’t mean you treat your students like that. everyone else was probably afraid of her. I try to appeal to Kristy’s sense of compassion with this teacher Witchy. Her and her friends seem to have made a game out of tormenting her. Now she has Kristy sitting at desk with sides on it. Kristy calls it a box. Her 5th grade teacher who thinks the world of her and I think she will be the student he always remembers. It was his first year teaching and had the most challenging class he’ll probably ever have. But he really earned Kristy’s respect by the end of the school year. He always talks about her, she had a really bad attitude and gave him problems for the first part of the year. But he realize that she was very intellegent and really wanted her to do well. Anyway he’s told Kristy’s friends mother that if Kristy didn’t like someone she had this look and you better watch out. Maybe I should have the English teacher call him and ask him how to handle her lol.

12 12 2009
janey

ive tormented my teachers before.
nothing irks them more than students with heads down.
or their head phones in lol
im just the type of person to speak my mind.
if you doin it wrong its wrong. fix it. you dnt. you cant say shit to me until you do

13 12 2009
janey

so my brother is an asshole. remember i said he was coming at the end of january.? HE’ HERE RIGH NOW.!!!!
im so excited. there was bangin on my bedroom door. i thought it was mommy.
so i open half asleep and im like “what.!”
and hes all “what do you mea what.? show respect to your big brother”
and i was like “OMG youre here.! at 7.30am. are you out of ur mind.!!!? but youre here.!” and we hugged and screamed some more.
im so happy right now.

13 12 2009
lara21167

Awww, Janey I’m happy your big brother is home. You seem so fond of him. Is he going to stay through Christmas?
The wedding went well. A little much for a second wedding in my opinion. But it is the first for him. Didn’t get to talk to my friend much, you know how busy a bride is at a reception. But i danced a little. I got Kristy to do the twist with me lol. Then I did the Funky dance with her. It was fun.

13 12 2009
janey

lol it sounds like you had a great time lara.
i dnt dance w my mom. she hates my music and i hate hers haha
yes i love my big brother. hes leaving thursday.
but hes comin to see derek and thats all that matters.
im so happy i went to get my hair done last night.
havin my brothers gf come to the house and my hair a mess.? no.

i had it dyed black. im excited. i havent seen my hair all black since i was thirteen. haha. and i cut an inch off. haha. tuesday i have to go back to get the second half done. im having the ends dyed red.

15 12 2009
lara21167

I love the different colors you us Janey. My greys are starting to show a bit so time to start thinking about coloring. I’d like to finish college and get a better paying job first. So I can afford to go to a high quality salon. Never had my hair dyed and I’m scared. lol.

15 12 2009
janey

Ever.??? dying your own hair is so much fun though.!
i only go to the salon when its time to get it trimmed and
when i wanna do coloring that i know i cant do myself.
maybe like 3 times a year.? idk.
but. just pick a color that fits your personality.
thats why i always have red and black.
black cause i guess im “deep” and red cause i KNOW im feisty lol
my natural brown curls dnt really match me.

16 12 2009
lara21167

I like my color lol. But the greys are starting to come in faster than I can pluck them out. ๐Ÿ˜ฆ But I can’t complain I know a lot of women have gone grey much younger than me. Anyhoo, I used to get perms all the time and was afraid to color, I was afraid I’d dry out my hair. And if I try to do it myself I’ll screw it up sure as sh**

16 12 2009
janey

lol. dnt pluck ur greys.
ive got some too [gasp]
i know. its derek’s fault.
burt i plucked them and three grew back in tht spot
and they grow back thicker. so dnt pluck them lol

my brother will b gone tomorrow b4 i wake up for school.
=[ im gonna miss him. i dnt want him to leave.
derek is so happy w his daddy right now. sigh.

18 12 2009
janey

????
is everyone ready for christmas to be here already.??
i am. its 8ยบ here. and its too cold. its just. time foยฎ winter to b over. >[

18 12 2009
lara21167

Winter hasn;t even officially started Janey!! We are supposed to get snow tomorrow, I can’t wait. I still have some last minute things to get, no big deal. And bake some cookies, otherwise I’m all set!!

18 12 2009
janey

yes it has.!
do see the snow on the ground.?!
it was -1 this morning.!

18 12 2009
lara21167

Technically it’s still fall and I don’t have snow on the groung yet. Supposed to get some late tonite into tomorrow Yay!! We don’t usually get a whole lot of snow so yea I’m excited. ๐Ÿ™‚

18 12 2009
lara21167

Oh then it can get warm right after the NY and I’ll be happy.

18 12 2009
janey

im bout to move where u live lol

19 12 2009
Witchypoo33

Hi, Ladies. Where I live, one day it can be rainy and warm, (relatively)…like 45 -50 degrees, and the next can bring a cold snap with temperatures in the teens at night. Washingtonians always joke that if you don’t like the weather around here, (especially on the western side of the state, near the waterways), just wait a day, (sometimes even an hour or so), and there’ll be some sort of change. It does help to keep things interesting, I guess.

Take care.

19 12 2009
janey

Witchy.!
i miss you lol

19 12 2009
janey

elson’s got a court date.
1/20/10
his ex got the letter
she just cursed my mom out
she must want to die.
goin to her house tomorrw.
fuckin her upp.
she curseddd at my moms.
sonn. ohhhhh. you guys dnt even kno.

20 12 2009
Witchypoo

Janey-Dear…you tell me you miss me – then you go and talk like you’re going to do something to get yourself in trouble. I bet your mom doesn’t want you doing anything violent, either, Sweetie. Just think about it before you do anything you might regret. Give it some careful thought, please. You’re making Witchy very nervous for you with that kind of talk. Ready? Couple of deeeeeeeep breaths…and keep your eye on the positve goals you’ve set for yourself: a good education, college, family, friends, happy times. Think about it, Brainy-Janey.

Take care, and nightie-night.

20 12 2009
Witchypoo

should read, “positive”…(p.s…don’t do it…don’t do it…don’t do it….you’re a good, smart, nice young woman…don’t do it)…something to be said for subliminal persuasion, yes?

20 12 2009
janey

im calm – er.
but. i still want to hit her.
im not tho.
i dnt wanna mess things up for my brother
should things get out of hand and i end up hurting her real bad
plus my mom told me she’s pregnant. so this being said.
she has one more strike left. 3 strikes youre out, right.?
i pray that she wait til after she gets an abortion or has the baby
[she doesnt know yet] to use up that last strike, because i know myself
and i know that if something happens like this again.
there is NO holding me back.

21 12 2009
janey

my cousin Adnery is getting induced tomorow you guys.!
super exciting. she’s having a girl after two boys who are 10 and 6.
i cant wait to change diapers.! lol
nd my cosin Eryka is due in march.
she is havin a boy after two girs who are 3 and 2

22 12 2009
Witchypoo

Hey, Janey…that’s exciting! By now, your cousin has had the baby. Did everything go well? Hope so.

Take care.

22 12 2009
lara21167

Janey, Janey Janey, that temper of yours is going to get you in trouble!! Glad you thought things thru before going after her. Yes that would hurt your brother in court. You have to show what an awesome Aunt you are!! Congrats on the new baby. Witchy our weather is goofy too, maybe not as bad as yours but it does change pretty quick.

22 12 2009
lara21167

And let your mom fight her own battles, I’m sure she can, she may just have a different way of doing things. (I can see Kristy being like you, quick to defend me, because i am more “you can catch more flys with honey” type peron lol.

23 12 2009
janey

i cant stand it when she does that.
she is just like.
oh well. she’ll get hers. and i b like.
mom im ABOUT to give her hers if she dnt stop.

anyways.
WINTER BREAKKKKKK.! WOOOOOO.!
lol im goin to new jersey to my aunts house for break. cant wait
i leave monday. i’ll still have my laptop so i’ll b checkin in.

24 12 2009
lara21167

Janey your mother sounds like me and is very wise lol. Karma is a powerful thing. So if I don’t check back in Merry Christmas to you and Witchy. Rowdy happy Hannika (excuse my spelling) and yea I know I’m late with that. Btw, as I am on a “expanding my cultural understanding” thing. Would you mind posting a bit on Jewish holidays and traditions. I’d be very interested. Another holiday is Kawansa I’d like to know more about. Seems these 2 take a back seat to Christmas, which I do understand that the United States is a christian country with religious freedom, but I’d like to know more about different cultures than what I have been raised in.

24 12 2009
Witchypoo

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you, Girls!

Take care.

25 12 2009
janey

happy holidays.!

4 01 2010
Witchypoo

Hey there, Ladies…Happy 2010! What’s going on lately? Hope things are terrific for you.

Take care.

5 01 2010
janey

happy 2010.!!!!!
i b around later. how were your holidays.?

6 01 2010
lara21167

Hey ladies, my holidays were good, quiet ate a lot. Now I messed up with Unit 7 at college. I thought Unit 7 was starting today. It ended yesterday and now I have to make up my work. Teach me to pay more attention.

6 01 2010
janey

mines were awesome til i went to school.
got suspended for fighting some girl. ugh

7 01 2010
Witchypoo

Oh…Janey-Janey-Janey. How long are you suspended for, Sweetie? Do you still get to make up your schoolwork, so as not to fall behind? Nobody got hurt too terribly, did they?

Our holidays were awesome, (other than me, Jerry, and Chance recovering from pneumonia. We were a little more tired than usual, but it was still great). We spent lots of time with my parents, little brother, and his wife and little girl. Christmas Eve my Mom always has a bunch of family and friends over, and Christmas Day is traded between me, my sister-in-law, and now my brother is starting in on the rotation. Since my sister-in-law is recently divorced, she’s living in an apartment and doesn’t particularly want a huge gathering there on Christmas Day, so I had it, (it was her turn, but we changed things around) for her and Jerry’s parents…then, afterward, we went over to my brother’s, (it had already been planned a few months ago for him to have my side of the family at his place), around 5:30 in the evening. He and his wife were having their dinner on the later side, anyway, so we wound up eating a 2nd dinner over at their house with my parents, his wife’s side of the family, my uncle, (Mom’s brother), and various friends popping in and out. It was so nice to be with my parents again, and my mom said it was the best set of holidays for her and my dad during the whole last 5 years that we haven’t seen them. It really was pretty great; my Mom LOVED all the clothes I picked out for her Christmas presant, (I was really second-guessing myself and sweating it while shopping for her, since I’m kind of out of the habit of shopping for my Mom, plus I was really sick while trying to shop for her presants, also. I always get indecisive when I’m not feeling well). She’d mentioned to me that she wanted clothes when I forced gift ideas out of her, (she always tries to say, “Oh Kim, I don’t want you spending money on me when you’ve got those boys to think of”…and various other versions of basically the same idea. Naturally I’m going to get her presants…so I’d prefer she just tell me what she really wants. Anyhoo, everthing I picked out for her was a hit, and it actually all fit, also. My Mom doesn’t like any materials that are at all “scratchy”, or rough, against her skin…she can’t wear certain materials. Plus, she’s so tiny, even small-sizes look like tents to my eye in the stores when I’m trying to size her. For My Dad, we’d already gone in on a laptop that Jerry had found for him as his presant…so that was easy for me. I also spent a lot of time on the phone with my Mom, even though she lives close by and we saw them every few days, anyway. Sometimes we talk for, like, an hour, hour-and-a-half…about everything and nothing…just like we used to. Regardless of times of stress, my mom and I have always enjoyed each other’s company, (kind of a contradiction, but mothers’ and daughters’ relationship dynamics can be pretty complicated…as I’m sure you’re aware of, Brainy-Janey).

What else? Well, our stove/oven went out right before Christmas Day, (not good anytime with a family of 5 to cook for, but right before a big holiday dinner is especially inconvenient). Anyhoo, we had to run out and buy a new one 2 or 3 days before Christmas; I could have done without the extra expense right at the holidays, especially considering that our dishwasher had to be replaced just a couple of weeks before that. Not exactly the best timing, but what are you going to do? Anyway, my new stove works so much better than the old one; it makes cooking easier when all the burners work fully, you know?

I took the boys to see the new ‘Alvin And The Chipmonks’ over Christmas break…they loved it. Yeah, even the older 2 spawn wanted to go and see it, and those lil’ fuzzy furballs are so freakin’ adorable. You just want to reach out and pinch their furry cheeks, you know? We always tease Baby-spawn that he sounds like one of the Chipmunks…he has that cute, Alvin-voice. Speaking of Baby-spawn, he “graduated” from his ‘Little Dragon’ karate’ class to the next level, (he’ll be in with other kids as old as 11 or 12 now). I was a little unsure of whether he should be bumped up right now or not, but his instructors all feel that he’s more than ready, and that he knows some of the more advanced moves better than students a lot older than him. There’s this little girl who’s about a year older than him – Hannah – but she’s just tiny…so petite and darling, (her mother is some kind of Asian ethnicity, and Baby is 1/4 Japanese. These two look like brother and sister, and they’re adorable together) – anyway…what was I saying? Oh, yeah…Hannah is moving up with him, which will be nice for the 2 of them to have each other in the new class. Today Baby-spawn got his 5th and final stripe for this class to put on his belt – black – and so did Hannah. They had a little “ceremony” for them moving up, with the class watching and all that. It was pretty sweet. So, now I’ll REALLY be running around with my head cut off on Thursdays especially, since all 3 boys have to be dropped off and picked up on opposite sides of town, at approximately the same times, for various activities/sports/training. Hubby will be racing from work to meet me when I drop off #2 spawn, then I’ll rip back to where #1 spawn is staying with Baby for his hour-long karate’ class, and I somehow have to get to #1 spawn before all this after weight-lifting to get Big-Boy in the first place. It’s just going to be a lot of strategic running and dropping off, racing back places, meeting hubby in the middle somewhere…I’m getting tired just thinking of it. Heeheehee. Modern-day life, I guess.

So, what’s up in your universes, Ladies?

Take care.

7 01 2010
Witchypoo

To clarify, I meant that Hannah and Baby got their 5th and final stripe for this class to put on their current belt…a black stripe, (NOT a black belt…that’s WAY later). I didn’t know if that was confusing or not the way I wrote it before.

7 01 2010
janey

it sounds like yu had an awesome time.
suspention for fighting on school grounds is 5 days.
ive been avoiding this chick since last year but i just had to hit he cus
she pushed my last button wayy to hard. ugh. um. yea i can make up my work
um. i havent seen her face. i know tht when we were fighting i was hitting her so fast i didn give her a chnce to hit bak. my friend saw her n told me she was lookin rough. oh well. she shoulnt have pushed. she shouldve left me alone and walked away when i told her to. sigh

8 01 2010
Witchypoo

What does this girl have against you, Janey? Did she literally get in your face and push for the fight? Bet she feels pretty stupid right about now, huh? I’m assuming she also got suspended, right? I don’t know…all this violence. How’s your job going, Sweetie? What about the home situation, (are things any better with your stepfather?). Hope so…and chin up, Lil’ Darlin.

Take care.

10 01 2010
janey

she slept with stephon when i was dating him.
and then after me and him broke up, she wouldnt stop with
the shit talkin. she just took it too far.

i hate him, witchy. i wish he was dead with every breath in my body.

job is going good. my cousin was yellin cause i just dropped $80 on a new pair
of Jordans. hesad caue h is brok and his mom wont buy them for him. hes like. u only buy them cause theyre expensive. oh well. not ur problem. i have a job. i can afford them. i like them. im buyin them.
he wants EVERYTHING i have/want. so annoying. like. go be a hater somewhere else. lol

wheres lara?

11 01 2010
lara21167

Lara is her lol. Just catching up. Janey I’d lecture you about fighting buttt… at least you got the best of her lol. And you tried to turn the other cheek. Sounds like you had a great Christmas Witchy. I remember when Richie was taking Karate, he made it to green belt before he quit. Anyhoo when they started sparing, he had to spare against a girl he went to school with, and it was so cute because he absolutely would not hit her back, even though they had on sparing gear and were supposed to hit each other. But he just wouldn’t hit a girl.

So Kristy had her first competition yesterday and they kicked a**. We were scared after Saturday’s practice and this was a local comp which meant the girls would hear it in school if they didn’t do good. But they pulled it together not only took 1st place but got a trophy for best routine YAY!! Level 5 took 2nd place and the best thing is both squads beat out this other local team that made certain level teams just to compete against us. They cause alot of trouble for our high school girls and just total Cheer Drama lol. And there saying is “Its Heat Baby” (There name is Hagerstown Heat) Now I say “Its Karma Baby”

12 01 2010
Witchypoo

Oh! There you are, Sweetlara. Your young man sounds like such a sweet pussycat…wouldn’t hit his sparring partner because she’s a girl, huh? What could be more gallant than that? Who says chivalry doesn’t exist anymore? Does he have a girlfriend? Has he had any “serious” girlfriends yet? What’s Richie up to, anyway? Working, school, etc.?

Brainy-Janey…yeah, unfortunately, there’s always going to be females lurking around more-than-willing to put out for someone else’s boyfriend/husband. Almost all of the time, the guy doesn’t care the least little bit for these types of women…he’s just using them, and then he’ll go running back to his girlfriend, wife – whatever the case may be. I mean, I wouldn’t want any of these useless GUYS, either…but the women who are willing to accept crumbs of attention for the “priviledge” of just basically getting screwed, (figuratively AND literally), are pretty desperate and humble, in my opinion. Best to ditch BOTH of the idiots and just concentrate on enjoying your own life, you know? I’m sure you’ve heard it before, but it’s worth repeating: you can’t control anyone else’s behavior or feelings…but you have total control over your own outlook, habits, actions, etc. Makes sense, yes?

Take care, Girls.

12 01 2010
Witchypoo

Oh, forgot…Lara, congrats to Kristy on the cheer-win. Awesome! Was Kristy pretty psyched about it? I used to love dance competitions/performances…so much fun.

12 01 2010
Witchypoo

A funny aside: Hubby and I were standing around chatting with one of Baby’s instructors on Saturday after class, when Hubby called me over to where he was standing by a big wall display of a collage advertising the facility Baby takes martial arts out of, (there’s several locations…even though it’s family-run, and this is one of the advertisements for the company). It’s a newer collage…we hadn’t noticed it before on the wall. So, your eye follows the various students of different ages who are demonstrating one move or another, and then I did a double-take when Baby-spawn’s picture of him doing a high kick and punch caught my eye. I’m like, “What?!” It was funny, because I have the same picture at home of him from when he posed when professional pictures were offered there. He looks so cute and…skilled! He really is good, and there he is on their poster, (we didn’t know they used his image…I guess I sort of remember signing a thingy-ma-jig stating that should they want to use images, it would be ok with us). I just didn’t think they’d actually want to use it, so it was a surprise to just look up and see him smiling back at us, with his perfect kick and all that going on. It was funny. I’m getting that poster/advertisement.

14 01 2010
lara21167

I deleted what I was writing ๐Ÿ˜ฆ So witchy it’s always nice to see the littleun’s pics on things like that. And we have an all out Cheer war going on here. this local team hates us because we are doing so well. They are starting rumors like saying they could have beat us at comp if they didn’t have so many deductions, deductions are part of the scoring and saying our overall score wasn’t good, they can’t look at our score. And they are saying that we paid off the judges, hmmm didn’t know we had that kind of money. So stupid.

Anyhoo, hubby went to court today, just got back he got a year supervised probation, 5 months suspended. 2 fines suspended. But the judge put a note in his file that if he breaks probabtion he gets the full 5 months. I’m just glad it’s over. Hopefully this will give him the insentive to keep doing what he’s doing.

So how’s everyone??

21 01 2010
lara21167

Hey ladies!! Where is everyone?

21 01 2010
janey

im here.! i just been waiting for you guys lol
i check everyday and i be like. oh. i’ll just wait haaha
how are you?

22 01 2010
Witchypoo

Hi Ladies. I know I’ve been kind of MIA, too. I mean, there’s been so much going on…with so much to gab about – I don’t really know where to start. I’ve been doing a lot of running around lately, (more than usual), and planning an anniversary celebration for my parents. I’m going through their old photo albums back to their dating days, picking out hundreds of photos for hubby to design a show with music from the specific time periods of the pictures. He made a really nice slideshow like that for my parents this past November of our family…tons of pictures of the boys, with lots of pertinent music accompanying them.

Anyhoo…BrainyJaney, I trust that you’re being the smart, positive, successful young lady I know you are, right? Stay on track with school, and work at being a happy girl, Sweetie. It’s the best gift you can give yourself…and you deserve it.

Sweetlara, so, things are moving along well with your husband? It sounds like it by what you last wrote. Is Joe making a serious effort to stay well and be a good husband and father? I hope so…you deserve a happy marriage and family life. I’m kind of out-of-touch with both of your lives, Girls…so update me when you get the opportunity, ok?

Take care, Girls.

22 01 2010
lara21167

Joe’s doing ok, we have a long way to go though. He still wants to blame me for so many things, like having him arrested. He really needs to learn to take responsibility for his own actions. And he needs to be more patient with Kristy. She can be as difficult as any 12 going on 13 year old girl can be!

Witchy that sounds great what your doing for your parents. Glad you’ve reconnected.

Janey what’s new with you?

22 01 2010
janey

well theres been a lot goin on lately.
i’ll start by sayin my brother is here and they went to court.
and now dereks mom is bein nice cause my brother has enough to show the judge so they will take both her kids away. and she stopped threatning us with moving away.
schools is whtever. i dont really care about it right now.
and i’ve been tryin to battle migranes.

22 01 2010
janey

more later. the just mention brat s demandin i get up nd give him milk.
oh i missed him.
she like refused to let us see him for almost a month

23 01 2010
lara21167

Janey I hope everything works out with Munchkin. Custody battles are not nice and Derricks mother sounds like a piece of work. It doesn’t even sound like she really wants him so why doesn’t she just back off and do what’s best for her son.

23 01 2010
Witchypoo

Oh, Janey…migraines are a bitch – so debilitating. Hope your’s let up very soon. I’m glad Derrick’s mom is letting him spend time with you and your mom. I don’t get why she’d keep him away from you…it’s got to be hard on the little guy to be cut off from you like that. She really does sound screwed up. Some people really aren’t cut out to be parents.

I just got back from McDonald’s with Baby-Spawn. We met one of his preschool buddies, (Jack), and his parents there this afternoon. There was several birthday parties going on, and the place was so loud…just TOO incredibly LOUD. Now I have to work on my parents’ slideshow.

Take care, Ladies.

25 01 2010
janey

she is very screwed up and i missed my baby so much.
he saw me and was like “TITI.!” and gave me a kiss. and slept on my bed.
i told him i wanted to have a baby and he said “no.”
and i was all why and he said he was my only baby. and then he walked away and got mad at me lol god, i love him.

she really is a bad mom. and its sad because Derek will scream
that he doesnt want to b with her. she doesnt even want him in school.
he’s four. wht kind of mom doesnt want her child to learn?

the migranes. are KILLING me. i was in tears cause my had hurt so bad.
i have to go to my eye doc again to see if its my glasses/eyes

26 01 2010
lara21167

Janey have you had an MRI or anything? Have more than just your eyes checked. I get migraines, well mine were from stress and the doc put me on stress meds, now I only get them occationallly. But they always last 2 days and on the 3rd day I’m weak and kind of sick. But yours sound much worse, get it checked out.

27 01 2010
Witchypoo

Uh-huh, Janey…Sweetlara is giving good advice about the MRI. There could be other reasons your migraines are so bad. What does your mother say about them? Has she scheduled you a doctor appointment?

About your little Derrick, do you mean that his mom doesn’t want him in preschool, or do children where you live in New York start kindergarden at 4? Is she reluctant to leave him with other authority figures at such a young age? I mean, she can do lots of things with him to stretch his mind, and build his basic skills…such as letter-recognition, counting games, reading to him, etc.

I hope you’re feeling much better by now, Sweetie.

Take care, Girls…and nightie-night.

27 01 2010
janey

yes ive had the mri and they couldnt find anything.
i just came home from takin the second part of the
english regents and my head is POUNDIN.

kindergarten starts at four here.
and no. she refuses to let him go.
she just doesnt care. i cant believe she is bein
so irresponsible as to bring yet another child into this world.
cant believe she is pregnant. ugh. i hate her .

27 01 2010
Witchypoo

What’s going on with the custody issue, Janey? Is your brother and/or mother still trying to get custody of him? If Derrick’s mother isn’t going to raise him responsibly – and in his best interests – then someone else should be entrusted with his care. Any news on that front? I thought part of what the courts look at regarding custody decisions is whether or not the school-aged child is actually in – and regularly attending – school?

Try to rest. You need rest for your body to heal itself, Sweetie.

Take care.

27 01 2010
janey

my brother had court this weekend and they just came to a mutual agreement that she was to let him see Derek whenever he wasnt in school including extended summer visits. and she couldnt leave schenectady with derek unless she had my brothers permission and if he said no she was to leave him with my mom cause her mom is moving. my brother also said that if she doesnt put him in school by their next court date hes showing the judge all the plane tickets my moms bought her from here to puerto rico to show how unable she is to stay in one place for more than three months. i just want him here with me where i KNOW what hes doing and tht hes bein treated right aand fed properly and i can teach him whts right and wrong. he learned the word “pussy” so now hes telling everyone their pussy. i just really want him to live with us.

27 01 2010
janey

and my last test is tomorrow. 21 pages of algebra. fun anyone?

28 01 2010
Witchypoo

A 21-page algebra test?! Yuck-yuckity-yuck-yuck!!! How LONG does a 21-pg. algebra test normally take? I don’t remember ANY of my algegra/geometry tests being anywhere near that lengthy, Janey. Blech!

Well, it sounds like your brother is on top of keeping Derrick’s mom in line with his care. That’s going to benefit the little guy so much. So, he’s picked up the “P” word, huh? I had to get tough with my older 2 and their language around Baby-spawn. He thinks anything they say is fair game for him, too. You wouldn’t believe some of the things that I’ve caught coming out of his mouth! I had to start threatening the older spawn with restriction, loss of electronic gadgets, (computers, Ipods, etc.)…whatever I could think of. They’re better…though if the 2 of them are arguing, I have to get in there to remind them.

Hope you’re feeling better, Sweetie. Take care.

28 01 2010
janey

it depends on how well you do with it, how you pace yourself.
i will prolly take an hour and a half out of the three they give you

28 01 2010
lara21167

An 1 1/2 hr to do a 21 pg Algebra Test!!! Pretty good there janey. that would prob kill me lol. And I like math!! Anyhoo re Derrick and school, if he legally is supposed to be in school at age 4 you could report her Janey. Maybe start with the school couselor and see what they tell you to do about it.

Hope you feel better soon, hmmm 21 pg alebra test + migrane, yea I’d be gone for sure ๐Ÿ™‚

28 01 2010
janey

nope, my mom had registered him and guess whose first day is tomorrow?
they called and asked when he was comin to school so my mom called him mom. she was like. im not gonna keep fightin him [my brother] cause they can take my daughter away. fuck her daughter. as long as my nephew is taken care of im okay. hes my responsibility.
yes 21 pages of math. i finished in the hour. and was forced to sit there cause even if you finish early you HAVE to b there for at least two hours before they let you out. i think i failed again tho. im not real confident about this one. ughhh.

1 02 2010
janey

wheres is everyone.!?

2 02 2010
lara21167

I’m here, been busy. Did you find out what you got on your test? Are you gettin lots of snow Janey??

2 02 2010
janey

I PASSED MY ALGEBRA TEST.!!!!
such a huge relief.!
they atomatically dropped meout of two of the three math classes i was takin.!
yea.! and now i take video production nd critical film instead of math.!
WOOOOOT.!
no snow. i eman it snows and melts the same day.
we r supposed to get more tonight.

4 02 2010
Witchypoo33

That’s great, Brainy-Janey! Were you in some catch-up math classes? Good for you, Little-Miss. Your 2 new classes sound REALLY interesting. Nice way to go into 2010, I’d say!

I’ve just been really busy lately, Janey. I’m checking in to read your comments, though, Sweetie. Take care.

4 02 2010
janey

i got my english regents back. i got an 83.!
im sooo excited.
i only got one multiple choice question wrong
and i got 5.5 on one of my essays.
two of the essays got 4.5
and the reason i ddnt get a higher grade was that the last essay
got a 2.5 >[
the highest you can get is a 6.

6 02 2010
Witchypoo33

Well, I guess for someone who’s “not that into school right now”, you’re doing pretty great anyway, huh? Good for you, Sweetie. I’ve happy to read that you’re doing well, and enjoying school. Do you still work at the Goodwill? I remember when I started working after school in the 11th grade, it was challenging to set aside enough time for schoolwork, after-school activities, (like, dance team and choir), not to mention socializing, (though, I DID always manage to get that last one in easily enough…hahaha. Can’t leave the friends hanging, right? I mean, I babysat regularly for neighbors and all that from the 7th grade on, but that’s kind of different than being officially “employed” with shifts that you’re obligated to show up for.

Anyway, keep up what you’re doing , Darlin’. I’m sooooo tired right now, and the hubby and I still have to watch the final version of the slideshow we put together for my parents’ anniversary dinner tomorrow. It’s comprised of about 450 pictures, ranging from their dating/wedding/honeymoon days, to our live chronologically together, and includes my brother’s and my husband/wife, kids, etc. It’s SO touching, and set to the sweetest, most poignant love songs I could lay my hands on. Last night, I stayed up WAY too late, (like, 12:30…I’m usually in bed by 10:00 or 10:30 on weeknights), because I couldn’t stop watching it. It’s about 43 minutes long, with really cool applications that hubby put in, (like all kinds of different fade-in and fade-outs, creative lead-ins to various songs, etc.). I must have watched it 3 times through last night…some with hubby, some by myself after everyone else went to bed. We’ve been working on this for weeks – a little here, a little there. I had to go through, like, 5 different photo albums of my Mom’s, plus use some of our own pictures, remove the photos, (some are really old and fragile…it was hard), then hubby would scan them and put them in the slideshow file on his computer. Eventually, I went through all of them and put them in the correct chronological sequence, then I picked the various songs, while hubby was incorporating all that and arranging it all with the different applications. Now, we’re finally done – and I really love it. I can’t wait for my parents and brother and sister-in-law to watch it with us tomorrow.

I’ll talk to you again soon. Take care, and nightie-night.

6 02 2010
Witchypoo33

should read, “to our liveS chronologically together, (meaning, my little brother, me, and my parents).

8 02 2010
lara21167

That slide show sounds great Witchy, Janey did you get any of this snowapoclypse (as it is called) We got a little over 2 feet which is a lot for us. And more is on the way Tues night. Can’t wait for spring!! The girl spawn will be 13 tomorrow!!

8 02 2010
Witchypoo33

Good afternoon, Ladies. Wow, you guys are really floating in white, huh? Do all the businesses and schools still operate under those extreme type of weather conditions? Everything pretty much comes to a screeching halt around here when there’s lots of snow and ice – especially the school systems. Bus drivers can’t take the chance of sliding around on the icy/snowy roads. We’re having a really warm winter anyway…all of January it was typically in the low 50’s or so, and today the sun is shining brightly and you don’t even need a coat. Though, weather changes happen really fast around the Puget Sound area; anything can happen within a short time period.

Lara…tell your lil’ hunny “Happy Birthday!” from Witchy. My middle guy turned 13 the end of June. Are you throwing a party or anything? Wow: she’s officially a teenager now.

Take care.

9 02 2010
janey

no, no snow for me lara.

witchy how did the slideshow turn out?

sorry i havent been on very much.
lotta crazy shit goin on at home. ugh.

10 02 2010
janey

happy bday kristy.!
my little sister alyssa turns 14 today.

10 02 2010
Witchypoo33

What’s the deal with all these birthdays on the same day? Well, happy birthday to the little spawn and the little sister! Hope you are all having a great day.

Take care.

10 02 2010
Witchypoo33

Oh, yeah: forgot to tell you how the slideshow went, Janey. It was great…it really was. My parents got here a little while after my brother, his wife, and their little girl, (she’s only 3 weeks younger than our baby-spawn), and we had a really fun, relaxed time. I made seafood fettucinni, my sister-in-law brought garlic bread and salad, and we also had 2 kinds of cream pies for dessert. My parents both asked for that dish when I brought up requests a few days beforehand over the phone. Also, middle-spawn made little crescent-roll weenie-wraps, and eldest spawn made a cracker/cheese platter…along with other snacks. So, we all stuffed ourselves silly, told old family stories and went over a few memories, and baby-spawn and my little niece played and played and PLAYED. They had so much fun. We watched the dvd after dinner. Hubby did such a great job putting it together, and using special light-scribe dvd’s that he burned a picture of my parents’ hands showing their wedding rings from their wedding day, and he even made a special jacket to go inside the case depicting them at their reception, cutting the wedding cake. He had a program for all that which worked great, so it really turned out so beautiful. The show itself was touching enough to make several of us cry, and everybody was completely riveted. The music I picked fit so perfectly, and really complimented each and every image. There were some oldies like ‘Love Me Tender’, ‘I Can’t Help Falling In Love With You’, (both by Elvis Presley), Be My Little Baby’, (Ronnie and The Ronnettes), The Righteous Brothers’ ‘Unchained Melody’ and ‘You’re My Soul & Inspiration’…to name just a few. Some newer ones included Edwin McCain’s ‘I Could Not Ask For More’, Brad Paisley’s ‘Then’, with some old 80’s rock ballads like ‘Love Of A Lifetime’, Tesla’s ‘Love Song’, and sappy ones like Sherriff’s ‘When I’m With You’…there were others, also. Anyhoo, it started with my parents’ wedding, and went through their honeymoon, our early lives on the east coast, then in California, then later to the Pacific Northwest. It covered both my brother’s and my own births and childhoods, all the way through to our adulthood when we dated and married our respective loves…including our babies’ births and through to the present. My parents were really touched, and my hubby was so sweet and generous with his time and skill in making it perfect. So, it really couldn’t have turned out any better, or been a better night for all of us.

After my parents went home, my brother and his wife and little girl wound up staying and visiting until 1:00 am. My hubby told little-brother that he can get back the pictures they lost, (accidentally deleted), of their little girl’s birth and stay in the hospital, coming home, etc. Can you imagine losing those images? My little brother and sister-in-law described how awful it was to have that happen their 2nd day home from the hospital, when my little brother was tweaking the images on their digital camera. My sister-in-law is REALLY sweet and understanding about nearly everything…and even with all her birth/pregnancy hormones still raging right after the birth, she didn’t want to upset my little brother even more by losing it herself…so she just held it in and comforted him, instead. Is that not the pinnacle of self-control and consideration for your partner’s feelings? So sweet. I really love her. Anyway, my hubby says he has a program that can recover nearly anything that’s ever been on whatever digital card in question. So, that would be great if he could recover those images for them, (they actually went back to the hospital the day after losing the pictures to “reinact” the birth and the hospital stay…getting “their” nurse, (who they LOVED), to agree to help them. She took over an hour of her time to “gown-up”, and get them the hospital gowns, (my sister-in-law had a c-section), walking through and reinacting the whole thing…right down to the room and bed. Isn’t that incredibly kind and caring? I couldn’t believe she’d do that…proof that there’s still a lot of really great people in the world, huh? Very touching.

Well, another book from lil’ old moi’. Better go get in my jammies now…it’s 9:00 here and we’re all really sleepy tonight. Have a restful night, Sweet-Janey, and take care.

10 02 2010
janey

i joined choir at school.!!!
we are singing God Bless the Broken Road.!
i love this song

10 02 2010
Witchypoo33

That’s great, Janey. I was in choir in school – I loved it. Does your school enter choir competitions? Those were fun. Enjoy.

Take care.

10 02 2010
janey

no but we have all city chorus. every 4 years they take the bEST 12 singers from each grade starting at 3rd and they perform together at Proctors Theater.i did it when i was in 5th grade. it was awesome.

ive been in choir since i was in 3rd grade but i quit in 7th. teacher tried to make me sing a celine dion solo for the concert and i said no. my hart will go on. and i said no and he said then dnt come back to practice so i ddnt. until now. i still love mr. G tho. he is my drumming teacher now.

anyways, we are singing God Bless the Broken Road. i LOVEEEE that song.
what type of choir were you in.?
we have :
womens choir
show choir
chamber choir
seranaders
voice seminar
gospel choir.

im in show choir right now,
next year im takin woment Lit and womens choir for college credit, along with music thoery

10 02 2010
janey

lots of typo’s

10 02 2010
lara21167

Hey all thanks for the birthday wishes for the spawn. And spawn she is lol. Happy birthday to your ‘lil sis Janey. Glad the slideshow turned out good Witchy. I’m snowed in again!!! Another 15 inches on top of the 20 something we got on the weekend!! We DO NOT get snow like this. And it’s getting old. And yes Witchy everything comes to a screeching halt. I’m home today but hope I can get to work tomorrow. School has been closed all week and they just announced they are going to close thurs and fri too. That means they’ll be lax on clearing the roads. We just took the dog out to play, she loves the snow and it’s over her head so she’s hopping and jumping through it. Too cold out for me. Janey you should be getting some of this one, they said it was heading to NewYork. They are saying this is part of the global warming, explain that one lol.

10 02 2010
janey

hahahaaha. thts funny. nooooooo.
keep your snowwwww. lol
i have winter break next week. i
refuse to be snowed in.!

10 02 2010
Witchypoo33

Hey there, Ladies. Janey, I was in concert choir. My boys are off all next week also, including Baby-Spawn’s preschool. We’ll be doing some fun things, in addition to maybe painting eldest spawn’s room, and maybe middle-spawn’s, also, (if I can get him to move his furniture around and prep for it, that is). Maybe the snow will let up before vacation…it’s got to slow down sooner or later.

Take care.

10 02 2010
janey

thats cool.
i love painting rooms lol.
PLEASE PLEASE KEEP THE SNOWWWW.! :]

11 02 2010
Witchypoo33

You like painting, Janey? I don’t mind usually, but we’ve been doing a lot of that lately; it’s getting kind of old. But, what are you gonna do? My boys are pretty hard on walls, furniture, pictures, teapots, doors, various knick-knacks – both valuable and inexpensive, (they’re equal-opportunity destroyers), anything made of glass…pretty much everything in our house, actually. So, it’s kind of an ongoing process to repair and/or paint various objects and rooms…just to try and keep up. Seen ‘Malcolm In The Middle’ on tv with the crazy, loud, active family? That’s pretty much us. Really close. My boys’ friends seem to think so also, as well as my sister-in-law. We is what we is, yes?

Take care.

11 02 2010
janey

hahaha
“we is what we is”
hahahaha that was awesome.
ugh. my room.? one wall is purple,
the other neon green, the other striped with purple and white
and i have a light grey trim on all the walls. can you say COLOR.?!
hahaha. no one can get depressed in my room. its too bright

11 02 2010
Witchypoo33

Well, if you think THAT’S funny, you’d probably be giggling your ass off several times a day around our house. Here’s today’s “schedule”: just got both spawn off to school, and I’ll be bringing Baby-Spawn to his preschool class in a few hours, along with his homemade Valentines for each child, (Middle-Spawn helped him make them last night), and his Valentine’s treats for their party today. So, I’ll work out this am and shower/get ready, maybe start dinner, and give Baby breakfast and lunch before we leave. After dropping off Baby by 12:30, I’ll come home again to finish making dinner, then turn around and head back to preschool a little before 2:00 to be there for the much-anticipated Valentine’s Day party. We’ll all be making mini-pizzas, playing games, eating treats, etc. You can be sure that the lil’ munchkins will be running around and chasing each other because they’re so excited and happy about the party, (that’s how the Christmas party was, also). So, after taking pictures and everthing is wrapped up there, I’ll hotfoot it home with Baby-Spawn to feed him a good snack to hold him until dinner, (same with Middle-Spawn), get Baby in his martial arts uniform, get Middle-Spawn and all his baseball equipment/bag, and run off to Mini-Spawn’s karate’ class. I have friends there who help watch Baby – along with Middle-spawn, (who’s 13), while I pick up Eldest-Spawn from weight-lifting at the high school. So, we’ll rush back to karate’, where I’ll drop off Eldest to be with Baby, pick up Middle, and head on out to his baseball training. Hubby will meet me there from work, I’ll give a quick,
“Hello!” and kiss, drop off Middle-Guy with Hubby, and race back to Eldest-Child and Baby join the finish of karate’. Then, we go home, the 2 boys will eat quickly, and Baby and I will drop off #1 Spawn at his driver’s ed class at the community center, and return home. After Hubby and #2 Child return home from baseball, whichever one of us is the least tired will pick up #1 Child from driver’s ed when the class is finished. So…all of that is usually accompanied with moderate amounts of rushing, some frustrated observations of other drivers in traffic, giggling with the onset of mild hysteria, maybe some light bickering between Spawns #’s 1, 2, and 3, with me as referee. Sound fun? Or just plain crazy? A little of both, actually. THERE’S a typical Thursday in our house, Janey.

Btw, your room sounds great, Janey. I love bright, cheery colors; your decorating talents sound creative and fun. My room at your age in my parents house was really bright and cheery, also, with different shades of bright green, yellow, and white, including in the wallpaper pattern. I like bright, open rooms.

Take care, Sweetie, and have a great day.

11 02 2010
Witchypoo33

should read, “race back to Eldest-Child and Baby TO join the finish of karate'”.

12 02 2010
janey

yea that sound RELLY busy.
stressing too. idk how you do all of that, you sound like supermom.
thats awesome. lol ;]

im a little sad. my nephew’s found himself a girlfriend at his school.
today was their valentines day party and he was insisting we get her the whole
teddy bear basket wth candy and everything. and she hugs him and they hold hands and sit together all the time. its adorable but my little baby is growin up :[
and that makes me sad. my mom just showed me a picture of him and the little girl who is adorable by the way huggin. so cute lol she went to pick him him up cause they’ve got a half day today

13 02 2010
Witchypoo33

Oh, Janey-Dear…welcome to the bittersweet world of motherhood. That’s the constant contradiction of watching your children grow and develop everyday: you’re so happy and amazed to see them change and learn new things – becoming more and more self-sufficient…yet, you’re also wistful for the days when they relied on you for EVERYTHING. I really think that’s the single hardest, most challenging aspect of being a parent: letting the babies fly away. But, if you provide an atmosphere of love and acceptance, with warmth and a little wisdom/life experience thrown in to help them along…the spawn will always need you and remain close. Loving connections are the best part of life, yes? Enjoy watching your little Derrick spread his wings, Janey. It’ll get easier as you get more practice watching him branch out.

Any special plans for Valentine’s Day? Hubby and I have reservations at a really nice restaurant on the Puget Sound…they make great seafood and steak. The last time we went there, we each got 2 entrees, as well as appetizers and desserts. Hubby’s parents wanted us to come over tomorrow for a Valentine’s dinner with the kids, but we already had plans. We’ll either go later today, or maybe Monday, (no school for the kids this coming week, and hubby is off on Monday for Presidents’ Day).

Take care.

15 02 2010
Witchypoo33

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY, LADIES! Take care.

16 02 2010
janey

my god son is here.!!!!
im soooo excited.!
i just KNEW he was gonna be born this week.
his name is Alex Jose Ramos and he weighed 6 pounds, 5 ounces
and measured 18 inches. he is sooo tiny.!

16 02 2010
lara21167

Congrats Janey, hope all is well. Witchy I am glad i had my kids spaced apart like I did lol. You have boys so I really can’t ask for advise on how to get through the teen years with a girl without killing her or yourself lol. Example, this morning there was a 2 hour school delay, I good mother that I am, went into work late to take the spawn to school, so that said spawn wouldn’t have to get her new shoes dirty walking through snow or ice to the bus stop. (When she should be wearing snow boots) Anyhoo, Miss I can take care of myself, wanted me to blow dry her hair and straighten it. No problem except she has a specific way of straightening her hair. She pulls layers up in a clip and does one layer at a time. Ok, no problem there. but guess what the only clip I could find was in MY hair. So I get this “YOU ARE ALWAYS TAKING MY STUFF AND YOU DON’T EVEN ASK!!” Ummm, who buys this stuff. So again, good mom that I am, I take my hair down and use said clip to do spawn’s hair. Then of course the parking lot in my apartment complex is still icy, my 85 firebird does not like snow and ice so I have a hard time getting out spinning and fish tailing away. Said spawn, always has to inform me on how to drive and that I don’t know how to drive. Wanted to put spawn out of car and make her walk to school, but good mom that I am I bite my tongue and take her on to school. Oh what are the teen years about 5 years I believe?????

16 02 2010
janey

6 years, and im sorry to tell you but you are letting you daughter bitch you around.
i dnt mean to be rude but thats the only i could say that
made sense. my mom.?
would have made me walk to the bus stop.
the hair thing she has her drawer in the bathroom with hair stuff and i have mine so we dnt have problems there.
my mom also would have sone my hair. tell kristy that you love her to death but being a teenager means the start of a certain amount of independence and she has to start doing things on her own now. and theres no reason for you to have to bite your tongue around your child. your the mom here as my mother likes to say. lol
it was nice of you to go to work late for that. my mom.?
“Helen, i love you, but love dont pay the bills. get up, i have to go to work”

16 02 2010
lara21167

Well yes I spoil her. And the bus stop thing, the sidewalks at the apartment are somewhat cleared, not completely, then she’d have to walk on the road a short distance before reaching another sidewalk that takes her to the bus stop. Normally she cuts through the grass to go to the bus stop, did I mention that we had 2 back to back blizzards?? So even though I can’t afford to miss an hour of work, I’d rather do that than worry, oh I am a worry wart, medically speaking I have GAD. But the smart mouth that so has to go. I’m not sure how to deal with that without smacking the sh** out of her, which I won’t do. She’s just really hormonal right now.

16 02 2010
janey

yes the smart mouth has to go.
my moms personal favorite is
ipod, laptop, cell phone, books.
and straight home afters chool. for three days.
except im now about to be 17 and i pay for my things so she can no
longer take them away.
just give her consequences according to wht seh said.
ur the mom and its not okay to back talk.
god hope she doesnt end up like my little sister
whi IVE had to punch in the mouth cause my mom wnt cause of her
smart mouth.

16 02 2010
janey

the baby gets to come home tomorrow.!
and i’ll prolly be stayin over Eryka’s a lot
to help het get settled and help her take care of her
two other daughters while her boyfriend is at work.
god i love those kids specially the youngest daughter and
the baby boy. its crazy how he was just born yesterday and
the minute i saw him BOOM. it was instant.

friday im most likely goig to NYC
to visit NYU, Columbia and Julliard

17 02 2010
Witchypoo33

Hi, Ladies…how’s it going? Janey, it sounds like you have an exciting next few days coming up. So, is Eryka a cousin? Friend? You’re the God-Mommie, huh? Well, you seem to harbor quite a maternal streak, Sweetheart. That’s terrific. You’re right about the taking-control stance you mentioned: teenagers, (even just children in general), WANT firm, consistent guidance and discipline. Sometimes it seems like being a mom is a thankless job…and it’s vitally important to gain a child’s respect as soon as possible. You know, I’ve had plenty of friends – as well as family members – with kids of all age ranges. The parents who won’t allow their spawn to walk on them, or treat them disrespectfully, are the ones with the most satisfying, (and, emotionally close), relationships with their children. Teenagers of either sex need to have a clear understanding of exactly who’s in charge. My cousin has a teenaged girl the same age as my eldest spawn…and she’s always been treated like a spoiled princess – from day 1. Our whole family predicted what a problem this little girl was going to develop into when she started to get into her teen years…and that has really come to pass. I call her my niece, (I don’t know what she’d technically be called in relation to me – she’s my cousin’s daughter). Anyhoo, she treats her mother – and to a lesser extent, her father also – like crap. Just the nasty things she says, and the tone of voice she uses…it just conveys complete disdain for the 2 people who have given her everything…including love and support – anything you can think of – since her birth. I really believe this girl needs, (wants), firm guidance and leadership…and she doesn’t get it. My cousin just turns into a marshmallow with her – and the effect is SO distasteful. Yuck. Nobody in our family can hardly stand this girl’s company…she’s also oddly nervous and will rarely meet your eyes or even respond with more than a slight nod or grunt, (if that), when you try to talk to her. The funny thing is, I used to take care of her when she was a toddler and young child, and she was SO clingy and insecure – she’d just be glued to my side all the time. I still sense that anxiety in her…I’ve always thought she has some sort of social anxiety or something – it’s just so apparent. I think my cousin’s permissive, wishy-washy parenting has only made her daughter’s anxieties even worse. I just can’t imagine letting my boys talk to or treat me disrespectfully like that. They’ll occasionally try to push the envelope in certain situations, but I’m pretty consistent about my reactions…and consequences for poor behavior. It’s the only way for us to maintain a close, warm relationship…I do a lot for them – they’ll treat me with a decent amount of respect and courtesy. I mean, we all joke around A LOT…I’m a silly ass a good portion of the time. But, when I’m serious…they know I’m serious – and not to push it. They’re good boys, though – we don’t have too many conflicts in that area. When I need to haul out the “whoop-ass”, I just take away games, socializing, electronic devices of all kinds…you name it. I’ll also make them do extra chores and tasks around the house and yard to drive home a specific point, sometimes. Like you Lara, I don’t feel real comfortable about physical forms of punishment…there’s so many grey areas with all that; I don’t like second-guessing myself about what’s appropriate and what’s not. But, I don’t feel bad about taking away all fun, and piling on the work…when/if it’s called for. Kids really need to know what will be tolerated – and what won’t. And, while girls may be more difficult in certain circumstances, (maybe more innately emotional)…boys can be every bit as sensitive, I’ve found. I also have some friends with teenaged-girls who are absolute sweethearts…so helpful and considerate with their parents. I really think it just depends on the expectations that are set for them from the very beginning. Of course, I know that some personalities are just more difficult than others…but I do believe that any child can be taught to treat their parents/family members/whoever with a basic respect, courtesy, and consideration. Just let me say here, Sweetlara, that you sound incredibly patient and tolerant. I don’t think I would have been able to remain cheerful and unfazed in those circumstances that you described. As a matter of fact, in anything even remotely similar, I’d probably be taking a nice, long break from housework and whatever domestic chores I could think of…since my kid who’d been snarky to me would be taking over those tasks as part of his “lesson” in how to treat me. Good moms like you deserve to be treated right, yes?

Brainy-Janey…have a blast on Friday with your excursion to NYU, Columbia, and Julliard. All that sounds very exciting…and it’ll give you something tangible to reach for, and work toward. Good for you, Sweetie. Enjoy.

17 02 2010
janey

eryka is my cousin.
and she just got home.! im just getting back from getting some things for the baby so im gonna run to her house in a lil bit.
yea. im seriously copnsidering NYU.
tomorrow im goin to visit Skidmore.

21 02 2010
Witchypoo33

Where’s Skidmore, Janey? Did you wind up going? How’s it been going helping out with the baby? Newborns are around-the-clock work, huh?

Take care.

21 02 2010
janey

i went to skidmore but i ddnt get to go to nyu cause i was
with the baby.
skidmore is in Saratoga, NY. about 45 minutes away from where i live.
yea. its but he doesnt really cry that mych.
he only cries like when its close to his feeding time and then
he goes back to sleep. oh and when we r changing his clothes cause he
gets really cold.
Derek is comin over in a lil while, i miss my little man
i dnt want him to get jealous of the baby

22 02 2010
janey

i feel so accomplished today.
i finished the book i started rading yesterday
and i cleaned the kitchen and i made dinner
and i just finished givin little munchkin a bath and
now im making him some popcorn and we are gonna watch
our ALL time favorite disney movie before i put him to bed.
we both have school tomorrow. ugh.
break is def over :[
yay Lion King.!

22 02 2010
Witchypoo33

Oh, Janey-Dear, I LOVE ‘The Lion King’! It reminds me of when spawn was a tiny lil’ man…just 7 or so months old, (that’s when it came out, around June of 1994). I love the main theme song, also. It always makes me nostalgic, and reminds me of having babies, and the family circle. *Sigh*. Enjoy, Little Lady, and give your sweet Derrick a hug from Witchy. You’re so good to him…lucky lil’ man to have you.

Take care.

23 02 2010
janey

AHHHHH SNOWSTORM.!

24 02 2010
janey

its been snowing since yesterday morning.
not supposed to stop til tomorrow night.
im drowning in snow.!
anybody want some.?
on the bright side, im goin sledding

24 02 2010
Witchypoo33

No thanks, Janey, (though, my kids would LOVE some snow). Getting around can be so dicey in the snow, (really, it’s more the black ice that’s so dangerous). Have fun sledding, and be safe.

Take care.

24 02 2010
Witchypoo33

Hey, on that note: have you considered wearing a good bicycle or motorcycle helmut while you’re sledding so you don’t bash your head and scramble your brains? Just a though…precious cargo, you know?

Take care, have fun, and be safe, Brainy-Janey.

24 02 2010
lara21167

May be a little late, but you can keep your snow Janey!! We got it right before you did and that was like 2 days after our 1st blizzard. It’s now melting but calling for more tomorrow but only a couple inches. We still need like 5 inches to beat our all time record for the most snow in one winter in our area!!

24 02 2010
janey

we got 17 last night.
we r supposed to get another 12 tonight.
ugh.

witchy. no helmet.
we like walking on the wild side lol

24 02 2010
Witchypoo33

*Sigh*…suit yourself, Janey-Dear. Let’s just hope you’re still able to retain your ability to walk – whether on the wild side, tame side…whatever side, yes?

Take care.

24 02 2010
janey

lol i never think of getting hurt when i do things like that.
last year we went sledding and ice skating in new hampshire
and i didnt think about it either but my but
was bruised lol i do take caution when i have derek with me. he ONLY
gets on if im with him and no steep hills just the tiny one near the park.
when i go with my friends we go out by this HUGE park that has tennis courts.
behind the tennis courts theres HUGE hills.

25 02 2010
Witchypoo33

Well, that doesn’t sound so bad. I had visions of you sledding at break-ass speed down a busy, heavily-travelled road, possibly smashing into a parked, (or, worse, a moving), vehicle. My hubby says I scare the crap out of him whenever I get on any sort of motorized object; he thinks I’m a spaz, I’m pretty sure. I mean, a FEW things have happened, but no big deal. Like, many years ago, we went to the ocean for a few days for our anniversary, and we rented Mopeds, (dinky little motorized scooter-cycle thingies). Anyhoo, these things went pretty damn fast, and sometimes I have a tendency to drift off and stare at the beautiful scenery if it catches my fancy. Well, it turns out I was going faster than I thought, while staring at the purrrrrrty ocean…and I “forgot” where the brakes were. Long story short: I wound up driving wildly into someone’s yard, disappearing behind their shrubbery and scaring Hubby quite a bit. When he realized I wasn’t actually hurt, he started cracking up, telling me what a dumbass I looked like flying into this person’s yard, instinctively putting my feet and legs out in front of me to cushion the crash, with a ridiculous look on my startled face. That’s what happens when my attention wanders. Another time, before Baby-Spawn came along, the rest of us were out riding motorcycles in this wooded area close to our house. Spawn #’s 1 & 2 each had their own motorcycles, as did Hubby. Well, Spawn # 1 has a fairly large, powerful motorcycle, but it’s not as big and heavy as Hubby’s, so we figured it would be a better bike for me to ride. Well, his clutch is hard to get used to…it catches weird, and it’s stiff, plus, the brake and gas are reversed from the way I’d think they’d be…so, when I wanted to brake, I wound up giving it a LOT of power instead, in a quick burst…and wound up driving it into some bush/trees – again, scaring the crap out of Hubby. Of course, they all had a good laugh about that one, after realizing I was still in one piece. Another time, I was driving Spawn # 1’s motorized go-cart, (it’s freaking fast), down a steep hill in our neighborhood, going faster than I should have been . It was at night, nobody was out, and I was having fun. Well, while taking a corner/sharp turn, the linkage on the steering mechanism went out – suddenly – and I had zero control of the steering. I found myself in a neighbor’s yard, almost hitting their house, with the cart turned over. I don’t know how I got out of serious injuries on that one, though I did burn my hand pretty bad on the exhaust pipe when I was frantically trying to turn the cart back over to get it home. I somehow managed to get it turned over, (those things are really heavy), pushing it all the way home. I wound up with my entire left side, all the way down my arm and leg, being purple. I was pretty uncomfortable for a few days – but it could have been a lot worse. Anyhoo…there’s some tales of Witchy’s misadventures. Just be careful.

Take care, Janey

26 02 2010
janey

im soo sick you guys =[
i hate bein sick.
you guys get any snow yet.?

27 02 2010
janey

witchy, i forgot to comment on you motor powered adventures lol
its sounds something like my mom would do just cause she can be ditzy at times
but in your case it really sounds like it just bad luck.
ive never been concerned with safety when it comes to riding bikes, roller skating, ice skating and sledding and stuff like that but i always make sure i, the first with er seat belt on when i get in the ar.! ;]

speaking of cars.
my dads friend is selling him a 2000 royal blue convertible bmw 325i
for 8 grand since he knows my dad is trying to get me a car.
he told my dad that if he liked it he would take it to the shop
to make sure verything is fine before he sells it to him but pretty much
if i want it its mine. its cute and daddy said we can have it painted red
but i really had my heart set on a convertible red mini cooper.
what do you guys think.?

28 02 2010
Witchypoo33

Brainy-Janey…well, with the silly moped, I have to admit I DID drift off and enjoy the beautiful ocean view a little TOO much, so that one was on me. But the other 2 examples I think could have happened to anyone, (especially considering that I don’t exactly have a ton of experience riding motorcycles – especially huge heavy ones meant for a guy). Anyhoo, at least I came out in one piece all three times, so that’s a good thing.

About the car…cool, Janey. We actually have a red 2007 bmw, (not a convertible…but it has a sunroof). BMW makes really nice vehicles, and they have great customer service. I think you’d be really happy with the BMW, assuming it’s in good condition. I don’t know much about mini Coopers, but I’ve heard my older male spawn talking about them a little. Good luck on whatever you get, have fun…and BE SAFE, ok? OK. Take care.

1 03 2010
janey

hey guys, whats up.?
im a little down today. the one year death anniversaries
of some of my friends are comin up. Jalissa was the 23rd of Feb.
i cant believe its been a year. and i cant believe my school went THAT crazy last year. sigh

2 03 2010
Witchypoo33

Sorry to find you feeling sad, Janey. I remember when you told us that a couple of your friends had committed suicide, and also some other kids at your school. Do you have anyone to talk with about how you’re feeling? You need someone you can open up to about your bluer emotions, (besides just here, I mean). Are you feeling any better today? A very close friend of mine committed suicide many years ago; it was very hard. Try not to isolate yourself, or skip your normal routines too much; you should probably be around people as much as possible when you’re feeling sad, Janey. Take care, Sweetie.

2 03 2010
janey

witchy, yes i have my therapist to talk to.
im okay i just feel like. everyone is sad now and will be from now until the end of april. my niece, Dereks sister, died april 23 and the 27 after we buried her i got th ecall that my grandfather died. and cherelle died april 2nd. it just crazy

2 03 2010
Witchypoo33

Oh, you poor girl. That’s a lot of deaths for you to deal with within such a short timespan. Try not to go through your life despairing and/or dreading the entire months of February – April, though. A really nice way to honor all your loved ones that you miss is to live your life as fully and happily as you possibly can…and maybe try to help other people do the same whenever you have the opportunity. The people you miss are still with you, Sweetie; you’ll be with them in another form someday. Try to hang onto that thought. (I hope it doesn’t seem like I’m pushing my own beliefs about life and death on you; that’s not my intention). Smile, Mi-Lady.

Take care, Janey

2 03 2010
janey

i try to do that everyday. no matter what.
i just its sad to me cause derek doesnt really remember her anymore
and he used to. and her birthday just passed and she would have been 3.
jalissa was 15 when she died and her borthe just had two babies who she’ll never see. cherelle killed herself, she had just turned 14 and mary was 3 months pregnant when she killed herself. ryan just ddint care anymore. we tried to talk to him. we all did. but he just didnt care. he said like was over for him.

2 03 2010
janey

meant to say life. sorry. typing with out lookin. lol

3 03 2010
lara21167

Hello ladies. I’ve been busy lately so just catching up. Witchy the motorized vehicles accidents remind me of myself. I don’t drive anything but a car. Not good with anything else. Well I’ve only driven riding mowers that I wrecked lol. One I was young and me and my friend were taking turns riding and I was waving to my friend went down a steep hill and into the neighbors car. Then next time I was a teenager and ran into my house, apparently you had to press the brake and clutch to stop this thing.

Janey hope you’re feeling better. Has to be hard losing so many friends so young.

3 03 2010
janey

no not really feeling better.
actually im feeling a lot worse. i just talked to my mom
about it. i went to school today, and found out jasmine
was sending suicidal txt messages and ended up running away
and i freaked out. it was like it was happening all over again. jasmine and i are really close. we’ve been college planning together for nyu since 8th grade.
the school sent out people to find her and they did and now she’s in the hospital. i hate this so much. aileen and linda are jas’s best friends and aileens mom just died and when she thought something had happened to jasmine she just broke down asked why god hated her and said she wanted her mom. life really isnt fair.

5 03 2010
Witchypoo33

Yes Janey…it’s good to talk to someone you trust about your emotions, especially when they’re in turmoil. Even if the person you choose to share with doesn’t completely get what you’re saying, or how you’re feeling…it’s still a huge benefit for you to get some of that weight off your shoulders. That’s a difficult task for me to follow, since I’m generally a much better listener than I am at opening up about my own personal, inner emotions. Now that my mother and I are getting close again, she’s encouraging me to talk to her about anything that I need to get off my shoulders, and she tells me about her various anxieties and worries. It’s natural for me to listen and relate to others’ viewpoints/feelings…but much less natural for me to share my darker emotions/thoughts. I can say with authority that holding things in only intensifies them, and you lose touch with your real feelings sometimes. I sort of grew into the habit of not acknowledging my own weaknesses/inner problems, (a habit originating in childhood)…so it’s not a natural habit for me to share. I’m glad that you have ways and sources for resolving your emotions, Janey, (including writing about them here, even). It’s always a good time to learn new skills/positive habits…so, I’ll try to follow your example.

Take care, Sweetie.

5 03 2010
janey

fuck high school roght now.
i hate people. they make shit complicated.
shit that doesnt need to be complicated.
if i dont get out of this shitty town im gonna end up in jail.
i swear to god.
ughhhh.
sorry. i needed to vent.
im havin the worst week ever

6 03 2010
lara21167

Janey hang in there. You can’t let other people’s problems hurt you. Just be there for your friends but remember that you can’t control what they do. I find it very sad that someone your age would think that dieing is the only way to go. There is so much life ahead, happy times and sad times. And Janey only you can control how others make you feel. Ignore the drama filled idiots that try to provoke you. just remember you are better than that.

I love facebook. I’ve found some old friends on there and am having lunch today with my bestie from Elementary school. My family moved after 7th grade and I never got to tell any of my friends goodbye. So I’m excited:-)

6 03 2010
Witchypoo33

Yup, Janey. Listen to Sweetlara…the girl knows what she’s talking about. You’re going to run into lots of assholes in this Life, Janey-Dear, and encounter so many personalities that will be difficult to deal with. But, nobody can elicit any emotional response from you that YOU don’t allow. That’s a powerful fact to truly comprehend; it places all the power of how you feel in your hands, (where it should be). I tell my spawn to develop and practice the art of looking through troublesome people, (douchebag assholes, in other words). Any jackoff who’s bothering you has no effect or power over you when you hardly even notice them. Look through and ahead…to your goals, your dreams, plans, etc., (both longterm and things just around the corner). You seriously don’t want to waste your precious emotional energy on anyone who doesn’t deserve it. Save your passions for the people/things in Life that make you happy, Sweetie. Also, don’t forget to regularly, (daily if possible), giggle your ass off: humor has incredible healing and restorative powers.

Ok…Witchy’s lecture has now concluded, and she’s officially left the building, (yeah, don’t really know what that last bit of nonsense means – just threw it out there. I spew that silly shit at my spawn all the time, and they just shake their heads. I’m a little kooky…but they love me anyway).

Take care.

P.S…have a blast with your pal, Sweetlara. Let us know how the lunch went. I’ve been cleaning house all day, so now that it’s 2:30 in the afternoon and the sun is shining brilliantly, Spawn #1 and I are off to see what kind of trouble we can get into, (usually just amounts to shopping for stupid crap and eating all sorts of junkfood…along with giggling at dumbasses who cross our paths. We don’t let the dumbasses know we think they’re dumbasses, though; don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, or be unnecessarily nasty…just have a lil’ fun. Hubby and the other 2 spawn are with my Dad at his Ham radio show going on at the fairgrounds; he’s been preparing for it these past several months.

NOW I’m finished.

Take care.

16 03 2010
janey

sorry i havent been around for ten days.
i had a meltdown on the friday night. it was the 5th.
and. i ended up in the hospital. they let me out today.
i feel a lot better. buttttt. im hoping i can stay that way.
i had got suspended that day in the morning for trying to avoid a fight
with some stupid little grl. and then everything went down hill from there. EVERYTHING. and i just couldnt take it

17 03 2010
Witchypoo33

Janey…I don’t know if it’s appropriate for me to be talking to you about your “meltdown” – I feel like it might not be a good idea to say anything that could possibly upset you – or make things worse. I’d thought you were doing better overall, and I don’t really know enough about your personal life to say anything even remotely informed or useful to you.

Are you still receiving professional help I hope? Is your mother a source of comfort and support for you? I’m sending you healing, positive thoughts and energy. I know that probably doesn’t seem very comforting to you right now. Hang in there, Sweetie. I really don’t know what else to say right now.

Please take care.

18 03 2010
Witchypoo33

How are you doing today, Janey? Here it’s only 7:25 am…but it’s, what, 10:25 am in your part of the universe? Are you back in school? Do you have people around you’re close to who are helping you?

Take care, Sweetie.

19 03 2010
janey

witchy im feeling a little better.
the hospital stay did me a world of good.
i’ll update more later, im off to the talent show.
i hope everything is okay w you and your boys and lara and kristi

20 03 2010
Witchypoo33

Hi there, Janey. I’m relieved and happy to find you feeling somewhat better. At least you’re getting out some, huh? That’s important – to not isolate yourself. I know it’s easy to pull back into yourself when you’re feeling less-than-stellar…but keep making the effort to connect with people, Sweetie.

Yeah, we’re good, (knock-on-wood). This weekend will be a little less harried than last weekend was. Spawn #1 made the varsity lacrosse team for the highschool again, and they had their annual lacrosse tounament/team bonding deal in Oregon. Last year it was in Lake Oswega, Oregon, (northern part of the state…so only about 3 hours from where we live). This year, though, the tournament was held in Eugene, Oregon – which is the central part of the state. So, it took quite a bit longer to get there and back. Hubby and I divided up the driving on the way back, (Sunday)…but Friday he drove the whole way down. We all left from the high school around 9:00 am, (team meeting and directions to the hotel, etc.)…middle and baby spawn spent part of Friday and Saturday playing in the hotel pool – while I read a book and tried not to pass out from the chlorine fumes, (overstatement – but it was REALLY strong). Anyhoo, spawn # 1 did really well in his games, and all the boys had a great time. The team did a lot of fun things together, (laser tag and other games at a Family Fun Center, swimming, eating out, etc.) to blow off steam and “bond” between games. So, that was last weekend. Of course, there’s always all the unpacking, washing, blah-blah-blah to attend to whenever going away for even just a few days. This weekend we’ll be going to my parents’ to visit tomorrow, middle spawn has baseball practice tomorrow am, #1 spawn has lacrosse practice in the am…the usual routine. Today the boys didn’t have school, (teacher in-service day – lots of those in our district for extra teacher-training)…so we ran around all day doing errands, playing on the big-toy at McDonalds for baby spawn, etc.

What’s up with you for the weekend, Sweetie?

Check in soon and let me know how you’re feeling. Talk to you soon, and take care.

20 03 2010
janey

movies wth mommy.
takin care of alex for the week. he’s so tiny.
i cant believe he’s a month old already.
talent show was great.
school concert is thrusday. kinda excited.

so. im just startin to get used t o being back in school.
people and things are not bothering me as much a they used to and the doc
at the hospital where i was chnaged my diagnosis. he said i wasnt clinically depressed, he said i have manic depression which is the same as bi polar disorder.

23 03 2010
janey

where is everyone.?

23 03 2010
Witchypoo33

Hi there, Janey. I’m just running around a lot – in and out all day. Yesterday I volunteered at Baby-Spawn’s preschool; also, Beau’s lacrosse team has us driving all over Western Washington…both during the week, and also on Saturdays. They have sometimes 2 games/week. Saturday games are fine…but having games so far away during the school/work week makes things kind of hectic sometimes. Plus, Chance’s baseball team is practicing a lot – and that’s quite a drive away during rush hour on the weekdays also. Baby-Spawn has his martial arts classes 2 times/week for an hour each time…so hubby and I are trying to balence all that out without making any of the boys miss any practices or games.

Anyhoo, that’s how it is with kids and their activities. How are you feeling today, Sweetie? So, it sounds like maybe your doctors have a more accurate diagnosis for you now? That’s important; it’s hard to treat an illness if they don’t know the exact nature of the problem. Do they have you taking medication? Do you have a therapist? It sounds like you’re pretty close with your mother – a support system is really important. Also, it’s good news that you’re feeling enthusiastic about school activities – like the concert on Thursday. Are you singing with your class in it? If so, what song(s)?

Let me know how you’re doing , Sweetie.

Take care.

24 03 2010
janey

i do have a therapist. she’s amazing. and yes, they changed my meds. im takin abilify now. which i think is working. my feelings arent as intense. me and my mom are close we just need to have a lil better communication. it takes me a little longer to open up to her because im afraid to let her down a lot.

yes im singing in the concert.
we are singing god bless the broken road
everlasting melody
and blow blow thou winter wind

the fisrt two are my favorites.
im an Alto 2

everlasting melody is catchy and god bless the broken road is
just a great love song.

“my heart sings a melody, an everlasting melody. a tune of love, a song of peace, an anthem that sets me free. Just when i think theres no song to sing, i hear a melody that is everlasting, everlasting melody” sorry couldnt help it lol

24 03 2010
Witchypoo33

Hi Janey. Let’s see…it’s 11:23 here, so that makes it almost 3:00 in the afternoon your time. You must have had your choir concert by now, then. How did you do? How are you feeling today? Here’s just one more question, (I know that’s 3 in a row…what can I say?): how’s it going taking care of that lil’ darlin’ baby-boy, Alex?

Take care, Sweetie.

24 03 2010
janey

actually witchy the concert if tomorrow at 7 pm.
and taking care of alex has been amazing. hes so tiny and so cute
and he’s growing so fast.!

im feeling ok. its 4:30 and just got home from my school club.
class of 2011. yay.! lol

how are you.? i wonder where lara is.

25 03 2010
Witchypoo33

Ok, Janey…that’s right: this is WEDNESDAY. All day I’ve been going around thinking it’s Thursday. Durrrrrrrr. Weird – I don’t usually lose track of the days of the week, hahaha. Guess the fast pace lately has me a little winded.

Have lots of fun at your concert tomorrow. Your lil’ man sounds pretty great. How’s your other mini-man, Derek? Is he jealous at all of the attention you’re lavishing on the baby? Give Derek extra hugs and kisses to reassure him, Sweetie.

Take care, Janey.

25 03 2010
janey

derek is refusing to sleep right now and denying the fact that thee is school tomorrow. gettin ready to knock him out lol
his allergies are acting up
and no he isnt jealous surprisingly

27 03 2010
janey

how was everyones weekends.?
i worked all weekend and made plans for
tuesday so my prom date can get the vest and tie
of his tux to match the red of my dress

28 03 2010
janey

my best friend’s guy best friend was shot and killed friday night in a drug deal. she’s a mess and i dont know what to say to her. it beaks my heart to se her cry so much and not be able to speak cause she’s literally in pain. wht do i do you guys.?

29 03 2010
lara21167

Oh lord Janey, just be there for her, that;s really all you can do. Let her cry on your shoulder, vent, and talk or nor talk all she wants. Don’t try to offer advise, she will have to deal with this her own way. Just be there.

my advise to you guys today… Do not under any circumstances allow a doctor to give you Paxil. I’m trying to go off of it now and it is horrible. I missed work Thurs and Fri I was so sick. My doctor was shocked that I was having withdraw symptoms since I tapered off. Now I back on to taper slower off. there are so many support websites for going off of Paxil, one guy even wrote a book. I’d have never taken it if I knew this!! Anyone know anything about Prestiq, thats the med I’m supposed to go on when I get off the Paxil. I don’t want to go through this kind of thing again though. So i’m afraid to take it too!!

29 03 2010
janey

im on abilify. its working pretty well.

and yea that waht i been doin its just that me and her are close and i ddnt know him really, so i just. dont know how to deal with it cause everyone but me knew him. well that how it feels.

30 03 2010
Witchypoo33

Hi Janey. Yeah, like Lara said…you’re pretty much doing all you can do. The important thing is just to be a good listener. The loneliest part of going through an emotionally traumatizing event is the feeling that nobody is really listening or making a real effort to empathize with your pain. It’s true that in some ways, we all walk alone…but the best part of making strong connections to others is the sense that we’re not UTTERLY alone…at least not all the time. So, just keep being available to your friend for whatever she seems to need, (as long as it’s not self-destructive, of course…like drugs or alcohol or whatever) – and let her lean on you. That’s part of what good friends are for, (it sounds like you already have that part down anyway).

Lara, I don’t have any experience with anti-depressants, or mood-modifiers of any kind, (unless you count the “eating doritoes” type of activity from long ago, I mean). It’s not that I don’t think I could have possibly benefited from anything like that at certain points in my life; I just haven’t ever really considered trying any type of medication to alter my brain chemistry. I think watching my mom’s experience with so many different types of prescription drugs kind of scared me off from that option – closing a door, so-to-speak. I hadn’t really thought about it much until now, I guess. I’m sorry you’re going through such a hard time to get off that drug; it must be really draining and challenging to go through withdrawals. It’s so weird that you’re suffering so much from a prescribed medication that was supposed to help you – rather than hurt you. Take it easy on yourself, though; daily life can be challenging enough without adding what you’re going through. Let us know how you’re doing.

Take care, Girls.

30 03 2010
lara21167

You know Witchy, I’ve just realized lately that I’ve had anxiety problems all my life pretty much. Probably goes back to losing my mother at an early age. But I’ve always been able to deal with it. i have tried a couple different meds before, but never took them long because I just didn’t like them. And didn’t think I really needed them. And yes as long as you can deal, don’t take anything. But the anxiety was getting to a point where I’d spend hours on the internet trying to figure out what was wrong with me. The heart palpatations, rapid heart beat, short of breath. Lets see WEb md said I had congested heart failure among other things. The aches and pains and racing heartl palpatations and generally feeling like crap Generalized Anxiety Disorder. So I caved and tried medication that stopped working after a while. Depression I only suffer mild to moderate, and hell I think we all do that lol. So that;s not a real problem for me but long term meds for anxiety are anti depressants. Be nice to be back in the old days where middle aged women were given were given valium and sent on their way lol. I’m just kidding of course. I’m supposed to start a new med Prestiq, but now I’m afraid to. I’m going to research it first.
Janey how is your friend doing?

30 03 2010
janey

as much as we fight, i have EXTREME separation anxiety where my mother is concerned. i NEED to know where she is at all times if shes not with me. its crazy i get all paranoid and think she wont come back sometimes

1 04 2010
janey

wish me some luck you guys.!
i have four test today.
the day before break and cant even just have fun lol
so ready for spring break.!!!

anyways how are you guys.?

1 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Lots of luck to you, Janey-dear! I bet you’ll do great on your tests, Sweetie. We’re good around here, (knock-wood)…pretty busy.

Take care.

2 04 2010
janey

SPRING BREAK.!
and a whole day of just alex and me.
his mommy is spending the day with the girls
for the oldest ones birthday and im staying with alex all day.!

3 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Enjoy your break, Janey. Did you have fun taking care of Alex when his Mom had her Girls’ Day? My boys are also on spring break this coming week.

Take care.

4 04 2010
janey

happy easter everyone.!

witchy i did. hes so adorable.
i love him so much. lol.
my baby boi. he smiles.

what have you guys been up to.?

5 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Weird. I answered you earlier this am, thought I saw it posted, and now it’s not there. Maybe I was groggy and didn’t submit? I don’t know. Anyhoo, yes, Janey…we had a nice Easter. We always do the hiding eggs deal, and the boys also look for their little surprises that we hide. Did your little Derrick go on any Easter egg hunts?

Take care.

5 04 2010
janey

witchy we dont do the egg hunts, i dont know why.
my mom loves eater baskets tho so we got him one and we went to church.
we had fun then we did dinner and i went of to the movies. derek is sick anyhow so he’s been cranky and didnt even get to enjoy easter as much this year

6 04 2010
lara21167

Hello ladies, glad you both had fun Easters. Mine was good, went to the MIL 4 grandbabies to take out in the yard to find Easter Eggs. I had the oldest whose almost 3 and I had to pull him in his wagon, lazy thing lol. But they had fun. Kristy wanted to look for herself, but they only hid them for the little ones so she carried her cousin and helped her find some. That satisfied her. Just was a busy weekend. My son and his G/F went to the beach, got lost in DC, while I was pounding out instructions via text message, about not stopping staying in car and so forth, bad areas in DC. So they made it to Asategue and now he hasn’t let me know if he’s back. He only has text on his phone, but I keep texting him, no reply. kristy tells me to leave him alone, but I won’t relax until I know he’s back safe and sound.

7 04 2010
janey

thats pretty crazy. do they have any other way of callin and letting you know they are ok.?

8 04 2010
lara21167

Oh he’s back just fine. I texted him yesterday and got a 1/2 assed response. I’m wondering if there is problems in paradise. They were going to go to Virginia Beach with me and Kristy the 1st of May. So I need to find out something.

11 04 2010
janey

hey guys.!
im gettin ready to go to work but i
just wanted to stop by and say hey.
its been a while โค
what have you guys been up to.?

11 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Hey there, Janey! How’s it going, Little-Miss? You sound great! On your way to work, huh? How’s the job going, anyway? I’m leaving for Middle-Spawn’s baseball game in a little while…it’s a tournament that’s been going on all weekend. So far, his team has won all their games…they also have to win this next game – starting at 1:30 – to play for the championship this evening. We’ll see what happens.

Talk to you soon, Sweetie, and take care.

11 04 2010
janey

i am doin a lil goos i guess lol
good luck to your son.!
ive just been here takin care of alex during spring break.
the little cutie. hes adorable. and its funny cause ive been talkin
to this football player from school. hes name is alex also. i get confused, lol
we might start dating soon. we are goin to prom together.

11 04 2010
janey

*good.

12 04 2010
lara21167

Janey are you a senior? You’ll have to tell us all about prom. I never went. long story, well not really I had just started dating my 1st hubby and didn’t want to ask him to take me, he’s 6 years older than me so he was clueless about prom or he’d have asked me. Good luck with your football player!!

Witchy congrats to middle spawn!! It’s great to watch your kids do so well in sports isn’t it. We are going to the cheerleading finals at the end of the month. Hopefully this year we’ll at least look like we belong. Most teams there have all kinds of sponsers and prof. training. But our team this year is that good, if they concentrate and keep sharp. They just don’t understand you much better that sharpness makes them look.

12 04 2010
janey

lara – im a junior and i will. my dress is amazing,
i have to run but ill be back in hour t tell you guys

12 04 2010
janey

so im back. my dress is red and has an empire waistline. and my shoes are silver and i have a silver clutch to match. my after prom dress is short and black with silver flats, and everything is just great and tickets are expensive. my hair is going to be swept back and curled. alex is wearing ablack tux w a red vest that matches the exact red of my dress.

13 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Your “look” for prom sounds spectacular, Brainy-Janey! I think you’ll look gorgeous in red, and everybody needs at least one LBD, (little-black-dress). I love silver and black together. If you put some pictures of your pretty self up on your Myspace? Facebook?, I’d love to see how the 2 of you look together, Milady! I don’t have your thingy-ma-jig address anymore where you post pictures though. If you want to show us your prom pictures, post it here so I can visit you. (If you don’t want to leave it here, I completely understand, Sweetie).

Anyhoo, the cheerleading competition of Kristy’s the end of this month sounds exciting, Lara. Yeah, like you mentioned, squads look so much more put-together and competitive when their movents are sharp and perfectly-synced. It helps to have them practice in front of a huge mirror, if possible. It’s amazing how seeing your own image dance is often so vastly different than what you think you look like in your mind’s eye. (That’s a mouthful!). When I was on dance and drill teams in jr. high and high school, our instructors were always shouting, “PRECISION-PRECISION-PRECISION!” during practice. Do the girls spend a lot of time stretching and doing flexibility exercises before practices and performances? Tell Kristy “GOOD LUCK FROM WITCHY!”, (she’ll be like, “Uhhh…WHO’S Witchy?!). Hahaha.

Oldest-spawn was just told during weight-training/conditioning at the high school over spring break, (the really intense football guys weight-train and condition all year, including over school breaks) by the head-coach and the running-back coach that if he keeps up what he’s doing, he’ll start on the varsity football squad as both half-back, and tailback. The way his high school plays it is sometimes, one guy can be utilized in 2 different running-back positions…depending on the play. Anyhoo, he’s pretty psyched, since competition is really tight for the starting spots, and he’s only in 10th grade. Our area plays “spring ball” , as a form of training and looking at the talent for next fall. Then the coaches form a preliminary plan for where they’ll put who, when summer training rolls around. Football is pretty big around here.

Talk to you Girls later…
Take care.

13 04 2010
Witchypoo33

movents should read, “moveMEnts”. My eyes are tired, (volunteered today at Baby’s preschool). First day back from spring break, and those lil’ monsters – I mean, SWEETHEARTS – were so hyper and full of piss and vinegar today. Hahaha. They really wore me out…even their regular teacher was telling me how tired-out she was toward the end of the day. They’re, (the kids), all pretty sweet in his/her own way 90% of the time; some days are just more challenging…like today. TIme to go put my feet up.

13 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Sheez…you mentioned your football-player, Janey…which sent me off on the subject of my football-playing Spawn. What I meant to ask you is if your guy plays on defense or offense? Also, what position(s) does he play? I love to talk football. Do you two discuss the sport at all?

Take care.

13 04 2010
lara21167

Sorry Witchy never really got into football or football players in High school lol. Never liked cheerleading or cheerleaders in high school either. Now I have an appreciation for the sport, yea sport, like I never though i’d have. Sounds great for oldest spawn, may get a college scholorship??

Oh and Witchy I’m surprised you let little miss Bluepup go on some of her comments yesterday. I had to go to Blogfusion and vent lol. Blogfusion is a blog to “talk” about blogs the good the bad and the ugly. I didn’t want to comment on BB too much because that’s what Bluepup wanted. Everyone seemed to take to ignore her and she’ll go away approach which was good.

Janey do you keep up with BB?

13 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Yeah, Lara…competitive dance is considered a sport; you’ve got to be really flexible, athletic, and in peak physical form to compete at the high school level. We had professional dance instructors for our team in high school…Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders. They weren’t what I’d describe as “nice”…pretty hard and nasty, really. But, they knew what they were talking about.

About Bluepup: I don’t know why you’d think I’d be interested in engaging with Bluepup, Lara. It’s tiring to get ensnared with some of these weirdos who flip out in a public venue like that. She’s obviously screwy, and looking for attention. If someone directly addresses me, I may – or may not – respond. Just depends on the circumstances. I don’t really see how encouraging that type of odd personality would really be productive; that poor soul seems unhinged to me…or, at least, like I said before, attention-seeking. It seems kind of cruel to prod someone like that. I read a few of Blogfusion’s posts a while back; I guess I wasn’t compelled to return. I think they’re kind of repetitive…they state the obvious, with a bit of a high-handed air, I think. Like, I guess one I’m referring to is about that author who claims to have been offered a book deal on her blog? Something like that. Daisy or Violet, (don’t remember), ripped into her pretty viciously, I thought. What are they, professional critics? It’s like the saying: those who can’t do, – teach. Only, in this case, those who can’t write – criticize. I also noticed from the few posts I read, (I actually read several in one sitting…haven’t been back since), that they don’t get too many new or varied comments. I guess I just wasn’t hooked into revisiting. Oh yeah…forgot: I also thought they were needlessly negative about the 15 Miles author. So she dropped off the face of the planet? A million things could have happened…maybe she’s even having emotional difficulties…or problems with her family, or whatever. I just didn’t think the nasty comments were necessarily justified, I guess. Kind of a turn-off to me.

Anyhoo…how are ya doin’, Janey-Dear? Check in when you can, Little-Miss. I want to see your pretty dress.

Have a great one, Girls, and take care.

13 04 2010
lara21167

I just know how important family and children are to you Witchy and Bluepup was just so I don’t know, like you said looking for attention, negative attention which is why I didn’t want to engage her. But that remark about the friend who’s motto was “abort the little f***” or whatever just went through me like a knife. And she’ll be the one on video beating her kids in the Walmart parking lot. I know she probably doesn’t mean any of that. But still it gets to me. So many people out there wanting children that can’t have them or misscarry and are devasted. I’m a bit emotional right now so I guess that’s why it irked me so that some screwball just says things like that to try and guil(SP?) people they don’t know into an agruement.

13 04 2010
Witchypoo33

And so they are, Sweetlara…so they are. But, me jumping in to deliver a verbal knock-out punch to a misguided, (and, probably unhappy), soul on the BB wouldn’t serve anything but the mob-mentality ganging up on her there. (I’m assuming this person is being truthful about being female). I thought that Peyton, (she’s a real piece of work sometimes), did a thorough-enough job of treating Headcase as an outcast to be sneered at. That Peyton seems to have problems of her own…she’s SO anxious to flaunt any knowledge she has of inconsequential details – almost like she’s saying, “Look how SMART and RIGHT I am all the time!” Her toying with Sadpuppy speaks volumes about what type of person she is, (as far as I can make a judgement-call based on those comments on BB, anyway). I DID try to steer the Poundpuppy in the direction of a more hopeful attitude regarding pregnancy and childbirth: I talked about, (in a general sense), how things often go just fine for many women in regards to the whole reproductive deal, and how it doesn’t necessarily destroy your body to have babies. I didn’t feel like directly addressing her would be the right thing to do. I usually only personally engage with someone if I have something positive to say, an agreement of their comments or whatever – or, if they blatantly confront me, and I happen to feel like replying. It’s usually more trouble than it’s worth, though. Some of the nastiness that takes place on there can get pretty ridiculous sometimes, you know? So many egos competing for…I don’t know what.

Janey-Dear…where arrrrrrrre you today? Check in when you can, Sweetie.

Take care.

13 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Forgot to ask: is anything wrong to be making you so emotional, Sweetlara, (like you mentioned above)? Hope things are going well for you.

Take care.

13 04 2010
lara21167

Paxil withdraws and no anxiety meds at the moment, I don’t know which is worst the treatment of anxiety or the anxiety itself!! Oh well bout another week of this according to the support sites I’ve found.

I tried to bring out some positive something in Sadpup (like that!!) but to no avail. That was before the really nasty remarks. Yea Peyton let her have it, but I thought she was holding back. She can let the sh** fly when she wants to. Actually it’s really interesting the idk the word I want the people that comment on there and how everyone can group together, take sides, have friendly banter or be down right nasty. That’s what makes the comments more interesting than the blog sometimes. I still miss Joe Hottie and wish they’d take our advise and do a fictional one. Fiction can be more fun than real life anyway. A blog I just started reading you might like is that What the heart desires, it’s been mentioned on BB. It’s actually completed now I think but if you like romance and a bit of very racy sex scenes, and unless I miss my guess there is going to be a bit of mystery to it as well, it is great. I’ve only read like the first month. So it’s still new to me.

14 04 2010
janey

im hereee.! i dont go on myspace anymore cause of drama but im on facebook now and you guys can go on my page so you can see my pics and see pictures of baby alex. i’ll upload more tomorrow after school. and witchy no i dont talk football with him. i just talk to him lol i dont like football as much as other sports because it confuses me. lol.

lara- i dont keep with anyblog except this one to talk to you guys lol i havent even posted on mine but i hope you guys will check it out and let me know what you think.

liveoutloud829.wordpress.com

14 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Mmmm…I just think she, (Peyton), preys on whoever she thinks is “weaker” than herself, then bullies them in order to make herself look somehow smarter, wittier, whatever. In my book, that makes her a bonafide Horsey-Ass. Anyhoo, enough about horseys and their asses.

I didn’t realize that Paxil, (and other anti-depressants like it), causes such severe withdrawls. Is that supposed to be the norm? Are you going to try anything else?

Oh yeah…forgot to mention: When I asked about whether “you two ever discuss football”, in a previous comment, I was referring to Janey and her guy – the football player – talking about the sport together. I sort of remember you mentioning before that football isn’t your thing, Lara.

Welllll…time to attend to the nightly routine.

Take care.

14 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Hey there, Janey! Your comment crossed with my last one; great to see you having fun with your football player, Sweetie. Is he a nice, sweet guy? Does he treat you well?

Talk to you later, and take care.

14 04 2010
janey

yea he’s nice. he is kinda big and bulky and thats different for me cause ive always dated guys with nice bods but hes nice

14 04 2010
lara21167

Big and bulky is good Janey lol. I have not been able to access your blog site. I shall try again.
Witchy, I’ve found out alot about Paxil withdraws. My doc had me up to 80 mil which is the max dosage. It kept “pooping out” a term used by Paxil users. Anyway the 80 mil just wasn’t kicking in so my doc weaned me down to 20 mil and took me off. I got soooooooo sick I missed 2 days of work. Called the wonderful doc and he put me back on 10 mil. Told me to take it for a week, go off everything for 1 week then start my new med, Prestiq. I waited until after Easter to go off of the Paxil. Actually today is 1 week yay. There are many support websites for going off Paxil. that’ s a big redflag. The one I like best, the blog author has even written a book!! He recommends taking 2 weeks off of work and sending the kids to camp while you deal with it. Not an option for me. The worst symptoms are nausia, gitters, confusion, a fuzzy headed feeling, loss of coordination, and the worst the “brain zaps” not a good technical term but that is exactly what it is. It is a feeling of an electrical shock going through your head. Last time was really bad, this time they are mild. Someone on the support site mentioned that ginger root helped. The other thing to help is dramamine for the nasisia and dizziness. But I’m making it. Now the Prestiq is the same type of med and I’m afraid to take it. Years ago I was suffering from depression, and didn’t realize it. I mostly felt like I was in a deep dark hole and couldn’t get out. I was able to work and do normal life stuff so it wasn’t that bad. Anyhoo I worked my way out of it through yoga. When I was in my early 20s I took an interest in yoga. I bought an old book called “28 Days of Yoga” by Richard Hittleman, he used to have a yoga show in the 70s I remember watching. Anyhoo this book takes you through 28 days teaching different asanas. Then had 3 practice routines at the end you could do for life. I’ve continued off and on with this. But that was just hatha, no meditation or any other aspects of yoga. When i was going thru that period of depression, I got a book called the Seven Spiritual laws of yoga. And practiced what it taught. and was able to work myself out of the depression. (I’m stupidly just realizing that was depression that I went through) So anyway I’m going to get back into this and hope that it helps again. If I need it i have the Prestiq samples my doc gave me. But after this experience I’m afraid to take anything. I mean the brain zaps in particular, that means the meds really mess with your brain chemicals and that just can’t be good, can it?

14 04 2010
lara21167

Oh and the anxiety gets so bad, I’ve been to the hospital twice thinking I was having a heart attack. I mean I get chest pains, heart palpatations, short of breath, and a generalized feeling of anxiety. And if something scares me I feel like my heart is going to leap right out of my chest. And then there’s the always feeling like I have some disease and spending hours on the internet researching. Piece of advise, stay off the Web Md symptom checker. Everytime I have gone on there it tells me I have congestive heart failure, go the the ER immediately. Dumb thing, my heart is strong and healthy. Ok, this was all probably TMI, but oh well that’s what we do on here.

14 04 2010
lara21167

Oh and to give you ladies credit, I was also becoming extremely socially retarded, not the right word but you know what I mean. I started commenting on the Joe Hottie site and BB and was really shy to do that lol. But getting to “know” you ladies and able to “talk” to you not being face to face helped me out of the social arkwardness. When Kristy started cheerleading, I barely talked to anyone, now I have a group of girlfriends and Cheer practice has become our girl time. In fact last nite I had some errands to run and missed most of practice and caught hell from the “girls” for not being there lol. So thank you ladies for helping me out of my social retartidness, def not the right word lol.

14 04 2010
janey

awww, lara,

um. i just reserved the limo for prom. super waste of 900 bucks.
alex is comin to give me his money for his ticket and im buyin them tomorrow.
he just moved to scotia cause a lot of scouts go there and he’s good so he moved to see if he could get scouted. heres the run down on the financial end of prom.

Tickets: $75
Limo:$900
dress:$80
shoes:$40
hair:$85-120
nails and feet:$50
after prom dress: $30
flats:$14
clutch:$30

i am so broke.

16 04 2010
janey

hey guys where were you today.?????
so lonely lol
hope you are all havin great days

16 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Hi there, Janey-Dear. How’s it going? Yup…doin’ fine, (knock-wood). Anyhoo, just the usual busy routine. Plus, I need to find a birthday gift for my Mom; we’re all going out to dinner tomorrow evening to celebrate. Last night, I called my Mom while I was getting ready for bed, (for just a quick check-in to verify the time for dinner, and get her list of ideas of things she wants for her gift). We wound up staying on the phone until midnight, and now I’m so tired.

Sweetlara…I’m so happy that we could be of any help to you. I really had no idea that you suffered from what sounds like social anxiety. (There seems to be a term for everything these days, huh?). I just thought you were a little shy, (I think that’s how you put it when we were first getting to know each other. That must be really painful. I’ve known a few people who I’m pretty sure suffer from that condition. Actually, I didn’t really comprehend how pronounced your overall anxiety level is. It sounds like the worst of the withdrawal symptoms are over, at least. It’s funny: you really don’t ever know what’s going on inside someone’s head, do you? Sometimes, even good friends are hiding emotional scars and problems that affect their lives…and we just have no idea how much a kind word, or an understanding ear can help. If you interacting with us here has helped you in even the smallest way…well, that makes me very happy. Everyone needs some venue for getting things out in the open, yes?

Well, have a great day, Girls.

16 04 2010
lara21167

Social Anxiety, how clueless I am that’s exactly what is was. Anyhoo, i started the new med have taken 2 doses and feel great!! Usually takes these things like 2 – 4 weeks to feel the effects. Hopefully it will continue to work. That seems to be my problem the damn meds stop working.

So I called the Doc yesterday (why do I feel like I get on his nerves bugging him??) and left a message about my heart rate (and this could be from the anxiety I guess, but I recently joined curves, love it btw, and when I work out my heart rate goes well into the 85% zone. And I feel dizzy so I just slow down the workout. I haven’t mentioned this to my trainer (the lady that makes sure you use the equipment properly so you don’t strain anything) but I got concerned and called the doc to make sure it was ok to be exercising. So I got a v/m (missed the call) from his nurse telling me to continue to exercise but keep my target heart rate at 110 to 130. I’ve been going up to 180 to 185, that’s when I start to feel dizzy. So I need to call my lady and have her set me up on the curves smart. That’s where they give you like a card you put into the machines and it is downloaded with your info and helps you to stary in your target heart rate zone. Life is so complicated lol.

Janey, I love you but you are nuts to pay $900 for a limo. Just aint worth all that!! The rest wasn’t too bad really. But it is the prom so what is money anyway go all the way (talking about prom perks not the other thing lol) and have a great time. When is it anyway? And the B/f may have a chance at a college scholorship? That s fantastic.

16 04 2010
janey

lol no i wont be “going all the way” that way lol
prom is may 14th nd i took my dress to get altered today.
it was too long. im so tired. i was w alea all day practically.
the godson not the bf lol both their names are alex
and he got his two month shots today my poor baby.
i went to the mall to get my R.i.p t shirt done for my niece
w her pic on it and the front says “R.i.p Yandeliz Enik” and the back says
“1.22.07-4.2307 we miss you baby girl” i LOVE it

17 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Hey there, Janey. Yeah, babies are pretty much constant work, aren’t they? Go have some fun with your friends for a while, Sweetie. So, are you happy with your dress? I still need to get over to your site to look at pictures, (did you get any up of you in the dress yet).

Take care.

17 04 2010
janey

i havent put up pic yet but when i do ill post up the address witchy
i think im just gonna wait til after prom and put them all together

18 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Sounds like a plan, Janey-Dear. Take care.

18 04 2010
janey

bt um, i have pics of baby alex on facebook if you’d like to see them.
just go to facebook.com and i can email you my email and password so you cen get into my profile and see the pics on my photo albums

19 04 2010
janey

so i have this new addiction for dunkin donuts you guys.
its really ridiculous. it started w just coffee at school eery morning. and now its DD iced coffee EVERY day. ugh. im not gonna grow anymore anyways lol

19 04 2010
lara21167

Ahhh Mocha iced lattes love them myself. I can’t have too much caffine though. ๐Ÿ˜ฆ
I see it’s time for a freak or 2 to come out on BB and attack you Witchy. I just don’t understand that to save my life. I decided to take the high road. You are right ignore and they will go away.
Oh Cheer coach is canceling kristy’s team for Finals. She said 1/2 the team’s heart just isn’t in it anymore and she doesn’t know what else to do. I say take ’em anyway. but i guess not. She is still taking 2 other of our squads.

19 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Hey ladies. Janey…yeah, caffine is on our earth for a reason; just don’t drink so much you get too wired. Too much can make people jumpy and/or irritable.

Yeah, there was just the one freak who felt the need to spread her joy. Her comment is oozing with hostility – and she’s trying to make it personal. I usually only comment about the blog content itself, or I’ll “visit” with some of the regulars once-in-a-while…I don’t usually like to get embroiled in the personal crap over there. It’s beyond me how anyone can get worked up over a magazine blog. *Shrug* I don’t know, (and don’t have any interest in giving it any real thought – that’s why I usually ignore weirdos like that). I just think of that comment section as a type of “book” club or something – where you mull over the fiction and everybody brings up various points, some agree, some disagree, whatever. There’s always going to be someone who wants to get personal, though.

That’s too bad about Kristy’s cheer squad not going to finals. When some of the team members aren’t committed completely, it ruins it for everyone.

Take care.

19 04 2010
lara21167

Yea I think of the comment section as a type of “bookclub” too. I’m determined to take your stand and ignore the idiots, seems to work. Btw did you watch “beauty and the briefcase” last night. Hilary Duff played a fashion journalist working “undercover” for a Cosmo cover story? It was cute but silly. The Cosmo site kept saying “see what it’s like to work at Cosmo” But there wasn’t much cosmo footage. I was expecting more.

Yes I am mad about Finals. I mean at Saturday’s practice I had some errands to run and come back to see my child crying her eyes out (she never, ever cries in front of people like that) and the coach went over and hugged her. (she won’t let me comfort her) but it just really made me mad. I tried to talk Kim into letting them go anyway. usually when the get on the mat something changes in them and they give it their all. So idk. We are going down anyway. Nice long weekend in VA Beach sounds good to me!!

21 04 2010
janey

tht sux lara. i would be pissed too.

so this friday is my nieces 3rd death anniversary.
and my therapist wants me to make a collage to remember her

22 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Well Janey, do you think making the collage’ will make you feel better, or maybe understand HOW you feel about the loss of your niece? I guess the idea behind that exercise is to be in touch with your feelings? I can only make suppositions…I’ve always had a tendency to disconnect from my more intense, unhappy emotions. While that seems beneficial at the time, it comes back to bite you in the ass in various ways later…even much later. I guess unresolved emotions are bound to make their way out into the open in some way – sooner or later. Did your niece’s death affect you profoundly? Was she Alex’s baby sister? I hope you’re able to at least feel at peace…or, I guess a sense of closure is what I’m getting at…about the sad event. Loss is hard.

Take care, Sweetie.

22 04 2010
janey

She was dereks little sister. And it did affect me a lot. I got an r.i.p tshirt for her and everything. Alex is takin me out tomorrow night to cheer me up

23 04 2010
Witchypoo33

I meant Derek’s little sister…sorry. I don’t know why I said Alex instead of Derek. Where are you going with Alex tomorrow? He sounds really nice, Janey.

Take care.

23 04 2010
janey

we are goin to see death at a funeral then we are going to dinner .

23 04 2010
lara21167

Let me know how that is Janey, it looks really funny. It is really sad about your niece. And it is hard to deal with the death of a baby. The college sounds like a great idea.

23 04 2010
janey

alex and i just had our first argument.
and its not stupid. ugh. he like. refuses to wear a condom.
we arent having sex…yet. but we talked about it and hes just like.
no. i wont wear one. so i told him i wouldnt have sex w him and he got mad.
we r still goin out tomorrow tho

24 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Hold your ground, Janey. Make sure he knows beyond a doubt that you won’t consider having sex with him without a condom, (even with one, there’s not 100% certainty that an std, or pregnancy, won’t result). I’m surprised that in this day and age, a young person like Alex wouldn’t understand the importance of protection…for both of you. Anyhoo, again, be clear with him. A lot of guys think they can work on you and wear you down over time; don’t let him have the opportunity. If he won’t see reason…then he’s not worthy of your company, Sweetie.

Take care.

24 04 2010
janey

oh i wont. i made tht clear to him.

24 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Good thinkin’, Janey. I’m happy to see you’re looking out for your best interests.

Take care.

25 04 2010
janey

i wouldnt put myself in jeapordy like that anyways for anyone.
my ex hated but he did it cause i ddnt give him another choice
besides no sex :]

anyways. i babysat baby alex last night and i will do it again tonight
so his parents get to go out. hes so cute. hes gettin really chubby.
he weighs 10 pounds now and hes 2 and a half months old

25 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Oh yeah…babies are getting so adorably pudgy by about that age – 3 to 3 1/2 months is REALLY cute; they really plump up by then. My guys were all big: over 9 pounds at birth. Yup…waddle-waddle for Mommie for quite a while after giving birth. Have fun babysitting Alex tonight; it’s really nice of you to give his parents a break, Janey.

Take care

26 04 2010
janey

they are incredibly cute at this age. i love him lol

26 04 2010
lara21167

Janey, I may be too late jumping into this convo on condoms, but instead of arguing (of course let him no you are not budging) tell him idk, something like you can shop for them together, find the right size (I swear I read something in Cosmo about the wrong size making a condom an unpleasant experience) I don’t know make it a joint thing the picking it out buying and putting it on. look on cosmo’s website I know there are some article pertaining to this. Some guys think they don’t get the sensation or something, you just have to find the right kind. And learning from BB an STD talk should be done too. Especially if he’s not a comdom kind of guy. God sex is difficult these days lol.

26 04 2010
lara21167

Ha under Sex Articles on Cosmo look for “How to make condoms fun” Maybe have Alex read it with you.

26 04 2010
janey

he says he def isnt a condom guy. and tht makes me angry
hes all its no fun with a condom on and i wont wear one. um.
fuck it not fun for you , youre not comin near me without one.
im 16. im not trying to get pregnant before senior year.
or prom. or before the end of junior year. hell no.
we had the STD talk. he says he clean. i KNOW im clean.
idk. this is gettin too stressful and im gettin ready to just cut him off.
and i really dont want to cause i like him.

27 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Yeah, I’d be pissed, too, Janey. The big Galoot is freakin’ lucky you’re even considering letting him get his paws on you! Am I right? Yep. I’m SO glad you’re not falling for that spoiled brat routine that some guys pull when it comes to sex. Give in here and he’ll think he can manipulate you in other areas. Besides, this is just TOO important of a subject to compromise on. Shit: it’s not like you two are a long-term couple who know each other’s habits and past history really well. For all you know, he’s been hittin’ it with every little sweetie in his path, (probably not…but who really knows?) And, about the std deal: are you just supposed to operate under blind trust that he’s clean? Like I said, you guys are a new couple; he hasn’t earned that kind of unquestioning acceptance yet. That takes time and experience with each other. Are you going to insist on a test before you two get down to business, (assuming this condom-dilemma doesn’t take sex off the table, first)? Like I said, operate under the mind-set that he’s LUCKY you’re considering letting him near you. If he’s being THIS stubborn and pig-headed about wearing a condom, maybe he’s not the guy for you. Don’t compromise on the important things, Sweetie. I know you’ll stand firm.

Take care.

27 04 2010
janey

witchy, i wont let this go. i know what is good
for me and maybe hes not for me idk.
im just gonna wait til prom. if things are still ike this after. its over.

27 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Yeah-baby…THAT’S what I want to hear, (read). Good girl. When is prom again? Can you hold him off that long?

27 04 2010
janey

lol prom is may 14. but i think i can. im not that easy we havent been datin tht ong and i havent decided yet IF i even WAnt to have sex with him

27 04 2010
lara21167

Janey you think very maturely for 16, you just stick to your guns. If he’s not willing to consider your feelings on this well you can imagine that other things will follow.

27 04 2010
janey

dont i know it lara lol
im not up to dealing with all of that right now.
i have other things to worry about

27 04 2010
janey

armywives is the best show ever.!

29 04 2010
Witchypoo33

Hey there, Janey. Yeah, I’ve only seen a little of that show, but what I saw was pretty absorbing. I’ve always liked one of the actresses in it…Kim Delaney I think is her name. Whenever she’s in something, it’s usually interesting. Actually, I really like most of the cast I’ve seen in it, especially Anthony (it’s either Anthony or Michael) Hall, (is that his name?), who’s been in everything from ‘The Breakfast Club’ and ‘Sixteen Candles’ back in the 80’s, to ‘The Dead Zone’ a few years back. Anyhoo, I don’t watch a lot of tv, but now that you’ve reminded me of it, maybe I’ll try to remember to give that show a looksee next time it’s on. When is it on anyway, and what channel?

Is Alex playing nice lately?
Take care.

29 04 2010
janey

i havent talked to him in like 2 days.

nd armywives in on lifetime sundays at 10.
i loveeeee that show. havent missed a single episode in 4 seasons.
im not sure of his name at the moment either witchy.
i think its micheal lol

30 04 2010
lara21167

May I take a moment to bitch about my job. I have just about had it!! Working for a man who is literally brain damaged, yesterday he screamed at me because we’ve been having problems getting an invoice from the government paid. Said i haven’t been following up on it, which I have!! And he does that he’ll yell about something like you didn’t do something which you did. Makes no sense what’s so ever!! I almost walked out, but since I have yet to get any bites on my resume that I’ve been sending out when I see something available I may like, then I have to bite my tongue. And you can’t argue with him it’s just impossible. Then today I hear him talking on the phone to a contractor saying how when he was off sick the company lost so much money. Such Bullshit!! We had a very nice profit last year, especially good for the economy the way it is. And if he lost so much money, why the hell are he and his wife spending hundreds of thousands of dollars in an addition on their damn house (completely funded by the company btw) And they think I’m too dumb to know that. 2 more semester of college, I’ll be done in september, then maybe i can get a damn interview!!

Thank you for letting me vent. I needed that lol

1 05 2010
Witchypoo33

Sweetlara, your boss sounds like a real prince to work for. Imagine what he must be like to live with – probably not a pretty picture of domestic bliss. Blech. At least you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, huh? I mean, it probably helps a lot having a goal to work toward, (leaving for a better job). You’ll get there, Sweetie. Sorry about the rough day.

Take care.

2 05 2010
janey

i dropped my cell phone in the toilet.
not a good day.
babysittin alex in a lil while.
hopefully it will get better

3 05 2010
Witchypoo33

Ugh, Janey. Is it ruined? Baby-Spawn did that to #1-Spawn a couple of years ago. I was talking to him and telling him something I wanted him to do before I got home, and all of a sudden the line cut off. When I got home a little while later, #1-Spawn was still pretty steamed over what Baby did; the phone was ruined.

Take care.

3 05 2010
Witchypoo33

Oh…forgot to finish telling what happened: anyhoo, Baby wanted #1 Spawn’s attention, but he was on the phone with me. So, little-man just grabbed the phone out of his big brother’s hand and dumped it in the toilet. Nice, huh? The little dickins moves fast.

3 05 2010
janey

yea its ruined.
thats a littlefunny about your kids,
iminhistory right now reviwing and getting ready for this test
we r usuin the laptops

3 05 2010
lara21167

Kristy dropped her phone in the toilet at school once lmao. She took it apart, and let it dry. Then took the hair dryer to it when she got home, and it worked fine. That was her old phone. her new one she lost Saturday. We’d gone into a store and came out and she couldn’t find it. She swore she’d left it in the car. I left the windows down because it was so hot and we weren’t going to be long. Well we thought someone stole it. After we got home, the manager from the store we were at called my hubby from it. She’d left it on a shelf!! Darn absentminded kids.

3 05 2010
janey

lol well i just did all you just mentioned after lettin it sit in rice to abosorb the moisture and the little sucker turned on.! im sooo happy right now lol.
im goin to visit NYU tomorrow with Aeadn.! [guy best friend] im so excited.

3 05 2010
Witchypoo33

Janey, glad your phone isn’t ruined. Have a blast visiting NYU with your pal, Sweetie.

Take care.

4 05 2010
janey

thanks witchy. we will. theres a lot of us fightin to sit with him on the bus lol
maria the needy will be there too ugh. im not gonna let it ruin my day tho.
ive been dying to c this school. gettin everythin ready then bed. night.!

5 05 2010
janey

where is everyone today.?

5 05 2010
lara21167

Hello Janeylou, glad you got your phone working. Kristy is an expert on fixing phones, she’s fixed enough of her daddy’s lol. Let us know how your trip to NYU goes!!

5 05 2010
janey

NYU tour guide canceled on us so we couldnt go there but we ended up going to Parsons New SChool of music
and FIT

5 05 2010
Witchypoo33

Hey there, Little-Miss…how’s it going? Sounds like you had a busy day checking out schools. We’ve just been really busy around here. Sometimes I lose track of the day it speeds by so fast. Yesterday, though, I got to sit back and be waited on by Baby-Spawn at his preschool Mother’s Day Tea. It was soooo adorable. Baby wanted to make sure I had plenty of food and lemonade at all times, so he kept making trips back and forth to the refreshment table, loading up plates of cookies, fruit, etc. and all that. The kiddos also made cupcakes the day before in class that they decorated, (Baby put lots of gummy worms and m&m’s on mine), plus they’d been working on ceramic flower pots that contained a pretty plant, and a “flower-stick” with their own picture in the middle of the pretty daisy. So, when the moms, (and a couple of dads who came because mommie couldn’t be there for some reason), entered the “tea-room”, we had to look for the place-setting our child had made for us, and locate their little smiling face in the potted-plant, and sit down at the place-mat he’d/she’d decorated and laminated for us. Then, there was songs and little dances they put on for us while we ate, and afterward the teacher asked each child individually if it was ok to read the card out loud that he/she had made. Almost all the kids said it was alright, (a couple of them hid their faces out of bashfulness, though). The teacher had asked each one when they were making the cards what made their mom special, and what types of things she did with/for him/her. Then, she wrote all that in the card the little-kiddo decorated and wrote his/her own name in. All the cards were sweet, (as you can probably imagine), but Heath told about all our hugs and kisses, and went into detail about our bed-time routine with the things we say to each other, and all that, (in addition to the more expected, “Mommie takes me to the park and watches me on the monkey bars, etc.”, explanation). It was so touching, because he’s normally such an active, typically “boy’s-boy”…always playing football, demonstrating karate’ moves, running around and knocking things over, etc. And he does all that with a huge grin on his face, and he makes all the kids and teachers laugh, (he really is hilarious, and understands subtle irony/sarcasm instinctually)…anyhoo, they don’t see that really loving, cuddly side of him that I get to see everday. So, his card was surprising, and caught everyone off-guard…I got teary, (I’m a sentimental idiot, anyway), but so did some of the other moms, and even the teacher. Anyway, we sat at our little tables and had a really fun visit with each other, and I really like the other parents also. One of the mommies who was placed at our table, Melinda, (Heath probably requested this, since her son is his BEST BUDDY at preschool), she’s SUCH a chatterbox, and a hoot. I love visiting with her when we’re helping out in the class, and when we’re just hanging out at the school after taking our little guys to class. So, it was a lot of fun doing that. The rest of the day was spent running Heath to his karate’ class, shopping, trying to get dinner made as quickly as possible, etc. The usual whirlwind.

What did you think of the schools you visited, Janey? Are you doing anything special for your mom on Mother’s Day?

Take care.

5 05 2010
lara21167

Awww Witchy that was sooo sweet. Oh I remember the days of being number #1 in my kids’ lives. Enjoy while you can.

5 05 2010
janey

witchy tht sounds so super adorable.! โค
your littl boy def sounds like hes i
n love with his mommie [in a good way]
im SUCH a mommie and daddys grl im in love with my
parents too lol
um, i ddnt really like the schools that we saw BUT i looked online
and i think i fell in love with Borough of Manhattan Community College.
ive decided to to community college first and then transfer to the school of my dreams, NYU.

im prolly just cleaning up and makin dinner for mami while shes at work on sunday

7 05 2010
Witchypoo33

Hey there, Janey. That sounds nice what you’ve got planned for your mom. It’s pretty nice to have things done for us that we normally have to do ourselves. A break once-in-a-while for us worn-out mommies is very appreciated. We have a busy weekend scheduled, then a Mom’s Day Sunday Brunch at a restaurant for our family, plus my parents and hubby’s parents.

More later, Sweetie…
Take care.

9 05 2010
janey

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY GIRLS.!
i hope you have a blessed and wonderful day
being celebtated for the amazing work you do as a mom โค

10 05 2010
Witchypoo33

Thanks, Sweetie. Yes, it’s been a really great day. Hope your day with your Mom has been special, too.

Take care.

10 05 2010
janey

it was just a normal day for us lol but with really good food.
im officially sick and it started yesterday i fely so horrible i spent most of the day in bed, reading. im feelin a tiny bit better but i still feel pretty bad.

lara i hope youre okay and check in soon.

10 05 2010
lara21167

Thanks for the Mother’s Day wishes, Janey. Kristy made me a card and this flower thing, and Richie sent me a text. Big for him since he never remembers birthdays and holidays and such, kind of like his dad that way lol.

10 05 2010
janey

so im upstairs in my room and my mom is downstairs in hers and we r fb chatting. how funny is that .? lol

11 05 2010
lara21167

Ahh the days of technology lol. Hey Janey, if someone denies your friend request on FB, do you get notification of that or do they just disapear off of your friend list? You know how they are on there with “friend request pending”? I sent a friend request to an old b/f and now it disappeared and I was wondering if he denied it.

11 05 2010
janey

i think its supposed to disappear.
but i have a boatload of hw so ill b back later

11 05 2010
lara21167

Thanks Janey, don’t know what I ever did to the a**hole lol

11 05 2010
lara21167

I’m getting ready to go, but the more I think about that the madder I get. I was sooooo in love with this guy when I was 16 (he was 21) we dated a few months. Went out a couple more times after we broke up. Ok, yes I got drunk many times and cried over him to my friends, and yea probably anyone else who would listen. But I saw his thing on fb (he’s friends with a couple pep I’m friends with) and innocently sent a friend request. And he denied it!! Idk what the big deal was. I just feel like that’s a slap in the face ya know??

12 05 2010
janey

maybe he didnt recognize you or remember you unless you sent him a message along with your request lol thennnnnnnn thts rudee.
hw is goin to kill me. 27 days left of school. yay.!!!
prom on friday. not excited. cant wait to just get it over with

12 05 2010
Witchypoo33

Hey there, Ladies. Janey-Dear, why aren’t you excited about the prom this Friday? I thought you were looking forward to it. Are you and Alex getting along ok? Do you even still like him? Is he respecting your wishes regarding the issue you two were having recently? Should I just try for an even 20 questions? Hahaha. Anyhoo, yeah…crack those books hard until the end of the year, Sweetie…you can do it. Make sure to get lots of sleep, though.

Lara, you said you only went out a few months when you were only 16? Maybe he either doesn’t remember, or he might not like to “socialize” with old girlfriends. I know guys who kind of try to avoid that – especially if they’re married or are in some kind of exclusive arrangement. Some couples just agree to not socialize with exes via any venue – including the internet -for the reason that it’s less complicated for them, (jealousy issues, or possibly giving an ex the wrong idea by encouraging contact). I’m sure you thought of it in a totally innocent, platonic sense…but some people have had negative experiences with exes or some other interested party of the opposite sex pursuing them through these social networks. So, it’s just easier for them to execute a “blanket policy” of avoiding those situations. Unless you parted on bad terms, I doubt he means it in a way to personally insult you, (I’m assuming, anyway).

Take care, Ladies.

12 05 2010
janey

witchy i dont think i do like him anymore.
and i dont do very well in front of a big crowd do i
am not looking forward to walk in thr pron itself im exited about.
i just dont wanna b with alex anymore and i dont wanna tell him till afer prom so its not like awkward or anything

12 05 2010
lara21167

Oh he remembers me. We had quite a history for only dating for 3 months. I was soooooo in love with him. No I wasn’t a stalker or anything lol. but pretty pathetic. Anyhoo, Witchy you are probably right. He probably doesn’t want to take a chance on causing problems with his wife, not that I’d cause any problems. But I remember he was a race car driver, just local dirt tracks. But there was some girl that said that she was his #1 fan and caused problems for him. So he is probably a little skittish about who he “friends” on F/B.

Janey relax and enjoy your prom. Then break it off with Alex if your not “feeling it’. My son took his G/F to prom 2 weeks ago. I never got a picture. He said he wasn’t having any done, but I told him to take one with a camera phone and send me. Never happened. He is just so not into things like that. Hopefully Kristy will be lol.

12 05 2010
janey

oh im gonna enjoy prom. i think we r planning to go the the great escape the day after, its an amusement park. so idk. and im really not feelin him at all and his ex is still giving me problems. ugh. she passed me in the hall and calleed me a smut i was ready to say somethin but decided to let it go. the supid bitch cant even turn around and stop to say it to my face, shes not even worth it. lucky for her and sarah im growing up and wont be here this summer cause i was planning to pound them to death this summer. especially sarah. butttt. ive decided to be a good girl and just let shit go. i hate it when poeple cross me, i can hold a gurde for the longest. you do me wrong bet your ass ima get you back. butt im tryin to change that and be more mature cause im gettin older and i dont wanna end up in jail over stupid shit. okay, rant over.

lara thats kinda funny about your ex. i dont understand why people are so jealous and suspicious all the time. if im with someone and i trust THEM i have nothing to worry about. i hate when girls say : i trust him but its the other girls i dont trust. welllll. if you trust him. then YOU have nothing to worry about. am i wrong?

12 05 2010
janey

Out of the Darkness
out of the darkness and into the light
your smile I embrace while your arms hold me tight
out of the secret and into the facts
the fact that you love me, the fact that without you I’m lost
out of the loneliness and into your arms
please dont let go, I beg of you, stay by my side
out of the secret and into the real
the reality that I’m yours, forever and always
over the limits and into the limitless
the limitless days I’ll spend in your warmth
out of the darkness that filled my life
into the light that shines in your eyes
there I find comfort, there I find strength
there I find the love that’ll keep me alive
out of the darkness and into your arms
hold on tight lets go for a ride
out of the darkness and into your heart
there, forever I belong, forever I shall stay

12 05 2010
lara21167

Nice poem Janey. And glad to hear you are trying to just ignore stupid people who want to yank your chain. You’re right you’ll just wind up in trouble by reacting. I’ve found a lot of guys I know will ignore me when they are with their significant other. It cracks me up because ummm, does she really think her guy is that good looking that all women will be throwing theirselves at him. Come on. And these are grown women who should know better. Hell I can’t give my hubby away!!

12 05 2010
Witchypoo33

Hey Janey, you said it was his ex who’s giving you crap? Some people just have a tough time letting go; they need to find someone to blame, or to direct their negative feelings at. Did HE break up with HER, or vice-versa? Do you think she still likes him, or are they still friends? Lots of reasons there why she might be acting like that…but that doesn’t excuse her crappy behavior toward you. I’m so impressed and happy with your maturity level…just since we’ve all been getting to know each other via this venue, you’ve come so far, Sweetie. I’m really proud and pleased with your determination to live your life on YOUR terms, without letting people affect you unduly. THAT’S a skill lots of “mature”, full-grown adults have yet to master, Janey. You are doing GREAT, and growing up into a fine, fine young lady. You need to forgive me for speaking to you like a youngster, Sweetie…it’s easy for me to relate to you that way because of my oldest son being just a little younger than you. But I really love seeing you grow and mature and form attitudes that will help you be a happy, well-adjusted person. Try to enjoy your prom without thinking about or worrying over what may or may not come after, (with Alex). Just have fun.

Take care.

P.S….Love your poem

12 05 2010
Witchypoo33

Oh, yeah – forgot: About what you mentioned regarding other women and their significant others, Lara. Hmmm…I don’t really know too many women, (in real-life), who react that way with other women, or are so insecure and possessive with their guy that they won’t let him even politely acknowledge another woman’s existence. That’s high school crap, maybe college…and even then, at that age – most females aren’t that ridiculous. I mean, if you’re happy with yourself and your relationship, generally there’s no reason to be like that. I’m not sure where you’re meeting these cat-like females who have their guys so scared shitless they don’t act like normal, mature adults. To be fair to the average, decently well-adjusted “every-woman” out there, it’s understandable that they would value their guy and their relationship. Obviously, there’s plenty of unhappy pairings out there, but many women are very happy with their guys – and very much in-love. So, they wouldn’t be very receptive to competitive, catty behavior from other women toward their guy. But, a simple greeting and casual chatting? I don’t come across that kind of weird behavior too often. I know there ARE women who are supposed to be mature and past all that who act weird about other females around their men, but I think they’re very much in the minority. All that crap is so…draining – and a huge waste of emotional resources.

Speaking of catty behavior/bitchiness…people sure do like to spew on the Bedroom Blog. Everyone bitches about the posting schedule – getting really worked up about it. I can’t believe these people take a fictional blog in a magazine so seriously that they’d talk “at” the editors/magazine personnel about how lousy and unprofessional the blog is handled. What? Not enough to piss & moan about in their “real-lives”? That must be it.

Take care.

12 05 2010
janey

witchy, awww thank you.! thats so sweet.
im just over the drama really.
i just got back from getting my nails done for prom.
i get red tips with a silver line to match my dress.
next is hair and thats the day of.

13 05 2010
lara21167

Witchy maybe it’s the town I live in lol. Case in point. Just last year or so, The owners of the company I work for son used to work here. He owns a house across from where we park for work, rents it out, but mows the grass. One day he was mowing and his wife (who I recently figured out that I went to school with, didn’t know then) anyhoo his wife stopped by and was talking to him. I walked by to my car after work, now Drew will ususally say hi to me and occasionally chat for a minute. I could see him tense slightly as I approached and kept his eyes on his wife, like he was trying to pretend he didn’t see me. I took the hint, and didn’t say anything. Now his wife is beautiful and is a Licensed Nurse Practitioner, what and the hell would she be insecure about??

BB commentors are sooooo funny, especially griping about the posting schedule. they’ll miss one post and everyone is like “it’s been a whole week with no Post” actually it’s been like 2 days!! Funny
Janey when is your prom again?

13 05 2010
Witchypoo33

Lara, then maybe it isn’t HER problem…it could be his. Like, maybe the guy routinely flirts, or could have strayed in the past, or whatever, and he’s just that way with all the girls at one point or another. He might feel guilty, and it shows in his demeanor, or maybe she had a legitimate reason in the past to distrust him…and he doesn’t want to make her think anything is up. Who knows? Also, looks can be deceiving – you never know how his wife might see HERSELF. We all know that relationships, (especially, long-term ones), can be complicated and impossible for outsiders to comprehend clearly. It could be a million different things.

Janey…how’s the prom-jitters? Looking forward to it yet?

13 05 2010
janey

relationships suck ass most of the time
and are pretty one sided in my opinion.
lara prom is tmorrow.
witchy no im not but then again i kinda am.
idk.

14 05 2010
Witchypoo33

Well, hopefully you’ll meet a nice young man who will treat you right – like you deserve to be treated, Janey. There’s some pretty great guys out there, so don’t despair, and don’t settle, Sweetie.

Have a blast at your prom tomorrow, Janey-Dear. If nothing else, dance your lil’ ass off, yes? Thaaaaaat’s right. Now, go have some fun, Little Miss, (and stay safe!).

Take care.

14 05 2010
lara21167

Hey Witchy, I just did a birth chart (i’m on lunch ok lol) and my rising is Gemini. So I have Sun Aquarious, Moon Pieces, and Rising Gemini

14 05 2010
Witchypoo33

Hey there, Lara. So…like me, you have a mutable RISING sign. Each sign is either mutable, fixed, or cardinal. Mutable signs, (the other ones are Pisces and Virgo…my rising is Virgo) – like our risings – are innately flexible and adaptable. The rising, (also known as the “ascendent”) in a person’s chart helps determine how the world views us from the outside…how we APPEAR to others. We can normally get along with MOST people, in MOST situations, since there’s also a versatile quality to mutables that’s hard to describe…but just there. However, it CAN be hard to pin down someone with the mutable quality, and many people find it hard to “read” us in the majority of situations. Now, you personally are a DOUBLE mutable…with a Pisces moon and a Gemini rising. While you come across as very affable and easy to be around, sometimes you might confound other’s because he/she doesn’t truly know exactly where you stand. This isn’t surprising, since YOU probably often don’t have a firm idea about exactly where you stand, or what you want, at any given time. When you DO figure it out, sometimes your feelings and/or views can change without notice. Normally, age and experience somewhat help to refine your ability to be definitive in general, but the tendency to morph, question, and be swayed is always there. It’s in your nature to be changeable. The challenge for you, then, is to learn your own mind, and develop a firmness of purpose, without undue domination from all manner of outside forces that may – or may not – have your best interests at heart. While other, more fixed (set, unmoveable) and cardinal (leadership, trailblazer, independent) signs face other challenges, (like being more flexible, more open-minded to others’ positions, less headstrong and impulsive), mutable signs need to be aware of that tendency to waffle, “people-please”, and change positions on a whim. There’s also the danger of self-delusion, and possibly a strong desire for “escape” from reality, (varying in degrees from innocent daydreaming, to use of drugs, alcohol, other addictions, etc.). Life can sometimes seem a litlle more complicated from a mutable’s point-of-view, as they have a tendency to get all twisted up in not only their own emotions, but others’ as well. You sometimes allow yourself to either get dragged into situations you’d rather not be involved in, and/or you find it challenging to remain loyal to one “side”, (it’s not unusual for others to feel you’re “switching sides” at times, questioning your motives and loyalty). Mutables often come across as easy-to-sway, easy to dominate. Naturally, all this is modified and dependant on other aspects of an individual’s natal chart. For instance, my Virgo rising makes me generally polite, affable, and easy to be around, and some have made the mistake of assuming I’m easily dominated, swayed, controlled…whatever. But, I’m an Aries sun sign, (cardinal), with Aquarius moon, (fixed)…so, yeah, I’m sociable and “nice” and all that…generally considerate, (older people have always referred to me as “sweet”), and polite. But, when necessary, I’m also not the least bit hesitant to take a stand, defend someone or something… “bare my fangs” so-to-speak. It’s always surprising, (and almost comical), when I recognize that look of almost shock on someone’s face when he/she has tried to push me – or, more likely – someone I care about around. You’re an Aquarius sun, so you aren’t quite as “bendable” as you always appear…at least, not when your mind is made up. But, people DO tend to view you as accommodating, and sometimes those closest to you can try to take advantage of your basically sweet nature.

However, your very flexibility can also be a huge strength for you. Just try to be very honest with yourself about who you really are, and what’s the most important to you. CLARITY is something you need to rely on in order to live up to your full potential in LIFE.

Lots of rambling, and now I’m off-task…hahaha.

Take care, and have a great day, Ladies.

16 05 2010
janey

i feel back in my element. my friends are amazing, prom was a fairy tale and this prom weekend with friends at great escape was just the thing we all needed. ugh. i love life.

17 05 2010
lara21167

Ahhh Janey that’s great. Want details!! and I’ll check F/B for pics.

Witchy it totally amazes me how accurate astrology is. Yes I give in easily to people’s request and know I’m viewed as easy, even a doormat at times. Something I’m just really starting to get the hang of is taking up for myself. Yet as you mentioned, when it comes to those I love or care about, I can bare my fangs so to speak lol. And I use fantasy to escape reality. Drugs and alcohol have never really appealed to me. If I want to escape I just go into dreamland as I call it.

17 05 2010
janey

really tired. going to take a nap but details laterr

18 05 2010
lara21167

Janey, you looked soooo beautiful in your prom pics. Love that dress btw. And I see your status change to single. So you broke it off with Alex??

18 05 2010
janey

yea i broke it off. hes a cheater.
and aww thank you.! feel free to comment on them if u want

18 05 2010
janey

im in english class right now. this project is gonna kill me.

18 05 2010
Witchypoo33

Well, well: who’s that beautiful young lady in the sassy red dress? Could it be Janey-At-The-Prom?! You look pretty-as-a-picture, Sweetie! Hope you had fun. So, Doofus turned out to be a cheater, huh? Good riddance to THAT time and energy drain, then. He doesn’t deserve you; hold out for a nice guy who you click with, and who treats you right. No relaitonship is completely perfect, Sweetie – but they’re supposed to be more happy than not. Besides, you have plenty of time to zero in on just one guy…no need to rush things and wind up with a frog – instead of a prince.

Take care.

18 05 2010
Witchypoo33

Why do I switch letters around sometimes? Should read, “relaTIonship”.

18 05 2010
Witchypoo33

Forgot: Thanks for the help, Lara; sometimes I misplace things.

18 05 2010
janey

Thanks witchyy.!
I had a blast and the prom was just amazing. And. The after prom was a little wack. Then we went to the great escape the day after and had another blast lol roller coasters are so much funnn.! I was scared as hell but it was fun.

20 05 2010
janey

just got ack from seeing baby alex. OMG. hes so cute and fatt.!
hes the most adorable little thingg.! hes 3 months already; growin up fast on mee. :/

23 05 2010
janey

soi spent all day yesterday with my best friends in the whole world aedan and maeanna. i had such a good dayy.!

27 05 2010
lara21167

**sigh** all the blogs I read seem to be ending. Oh well it was getting to take too much time keeping up on them anyway lol. Still have BB. I look for it to end soon too, there’s just no where to take it. you know.

Well my daughter’s cheer team has merged with another cheer team. So we are now Cheer Tyme. Cheer Tyme has won many US Finals comps. Has placed in the top 5 in World Champianships and was rated 9th in the country last year by American Cheerleading magazine. Impressive huh lol. Anyhoo, the cost doesn’t seem too awfully bad, so I gues we are going to give them a try.

27 05 2010
janey

i wanna rant about being a girl todayy.
i hate getting my period so baddd.
i get these horrible cramps and nothing helps. >[

27 05 2010
lara21167

Janey I am soooooooo glad I don’t have that problem anymore!! Hope you feel better.

27 05 2010
janey

ive told my mom repeatedly that
i am having my ovaries removed
after i have kids. i HATE my period
with a passion. its sooo ridiculous
like. everytime i get it i get it for seven days exactly.
ughhh. sorry. rant over unless cramps get worse

27 05 2010
Witchypoo33

Hi Ladies. Ohhh…you poor girl. I’ve had close friends who have a really hard time every month; they’d have to miss basic, routine activities for at least a couple of days. I haven’t really had problems with that. The couple of times I’ve ever gotten cramps from my period, I was so unused to it…I felt almost like I couldn’t do anything during the worst of it, (just a few hours). I can only imagine what several days of that misery is like. Hope you feel better really soon, Sweetie.

Lara, Cheer Tyme sounds pretty professional. Have you heard anything about the leaders/instructors? Could be pretty exciting…let us know what’s going on.

Take care, Girls.

28 05 2010
janey

witchy- i had to leave school today it hurt so bad.
i HATE it with such a passion.
i just. think its Gods way of punishing me every month lol

28 05 2010
lara21167

Janey God is not punishing you, and after you have kids all you have to do is have your cervix and uterus removed. No more periods and you don’t go through the hormonal crap you do if you have your overies removed. Have you tried any birth control pills. Some really help. And I think its Yaz that’s advertised to really help. Again hope you feel better.

Witchy the main coach and manager of the Greencastle Cheertyme did our choreography last season and has worked with our girls with tumbling. So yea I’m familiar with him and very impressed as to how our girls listened to him. He doesn’t even have to raise his voice, just commands respect. Very good coach.

28 05 2010
Witchypoo33

Janey, I’m going to look into your problem a little. As I mentioned before, I haven’t experienced that health woe, so reading about possible herbal/medical remedies wasn’t ever on my list of priorities, (my friends who’ve had problems seem to have their own remedies already, and they don’t really discuss it a lot). Anyhoo, I’ll let you know if I come across anything that could possibly alleviate some of your worst suffering, (as long as it seems safe, and you might have to run it past your usual doctor). Speaking of doctors, Sweetie…do you still see a pediatrician, or are you on to a regular gyno/ob yet? Probably the latter, (I didn’t start seeing one until after I’d graduated high school, but most young ladies probably see one earlier these days).

Lara, I’ve found that generally speaking, all youngsters/young adults tend to “behave” better for a male authority figure/instructor – as opposed to female. I know this is a sweeping statement, and certainly not always applicable, (I’ve had some fire-breathing Dragon-Ladies for dance instructors/coaches in high school…some of the girls were petrified of them, and everybody listened and paid attention respectfully), but I’m just talking overall. I’ve also had a couple of male instructors who didn’t get much respect, since they were a little too familiar/flirty with the girls, but those examples are probably in the minority. So, a guy who means business will normally elicit hard work and concentrated effort from young ladies. That’s good. So, you mentioned that this organization isn’t too expensive? Pretty terrific, considering that advanced cheer teams around here are thousands of dollars a year, (though, I’m specifically referring to the high school level…though even the younger ages are getting pricier and pricier). It seems like so many of higher-level youth-related activities are getting more and more expensive to fund. Does your spawn love it? Dance/cheer is a great activity to keep the kiddos busy and out of mischief.

Take care, Ladies.

28 05 2010
lara21167

She loves it Witchy, she does want to do Lacross though in the Spring. Problem with Cheerleading is it’s pretty much year round, a bit of off time in the summer. But i told her she could try to lacross, so long as it doesn’t interfere, cheedleading has to be first because that is what she commited to first. I now have to through a darn lacross ball to her to catch, and she get to throw it back to me via the lacross thingy and that damn ball is hard!! I need a baseball mit, lol. Funny about the male figures, I agree Ed (Cheertymes coach) is obviously gay, but still gives off the male authority.

You ladies have a great weekend, My internet is down so I won’t be around until Tues!!

29 05 2010
janey

witchy my moms been tryin to get me to see a gyno but its embarrassing.! i was just like mom. no, im not going. and my parents dont approve of me bein sexually active and will not allow me to go on birth control. it just really sux. my doctor told me to take two midols and one naxopren and it usually helps but this month has been really painful. i dont even know why, ugh. i also dnt see why i cant just get on the pill. they know in having sex. well. my mom does. she doesnt approve and i get that but. dont just deny it. we fight about it sometimes. but whatever. i just want these seven days to go by fast so my period will be over :[

1 06 2010
janey

i had the best day today
actually ive had a great weekend.!
where is everyone.? hopefully enjoyin
the beautiful weather.
me and my cousins nd the
kids went to lake george and had a wonderful time.
hope u guys are okay

2 06 2010
janey

alrighttt. im kinda worried.
where IS everyonee.?

3 06 2010
lara21167

Never fear Janey lou, I’m here. Just busy. Glad you had a great weekend. Mine was crappy, car trouble, but at least it’s fixed now. Yes Janey the pill would prob help you a lot with your cramps.

3 06 2010
janey

I hope ur days are lookin better. And i know but my mom wont let me get on it. We argued about it. She said no. Its like givin me a free pass to have sex whenever i want. And she doesnt want me to have sex. Ugh. So. Im gonna suffer until i turn 18 and move out

4 06 2010
Witchypoo33

Sorry for being out-of-touch, Janey-Dear. Our long weekend around here was part sports, (nothing unusual about that)…and part kicking back, watching movies and all that. I got some old horror-type shows and movies off of Netflix, and spent hours and hours watching. My back was “out” the whole time – to the point where I had to rest it as much as possible. Really pretty painful…but I’m slowly getting back to my usual level of activity. It’s been a long time since I’ve had such a significant episode, so I’m not going to complain too much, (especially since I’m feeling so much better now).

Anyhoo, it’s a bummer when vehicles “break”, isn’t it Lara? So draining on the finances, (and patience!). I get easily annoyed and impatient with inanimate objects…always have. What was wrong with your car?

Janey, I’m sorry I got distracted from looking up and reading about your particular source of pain and ill health…the period problems. I got kind of waylayed with my own distractions, but I’ll make some time tomorrow to see if I can find anything. Maybe your mom will change her mind eventually about the pill. Has the doctor talked to her about the possible benefits of you feeling better on it?

It’s about 10:30 here and I’m yawning away, sooooo…nightie-night, and take care, Ladies.

4 06 2010
lara21167

Janey you do need to break down and see a gyno, it’s not that bad, you get used to it. Anyone sexual active needs to have a yearly exam and pap smear.

Witchy I have an ’85 Firebird (my midlife crisis car lol) anyhoo she (my hubby hates when i call it a she) just needed some tune up stuff. Plugs and wires and we had it planned for my nieces b/f (who is a mechanic) to do it Saturday. Well the car on Saturday morn began shutting off when driving and backfiring and carrying on. Hubby kept reving the engine and blew out the muffler. All and all it took the plugs, wires, distributor cap, and a distributer module thingy to get it right, and oh yea a muffler.

5 06 2010
janey

yea i know. but its just so awkward.
i’ll get over it.

just came back from takin my SATs.
5 HOURS.! ugh. my back is killin me.
10 sections. 5 hours. one big headache.
to do it all over again in september and get a higher score

6 06 2010
janey

i perced my eyebrow again.!
this time i did it myself and it ddnt hurt at all.!

6 06 2010
janey

supposed to say pierced

6 06 2010
Witchypoo33

BLECH! Facial piercings give me the willies…just the mere thought of puncturing that area. Uhhhh, Janey. Why-why-why? Ok…I’m done now.

Take care.

6 06 2010
janey

lol witchy you are so funny.
well, the why? i got bored and i really
missed my piercing
and dont worry i made sure i pierced right thru both
the old holes and it didnt hurt it didnt bleed and its not infected
i clean it out twice a day

7 06 2010
janey

baby alex is sleeping overr.!

8 06 2010
Witchypoo33

Hey there, Brainy-Janey. How did the sleep-over go with Baby Alex?

Take care.

8 06 2010
janey

it was awesome. he almost* slept rhu the night but he only woke up once. and he was a doll to be around until i lost his binky. he got mad. lol

8 06 2010
Witchypoo33

Wow, Janey…my littlest man didn’t sleep all the way through the night until, like – I don’t know – he was well past two. My kids have all been restless sleepers as babies. I’m glad you enjoyed your time with Baby Alex.

Take care.

8 06 2010
janey

i love him so much…sigh. he makes me want to have a baby right now.

8 06 2010
Witchypoo33

Ohhhhh shit. Don’t talk like that, Janey-Darlin’. You have LOTS of time to enjoy the exerience of being a mommie. You’ll have SUCH an easier and more positive experience if you wait until you’re ready in every conceivable way…maturity/life experience, financial considerations, a great guy to share the experience and responsibility with…the works. Don’t scare Witchy like that, Little-Miss. You’re doing that on purpose, aren’t you? Heh-heh-heh…good one, young lady. Now, game over, right?

Take care.

8 06 2010
Witchypoo33

should read, “exPerience”…

9 06 2010
janey

lol witchy youre too much.
but i wasnt playing i really DO want one.
but i guess i have no choice but to wait

9 06 2010
lara21167

Of course you are going to wait Janey lou, You didn’t sit 5 hours for those damn SAT’s for nothing did you?? You are going to college and getting a great job, finding a great man, then you can think about having kids. Seriously Janey I did things backwards and here I am 43 years old and just finishing my bachelors degree. Get college out of the way first!!

10 06 2010
janey

wll i mean i guess i do want to go to college. but i just. idk.
i really really want a baby.

10 06 2010
lara21167

Janey Lou, we all get those urges. just enjoy your godson and nephew and know that one day you will have your own, when the time is right. I am a modern woman (lol) but I do know from experience that having a loving and supportive partner to father your child makes things so much easier. Just hang in there and you will know when it’s right.

10 06 2010
janey

lol okay. i just love kids so much i really wouldnt mind one right now. and
im never getting married. guys. are retarted and id rather have a boyfriend and nothing else.

11 06 2010
janey

where is everyone.?
hope you guys are not too busy.!

13 06 2010
Witchypoo33

Hey there, Janey! Yeah, pretty darn busy. This weekend was filled with running here and there…spring football game-day on Saturday, (4 local high schools got together at our home stadium and showcased their up & coming starting varsity players for the fall season). Spawn #1 made the starting team, and he’s only in 10th grade. He’s a running back, trading off between tailback, and “half-back”, (a revamped form of our area’s idea of a fullback). Anyhoo, he gets to run the ball quite a bit, sharing time with our local “star” who’s going to be a senior in the fall, and a guy who’s already been offered several full scholarships to D-1 (larger universities) schools. My guy looks every bit as good as this fella, with a lot less experience on the Varsity team, (obvious age difference). Spawn looked so good running the ball on Saturday – he’s a natural running back, (size, speed, and especially concerning his “field-vision” abilities). The varsity running back coach, (there’s specialized coaching for all the major
positions…defense/linebackers, running backs, lineman, etc.) took Spawn aside last week to tell him he was starting over a couple of seniors competing for his specific position, and that he has a solid chance at a D-1 scholarship with his abilities and work ethic. It’s incredibly hard to even get seriously looked at around here by the college scouts…so that’s pretty great to hear. Spawn really works hard, though – so he earns anything he gets. He also is starting as a middle linebacker on defense. Most of Spawn’s friends are still playing on junior-varsity. Anyway…middle spawn also had a baseball tournament all weekend; hubby was up at the crack of dawn both yesterday and today to get him to it, (it’s about an hour and a half drive from here, plus they have to be at the field an hour before the start of the game; lots of coordinating so that hubby could get back in time for the 7:00 pm start to the football exhibition. Anyway, hubby and middle-spawn are back now, and Big Spawn is at a local fair hanging out with his friends.

I signed up Baby for private kindergarten last Monday for the coming fall. Hubby and I have been discussing our options, and we just aren’t crazy about the teacher that he’d be getting at our neighborhood elementary school. I’ve volunteered enough at the younger levels, (elementary and middle) to be pretty familiar with most of the teachers at the schools my boys go to. Baby’s pediatrician at his last check-up a few weeks back told me she strongly recommends he be tested for the gifted programs in our schools, and that he’s advanced for his age. I think kindergarten is kind of young for segregating him into a specialized class like that…but we do want him to have the best possible education, with a nice, enthusiastic teacher…especially while he’s so young. Anyhoo, hubby was discussing this with his friend/partner at work about a week and a half ago, (we’re also friends with his wife and children, go on vacations with them, dinners, etc.), and he reminded hubby of the private kindergarten that his kids went to. We’d forgotten all about it; it’s a really popular school around here, and normally there’s a long waiting list to get in unless you sign up almost a year in advance, (just like Binks’ preschool). I had thought that Baby’s preschool that he’s been going to this year also had a kindergarten program, and we were thinking about that option for next year, until a few months ago when I figured out that it’s more of a “junior-kindergarten” program, rather than an actual kindergarten, (it’s for kids who might not be quite ready for official kindergarten). Anyhoo, that option was out…and we weren’t sure what to do. In the meantime, I signed Baby up at our neighborhood school, just to keep our options open, and because it was time to register the incoming kidergarteners in the public school system anyway. So, after our friend brought up this other place, I called, and was happily surprised to find out that there’s still a couple of spots open at this late date, (apparently, the economy is slowing down private school enrollment, as well as everything else that’s been negatively affected; makes sense). So, Binks and I took a little jaunt to the school last Monday, and spent a couple of hours there participating in their current kindergarten class. The children only had one more day of school before “graduation”, so when it was time for them to practice for the ceremony, I took Baby out onto their playground. Anway, the teacher introduced him to the class, (the classes are nice and small in #’s…so lots of individual attention for each child), and he jumped right in to all their various stations of activities. He socialized with whatever children he happened to be next to at each station/work area, and the teachers thought he was really friendly and intelligent. So, I really loved watching him interact there, and I signed him up on the spot, and paid tuition, (I’d printed off their registration forms from their website at home and filled them out ahead of time…just in case). I pretty much already knew we’d love the place for him, and Binks is excited to be going.

Well, that’s just a couple of the things we’ve been up to lately, Ladies. I’ll fill you in on more a little at a time…look at the “books” that result when I go into it?! Hahaha.

Take care, and we’ll talk more soon.
P.S…fill me in on your latest also; Girls, when you get the chance.

14 06 2010
lara21167

Witchy that is a good idea to put little spawn in a private Kindergarden. It’s hard with gifted children. You don’t want him to get bored in school, but then you don’t want to push him too hard to where he forgets to be a kid, if you know what I mean. I had to push Kristy, she was nominated for the Junior Honor society and was accepted. All I’ve heard is “its for nerds” but being in honor societies looks great on college apps. Btw, she wants to play lacross this spring. Don’t know how that will work with Cheerleading. The prob with Cheerleading is that its almost year round and a lot of practice so its hard to do another sport.

14 06 2010
janey

school is out.! im officially a *SENIOR* yay.!

14 06 2010
lara21167

Congrats Janey Lou!! Senior year is fun, well at least it was for me lol.

14 06 2010
janey

not really. i failed math. i have to go to summer school or take it over next year.
if i take it next year i HAVE to pass or i dont graduate

15 06 2010
Witchypoo33

Yuck…bummer, Janey. I’d probably get it over with during the summer. You wouldn’t have as much pressure as during the school year, with all your other classes. That’s just how I’d probably think about the options, though. Is the summer class shorter than the one during the school year would be? That would be a positive, (math has always kind of bored me; I have to work to stay focused and interested in it for a good grade).

Yeah, Lara, it’s hard for the spawn to narrow their interests down, but usually necessary at this age. Everything has become so specialized and time-consuming, it’s just not worth it for them to spread themselves too thin, (like, lacrosse vs. cheer, for instance). Little kids can try out a variety of the various sports/hobbies available, and move from one to the next pretty easily. Around 13 -14 yrs., though, it gets harder and harder to do that.

I’m up later than usual, and really tired. Nightie-night, Girls, and take care.

15 06 2010
janey

well the problem with summer school is that id have to take a 6 week computer class that ive taken before and the teacher and i REALLY dont get along to the point where my mom had told him she would bring him up on harrassment charges. i have plans for the summer or im getting a full time job. i dont wanna have to go back there during my free time.

the problem with taking it over is that its ten months long and WILL mean graduation if i dont pass it. i hate math SOOOO much. ugh.

im waiting to hear back from this job today and im getting my new glasses YAY.! lol i wont be blind anymore<3

15 06 2010
Witchypoo33

Would tutoring help, Janey? Maybe that would get you over the hardest parts of the class, so that you’ll be sure to graduate on time. When oldest spawn got really sick this past winter and was missing some time at school, he fell a little behind in math. I got him a really nice older man to tutor him, (the guy still subs at the high school sometimes in his retirement, also), and that turned him around in math for the whole remainder of this school year. It really helped. Good luck with the job you’re waiting to hear about. What is it?

Take care.

16 06 2010
lara21167

Janey, my son failed 2 classes a 1/2 semester in each class and had to go this year started in Jan for 1/2 a day to finish those 2 classes (I think one was math) but he did it and graduated ๐Ÿ™‚ I think it’d be easier for you to do the summer class. It’ll be done and over. I’m a nerd I like math, well used to, it gets on my nerves now lol.

17 06 2010
janey

a tutor might help. idk, i just hate it so much.
and i found out i can take the actual course instead of the computer class so im goin to summer school.

18 06 2010
lara21167

Good janey, it’ll be better to just get it out of the way

20 06 2010
janey

well i really dont know now. things are goin on at home and im really tryin to leave here for the summer. maybe i can go to summer school in the city or something.

happy fathers day to both your hubbys.!

21 06 2010
Witchypoo33

Thanks, Janey. Things are going on at home that are upsetting you? I hope it’s nothing too stressful. Do you get out a lot between your job, friends, etc.?

Take care.

23 06 2010
janey

yes they are very much upsetting me. and i just wanna get the hell out of here and be on my own or with my dad.

24 06 2010
lara21167

Janey, are things any better?

24 06 2010
janey

no. my mom found out i smoke cigarettes and things are worse. but im leaving tomorrow

25 06 2010
lara21167

Dummy me, I put in the wrong email. So where are you going Janey

25 06 2010
Witchypoo33

Hey there, Janey. You’re leaving today? Are you going to Mexico to stay with your Dad for the summer?

I didn’t know you smoke, Sweetie. I won’t lecture you with the obvious concern…I’m sure you’ve already heard it from your Mom, among others. What else is going on at home to upset you so much?

Check in when you can, Sweetie, and take care.

25 06 2010
lara21167

Hey Witchy!! I don’t know if Janey has access to a computer or anything right now, but I saw on Facebook that she is going to New York City for the summer. Sounds like a good time to me lol.

25 06 2010
Witchypoo33

Mmmm…the above sounded a little sanctimonious about your smoking; I didn’t mean it that way. I hope you understand that you’re interacting with a couple of mothers, Sweet-Janey. My boys would have my foot up their asses if they tried smoking; my reactions and methods are swift – and – so far, effective. Sometimes, there’s bound to be some of our usual tendencies with our children to overlap with you, (worry, motherly-“wisdom”, etc). Hope it doesn’t grate too much, but I won’t lie and say the habit won’t repeat itself at some later date…just can’t help it.

Take care.

P.S….Don’t smoke, me-dear.

25 06 2010
Witchypoo33

Today is my middle-spawn’s 14th birthday. Happy Birthday, Baby-Boy! Family is coming over later; have to fly.

25 06 2010
Witchypoo33

Oh, Hi there, Sweetlara! Just saw your comment up there. Will you tell Janey to check in here when she gets a chance? Maybe I’ll send her some pictures of us for her page, since I haven’t done that for so long. Nice way to keep in touch, I think; I love to look at other people’s pictures.

How’s it going with you?

Take care.

25 06 2010
janey

I have my phone on me so we r good. Lol yeah im in nyc w my daddy and my older sister for the summer. Im hoping to have a lot of fun. And as far as things upsetting me at home my mom and my step dad are too constricting and we fight All the time and i just dont like him. Id rather be with my dad

28 06 2010
lara21167

Janey, I’m not too aware of your situation, but I know in my case being overprotection is just showing love. My daughter argues that I don’t trust her, nothing to do with trust, I can just think of a million and one things that could happen. With my meds, I’m not as bad as I used to be lol.
Regarding smoking, I smoke and know it is pointless to tell you not to. I stupidly enjoy smoking, but if you can quit then quit it just gets harder to over time. Enjoy the time with your Dad in NYC.

Witchy, happy birthday to middle spawn.

Well I’m officially hooked into the Twight Series, thanks to my daughter. I read New Moon in 3 days!! She read Eclipse in a week, amazing for her lol.

1 07 2010
janey

I just saw eclipse.! Omg it was so good i wanna see it again.! Lol so what have u guys been up too.?

1 07 2010
lara21167

Kristy saw the premier too. She said it was excellant. I can’t wait to see it, want to finish the book first. She is sooo innocent, she was asking me what it is about Jacobs motorcyle that they have all these posters and pins and stuff with Jacob in front of the bike, I laughed and said because he’s soooo hot. She hates when I talk like that lol.

so how’s NYC Janey?

1 07 2010
janey

Nyc is great. Im havin a really good time.

1 07 2010
Witchypoo33

Hey! That’s great, Janey. Sometimes a change of scene is exactly what is needed. Enjoy, and take care.

2 07 2010
lara21167

Well Janey you never said, Team Jacob or Team Edward??

I’m Team Edward but I absolutely adore Jacob. Kristy is Team Jacob all the way.

2 07 2010
janey

OMG.! TEAM EDWARD ALL THE WAY.! I dont think jacob is cute but his body is amazing. But bella is just so in love w edward and hes so hott.!

6 07 2010
lara21167

I just finished reading Eclipse. Jacob ran off with the Idea of never coming back!! I’m worried!! Lol I feel like Bella reading these books. Very torn but love Edward more.

6 07 2010
janey

So hows everyone this summer.? I got my SAT and ACT scores so i can start applying for college now. Theres a college here in brooklyn and one in manhattan. Im pickin up applications soon. I got a 1260 on the SAT. Im takin it again but i wanna start applyin now

6 07 2010
lara21167

Great Janey. That’d be fun to go to college in NYC. I know maybe you can land a job at Cosmo!! lol , wouldn’t that be fun like a web editor or something?

6 07 2010
janey

Ugh. I would lloveeeeeee to work at a magazine and have a nice apartment in central park west or south. Ugh. That would be the life. Once i get my degree in creative writing i could do that

7 07 2010
Witchypoo33

Sounds like a plan, Milady…you’d be good at that.

Take care.

7 07 2010
lara21167

Oh Janey that sounds like a dream life, go for it!!!!!

12 07 2010
janey

Hey guys.! I feel like we havent “talked” in a while. Whats everyone been up to lately.?

12 07 2010
lara21167

here and around, how is NY Janey. Witchy how are things with you? Enjoying the summer?? It has been unbelievably hot and dry and good ‘ol Maryland. And for someone who used to absolutely love summer, I can’t take it lol. I just hibernate in the AC. Terrible.

12 07 2010
Witchypoo33

Hi there, Ladies. It’s the usual round of summer sports camps/activities for the boys. Littlest spawn is still doing the 2 x per week with martial arts, (an hour each session), and I just got back from dropping off Eldest spawn and his best buddy at the college dorms/campus where they’ll be staying all this week for football camp. You should have seen the loads of bags and coolers of food/drinks we unloaded from Spawn’s truck to haul into their room. It was silly-looking, and even the coaches were laughing at all the extra food these two brought, (they feed them there really well in the food halls/cafeteria…tons of food). Spawn’s buddy stayed over here last night, then he came with us early in the am to meet up with the team/coaches at the high school for a head-count and brief meeting, after which we all made the trip to the university campus. The boys no sooner got all unoaded in the frat-houses that they had to get suited-up and down to the field for an am practice.

Anyhoo, Middle-spawn has baseball camp 2 times per week, in addition to regular practices and games/tournaments. Tomorrow am Little-Man and I will take Middle-Man to his camp…then figure out something to do until we pick him up.

Yeah, we’ve been really hot here all last week also…low-mid 90’s; I took the boys and a buddy to the river last week for a while. The older guys were giggling their asses off when they pointed out some stupid-acting women blazing up a bowl right out in public at this river beach-front area. It was ridiculous, and the women were acting like horses’ asses, saying weird things to my guys like, “Your underwear’s showing…your underwear’s showing”, really loud, and over and over. It was strange, and oldest spawn looked like he wanted to kick them in the ass; they were pissing him off. It was so stupid it was funny, you know? This week, we’ve cooled off, (this am it’s only in the mid-upper 60’s so far). It’s supposed to be sunny, but cooler all week than last…perfect for the guys to be practicing for hours outside everyday.

How’s New York, Janey? Having a blast?

Take care.

12 07 2010
Witchypoo33

“unoaded” should read, “unLoaded”

12 07 2010
janey

It beat u all its been high 90s 101-3 here. Ive been bummin it out w ma sister playin video games and stuff. Too hot to do anythin really. Lol im mostly bored tho. Goin to new jersey to see my lil siblings and go car shopping for two weeks. Then i guess im headed home after that. Or comin back for college tours and stuff. Hopefully ill make it home in time for volleyball tryouts

13 07 2010
lara21167

Yes Janey that is what I mean about hot 98 to 103 with extreme humidity. Witchy all cosy (sp??) with low to mid 90’s lol. This week is not so bad high 80’s to low 90’s. need rain though. Kristy just got back from camp, they water skied all week, she had a blast. sat she is going camping with her friend’s family.

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